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Rabbi Irwin Kula

Rabbi Irwin Kula

Posted: April 30, 2010 02:37 PM

Leviticus Loses: The Inevitability of Equal Rights for Homosexuals

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This past week in synagogues throughout the world, the weekly portion of Scripture included the following verse from the book of Leviticus: "Do not lie with a male as one lies with a woman; it is an abomination." This proscription has obviously been the source of heated and often vicious debate over the past decades as homosexuals have courageously come out of the closet and forced our culture to wrestle with its full humanity. My colleague Rabbi Brad Hirschfield posted an important and nuanced post on Huffington Post -- "Is Homosexuality an Abomination? Wrestling with Leviticus 18:22" -- suggesting that because this cultural change in attitude towards homosexuals is very complex, the debate would be far more productive if people hid less behind Scripture and ideology and focused more on why this particular issue is so important to them personally. In Rabbi Hirschfield's words, "compassion for an idea is hard to generate, but compassion for a real person is less so."

It strikes me that the way human rights issues have played out since the beginning of modernity -- which, not surprisingly, coincides with the separation of church and state -- should give us all reason to take a deep breath. There is a sort of humbling inevitability to the process of inclusion and to where we place ourselves along the continuum of human rights debate. One of the many ways to characterize the modern experience is the ongoing expansion of human rights and the increasing inclusion of marginal populations. The modern political and social dynamic in both general society and within religious communities has been the same: Marginal classes of people are brought inside legal frameworks and given equal rights. Whether recognizing the full humanity of Jews, African Americans, other ethnic and religious groups, women, the physically challenged, and now homosexuals, the process has been the same. First, a small group within the marginal group realizes they are in fact oppressed, that in profoundly unjust ways they are not treated as full human beings equal before the law. This small group begins to "cry" out for freedom. The initial reaction within the marginal group is usually fear of rocking the boat while the reaction of the dominant class is dismissive if not often brutal. But injustice once realized and freedom once tasted, even if only in one's heart and mind, is very hard to put back into a box, and so a process begins within the marginal class, educating its own people to see their plight and organizing increasing numbers of people ready to fight for inclusion and fairness. At some point very small numbers of people from the dominant class begin to see the light and realize that fellow human beings just like them have been denied equal rights simply because they are different. If the modern period is of any evidence, once this movement perceived as one of human rights begins -- though it may entail great struggle, sacrifice, and bitterness -- it inexorably results in the marginal population being given the same legal rights as the majority population. So America of 2010 is far more inclusive than America of 1810; classes of people denied equal rights and barely seen as human in 1810 have gained their rights by 2010.

It turns out that once the thirst for freedom is felt, the only question is pacing, and this is true in the general society as well as within religious communities, who all go through the same fighting process. Sadly, though, religious communities, even the liberals in those communities, tend to be on a time lag relative to the larger secular body politic. Depending on our psycho-spiritual and psychosocial predispositions and the values of the groups to which we feel most connected, we individually and collectively pace ourselves in one of three ways. Some of us, the traditionalists, hold on for dear life and oppose any change; others, the human rights activists, make great sacrifices to bring about change; and still others, the rest of us, are in the middle, slowly brought along to see the humanity of the Other. These three paces are of course all relative to each other, so as inclusion and equal rights expand, passions intensify.

For some, usually those most denied their rights, change understandably moves too slowly, whereas for others it moves too quickly, and for most of us it sometimes moves too quickly and sometimes too slowly. Of course, whatever our pace, we dress up our positions in either religious language or the secular language of grand principles like justice, fairness, and equality, as if it is not precisely the content of those principles that we are debating. At some point, as people meet each other and realize that the Other is a human being whose difference is nothing to fear, a critical mass, usually a healthy minority and not yet the majority, pushes through the change, which drives the remnant of traditionalists crazy. So traditionalists do have much to "fear" as their variety of arguments against inclusion -- the same arguments that they have brought on every human rights issue (e.g., it is not natural, it will lead to moral corruption, it is sinful, it is against god's will, it will undo the family, it will destroy the fabric of society, etc.) -- will increasingly ring hollow to more and more people. They may be able to slow things down, but they cannot stop these changes no matter what the Bible says. Thank God.

Given that we all know how (if not exactly when) this story of equal rights and full inclusion for homosexuals is going to end, the really interesting question is who we are in this drama. Where do we position ourselves and why? After all, we position ourselves where we do because it works for us, giving us just the right psychic gratification -- whether from our anger, self-righteousness, righteous indignation, or aloofness, and whether we are leaders or followers or stand above critics. Social, cultural, and moral change is hard, and in my experience, when I get a bit too angry at the pace of someone else's capacity for "moral development," or when I get a bit too self-righteous about how morally developed I am relative to those "homophobes," it is because I am actually unconsciously disappointed in my own efforts in working to make this a more just society.

Gays and lesbians (and bisexuals and transsexuals) are going to gain every single right that heterosexuals have: the right to visit their lovers, partners, or spouses in a hospital; the right to share in pensions, health insurance, and inheritance benefits; the right to marry; and the right to adopt. This is just how it is when people begin to see the Other as fully human, and it will even be so in the vast majority of religious communities -- after all, who would have thought that the majority of the most religiously traditional communities would allow inter-racial marriage?

Knowing all this ought not keep social justice activists (sorry, Glenn Beck) from doggedly pursuing equal rights for homosexuals. But it ought to make us feel just a bit less anxious and therefore a bit less angry with traditionalists. Knowing that as long as we continue to fight for the recognition of the humanity of the Other, such recognition will ultimately be won, we might even be a little less triumphant as we win.

Anyway, at some point in the next decades, the vast majority of us will see this as the obvious moral position; will see those views of a previous era as less morally and ethically evolved; and we will feel appropriately embarrassed, if not ashamed, of those days. Given this, it behooves us to remember that the only difference between human rights activists and traditionalists, relatively speaking to the centuries of injustice finally being ameliorated, is having realized something just a bit earlier -- something that the god of Leviticus should have learned from the god of Genesis -- that all human beings are created equal in the divine image.

 

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This past week in synagogues throughout the world, the weekly portion of Scripture included the following verse from the book of Leviticus: "Do not lie with a male as one lies with a woman; it is an a...
This past week in synagogues throughout the world, the weekly portion of Scripture included the following verse from the book of Leviticus: "Do not lie with a male as one lies with a woman; it is an a...
 
 
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07:40 PM on 05/14/2010
My Dear God, I'm so shocked! I thought things were doing badly, just in my country, but even in USA, a Protestant country, things are morally appalling. Homossexual leaders in church? That´s unbelievable!

I Understand That We must love others, that's true. I do not hate homossexuals ! But this have to change! Why are they differentt? All of us when we accept Christ we change our way of life!

Equal rights? This is inevitable, but it is madness!And what about their children? How they would emotionally be? Confused at least.

Sorry, but that´s not the family that God planned.

Definitely, all this modernity is killing the Church of Christ.

By the way, i´m from Brazil.
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05:08 PM on 05/17/2010
"Definitely, all this modernity is killing the Church of Christ"

No, what's killing the church is its inability to adapt to an evolving collective intellect, and the hypocrisy of many Christians.
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Johnathan Ammons
06:29 PM on 05/17/2010
I thought God was perfect, infallible. If that's so, how can that *not* be the family that God, in God's infinite and inscrutable wisdom, planned?
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Gunfighter
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07:40 AM on 05/13/2010
I'm a Christian... let me get thout in front.

I can't get too excercised about Leviticus 18:22 as all of the old Testament is Hebraic law. I'm not a Hebrew. Leviticus also dictates how ia am to make sacrifices, how to plant and harves my fields, what kind of clothes to wear, how to cut (or not cut) my hair, sidelocks and beard. Do we as modern Americans do these things? Of course not. So get off of your pseudo-Christian high horses and confess that you just want some sort of religious blessing to cover the sin of your hatred of homosexuals.
12:04 PM on 05/10/2010
The issue that never seems to come up in the same-sex marriage debate is the fact that marriage has a religious and secular component to it. If you oppose homosexuality and gay marriage because that is what your "faith" dictates, well then, good for you, but don't try to dictate the laws in order to match those beliefs. Marriage in a religious sense is about unity and procreation of two individuals, I never read anything in the Bible that discusses the purpose of marriage as being about filing joint tax returns, hospital visitation rights, or health insurance. That is because those are the secular, civil rights that come with being married. The Religious Right wants to keep framing the argument in terms of all of the "evils" of homosexuality and how society would be destroyed by gay marriage. If a certain religion condemns homosexuality and doesn't want to allow gay couples to get married in their church, well then that is their right to do so. However what they believe should not be used to make laws that discriminate against me.

A heterosexual couple doesn't have to get married in a church in order to gain those rights, they can just drive on down to the courthouse. My partner and I don't want to get married as part of some evil plot to destroy religion. We want to get married so that we can have the same civil, legal rights as everyone else.
08:10 AM on 05/10/2010
The reason that Rabbi Irwin Kula had asked all ye of faith to set aside your doctrinal adages before answering the question as to why you oppose same sex marriage, was to help you understand the truth behind your aversion to gay relationships. So I’m going to repeat the good rabbi’s request by asking you to reach deep into your hearts and explain in secular terms (no scriptures) why gay marriage causes you such great fear.
I think that you’ll find when one honestly believes homosexuality is a titillating choice, tempting you full of sinful desires then you have clearly had a coming out. News flash; you are gay. And it is not your faith that is being tested---but your sexuality. Heterosexuals do not feel desire for their own gender. Likewise, homosexuals are not sexually aroused by the opposite sex. But the fact that so many Christians feel that they are being tempted by sexually attractive naughty, naughty sinful men explains an awful lot. --- Although, there is nothing wrong with that…
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Gunfighter
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07:35 AM on 05/13/2010
It has nothing to do with Christianity. Nothing. the problem, as I see it, is that people (including Christians), especially Americans, love feeling righteous about their prejudices. See, if we feel righteous, we can ignore the complete logical and moral failings of our own hearts.
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08:41 PM on 05/09/2010
these are also laws God gave to the Jews to follow, his chosen people. these were not rules to imposed on others, like circumcision. why everyone thinks we should all follow the laws of their religion is beyond me. if that were the case, we should all be vegetarians to please the Buddhists.
08:55 AM on 05/10/2010
Ah, but every religion, taking itself as "true" (and it must) makes all other religions "false". It then follows that the adherents to the "other" religion must be "converted" and that "all follow the laws of their religion (the "true" religion)". Of course, this will entail a bit of compulsion in the form of various punishments from threats of Hell, to actual death (e.g., burning at the stake, crucifixion), or torture. Milder forms of converting are witnessed in Amish "shunning". The pious proclamations of "Love" and "Forgiveness" is merely a temporary tactic intended to gather enough "true believers" to embark upon a Jihad or Crusade.
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11:20 AM on 05/10/2010
iagree. personally i believe there there are many logical reasons for these laws, based on how society was 2,000+ yrs ago, as well as their beliefs. the kosher laws forbid animals that eat other animals. all animals had to be slaughtered at the one temple in the city. you don't want wild animals eat people in a city/market place. the animal might wound the prist also, and end his career. a priest was not allowed to have physical imperfections. that is how "an eye for an eye" came about. people would poke one eye out of a priest, so the priest of their tribe could be in power. this law stopped that. much like how making suicide against the law stopped royal teens in Europe from the practice, because if they broke the law it disqualified them from burial in the family grave yard (just as it does for Catholics in their's as it is a sin). today these biblical laws are not necessary. a new religion needs to increase its membership, and judaisum was also a nation, needing to defend its borders. a law that forced gay men to procreate (again, not needed now) helped build an army, and secure the survival of a budding religion.
02:17 AM on 05/08/2010
I have always wondered if the divine messengers sent to Lot in Sodom were female, would it have been somehow alright to have attempted to rape them? If the answer is no, than what really was Sodom's sin? How do we really even know if the messengers were male? Did someone perform genitalia inspections which were somehow not recorded in the Bible? Isn't the gender appropriate set of genitals all that is needed to make a man a man, make a woman a woman? Is there something else perhaps, something inside, independent of the external plumbing system which determines someone’s gender identity? Being a Gay man who has never 'lain' down with a woman, how can I know how not to lie down with a man as I would with a woman, avoiding this sin against God? The Bible, the complete, total, exclusive word of God which I have searched seems to be missing those instructions and I have never heard it explained from the pulpit. Should I go out to one of those stores, one of those which local church leaders are constantly trying to shut down and purchase pornography to find out how one actually 'lies' with a woman, or wouldn't that be a sin? I think the biggest question is why do I, a non-Christian, feel it so important to even search for answers to these questions?
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Asmodean1
Truth is only true if based on facts.
01:30 AM on 05/12/2010
in the ancient world the word (s@domy) means "any intercouse with anyone, anything, anywhere that is not you lawful spouse. male or female. in the 8th (i think) century the church redifined what it meant.
11:49 PM on 05/04/2010
Comrades, speaking as a heathen, I like this guy too.
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BlackYowe
I am a classical- liberal woman and a Jeweler.
09:01 PM on 05/04/2010
What is marriage for and why do we have it in society? Why should we expand marriage to include Gay people when marriage has always meant the coming together of two different things.
09:56 PM on 05/04/2010
Dear BlackYowe

Thanks for asking: "Why should we expand marriage to include Gay people when marriage has always meant the coming together of two different things".

Two? Who said?

Tuesday May 4, 2010
Polygamy Controversy Presents Dilemma for Post-Christian France
By Hilary White

NANTES, France, May 4, 2010 (LifeSiteNews.com) – When a Muslim woman was fined late last month in Nantes, France for driving while wearing a full face veil, the issue of polygamy burst into the spotlight when it was revealed that her husband had three other “wives.”

The incident has re-opened the debate in Europe over the dilemma faced by European governments with, on the one hand, aging native populations and below-replacement birth rates, and, on the other, burgeoning Muslim immigrant populations with customs incompatible with existing laws.

Objections to his alleged polygamy were answered by the woman’s husband, Lies Hebbadj, an Algerian-born Muslim, who pointed out that, in accordance with modern French customs, he does not have four wives but one wife and four mistresses, plus 12 children between them.

“If one can be stripped of one’s French nationality for having mistresses, then many French could lose theirs,” Mr. Hebbadj, a halal butcher, said after consulting his legal counsel. “As far as I know, mistresses are not forbidden, neither in France, nor in Islam.”

http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/printerfriendly.html?articleid=10050401
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alexandracabot
10:27 PM on 05/06/2010
Marriage had also "always" meant the coming together of two people of the same race, and also one person (the man) who was dominant and the other who was subordinate and supposed to be obedient (the woman). Should we have kept that the same, too?
05:46 PM on 05/04/2010
My Post Judeo-Christian heritage series

How Post-Christian Is England?
Al Mohler provides commentary on the recent arrest of a street preacher in London detained for listing homosexuality as a sin. It’s a not-so-brave new world.
http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/thabitianyabwile/2010/05/04/how-post-christian-is-england/
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StevenKeirstead
Photographer and Biologist who happens to be gay.
07:59 PM on 05/04/2010
He won’t get convicted I bet.
02:38 PM on 05/04/2010
You. Miss. The. Point.

Is God love? Then what does the scripture reveal to us? His love, His plan. His laws were given as a reflection of that love: how we were to live to experience the best He had for us.

His best for us is that Holy Bond of one man living a lifetime with one woman, cleaving together to become one flesh, the two becoming one.

All the machinations of dissecting Leviticus letter by letter mean nothing. You strain out the gnat but swallow a camel. You try to fit sin into the scripture to fit the social winds of the day, straining to prove it wrong to be acceptable to sinners.

Rights be damned. Let's preach God's perfect will. Only that will set people free. The rest is just millstones around the neck. The right to homosexuality is the right to hell. Let's stop "righting" people into hell.
02:45 PM on 05/04/2010
"Rights be damned"?! That pretty much says it all.
03:36 PM on 05/04/2010
Each gay person knows the truth of the biology of 'gayness'. And at that moment, for many of us, the clarity of the world around us, for the first time, resolves itself. I like to put this question to the non-gay folks who are sure about the choice issue: If tomorrow I decided to give your view a try, leaving my husband of twelve years, and all the wonderful gay, straight, single, married folks we are fortunate to know, so that I can help you squeeze a little more of the world into your strained viewpoint, how exactly do I get a hold of your daughter for that date I'd like to take her on?
02:26 PM on 05/04/2010
One of the great things about Judaism is that it is not dogmatic. Jews are required to question everything, including the Torah, and argue about it.
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
07:33 PM on 05/04/2010
Is that why there are stereotypes of various kinds of neurotic Jews?
08:06 AM on 05/05/2010
No. Stereotypes exist because there are stupid people who make them up.
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WhatTheHolyHeck
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02:48 PM on 05/06/2010
I wish that tradition and intellectual obligation had survived into Christiantiy. Can you imagine how different the world would look if Christians were called upon at every turn to evaluate their behavior and examine how their actions affect people? Or if they were instructed to give humanistic concerns greater priority than spiritual ones?

It's amazing how stunned some gentiles are by the simple pre-Yom Kippur tradition of asking forgiveness from people we've wronged before *being allowed* to ask forgiveness from God.
12:54 PM on 05/04/2010
To understand the book of Leviticus one should examine it in its totality. On reading it, the trend I notice is that the rules contained therein have some kind of health-related application or concern for the physical and/or social well-being of the community as a whole. I don't read these rules as simply arbitrary in the context of the times in which they were written.
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nikanj
free the fnords
05:14 PM on 05/05/2010
Finally someone who realizes what Leviticus was all about.

I can think of lots of reasons for prohibiting consumption of shellfish, for example.
Given that most fishing was probably done in near shore estuaries, there could have been
problems with : dinoflagellates ('red tides'), waters polluted through sewage and / or
mining operations, disposal of corpses in the waters, etc. etc. Same for eating pork,
pigs were scavengers that not only carried trichinosis, etc. but would also eat both animal
and human corpses. That is why they were considered 'unclean' animals.

It would be interesting to interpret Leviticus from a public health perspective.
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WhatTheHolyHeck
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02:51 PM on 05/06/2010
There's no question that infectious disease and safety were important issues in the development of Jewish law. It's also important to recognize that there were also some based on emotional concerns, like the proscription from eating meat and dairy at the same meal. (It comes from disgust over the ancient practice of milking a pregnant nanny goat, killing it, and cooking the unborn kid in the mother's milk.)
01:58 AM on 05/04/2010
Preacher charged after calling homosexuality 'a sin'

A British Christian street preacher who was arrested for saying that homosexuality was a sin denied the charges in court Monday.

Dale McAlpine, 42, of Workington, Cumbria, was charged on April 20 with using "threatening, abusive or insulting words or behaviour" after his remarks to a passing shopper were heard by a gay police community support officer.

He denied the charges Monday, and was released on bail pending trial.

McAlpine, a Baptist known to preach from atop a stepladder, was having a conversation on the street with a woman about the Bible's book of Corinthians, which refers to the sins of blasphemy, adultery, drunkenness and homosexuality.

Read more:
http://www.montrealgazette.com/life/Preacher+charged+after+calling+homosexuality/2981430/story.html
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bsmithslo
10:06 AM on 05/04/2010
Do you think someone should be arrested for calling adultery a sin? Is that bigotry in your view?

Do you believe we should limit speech in this way in the U.S.?
12:47 PM on 05/04/2010
No, It violates both freedom of speech and freedom of religion. After all, no one is forced or compelled to believe what another has spoken. I am African-American and if I sued and collected every time someone used the N word I'd be rich by now. I've learned to treat language according to the conbtext in which it was spoken.
01:35 PM on 05/04/2010
This occurred in Canada, not the US. Canada has different laws regarding speech.
01:15 PM on 05/04/2010
This occurred in Canada, not the US. Canada has significantly different laws than does the US in regard to speech. We share a common border and in most provinces a common language, but the Bill of Rights is specific to the United States of America. In the USA this person would have enjoyed all the benefits of free speech, as addressed in the First Amendment. The link provided by the above post clearly states that the incident occurred in Canada.
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bsmithslo
01:39 PM on 05/04/2010
I was referring to the case in the U.K. but yes, it has happened in Canada too. Anti hate legislation is popping up everywhere. I believe it is a slippery slope. I understand the intent. I don't accept the means.
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rockv12
10:44 PM on 05/03/2010
Of course it's a sin according to the Bible...read it. And marriage has always been between a woman and a man. Re-defining it and expecting the same rights as men/women marriages goes too far. What if I whined and cried because I wanted to marry my grandma? People would say,"that's disguisting, you can't do that!!" But hey....we're in "love"! Who is to say who I can and cannot marry? It's just absurd.
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Angel1999
Microbiologist & Historian
11:45 PM on 05/03/2010
Ah here's this old canard again. Marriage was never defined, it was simply practiced. Historically there have been marriages of any stripe you care to imagine. Polygamous, polyandrous, incestuous, you name it. There were even same sex unions performed by...wait for it....the CATHOLIC Church back in the day before they decided that they wanted to get all hot and bothered about homosexuality. Check out "Same Sex Unions in Premodern Europe" by John Boswell.

Marriage is what the society says it is. You certainly have the right to argue against some version of marriage, but if the society says it should change, then so it will be. And if it's REALLY important to you, then you should start up your on movement to allow you to marry your grandma. If you can convince enough people that that's the way things should be then maybe you'll get your wish.
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bsmithslo
10:14 AM on 05/04/2010
So, it's not really a canard, is it? Marriage is defined by law, now. I don't know where you got it that it was not defined in the past but we will set that aside for a moment. Let's just say that it has been "defined" differently in the past.

Marriage is what the society says. We have the right to argue against some versions of marriage (which seems to be exactly what is going on). When society changes, marriage will change. I don't think anyone is arguing that point. It seems that the ability to marry within the same gender is important for gays which is why they are fighting for it. As the majority does not seem to want it (just like they don't want you to be able to marry your own grandmother). They have not been convinced that gay marriage is appropriate. That is why it is generally illegal.

I guess we are in agreement on everything but the argument about this being a canard. Are you a master of pointing out the obvious or what?
01:22 PM on 05/04/2010
So my legal spouse and I should not "expect(ing) the same rights as men/women marriages"? We should continue to pay more taxes for fewer benefits than our opposite sex, also legally married neighbors? We, as property-owning, tax-paying, native born American citizens should continue to accept discrimination at the hands of our government without question, when that same government provides special treatment to opposite sex married couples? And our license and certificate of marriage, which was issued by the county in which we reside in the state in which we reside is somehow less valid than the same certificate held by our opposite sex married neighbors? You're right about one thing, though: It's just absurd!
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WhatTheHolyHeck
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02:58 PM on 05/06/2010
It's painfully ironic how folks who claim to belong to a religion of love still manage to spew so much hatred toward people whose personal relationships have absolutely no affect on their own.
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jnw147
06:05 PM on 05/03/2010
Marriage: A legal union between two consenting individuals of legal age, that are not biologically related to one another. It can be between two individuals of the opposite sex or it can be between two individuals of the same sex. However, if it's between two individuals of the same sex, it's considered a Civil Marriage that is recognized by the government of the United States of America, but does not have to be recognized by the Church or other Religious Institutions. This is what is meant by separation of Church and State.
07:28 PM on 05/03/2010
You make it sound so reasonable.

(Though, in truth, all marriages are Civil Marriages in the eyes of the law. The usual setting of the ceremony in a church disguises the legal significance of it.)
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vonric
10:16 AM on 05/04/2010
Ideally, it would be great if all marriages were civil unions, and the act of "marriage" left to various churches. some would deny marriage to samesex couples (Catholic) others would undoubtedly conduct them, given that they have been conducting committment ceremonies for decades (Unitarian Universalist).
01:27 PM on 05/04/2010
I agree. All marriages should be civil marriages or civil unions. Let the churches have the term "marriage" but put it into the same category as baptisms. Then those who wish to may have a religious "marriage" ceremony. Our license and certificate of marriage was not issued by any church; it was issued by the county in which we reside and duly recorded.