In fitness, there is a big difference between getting to your goal verses making a comeback. Getting to your goal is going towards where you want to be and making a comeback is going back to where you were before. Getting to a goal is a challenge that takes discipline, willpower and dedication. But making a comeback is even harder.
I often say to my students if they come to class after an absence, whether they have been ill or drunk or unable to afford a gym membership, that coming back is harder. Unlike when you are an exercise virgin, if you have been fit- or thin- in the past, then you feel doubly worse when you return because you remember.
If you have never been fit or thin in the past, then exercise is simply torturous. If you have never been sober before, if you have never been rich before, or if you never been turned down before, then getting undrunk, making money and hearing yes are all more achievable in your glowing future. But if you have fallen off the wagon, if you've filed for bankruptcy or if you've heard the response "Don't call me. I'll call you." then getting to where you want to be becomes a head game.
If you have gotten to a goal and then let it slip away, you are in for a bigger mental challenge.
If you ask your mind negative questions, then your mind looks for negative answers. This is true if you are attempting any kind of comeback, but especially true in the world of fitness.
The best advice I can give those of you trying to go back, is to notice when your brain starts digging in the mental garbage can and replace it with a positive thought. So that, "Why is this so hard when I used to be able to do it?" becomes, "I know I can get back to where I was, because I achieved it before."
Focus on how you can get it back; to feel younger, be stronger and to be able to live a healthier and therefore happier life, is the key.
If not, if you let yourself off the hook, you might then skip your workout, which might make you feel fat, then maybe your jeans won't fit, which in turn would aggravate your tendency to be grumpy. Next the kids react with misbehavior, your husband looks not only away from you, but possibly at another woman, leading to separation, divorce and heartbreak. In the trickle-down theory your life would be ruined and it would mostly be my fault.
So, don't do that.
Who would've ever guessed that Florence Henderson could make a comeback... on the dance floor, no less. And how about Betty White? With her big screen comeback,which was actually bigger than her first successes?
There is hope for us all. I have never really had to make much of a comeback in my fitness, except for a few surgery recoveries, so, for me, fitness has been easy. It is simply a matter of doing what I did yesterday. It's like being on cruise-control.
But out of the gym, I do not even have a cruise-control. If I want to be happy in matters beyond the state of my health, then I have to aim to make a big comeback. And I have been inspired by the Betty Whites of the world.
For folks that have been AWOL, either in the state of their health or the state of their life, success is especially elusive and even more so if you have achieved it in the past and then let it slip away.
I am hopeful that my comeback is coming back.
Baby, Come back!