One of the mysteries of Jewish history is why Jews find so little pride in their identities and tradition. Put a sword to the Jewish neck and threaten them with death unless they become Christian and they will willingly die for their faith. But put them in everyday, Western society and they will Anglicize their Jewish sounding names, have plastic surgery to alter ethnic features, and often distance themselves from Israel when its policies become too controversial.
Nearly all American Jews, even the most secular, are given two names at birth, a Jewish ceremonial name, say, Hershel, and an anglicized name, say, Harry. The former is heard at the person's bris and bar or bat mitzvah. The latter is used at all other times. Most Jews are hard pressed to even remember their Jewish name. They certainly would never think of using it on a regular basis. It's too ethnic, too parochial. Too strange. If you want go get ahead in American society, you have to fit in. You have to sound like everyone else. Will you really get equal treatment in the job market if your resume says "Yankel" or "Yentl"?
But Barack Obama has now forever eliminated the excuse for American Jews, not to mention other minorities, to bury their ethnicity. Last March Newsweek magazine ran a cover story explaining how Obama changed his name from Barry to Barack. He grew up in Indonesia and Hawaii, the child of an African man and a white American woman, struggling to find his racial identity. During his undergraduate years at Occidental College, he found himself looking for a sense of belonging. He decided to embrace his African heritage by rejecting the anglicized version of his name that surely would have allowed him to fit more easily into American culture.
So how could a man with such a strange name advance to become one of two who will be the next president of the United States? Well, when you work hard and have undeniable talent, you will undoubtedly advance, even if your name sounds weird.
This is a lesson that American Jews must take to heart.
While I was Rabbi at Oxford, one of the University's most prestigious colleges, Balliol, hired an American Jewish Nobel Prize winner and former Rhodes Scholar, Baruch Blumberg, to be its master. I was intrigued by the fact that he went by the name Baruch, even though many of his official biographies named him as Barry. When I spoke to his wife about it, she explained that they were not particularly religious but that he saw no need to deny his Jewish name. But was he not concerned that he might be held back if he used a Jewish name, I asked? Not in the slightest, she told me. He excelled at what he did. He would be judged by his talent and would brook no compromises about his name.
Hollywood superagent Ari Emmanuel, with whom I worked in the past, is another example, as is his brother Rahm, one of the Democratic leaders of the house. Both have held on to their Jewish names and have risen to the very top of their fields.
So why is it that so many of us, orthodox Jews included, seem so self-conscious about using our Jewish names?
Because human beings are governed by a herd instinct. We all want to feel like insiders. We don't want to be different. And given the world's long history of anti-Semitism, we're also afraid of calling the wrong kind of attention to ourselves. So we do things to make sure we don't stick out as much, like taking off our Yarmulkes when we get to College and later at work, to refusing to ask for time off for Jewish holidays for fear that we'll anger the boss.
But it's time we buried that fear forever and proudly asserted our Jewish identities in a culture that increasingly celebrates difference.
Jon Stewart, host of The Daily Show, is a giant of American culture and easily one of the most talented people to ever appear on television. He is also unashamedly Jewish, throwing in Jewish references and mentioning Jewish holidays at every turn. And yet, even he was born Jonathan Leibowitz and changed his name. Would he have been less successful had he stayed with the Jewish one?
Well, just look at Oprah, whose name is arguably the most recognizable on the planet. It is a name that does not fit in anywhere, but it did not stop her from becoming the world's most influential woman.
Arnold Schwarzenegger is one of America's great success stories. An immigrant at the age of 21 from Thal in Austria, he started first as a bodybuilder, then became one of Hollywood's biggest stars, married a Kennedy, and is now the governor of America's most populous state. And he did it all with one of the weirdest sounding last names around. And still, Jews run to change their names from Heimowitz to Haines.
But it's not last names that I'm principally discussing here. Living with a Jewish first name connects you with an unbroken tradition. Most Hebrew names are from the Bible. They evoke the spirit of a Biblical figure who embodied a particular virtue. My name is Shmuel, Hebrew for the prophet Samuel. It's a name I am proud to bear. I often think of my namesake, how his mother Chana, barren for so many years, prayed for his birth and then consecrated him to G-d's service once he was born. That story of sacrifice inspires me to work to put G-d before my own interests. True to his mother's promise, Shmuel led the Jewish people with humility and integrity for decades and then without concern for his own position anointed Saul as Israel's first king. Later, when God regretted having made Saul king, Shmuel begged God to recant. His crowning achievement, quite literally, came when he raised David to become sovereign of the Jewish people and established a dynasty that runs from antiquity to the future Messiah.
What is your Jewish name and to what earlier figure does it connect you? Perhaps you ought to find out by dusting it off and bringing it out of the cupboard.
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach hosts a daily national radio show on "Oprah and Friends" and has recently published "The Broken American Male." www.shmuley.com