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What Believers and Atheists Can Learn From Each Other

Posted: 05/30/2012 12:50 pm

Rabbi Geoffrey Mitelman: It's inherently challenging for believers and atheists to have productive conversations. Discussing topics such as belief and nonbelief, the potential irrationality of religion, or the limits of scientific knowledge is difficult since each side often ends up more firmly entrenched in their own worldview.

But one bright person interested in broadening the conversation is Sam McNerney, a science writer who focuses on cognitive science and an atheist interested in religion from a psychological point of view.

I found Sam through his writing on ScientificAmerican.com, and started reading his blog Why We Reason and his posts on BigThink.com. We discovered that even though we approached religion from different perspectives, we had great respect for each other.

So as two people with different religious outlooks we wondered: What can we learn from each other?

Sam McNerney: There are many things we can learn. Let's take one: the role of authority.

A recent New York Times article points out that secular liberal atheists tend to conflate authority, loyalty and sanctity with racism, sexism and homophobia. It's not difficult to see why. Societies suffer when authority figures, being motivated by sacred values and religious beliefs, forbid their citizens from challenging the status quo. But a respect for authority and the principles they uphold to some degree is necessary if societies seek to maintain order and justice and function properly. The primatologist Frans de Waal explains it this way: "Without agreement on rank and a certain respect for authority there can be no great sensitivity to social rules, as anyone who has tried to teach simple house rules to a cat will agree" (Haidt, 106).

Ironically, atheists' steadfast allegiance to rationality, secular thinking and the importance of open-mindedness blinds them to important religious values including respect for authority. As a result, atheists tend to confuse authority with exploitation and evil and undervalue the vital role authority plays in a healthy society.

Geoff: You accurately bring up one aspect of why organized religion can be so complicated: it is intertwined with power. And I'm glad you note that authority and power are not inherently bad when it comes to religion. In fact, as you also say, a certain degree of authority is necessary.

To me, the real problem arises when religion adds another element into the mix: certainty. It's a toxic combination to have religious authorities with the power to influence others claiming to "know" with 100 percent certainty that they're right and everyone else is wrong.

One thing I learned from several atheists is the importance of skepticism and doubt. Indeed, while certainty leads to arrogance, uncertainty leads to humility. We open up the conversation and value diverse experiences when we approach the world with a perspective of "I'm not sure" or "I could be wrong."

Recently, astrophysicist Adam Frank wrote a beautiful piece on NPR's blog 13.7 about how valuable uncertainty can be:

Dig around in most of the world's great religious traditions and you find people finding their sense of grace by embracing uncertainty rather than trying to bury it in codified dogmas...

Though I am an atheist, some of the wisest people I have met are those whose spiritual lives (some explicitly religious, some not) have forced them to continually confront uncertainty. This daily act has made them patient and forgiving, generous and inclusive. Likewise, the atheists I have met who most embody the ideals of free inquiry seem to best understand the limitations of every perspective, including their own. They encounter the ever shifting ground of their lives with humor, good will and compassion.

Certainty can be seductive, but it hurts our ability to engage with others in constructive ways. Thus when religious people talk about God, belief or faith, we have to approach the conversation with a little humility and recognize that we don't have a monopoly on the truth. In the words of Rabbi Brad Hirschfield, we need to realize that another person doesn't have to be wrong for us to be right.

This doesn't mean believers and atheists will agree on the role of religion in society, the validity of a particular belief system, or even the very existence of God. In fact, believers and atheists will almost certainly continue to vehemently disagree about these questions. But we have to remember that not all disagreements are bad. Some arguments are quite beneficial because they help us gain a deeper understanding of reality, encourage clearer thinking and broaden people's perspectives.

The rabbis even draw a distinction between two different kinds of arguments. Arguments they call "for the sake of Heaven" will always be valuable, while arguments that are only for self-aggrandizement will never be productive (Pirkei Avot 5:20). So I'm not interested in arguments that devolve into mocking, ridicule, name-calling or one-upmanship. But I'd gladly participate in any discussion if we are arguing about how we make ourselves and this world better, and would actively strive to involve whoever wants to be part of that endeavor, regardless of what they may or may not believe.

Sam: You are right to point out that both atheists and believers under the illusion of certainty smother potentially productive dialogue with disrespectful rhetoric. What's alarming is that atheism in the United States is now more than non-belief. It's an intense and widely shared sentiment where a belief in God is not only false, but also ridiculous. Pointing out how irrational religion can be is entertaining for too many.

There's no doubt that religious beliefs influence negative behavioral consequences, so atheists are right to criticize religion on many epistemological claims. But I've learned from believers and my background in cognitive psychology that faith-based beliefs are not necessarily irrational.

Consider a clever study recently conducted by Kevin Rounding of Queen's University in Ontario that demonstrates how religion helps increase self-control. In two experiments participants (many of whom identified as atheists) were primed with a religious mindset -- they unscrambled short sentences containing words such as "God," "divine" and "Bible." Compared to a control group, they were able to drink more sour juice and were more willing to accept $6 in a week instead of $5 immediately. Similar lines of research show that religious people are less likely to develop unhealthy habits like drinking, taking drugs, smoking and engaging in risky sex.

Studies also suggest that religious and spiritual people, especially those living in the developing world, are happier and live longer, on average, than non-believers. Religious people also tend to feel more connected to something beyond themselves; a sentiment that contributes to well-being significantly.

It's unclear if these findings are correlative or causal -- it's likely that many of the benefits that come from believing in God arise not from beliefs per se but from strong social ties that religious communities do such a good job of fostering. Whatever the case, this research should make atheists pause before they dismiss all religious beliefs as irrational or ridiculous.

Geoff: It's interesting -- that actually leads to another area where atheists have pushed believers in important ways, namely, to focus less on the beliefs themselves, and more on how those beliefs manifest themselves in actions. And to paraphrase Steven Pinker, the actions that religious people need to focus on are less about "saving souls," and more about "improving lives."

For much of human history the goal of religion was to get people to believe a certain ideology or join a certain community. "Being religious" was a value in and of itself, and was often simply a given, but today, we live in a world where people are free to choose what they believe in. So now, the goal of religion should be to help people find more fulfillment in their own lives and to help people make a positive impact on others' lives.

It's important to note that people certainly do not need religion to act morally or find fulfillment. But as Jonathan Haidt writes in his new book "The Righteous Mind," religion can certainly make it easier.

Haidt argues that our mind is like a rider who sits atop an elephant to suggest that our moral deliberations (the rider) are post-hoc rationalizations of our moral intuitions (the elephant). The key to his metaphor is that intuitions come first (and are much more powerful) and strategic reason comes afterwards.

We need our rider because it allows us to think critically. But our elephant is also important because it motivates us to connect with others who share a moral vision. Ultimately, if we are striving to build communities and strengthen our morals, we cannot rely exclusively on either the rider or the elephant; we need both. As Haidt explains:

If you live in a religious community, you are enmeshed in a set of norms, institutions and relationships that work primarily on the elephant to influence your behavior. But if you are an atheist living in a looser community with a less binding moral matrix, you might have to rely somewhat more on an internal moral compass, read by the rider. That might sound appealing to rationalists, but it is also a recipe for .. .a society that no longer has a shared moral order. [And w]e evolved to live, trade and trust within shared moral matrices. (Haidt, 269)

Since religion is a human construct, with its "norms, institutions and relationships," it can be used in a variety of different ways. It can obviously be used to shut down critical thinking and oppress others. But as you mention, religion has positive effects on well-being, and religious beliefs correlate with a sense of fulfillment. Perhaps the job of religion, then, should be giving us a common language, rituals and communities that reinforce and strengthen our ability to become better human beings and find joy and meaning in our lives.

Ultimately, we don't have to agree with someone in order to learn from them. As Ben Zoma, a second century Jewish sage, reminds us: "Who is wise? The person who learns from all people" (Pirkei Avot 4:1). When we are willing to open ourselves up to others, we open ourselves up to new ideas and different perspectives.

Indeed, I have come to believe that our purpose as human beings -- whether we identify as a believer, an atheist or anything in between -- is to better ourselves and our world. And any source of knowledge that leads us to that goal is worth pursuing.

 

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TheWM
aka The Wrong Monkey
10:04 AM on 07/29/2012
"I'm not interested in arguments that devolve into mocking, ridicule, name-calling or one-upmanship."

(*sigh* The religious are so seldom interested in mocking and ridicule. And I'm so good at it! Especially when it comes to religion!)
12:30 PM on 06/26/2012
This article presents a very reasonable debate on this subject. Judging by the posts that follow, few people are interested in reasonable debate. Just sweeping generalizations with no basis in reality. In reality, there is a very wide range of beliefs and tolerance of other beliefs on both sides.
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TheWM
aka The Wrong Monkey
09:09 AM on 07/29/2012
"Judging by the posts that follow, few people are interested in reasonable debate."

Or perhaps some don't find the above as reasonable as you do.

"Just sweeping generalizations with no basis in reality."

Hm. Seems to me if that's what people were into they'd love this article. Liberals are atheists, "secular liberal atheists tend to conflate authority, loyalty and sanctity with racism, sexism and homophobia," atheism means "a recipe for .. .a society that no longer has a shared moral order." Ridiculous sweeping generalizations abounding, mostly of the neocon variety. Hey, if that's your idea of sweet reason... Or maybe you're hearing these arguments for the first time, and assuming -- incorrectly -- that all the other readers are too.
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SecularAdvocate
Media Watcher
07:53 PM on 06/06/2012
What believers can learn from atheists:
"There is no God - God is a construct of the berserk human imagination"

What atheists can learn from believers:
"Never underestimate the power of denial"
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SecularAdvocate
Media Watcher
07:26 PM on 06/06/2012
Atheism and rationalism is so successful and attractive now as a world view rhat Religious people are starting to have to be polite about it. They'd better be careful - demanding that people be polite about their beliefs is one of the ways they keep religion afloat. Start doing that for atheism, and you lend it respectability!

Where will it all end?

As for this feeble claim that authority is a good and necessary thing - sure it is, when the people in authority are allocated their positions based on a rationale that we can all agree upon. The idea that a man has authority based merely on the fact that he wears a funny hat - sometimes the funnier the hat, the higher the authority - is the sort of thing that gives authority a bad name in the first place.

Giving extra credence and politeness to someone just because they are "a man of God" is a huge mistake. The average "Man of God" is an unctuous conformist, keen to trot out the party line in return for his stipend, and the undeserved respect that comes with the package.

One thing this article does get right is that you'll learn a lot about people by studying and listening to religious people. But you won't learn anything about God, except the fact that he needs his supporters to keep making him seem real.
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TheWM
aka The Wrong Monkey
09:52 AM on 07/29/2012
"As for this feeble claim that authority is a good and necessary thing"

Authority is very often an exceptionally good thing for those in authority. The ruling classes tend to make nice with religion no matter what their individual members may think of it privately.
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SecularAdvocate
Media Watcher
10:02 AM on 07/29/2012
And yet the more steep sided the social pyramid, the more miserable everyone is - even the people at the top.
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raker
09:51 AM on 06/02/2012
Sure, there are “limits to science,” but the implication that religion takes the baton and finishes the race after science gives out is typical reasoning of a religion apologist, and it is typically preposterous.

When you base an argument on a bogus proposition, it’s easier to win because you’re fighting against a fake adversary. The writers say that atheists “conflate authority, loyalty and sanctity with racism, sexism, and homophobia.” What a crock. For one thing, religion is not defined as “authority, loyalty and sanctity.” Authoritarianism and blind devotion are more like it. And it is religion, not “authority, loyalty or sanctity” that perpetuates racism, sexism and homophobia. And we atheists do not “conflate” religion and these scourges, they are the unabashed defining characteristics of religion. Any zealot will boast of his sexism, racism and homophobia. No conflation is necessary.

If religion could be defended with honest arguments, then somebody would try it. But it can’t, so they don’t.
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Lupis Noctum
Reality is not democratic.
06:17 AM on 06/02/2012
If "believers" were willing and able to learn from atheists, they'd be atheists too.
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Dogger807
Faith is a poor reason to believe anything.
06:14 PM on 06/01/2012
Three of my posts were denied because I was stating that just accepting authority for authority's sake lead to corrupt individuals in charge. I gave a specific example and I guess they found it offensive for me to present a negative view of this person.
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TheEvilAtheist
I love satan, drugs, and homosexuals
03:09 PM on 06/01/2012
“It is often argued that religion is valuable because it makes men good, but even if this were true it would not be a proof that religion is true. That would be an extension of pragmatism beyond endurance. Santa Claus makes children good in precisely the same way, and yet no one would argue seriously that the fact proves his existence. The defense of religion is full of such logical imbecilities.”

— H.L. Mencken

That is all.
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Dogger807
Faith is a poor reason to believe anything.
01:43 PM on 06/01/2012
When you respect authority for authority's sake you get people like the current pope. A criminal who should be in prison, but instead is immune to justice. Even suggesting that he be held accountable for his policies is insulting to the authority mindset.
TomMartin
Freedom and equality.
06:22 AM on 06/01/2012
When I was an atheist, I believed in a strong government. And for most of that time I believed in a Communist-ruled government, as did other Communist believers in that Communist country I was born in. And I did not have any harmful habits like alcohol, tobacco or other drugs or risky sex. So let's not make generalizations based on some experiences of American atheists. And in fact, now that I am an American agnostic, no longer contemptuous of religions, but searching in vain for the right one, I am still a believer in a strong government and I don't have harmful habits, except maybe for spending too much time on the computer, chatting with people like here on Huffington Post. I wonder if religious people tend to spend less time on the computer.
ThinkCreeps
Seriously, it's time.
04:53 AM on 06/01/2012
As usual, all that needs to be said on this subject is that all it will require for atheists to throw themselves on their knees and start mumbling with the most superstitious of them is just a little bit of evidence for the big beardy man in the sky. Just a little tiny piece of convincing evidence.
After millenia of searching, all we have is a picture of a piece of toast that's supposed to show some seditious israeli guy's mom.

The same goes for fairies, krakens, incubi, cherubs... - just a body or a video would do.
TomMartin
Freedom and equality.
06:12 AM on 06/01/2012
I don't trust videos of UFOs, why should I trust videos of fairies or cherubs? Or of faith healings? Videos can be deceptive.
ThinkCreeps
Seriously, it's time.
06:33 AM on 06/01/2012
They certainly can, but let the superstitionists at least come forward with a video, instead of their current handful of nothing.
04:19 AM on 06/01/2012
True, at the moment no-one has a monopoly on the truth.
ThinkCreeps
Seriously, it's time.
07:26 AM on 06/01/2012
No, but the situation is stable, pending the arrival of any evidence for god/gods/fairies/krakens/....
01:58 AM on 06/01/2012
This piece nicely illustrates one difference between science and journalism, with the latter mentality unfortunately lending unwarranted support here to religion. Too many journalists think that balanced reporting means showing both sides of the story, no matter how irrational or unsupportable one side might be. A dramatic example from the past was the false claim about a relationship between vaccines and autism. In the current piece, journalism presents a purportedly balanced report on the relationship between science and religion by focusing on some vague and (as others have pointed out) perhaps false claims about what each can learn from the other. But this approach ignores the profound differences between believing in (some?) god and not believing, thus exaggerating the similarities. The Templeton Foundation, with its artificial but well-funded efforts to conflate science and religion, would be proud!
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Razpooten
Nil homini certum est
01:30 AM on 06/01/2012
Many atheists like myslef are former christians - we have nothing to learnfrom believers except to avoind them.
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signgrrl
design & production
03:01 PM on 06/01/2012
yes, certain people keep forgetting that.
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janmB
loves life
03:18 PM on 06/01/2012
Such as learning from successes in countries overseas. I'm referring to the visitor that got socked with a $140,000 bill for a snake bite that wouldn't have cost him a penny in his home country--Norway.
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Razpooten
Nil homini certum est
04:32 PM on 06/01/2012
Yes, conveniently.
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Razpooten
Nil homini certum est
01:29 AM on 06/01/2012
For a while I thought this was going to be a serius story.
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NellWebbish
God Hates Figs - Mark 11:12-14
11:18 AM on 06/01/2012
Actually, I found it interesting. Several of the studies they cited I'm aware of and they are solid findings. I don't see the use in just out of hand dismissing findings simply because they point out that most behaviors have both positive and negative impacts ... including my own skeptical, secular atheist behavior.
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Razpooten
Nil homini certum est
01:42 PM on 06/01/2012
I disagree.