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God and Gender: Missing the Divine for the Sign

Posted: 06/28/2011 8:36 am

"The story is told in countless versions. Somebody -- a saintly rabbi, a mystic caught up in holy ecstasy, even in one version a lost astronaut -- chances to see God face to face and lives to tell about it. 'What is God really like?' asks an anxious crowd back home. The narrator hesitates. 'You'll be shocked,' he warns. He is pressed further. 'Well,' he finally says, 'to begin with, she's black.'" --Time Magazine, March 20, 1972:

I dug up this old joke because it gives insight into a certain assumption underlying contemporary prejudices against belief. It has become fashionable to take swipes at the straw man that -- among other intellectual crimes -- traditional monotheism is sexist and, furthermore, is sexist because it is inherently riddled with primitive notions about God. Thus, the comedic formula for the joke (i.e. what makes us laugh) is the double "surprise" that comes from thwarting not one but two such primitive presumptions about what God is like.

But why not take it further? Why not mock traditional monotheism for believing that God has a height and weight? Why not a shoe-size? Surely those who pray to a "Him" must also believe that this "He" can be described with all sorts of human characteristics. What kind of a life insurance rating do you think an actuary would come up with for God?

But first, to those who do not wish to be disabused of any prejudices, you may proceed straight to the comments section where you may riff on whatever emotional associations have already been invoked in you. (Talk about the wonderful world of neurons!)

And now, to the who really believe that the Almighty, Eternal and Infinite Creator of All really does possess a physiological gender, like one that can be determined with a DNA kit, could you please also comment below so that I can be totally blown away that someone like you exists anywhere that's not in the fantasies of the people who were addressed in the previous paragraph?

Moses Maimonides, the great 12th century rabbi, physician and philosopher, included as one of his Thirteen Principles of Faith that God has no body or bodily likeness. So the fact that God is not really male or female is not exactly news.

When Jewish Scripture and prayers make gender-specific references to God it has nothing to do with the biological distinctions of male and female and certainly nothing to do with social conventions and human constructs overlaying gender identity. It has everything to do with abstract and powerful spiritual paradigms best expressed poetically in the language of gender. Ever heard of the Song of Songs? It's mysticism, not pulp romance. You're not supposed to get bogged down in the analogy. But go tell that to that young married guy sitting with his wife at the Starbucks in Barnes & Noble reading selections from the pocket Rumi to her aloud. (Oh, later he'll claim he was being ironic, but we'll all know he thought he was slick.)

God is not a "him" or a "her" any more than God took a "walk" in the garden in Genesis 3:8, although an atheist friend of mine once asked me plaintively how I could believe that He did. (KJV anyone?)

Whenever we use any name for God, we are not describing the Indescribable but our paltry and entirely subjective experience of divine "Otherness" -- that which is beyond us. In other words, God cannot be labeled. All we can label is the relationship as we experience it. To wit, even more "abstract" titles such as "Wise" or "Compassionate" or "Strict in Justice" do not mean that the definition of God is one who is wise or compassionate or strict in justice. These words just mean that in a given context, we who are finite, experience God through our awareness of one of those qualities.

So, God is not a gender. But we relate to God through the context of gender. And of course this context changes just as our relationship changes in different settings. That's why sometimes God is my husband (which doesn't make me biologically female when that happens, by the way). Other times, God is my teacher or my judge. God can be my father. Or God can be my mother. Indeed, the name that Judaism uses to describe God when She is most imminently present in our lives is the name Shechinah, the Nurturing and Omnipresent Mother.

The bottom line is that the language of gender is no different than the language of emotions or consciousness, like when the Bible says that "God was angry" or "God was jealous" or even "God loves" or "God cares." We have to know that these are descriptions of the human experience of the divine. Or should we insist that theism inherently embraces a Big-Man-in-the-Sky God?

If we do choose to take it that way, then what I want to know is when the mystical inner Torah talks about the physical universe as the contact point for bringing about the marriage of the masculine and feminine energies, should we book a wedding hall? And if yes, who's going to cater?

 
 
 

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"The story is told in countless versions. Somebody -- a saintly rabbi, a mystic caught up in holy ecstasy, even in one version a lost astronaut -- chances to see God face to face and lives to tell abo...
"The story is told in countless versions. Somebody -- a saintly rabbi, a mystic caught up in holy ecstasy, even in one version a lost astronaut -- chances to see God face to face and lives to tell abo...
 
 
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02:19 AM on 07/13/2011
Thank you Rabbi Taub,This article is true! I can understand why some people-with the exception of ALL Jews might think that G-d has a human form. It is not true but I can understand why people think that. What I do not understand are some of the very disrespectful comments left!
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David MacWilliams
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09:43 PM on 07/05/2011
Isn't this the same thing as wondering whether the Easter Bunny is male or female?
04:43 PM on 07/05/2011
Pondering the gender of imaginary super beings is such a waste of time. I should really stop wasting my time reading and commenting on the Huffpost Religion section, but alas, I enjoy the self-righteous thrill of being annoyed by religion too much. On bright side, at least I didn't bother reading more than a paragraph of this article.
03:05 PM on 07/04/2011
God is either a tortilla or a grilled cheese sandwich.
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NYC123
07:50 AM on 07/03/2011
God is our Father in the Heavens! We, who love and personalize God, call him “Father!” And the title “Father in the Heavens” is one of many of his titles! In fact the universal prayers to followers of our Lord @ Mathews 6:9/15 reads:

“Our ‘Father in the Heavens,’ let your name be sanctified. 10 Let your kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also upon earth. 11 Give us today our bread for this day; 12 and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 And do not bring us into temptation, but deliver us from the wicked one. 13 And do not bring us into temptation, but deliver us from the wicked one.

The prayer passage goes further:

14 “For if YOU forgive men their trespasses, YOUR heavenly Father will also forgive YOU; 15 whereas if YOU do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will YOUR Father forgive YOUR trespasses.” End of reading!

Today many folks are out there tickling our ears many times with the complete extreme interpretation of Scripture, and why? Consciously or unconsciously, wolves in sheep’s clothing are quietly slipping doubt into God’s inspired word the Bible! And if followers do not do their “due diligence” to “read scripture to confirm and find truth” as asked by God of his followers, these wolves in sheep’s clothing will continue to try to confuse followers!
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TYRANNASAURUS
UGH!....people don't taste good.
07:23 PM on 07/03/2011
God did not write the bible....a bunch of old men in the 4th century put it together...You really should study up on the facts surrounding the bible......NOT THE BIBLE.
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conscioushope
"There is no darkness but ignorance." Shakespeare
08:53 AM on 07/04/2011
I don't much think NYC is open to learning. Closed minds seldom are. But, thanks for a great suggestion! fanned
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conscioushope
"There is no darkness but ignorance." Shakespeare
08:52 AM on 07/04/2011
.....speaking of wolves in sheep's clothing....
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dubbleplusgood
turned off CNN, turned on CurrentTV
01:33 AM on 07/03/2011
Debating the genders of gods is basically debating the color of unicorns. Because God is an imaginary friend, gender can be what you decide for Him/Her/It, or just go along with what your particular group believes to be correct. Regardless of which gender you decide on, just remember, God is black.
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pphhrogg
domestic clown goddess
10:47 PM on 07/02/2011
God is a 10,000 foot tall red jellybean.
11:15 AM on 07/02/2011
If God isn't "male," why does he always put men in charge? Seems like an obvious and disastrous miscalculation.
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SmileAndActNice
Utilitarianism, the -ism that works.
12:44 AM on 07/02/2011
You are right that God doesn't have a gender.

Where you are wrong is assuming that we should relate to God through the lens of gender. This is inherently dishonest and just plain wrong.

The original language that the Bible was written in is a gendered language. Like Spanish. There is no word for "it". The only pronouns are "he", and "she", so you have to apply them to everything. Not just creatures that actually possess a gender but everything. Rocks. Pencils. Clouds.

Gods.

http://www.hebrew4christians.com/Grammar/Unit_Six/Personal_Pronouns/personal_pronouns.html

Try asking this Hebrew translator to translate the word "It":
http://translation.babylon.com/english/to-hebrew/

A "he" and a "she" are *by definition* one half of a pair that can only create life when they combine. So you can only have gendered gods if you have a pantheon. A singleton Deity is either both or neither. In each case the proper pronoun is "It".
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03:51 PM on 07/03/2011
Smile,

Thank you for the reference to the Hebrew language site. For the beginner (myself), seems an excellent resource, especially for the basics.
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SmileAndActNice
Utilitarianism, the -ism that works.
05:12 PM on 07/03/2011
Your welcome and good luck!

Learning other languages is a great way to keep your mind spry.
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NWBrunette
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11:19 PM on 07/01/2011
Definitely both. And I imagine they're having a really, really good time making lots and lots and lots of baby universes.
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anitaj
05:42 PM on 07/01/2011
Describing the infinite in terms of human biological and social constructs seems needlessly limiting.
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conscioushope
"There is no darkness but ignorance." Shakespeare
08:54 AM on 07/04/2011
Thanks for stating the obvious....to me anyway! faved since a fan
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littlenibbles
Mechanical Engineer, Doctoral Candidate!!
12:27 AM on 07/01/2011
God was very clever to be a spirit. Because, God knew we would men and women would be battling over what God is. Case closed folks, nothing to see here.
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AbrahamSadegh
11:57 PM on 06/30/2011
When we refer to God as "He," we elevate men and belittle women undeservedly. God is an "It."
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Red Leaves
Well, well, what matters it? Believe that too.
04:46 PM on 07/07/2011
What exactly is the difference between a nonexistent male god, a nonexistent female god, or a nonexistent sexless god?
TomMartin
Freedom and equality.
08:55 PM on 06/30/2011
The problem with the Bible is it calls God a Father, but never a Mother. You ought to exclude all sexism from the Bible before I can respect the book.
03:55 PM on 06/30/2011
If these were the only two options, I would have to chose female. Women are creators of life.
01:38 AM on 07/01/2011
good luck to them with out a man
10:06 AM on 07/01/2011
Snippets of pure genius.
11:16 AM on 07/02/2011
Brilliant, Bob! Just below genius-level.