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LGBT Leadership: Split Hairs and Burnt Bodies

Posted: 11/16/11 07:59 PM ET

When Matthew Shepard was beaten bloody, tied to a fence, and left to die alone in agony, a call was heard around the United States for tolerance toward differing sexual orientations. The lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community banded together, mourned and got to work to pass the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, a law that expands the definition of a hate crime to sexual orientation and gender identity. Thankfully, we've come to a better place and time where gays and lesbians can focus on marriage issues, Don't Ask, Don't Tell and employment discrimination. These are all extremely important issues, so naturally some other stuff is going to have to wait. Things like, say, burning bodies.

It is not surprising to me that virtually no one is familiar with the name Shelley Hilliard. Shelley's body was just found on the side of a busy highway in Detroit last week, burned to death. Shelley's mother, who had reported to police that her much-beloved teen was missing, had to visit the medical examiner's office to identify her child's torso -- all that remained.

Shelley was part of a much-disparaged group whose high rates of HIV, physical and sexual abuse and murders go largely unnoticed by the LGBT community, both in terms of consciousness and in terms of programming and funding. I'm talking about transgender individuals -- especially young transwomen of color. Nov. 20 is the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), which memorializes all individuals who were murdered because of their gender identity over the past year.

In marking this TDOR, it is time for leaders in the LGB communities to admit that they need to do more. Transgender individuals are a small minority of the LGBT community but are also the ones who need the most support this day and age. I ask you to imagine being a transwoman walking down the street and how many hateful epithets you would have to tolerate in order to pick up a gallon of milk or visit a doctor's office.

Or imagine a child at 13 or 14 being disowned and having no safe space to turn to -- no school, no shelters, and no public services ready or willing to take her in except for law enforcement, who will many times pick up young transwomen on suspicion of prostitution, whether there is valid evidence or not.

Or imagine a 19-year-old girl being dropped off at an acquaintance's home by a taxi on a Sunday night and finding three men on the lawn waiting for her. Imagine them kidnapping, torturing, decapitating, dismembering and burning her alive for sport, as young, raucous boys would to a Barbie doll. Imagine them chucking her torso on the side of a highway, with absolutely no regret or sense of immorality. Imagine being the mother called into the morgue to identify a defiled torso as your daughter. Swallow that bitter pill of reality and tell me that marriage is the most important issue for the LGBT community in 2011. For several in the transgender community, it might as well be 1969 all over again, because nothing has changed for them.

Yet there are many organizations that espouse to support the transgender community, but really what they are doing is splitting hairs. In light of Shelley Hilliard's charred torso, the actual amount of money and human resources that most LGBT organizations devote to transgender services is insulting. Even in large cities there are only a handful of nonprofits doing substantive work for transgender people. Many argue that there are few funding streams to support programs for this community because no data is collected on transgender individuals, and they are correct. But that didn't stop them from identifying funders for LGBT and HIV causes in the '80s and '90s -- where there's a will, there's a way, as they say. And with the release of new studies like Injustice at Every Turn, service providers now have the numbers they need to substantiate the need for funding. Moreover, LGBT groups could choose to prioritize lobbying the government to start including this group in data collection; however, few are taking up that fight.

The solutions for this quagmire should be pretty obvious to community leaders that have already had to build support for gay and lesbian causes at a time when such issues were highly divisive. Self-identified LGBT organizations should devote a set amount of resources to transgender programming -- prioritizing HIV, housing, education and economic issues. This will require groups to identify general operating funds, grants and funders who would be interested in the transgender population (many exist and there are more every day). They should include transgender individuals on their board and staff and clearly define transgender issues in their mission statement and policy priorities. These nonprofit organizations, who naturally work with many public officials, also need to let local, state and federal governments know that data collection and funding for this population is a priority and is desperately needed.

The transgender community has remained steadfast to LGB causes and is resilient despite the magnitude of hate and discrimination still present in our world, but the time has come for allies to seriously address the letter T. The words of Martin Luther King, as always, ring true: "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." For the Shelley Hilliards of America, the silence is deafening. No more splitting hairs, no more burning bodies.

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When Matthew Shepard was beaten bloody, tied to a fence, and left to die alone in agony, a call was heard around the United States for tolerance toward differing sexual orientations. The lesbian, gay,...
When Matthew Shepard was beaten bloody, tied to a fence, and left to die alone in agony, a call was heard around the United States for tolerance toward differing sexual orientations. The lesbian, gay,...
 
 
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02:34 AM on 11/24/2011
Da*ned straight. I'm lucky I guess. My own coming out was done over a bit of time, and only on Oct 12 did the whole package show up. But that's at work, I live in a very poor section of the community, and while I have not been attacked yet, I dread it every time I step out side my door.
10:58 PM on 12/15/2011
Make your New Year's resolution to be who you are without fear. Fear makes you less. It doesn't matter if tomorrow doesn't come, if you live your life true to yourself today. Rinse and repeat again tomorrow. . .and every day after that until your time is up. I am not understating the reality of the danger, but when you cross the street a car could hit you. When you walk into a bank it could get robbed and you could get shot in the process (especially in this economy), so just live your life without fear. There are haters for everything hun, don't ever let them make you fearful.
04:40 AM on 11/23/2011
I hate this.
10:40 PM on 11/22/2011
THANK YOU for posting this. However, the space between trans women is important (and goes for trans men, trans femmes, trans masculines and so forth). Trans* is an adjective, and while there are specific individuals who ask that the words be put together, it should never be used as a universal address for all trans* folk.
11:02 PM on 12/15/2011
See now this kind of helped me get closer to understanding. There is a lot about the terms that I don't understand, and I think that is true of a lot of people. I think it keeps us from being able to get our heads around it. As people, we are the same in many ways, but clearly there are somethings that those of us that don't fall in that category of peeps, well, we are kind of ignorant about it. You don't talk about that which you feel ignorant about, and so you don't learn. . .or understand. This kinda helped me. Thanks!
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07:25 PM on 11/22/2011
This might be easier to handle if I didn't have to hear *some* people in the LGB part of the community claim we ride the coat tails of *their* movement. I don't remember them complaining about our support ten years ago.
04:59 PM on 11/22/2011
I'd rather have a job and a roof over my head than a marriage certificate.
04:45 PM on 11/22/2011
As a transwoman and a lesbian I feel the ven of the communities very sharply. The problem in a lot of cases is that we are not terribly convenient. We are harder to "normalize" because we can tend to stand out.
04:13 PM on 11/22/2011
Just... augh. It's so true.
07:14 PM on 11/21/2011
We ALL need to reunite as a family and get all of our rights as humans!!!
06:28 PM on 11/21/2011
This is a really important piece although as you know, many folks that do not identify with mainstream LGB culture have been screaming this for years. "...tell me that marriage is the most important issue for the LGBT community in 2011." Wake up my queer people!
02:15 PM on 11/21/2011
My heart goes out to that mother, my daughter is a lesbian and I can not imagine what I would do if this happened to her. To know she was tortured for being what God made her is incredibly sick, twisted, and despicable. Was anyone ever caught and tried or are they still free? Thank you for paying tribute to a beautiful young lady.
09:20 AM on 11/21/2011
Thanks Pete for writing this article. I'm blown away - you hit the nail right on the head, plain and simple.
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Feel trickled on yet?
02:13 PM on 11/20/2011
Very, very sad.

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."
01:31 PM on 11/20/2011
Thank you so much for the article. It was with passion and a call to look around at the broader issues. This is especially important when beautiful young women are being murdered in such horrific ways.
12:03 AM on 11/20/2011
I am sort of confused. I googled transgendered and it sounds as if it is a broad term under which Gay, Lesbian & Bisexual could all fall. Forgive the comparison but I find this similar to Pervasive Personality Disorder and Bipolar, Clinical Depression, Post Traumatic Stress etc. Can someone identify the difference between "T" and "LGB" for me? I know that Transgender includes a lot of other types as well, but I wondered why within that movement it is specified individually by a term that is so brad that it really could stand alone. To represent the whole organization.
07:39 AM on 11/20/2011
LGB are all about sexual orientation, who you want to be with. T is about gender identification and expression, who you want to be.

There are Trans members who are LG&B, as well as straight.
03:34 PM on 11/20/2011
Transgender refers to a person whose gender identity differs from the one they were assigned at birth. A person born with a penis, who was called a "boy" by doctors and family, may identify as a woman, as in the case of Shelley Hilliard mentioned above. A transgender person could also be someone who identifies as neither woman nor man, or as some combination of both genders - it's not always as simple as a switch from one to the other. Meanwhile, Gay/Lesbian/Bi refer to sexual preference, not to gender identity. So while a transperson can be straight, gay, lesbian, or bi, not all gay, straight, lesbian, or bi people are trans. Does that help?
11:26 PM on 12/15/2011
It does, thank you very much! Clearly there is a lot of terminology that is important to understand, but I have personal family reasons for really wanting to understand. I know that some people will take my questions as rude, but I genuinely want to understand. I have had friends who were gay and family as well, and I never really understood that there were differences. . .or cared. I loved them, but I looked at it as if they were wearing a particular coat. That was ignorant, but I didn't understand that it was. All of the differences make my head hurt, kinda like chemistry, but I still want to understand it. This article is a very good reason why we all need to.
10:48 PM on 11/19/2011
thanks for getting this out, sad truth and, we must take the leadership into our own hands, thank you!