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Animosity

Posted: 08/05/11 05:54 PM ET

In the daily metta practice with which I start my meditation, I reiterate the wish to be free from animosity. It's easy enough when it comes to those I like, and with whom I generally agree; the hard part is with the people I dislike, and those with whom I disagree. They include, most recently, the politicians who have in my own view seemed bent on destroying this country. The dharma teaches me, wisely and I think correctly, that the animosity that arises serves only to introduce toxin into my own veins. It certainly does nothing to change those against whom it is directed.

These thoughts were stirred in part by the comment to my entry in The Buddha Diaries yesterday. I was writing about gratitude, concluding with a note about the surprise and plucky appearance of Rep. Gabrielle Giffords to cast her vote on the debt ceiling bill in the House of Representatives, and my gratitude to her for reminding me of the importance of the vote. Not a word about Obama. But my entry somehow triggered the response you'll find if you check in the comments section, filled with anger directed at "Obama the Eunuch."
I was aware of my own distress as I read and re-read the comment. Some of it came from that part of me that is uncomfortably close to agreement with the content of the writer's argument. It's clear that Obama has been weakened by the unmitigated hostility and adamant rejection with which every part of the agenda on which he was elected has been opposed. It has been relentless and unappeasable, from his first day in office. In my view--perhaps incorrectly--there are many of his supporters who have allowed themselves to be swept up in that hostility, too readily co-opted by the powerful tide of rejectionist action and propaganda. With the erosion of support on his own side, he becomes still more exposed and vulnerable. As I've written before, we on the left, who have learned to distrust authority whatever its source, are prone to the heady delights of king-killing.
That's my view. I find that I hold on to it even more tightly when I myself feel the beginnings of mistrust in it; or, particularly, when I feel it under attack. I pull back in, defensive. Intended or not as such, my correspondent's initial sarcasm and subsequent anger felt like personal animosity, and I withdrew into my shell to mull over its implications. This morning, as I suggested, I paid more than usual attention to my own animosities. I did my best to observe them and then let them go, along with the anger that accompanies them.
I was wondering aloud, at the Buddhist Geeks conference just a few days ago, whether anger ever serves a useful purpose. I believe it can, when it is directed with clear intention and used skillfully; to do so, I must understand what part of the anger is about me, and what part is genuinely about the injustice or malpractice that aroused it. Warrior energy is a necessary part of political action--see Sun Tzu's "The Art of War"--but used indiscriminately and tainted by personal animosity, it can be counter-productive.
The image of a solitary Obama signing a bill which clearly fell far short of his objectives--and equally short of my own sense of what is needed in our current economic crisis--filled me with sadness for both the man and the country that he seeks to serve. He is the target of so many millions of deeply divisive projections that he can scarcely hope to live up to more than a handful of them. There are those, of course, many, who wish him nothing but ill. And there are those, many, who feel that he has let them down; that he is not the man they took him for. I'm only surprised that he manages to tolerate with a semblance of grace the generous heapings of scorn that are dumped on him from both left and right.
I personally think that this would be a good time for us all to take a thoughtful look at our projections: if we think of Obama as the mirror, what is it that we see about ourselves when we look at him? The projection of blame is too easy an answer for our troubles. We have our own share of responsibility for the dreadful mess in which the country finds itself. As another correspondent wrote to me in an email today, "I'm highly disgusted with what's going on in Congress right now, [but] I have to keep reminding myself that we DO live in a democracy, don't we?"
We do. Well, I sometimes think rather that we live in an oligarchy that survives by successfully disguising itself as a democracy (I first typed "demoncracy"!) But, yes, we do. So we do not further our cause by trying to wish away or ignore the existence of the deep and powerful strain of conservatism that has been changing the balance of the American political system, not just in Obama's time but, with increasing power, these past several decades. Like it or not (I don't!), it's impossible to move in any direction without taking it into account. All very well to stand by and jeer at Obama's perceived lack of leadership from the sidelines. He's trying to quarterback a team that plays by the rules of human decency and fairness against bunch of steroid-powered thugs who don't care what tactics they use--or how many injuries are incurred--so long as they dominate the game. (Is this animosity? Or simple realism?)
I know that I'm in a growing minority in a cacophony of voices noisier and I'm sure far more effective than my own. I suspect, though, in a less demonstrable way, that I may be a part of a new "silent majority" that continues to support the President despite the ferocity of the attack. I will not yet surrender the "I Back Barack" bumper sticker on my car. Nor will I cease sending daily wishes of good will to both him and his opponents. And the same to my "anonymous" correspondent, whom I thank for challenging me to think again, again. I send out metta in full consciousness of the adverse circumstance, if only to preserve my own health, and sanity, and self-respect! May all beings be free from animosity...
 
In the daily metta practice with which I start my meditation, I reiterate the wish to be free from animosity. It's easy enough when it comes to those I like, and with whom I generally agree; the hard ...
In the daily metta practice with which I start my meditation, I reiterate the wish to be free from animosity. It's easy enough when it comes to those I like, and with whom I generally agree; the hard ...
 
 
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loritapaints2
change redux?
02:04 PM on 08/09/2011
animosity and disappointment are two very different things. obama, in my opinion, has fallen far short of his own ideals...ideals he said he would fight for, ones i believed in. what we see is someone who throws out the baby with the bath water...continually!

i don't feel animosity because he has failed. i feel unsatisfied because i believed he would do more to fight for his own agenda...the one he said he stood for... when we voted him into office.

i am disappointed, not filled with animosity --just hope...less. and that isn't change...
11:24 AM on 08/07/2011
Dharma, toxins, metta, projectionism, Budism...all of the things that made Tibet a world power, right? You guys need to put down your tamborines and get a grip. Your champion has failed because he's beginning to realize that he's all out of other people's money to spend. You can't run an economy on "Hope" and a good speach never paid off a mortgage. The American people are, indeed, showing signs of animosity and, quite frankly, it's about time. Don't blame the tea party and the Rebuplicans (I'm neither, by the way). Blame yourself for losing the argument and for hero worshipping a guy that you thought was a manifestation of yourself. Your ideas are being rejected and Obama is just the recipient of that rejection. You'd better Kharma up, or start eating your organic raisans or whatever it is you do because more animosity is coming.
05:34 PM on 08/07/2011
He's neither, BTW....
08:20 AM on 08/08/2011
No, I'm not. But I do love how anytime someone disagrees with a liberal they get put in a republican or tea party box. Probably because liberals can't argue on the basis of logic and reason they feel they have to result to categories and name calling for those who don't think like them. Frankly, I don't mind name calling as long as it's wrapped in a coherent argument which, from the left, is rarely the case. On the battlefield of ideas you guys are in full retreat; that's how those tea party cats came to power.
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Katrina Taylor
Be the change you want to see
10:25 AM on 08/07/2011
Very well said, Mr. Clothier. "As I've written before, we on the left, who have learned to distrust authority whatever its source, are prone to the heady delights of king-killing." Perfect.

Considering the recalcitrant right and wishy-washy left I'm not sure what people expect the President to do. Yell? Scream? Then get nothing done? The strategy on the right is obvious. They have no shame in their determination to destroy this president even voting against their own bills. So if compromising with them still garners little, what is the President, who represents 1/3 of our govt, supposed to do? The cat-herd dems are a scattered mess. How is he supposed to get legislation through save going to congress and staking the lot of them?
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DocJoseph
A bleeding heart will heal; a cold heart will not
08:08 PM on 08/06/2011
"I know that I'm in a growing minority in a cacophony of voices noisier and I'm sure far more effective than my own. I suspect, though, in a less demonstrable way, that I may be a part of a new "silent majority" that continues to support the President despite the ferocity of the attack."

I'm with you, not silent, but unheard.
Riven
Honi soit qui mal y pense.
11:04 PM on 08/06/2011
I share your silent frustration, DocJoseph. "We DO live in a democracy, don't we?" is a hopeful but misleading question for those of us who are truly mute. I live in a red city, so my vote doesn't count. I live in a red county, so my vote doesn't count. I live in a red congressional district, so my vote doesn't count. I live in a red state, so my vote doesn't count. No one speaks for me--not my mayor, my state congressmen, my governor, my representative to the U.S. House, or my U.S. Senators. I have only my President to speak for me, and his voice is being increasingly drowned out by all the voices that will never speak for me.
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DocJoseph
A bleeding heart will heal; a cold heart will not
11:49 PM on 08/06/2011
Wow, and I sympathize with your predicament. I lived in Texas for a while, and voted for Obama while living there. The state still went for McCain.

And Rick Perry was my governor. Oh, lord.

Fanned you are.
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satanlite
If ur neibor wtchs Fox Nws wtch ur neibor
07:17 PM on 08/06/2011
Obama is simply a turncoat. A false friend. And the Democrats we have now are worthless sea jellies.
04:32 PM on 08/06/2011
Forty eight years ago, Dylan expressed it clearly. Its still true.
Listen to 'Masters of War' and you will see what Obama and the electorate really face in their attempts to bring about 'Change'.
03:46 PM on 08/06/2011
Thank you for your wise words Mr. Clothier. I found them helpful. Where others see weakness in our President I see an unbelievable grace, maturity, and strength. It would be so easy for him to give the red meat that progressives are craving, but he is doing the best thing for the country and using his intellect to shape the outcome as much as it is in his control for long run progress. I am going to try to use your advice to get through the unbelievable hatred and venom from all sides. President Obama thank you for all of the promises you have kept despite extraordinary opposition.
www.politifact.com
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Artemis34
Women can vote against the GOP or against their ow
03:40 PM on 08/06/2011
President Obama started out RIGHT of center, and has moved farther to the right since he was elected to move closer to the many Republicans American fools sent to Washington for him to work with.  http://www.politicalcompass.org/uselection2008

That said, Pres. Obama did not make it clear to his voters that he needed them to get out the vote, vote, vote straight Democratic ticket, and do it again in the mid-term elections.  Many "Obama voters" in 2008 voted only for him.  If they'd voted a straight Democratic ticket, the President would have had more power and leverage.  But hey, you aren't going to get it if you don't ask for it.
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Chris1962
NYC
04:46 PM on 08/06/2011
>>>President Obama started out RIGHT of center,>>>

The (highly likely unconstitutional) government-mandated purchase of a private sector product, i.e., health care insurance, is not right of center. It's left as hell. And it was his own Dem Blue Dog conservatives who obstructed its passage to the point of having to be bribed to get it through.
chux3863
There's no next time.It's now or never
07:31 PM on 08/06/2011
Actually the bill was mostly made up of republican ideas if it were democratic it would and should have been single payer.
10:33 AM on 08/08/2011
The mandate was a Republican idea... do you dispute that? We are the only industralized democracy without a national health care system. Does everything have to be privatized, and for profit??? And, everytime you use your health care insurance, you are, in part, paying for those without insurance who show up at the emergancy ward at hospitals. Would you like to watch these people die in the streets? I think you might.
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Artemis34
Women can vote against the GOP or against their ow
03:31 PM on 08/06/2011
Pres. Obama is making HIS OWN Karma.  He will have what HE invites.
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artleads
Let's have a national retreat.
05:27 PM on 08/06/2011
I like this, Artemis34. Fanned. It's not about the president (as he has often said); it's about a planet heading toward the abyss. Our duty is support the light within each of us, and cooperate with those whose efforts are positive. The president is not to be reviled, but if he can't get support that he has not brought forth by his actions.
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Chris1962
NYC
01:59 PM on 08/06/2011
>>>It's clear that Obama has been weakened by the unmitigated hostility and adamant rejection with which every part of the agenda on which he was elected has been opposed.>>>

Obama's been selling out since the seventh week of his presidency, when he obediently chucked the public option under the bus, as ordered by the insurance lobbyis, in exchange for er helping to get his "historic" (read: legacy-making) HCR passed. Obama — an ace bullshoot artist — has always been about Obama. I don't know how long it's gonna take liberals to see that. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PwqSCJmbxk
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Artemis34
Women can vote against the GOP or against their ow
03:35 PM on 08/06/2011
It has just been partisan opposition, nothing factual about his agenda. 

Republican opposition has been shameless, craven, unprincipled, partisan hackery. 
http://www.clicker.com/tv/the-rachel-maddow-show/shameless-craven-unprincipled-partisan-hackery-1930739/

My question is: "If they'd oppose the President no matter what, why not do the right thing?"
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DocJoseph
A bleeding heart will heal; a cold heart will not
08:13 PM on 08/06/2011
Do the right thing? If only. As it turns out, they have successfully (perhaps) taken their hyperpartisan obstructionism and made the consequences seem to be Obama's fault.

"It happened on his watch".

Obama gave warnings, he cajoled, he explained and he sought to bring the parties together, but for naught. And the Republicans have made it clear that they like this kind of "brinksmanship."

What was it McConnell said? "We have learned that it is a hostage worth ransoming."

And that's why they cannot be expected to do the right thing.
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cheryl tobin
Alpha Dog with my pack!
12:52 PM on 08/06/2011
"All very well to stand and jeer at Obama's lack of leadership from the sidelines" when you should be slapping a "I Back Barack" bumper sticker on your car seems to use spirituality to try and stifle criticism about Obama and his policies and promote supporting him. Personally, I wish more people were expressing displeasure at his lack of leadership skills. Obama is not going to change if we just support what he is doing! I'm not angry but I am disappointed at Obama's lack of leadership skills and how this has hurt the middle class and the poor. If Obama is a mirror he has shown me that when you are totally caught up in your thinking mind you lose touch with your soul.
08:08 PM on 08/06/2011
You've hit the nail on the head. He wants to be an arbitrator working to find a position acceptable to all sides. He lacks the leadership to propose and defend and fight for his solutions. We need leadership; not arbitration.
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DocJoseph
A bleeding heart will heal; a cold heart will not
08:14 PM on 08/06/2011
He cannot be led who Will not be led.

Can you blame the leader? Most seem to. But is it deserved?

No.
12:35 PM on 08/06/2011
Misdirect and deflect blame when OB has clear choices and continues to make bad ones.
Democrats had a clear choice between Kucinich who has proven willing to fight and the compromiser/prevaricator we now have.
If Dems have buyer's remorse they have themselves to blame.
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satanlite
If ur neibor wtchs Fox Nws wtch ur neibor
07:14 PM on 08/06/2011
I'll vote for a fighter. Not for a capitulator. Obama is the latter. He got my vote once, but not again. He's spineless, weak, and when he acts it's for the Republican agenda.
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DocJoseph
A bleeding heart will heal; a cold heart will not
08:16 PM on 08/06/2011
Obama didn't write the recipe, he didn't select the ingredients, he didn't combine the ingredients or cook them or season them.

But you blame him for the Dish?
04:47 PM on 08/08/2011
Certainly not---just the indigestion.
12:32 PM on 08/06/2011
"... Obama has been weakened by the unmitigated hostility and adamant rejection with which every part of the agenda on which he was elected has been opposed...".
This while true on the face of it ignores that fact that candidate Obama proved to be vastly different than President Obama. We're not talking about a few promises not kept. We're talking about a complete reversal. The wars, the patriot act, wall street reform, real health care reform, support for social security, medicare and medicaid.
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Sarah Trickey
love, luck and lollipops. Narf!
12:22 PM on 08/06/2011
Thank you, Mr. Clothier.
"We ought to show something greater than forgiveness in meeting the cruelties and strictures in our lives. To be hurt and forgive is saintly, but far beyond this is the power to comprehend and not be hurt."-Bahiyyih Khanum
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thorolyfedup
Just listen. You'll be surprised what you hear.
11:51 AM on 08/06/2011
A very nice sentiment Mr. Clothier, but there are 2 very large problems with your article:

1. Many, many people in this country will not consider any religious teaching other than their (misunderstood) Christian dogmas.

2. Many, many people in this country will not see the current president as inspiration. In fact, they won't look at a bl@ck man cross-eyed, much less a bl@ck Democrat.
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LunaNik
Harm none; do what ye will.
04:15 PM on 08/06/2011
1. I'm not christian; I'm pagan.

2. May I ask why you see Obama as an inspiration, other than the fact that he managed to live the American dream and become the first black President?

How is it inspirational to betray those who supported you?

How is it inspirational to break promises you've made?

How is it inspirational to refuse to stand up for your principles under pressure?

Please understand that my intention is not to appear hostile toward you! I truly wish to know why you view Obama as inspirational.
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thorolyfedup
Just listen. You'll be surprised what you hear.
05:21 PM on 08/06/2011
I was merely commenting on what Mr. Clothier wrote in his article. I make no claim to what he wrote. I mostly was drawing attention to "conservative" and their entrenched mindset.
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satanlite
If ur neibor wtchs Fox Nws wtch ur neibor
07:18 PM on 08/06/2011
f & f