Dear Phyllis,
I am going to be taking the LSAT exam for law school on October 4th and have been stressing out. I feel that I have a great capability to really do well on this exam because of my publishing background and seeing that I have been working at a law firm for a little more than a year. But I cannot seem to spare myself the mental restriction I have put on myself causing me not to do so well on my practice exams. Any guidance would be wonderful. I am a Gemini* born June 15, 1985 at 4:22 a.m.
Sincerely,
Law Student in Waiting
Dear LSW,
I'm sure many readers are sympathizing with you right now. Anyone who has taken an important exam knows how nerve wracking and stressful it can be. Hang in there.
Being a Gemini can help you. It gives you added intellectual energy that can learn and express a wide range of information. Being a Gemini is also an asset in your career - especially if your career involves communication. I wasn't at all surprised to hear you have a background in publishing ...many Geminis flourish in that profession. Law is another highly intellectual and communicative field that your Gemini should do well in.
Your "mental restriction" as you put it might be due to Mercury being in the emotional sign of Cancer when you were born. It usually needs a comfortable, controlled environment in order to blossom. Many folks with this placement are bright as can be, but find themselves clamming up, intellectually and otherwise, in tense environments such as test-taking.
It's possible you have so much emotion invested in this test it's hard to relax and recall all the material you truly do understand.
It sounds simple, but nurturing yourself as you would a child who's facing an anxious situation might help quell your fears and relax your mind. Remind yourself that you love, support and admire you no matter what. That's because the sign Cancer likes reassurance. Treating yourself with loving kindness can work wonders to bring out the balanced conquering hero in you. And, of course, breathing helps!
Astrologically, there's good news! I looked up your chart for October 4th and it is quite an auspicious day for you. Even better, 2009 looks to be an expansive year for you wherein you are intellectually challenged (as every law student is). That makes me thing you will be embarking on something truly satisfying. Could that be Law School? You betcha!
I can't guarantee a high LSAT score, but planetary energies are certainly lining up to support you. Allow yourself to succeed.
Dear Phyllis,
I have been dating a wonderful Libra* man Larry, for over 3 years. We love each other, find each other incredibly attractive and share a warm, easy harmony. Problem is Larry is very vague and confusing when it comes to commitment. He claims he wants to marry me, it doesn't feel it's "right" yet. My friends claim Larry is a commitment -phobe who will never make up his mind. They are encouraging me to move on. But since Larry is the absolute love of my life, I don't want to walk away. I'm a Sagittarius,* Larry's birthday is October 1st. I ask: When will it feel right? How do I get Libra to commit?
-On a see-saw
Oh Dear!
You are experiencing dynamic that often accompanies loving (or living with or being in business with, or being buddies with....) a Libra: Indecisiveness.
One minute it's "Yes" to something, the next minute it's "No" and then it's, "I'm not sure." Meanwhile you could be waiting to know if you are getting married or just whether you're dining out or eating in with Libra.
Since Libras constantly weigh the pros and cons of a situation and evaluate matters from many points of view, it can indeed be difficult for them to reach firm decisions. Plus Libras are loathe to make any decision that isn't the absolute best and right one. Lots of second guessing goes on in many Libra's minds. And that is crippling.
That said, this October is a good time to initiate sincere talks with Libras, Larry, included, about important matters. Planetary aspects can support Larry in clarifying his deeper feelings and taking bigger risks than normal. If Larry wants to marry you, he could realize it soon. But, honey, if he doesn't want to marry you, he could muster the nerve to admit it to both himself and to you within the next few weeks as well.
For what it's worth, I think the two of you are terrifically matched astrologically and could enjoy a wonderfully successful marriage. But first you and Larry have to decide to give it a try.
Here's some ways to help a Libra make up their mind about commitment or other matters:**
1.Leave them Alone. When Libra is left without your companionship, concerns about what isn't right about your relationship evaporate while memories of how much they enjoy you intensify.
2.Use reverse Psychology - argue for one point when you'd like the opposite. Since a Libra can't help but evaluate every side of a choice, stake your claim on the side you don't want so Libra will argue the side you do.
3.Agree with them. When Libra is thinking the relationship isn't right, agree with them can ignite their knack for arguing the opposite case. It's help them see all the reasons why you should be together
4.Tell Libra what you want: Sometimes it's easier for them to make up their minds when they know what others want. That narrows down the vast field of possibilities and provides Libra with something to weigh their decisions against.
Got questions? Write to AskPhyllis@gmail.com. Please include your birthdate, time and place.
*Geminis are born May 22nd-June 21st
Libras are born September 23rd-October 22nd
Sagittarians are born November 23rd-December 22nd
**Read this and much more about how to overcome problems with every sign in my latest book, Astrology's Secrets to Hot Romance: How to Find True Compatibility and the One Who's Right For You.