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Could Your Summer Fling Be the Real Thing?

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You first noticed him at a Memorial Day barbecue.

Standing by the pool, all tanned and effortlessly sexy in a white polo and cargo shorts, he looked like he'd just stepped off a page of the J. Crew catalog.

When your eyes met, he flashed a big smile and your heart skipped a beat. You took a gulp of your watermelon-tini and tried to look nonchalant.

Later, he "accidentally" bumped into you at the grill when you both reached for the last hot dog bun at the same time. You shared a laugh, then he said, "I'll give you this bun on one condition ... You give me your phone number."

(Okay, so his line was really cheesy, but you went for it anyway!)

Since then, you have been inseparable. Frolicking in the waves at the beach ... Kissing at the top of the Ferris wheel ... Strolling through a park eating ice cream ... Life is a whirlwind of excitement as days blur together like one of those montage scenes in a romantic movie, all set to the song "I'll stop the world and melt with you..."

For the entire summer, you haven't had a care in the world.

Except now ... it's August. You suddenly wake up and realize that these carefree days can't go on forever. As you stare at the dreaded "Labor Day" square on your calendar, you find yourself thinking, "This has been a lot of fun, but where is it going?"

Do you and Mr. J Crew have the staying power to last into September? Or will your romance fade faster than your summer tan?

10 Signs it's a Summer Fling

  1. Being with him means nonstop f-u-n. (This, unfortunately, is *not* reality.)
  2. You spend every waking moment together. (There's no way you can realistically keep this eat-sleep-and-breathe-each-other schedule going. You're bound to burn out on each other sooner or later.)
  3. When you have a bad day, you hide it from him because you don't want to be a "buzz kill."
  4. You spend more time making out than actually talking.
  5. When you do talk, your conversations never go deeper than, "Should we hit the beach or the pool?" and "Mojitos or Margaritas?"
  6. He forgets your last name.
  7. He's got flings going on with other women at the same time, and makes no apologies for it.
  8. He has to leave in two weeks for college/the military/his home country.
  9. You invite him to be your guest at a work function in October, and he says he's all booked up already.
  10. After your romantic picnic on Labor Day, he says, "Well, this has been fun. Hopefully I'll see you around!"
10 Signs it's the Real Thing
  1. He was somehow connected to your life from the beginning (a coworker, a friend of a friend, etc.). [Translation: He knows that disappearing at the end of the summer is not an option and still chose to get involved with you.]
  2. He doesn't just live in the moment, but actually talks about the future. (As in: "I hear the Coldplay tour is coming here in the fall. We should check out a show together.")
  3. Your dates seem like real dates -- dinners, movies, hanging out at each other's place, low-key Sunday walks -- with a few exciting summer plans (maybe a weekend trip) mixed in.
  4. You see each other three times a week, max. (Your priorities haven't flown out the window -- you both still make time to see your friends, have some alone time, focus on work, etc.)
  5. He knows your siblings' (and your dog's!) names, remembers your favorite book and can explain in detail what you do for a living.
  6. He wants you to meet his friends.
  7. You can be real with each other. You're the first person he calls for reassurance when he's had a bad day at work, and he wants to know what's on your mind. Really.
  8. One of you has a birthday coming up, and you plan on spending it together. (Bonus points if it's yours and he gets you a gift!)
  9. You tell him that you're going on vacation with your girlfriends over Labor Day weekend, and he says that he can't wait to see you when you get back!
  10. When you do get back, he says, "I'm so glad you're home. I hate going that long without seeing my girlfriend!"

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