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Why Don't Women Raise Their Hands More?

Posted: 09/17/2012 5:18 pm

On the first day of my Constitutional Law class, the professor asked a lecture hall full of sixty-something first-year law students how many of us knew about the Glorious Revolution. About a dozen people raised their hands. Every one of them was a man.

Here's what I know about the Glorious Revolution: It happened in England. Probably in the 17th century, although I'm not totally sure about that. Some king got overthrown by some other king. There were Catholics involved. Chances are good, though, that that's all the guys who raised their hands knew about the Glorious Revolution, too, with one or two possible exceptions.

So why did they raise their hands when I didn't?

Studies have shown that men are more likely than women to project confidence when they're uncertain, and that women are particularly hesitant when they're being asked a question regarding a traditionally male domain. That the law is a traditionally male domain is hard to forget in a Constitutional Law class. After all, it's not until the Nineteenth Amendment that we even get the right to vote, and from the establishment of the Supreme Court in 1787, it's another 194 years before we get a decision with any input from a woman. The Declaration of Independence, which we read for the first day of class, assures us that "all men are created equal." At the time it was written, most people really believed women aren't.

But that's ancient history, right? My law school class is somewhere around 50% women. So why don't us ladies just get over it and speak up? Unfortunately, when you look at the cognitive biases behind gender stereotypes -- as I've been doing for the last year while working on the New Girls' Network project -- women's caution comes to seem like a survival mechanism, not a weakness.

At the New Girls' Network, we've named this the Prove-it-Again! pattern of gender bias. While men are more likely to be judged on their potential in professional settings, women are more likely to be judged by their achievements. In a related pattern, men's mistakes are overlooked and soon forgotten while women's mistakes are noticed and remembered. It's actually riskier for a woman to project confidence than for a man -- her credentials and claims to competence are more precarious, and her mistakes are more likely to be interpreted as a sign of fundamental failing.

Social psychology and cognitive bias play out on a large scale. My Constitutional Law professor didn't follow up on his survey by calling on one of the raised hands to describe. If he had, and a woman had raised her hand and given a wrong answer, would she be known forever as that girl who got the Glorious Revolution confused with the Hundred Years' War? Probably not, which is why it's easy to dismiss these patterns.

But the demographics my female classmates and I face after graduation, while also on a large scale, will play out in very personal ways. We will enter law firms near parity with our male peers, but by the equity partner they will outnumber us 85 men to every 15 women. (By the time we're all at this level, these proportions could have changed, but they've been static for about 20 years.)

We're all here, men and women alike, because we believe in our own futures. But the science of cognitive bias indicates that the problems we wish we'd overcome are still shaping our lives in ways that are hard to see. It's important for us all to understand that, lest women internalize the effects of bias as personal failings or men take their confidence to be earned rather than granted.

 
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On the first day of my Constitutional Law class, the professor asked a lecture hall full of sixty-something first-year law students how many of us knew about the Glorious Revolution. About a dozen peo...
On the first day of my Constitutional Law class, the professor asked a lecture hall full of sixty-something first-year law students how many of us knew about the Glorious Revolution. About a dozen peo...
 
 
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04:56 PM on 09/18/2012
Because women's deodorant isn't as powerful as men's deodorant.
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Dede Eagleburger
Beauty is in the eye of the makeup brush holder
02:21 PM on 09/18/2012
because I only raise my hand if I know the answer, otherwise it's really embarrassing??
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You keep using that word...
12:53 PM on 09/18/2012
Sounds like the Wymyns Herstory class I took. I was a nontrad student and the only man in the class. Didn’t want to oppress anyone by raising my hand. So NO one raised their hand for, like, the first three classes. Spoke with the professor about it. She thought she was failing miserably and practically begged me to participate. So I started raising my hand, which was an open invitation for my classmates to tell me how wrong I was about everything. Especially some of the things I experienced in ten years working in the real world – being sexually harassed along with other women by a female office manager at my first job, being paid less than co-workers, training a guy with zero experience to become my boss. Clearly these things only happen to women, so, really, how dare I speak up like that? I believe I served as a catalyst in that class. Or a target. Whatever. I helped inspire confidence in my classmates. Reasoning skills, not so much.
10:26 AM on 09/18/2012
Evolutionary psychology.
09:39 AM on 09/18/2012
"So why don't us ladies just get over it and speak up?"

A legitimate question - of course the answer ALWAYS has to be something that can be attributed to female subjugation by men. Don't you all ever get tired of evading and dissembling when it come time to acknowledge that you do it to yourselves? It's not our fault that you don't have the intestinal fortitude, otherwise known as guts, to take a stab at answering a question. So what if you are wrong?! That's how people learn, yes?

You want to get places in life? Sometimes you have to take a chance, put yourself out there, get singled out. If you show that you are afraid, and lack confidence, is it any wonder that you don't get promoted into positions of authority or responsibility? If you are indistiguishable from the rest of your peers how are you going to show that you are more deserving of advancement?

Nobody likes or respects a coward, whether on the battlefield or in the boardroom.
04:58 PM on 09/18/2012
They can't hear you. They're too busy screaming that you're a misogynist for talking to them like men instead of like delicate flowers.
09:50 AM on 09/19/2012
Why do you hysterics always think your opponents are "screaming" if anyone has a reasonable disagreement with your views? Are you just too sensitive to take a little criticism? You know covering it all up with this macho bluster will only give you an early heart-attack. And the "them" you are referring to are half of your species. It includes your mother. If I were to meet her would you like me to "talk to her like a man?"
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Equal means equal, hypocrites.
08:43 AM on 09/18/2012
The reality is that (most) women have a natural, biology insecurity that reveals itself over and over...period.

Intellectualize it all you like...
09:41 AM on 09/19/2012
The Reality is... you don't understand what evidence or argument is, otherwise you wouldn't just make an assertion and then say, in effect, "find evidence and work it into a logical counter-argument all you want... I will still be right." I know you've been socialised into thinking that your opinion is all-important, but actually without evidence and reason, I've got to tell ya... your opinion is worthless.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
08:47 PM on 09/19/2012
As is your opinion of my opinion...
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
08:48 PM on 09/19/2012
Also, I don't care for Canadian or British opinions...
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05:35 AM on 09/18/2012
Yawn. I thought it was The End of Men? Maybe you're complaining about the Vagina-Brain connection that "Dr. " Wolf wrote about? LOL!!!
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Ignorance stirs my inner demon...Sorry.
11:49 PM on 09/17/2012
I believe that the more that women come forward, the more these negative views will change. We cannot sit back and just expect others to change the way they view us; we have to push forward. I was that chick in class with her hand constantly raised and a ready comment; the only time I didn't raise my hand was if I didn't have a clue about the topic in question. And if I wasn't 100%, I would pose my statement as a question, which allowed me to still be correct while leaving room for additional information from my peers. Women that are quiet do not move forward. Put your hand up and take a chance that you'll be wrong. It's been my experience that more people appreciated the fact that I was willing to take the chance of being wrong than remembered when I was actually wrong.
10:39 PM on 09/17/2012
Six thousand years of patriarchy and unconscious internalized patterns of responding to oppression do not disappear or change overnight.

From every direction, your culture tells you that men are important, men get to run governments, industries, militaries, religions, while women get to focus on appearance and pleasing men and nurturing children. Your constitutional law class simply reflects that women have internalized the view their culture holds of them as less.
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05:36 AM on 09/18/2012
I am a simple man, washing my gusseted organic hemp pants I wove myself. I tend my garden, make organic raw-milk and worship the Goddess.
09:30 AM on 09/18/2012
You go girl, you got the lingo down pat! Now you just need some trivial problem to prove male malfeasance, get on the national media, where hopefully someone will call you a name, and then you can speak at the Democratic National Convention.
10:14 AM on 09/19/2012
A trivial problem? Are you referring to women's reproductive health? Do you have any arguments or facts to share or are you just venting your anger that women are not as subordinate to men as they used to be and you resent it? (That's rhetorical too, I guess, I already know the answer.)