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Having an Open Mind

Posted: 10/02/2012 5:56 pm

One of my favorite things to do is going to the bookstore. When I'm walking through a bookstore or a library, I feel like a kid at a candy factory!

Being around so many different books and so many different titles, you can feel the variety of great ideas coupled with beautiful experiences, just screaming out at you, begging for an attentive ear.

As I walk up and down the aisles, and through the walls of books, I wish that I could be that ear. I wish that I could spend time with all of these stories, because my main goal in life is to learn everything. I know that is not very realistic, however I genuinely enjoy learning and taking the time to understand the truest meaning of things. I put that same effort into trying to understand people. The people close to me, people I may come into contact with, and also people I've never met -- be they in different parts of the country or on the other side of the world. I earnestly try to understand everyone's story, none excluded.

I understand that I am just one man, and this is just my point of view, but I believe that we live in a very self-focused, self-promotional and -- I hate to say it -- narcissistic culture. Often times we are too interested in talking about ourselves, justifying ourselves and selling ourselves. We're interested in just about anything that has to do with us!

Granted, we should all be proud of who we are. When I talk to kids, a point that I emphasize is to understand who you are and be proud of it. Having knowledge of your history is key to a bright future. However I think our pride becomes a problem because our natural tendency is to side with people who think like us, act like us and agree with us. At the same time we push away people who disagree with us, challenge us, question what we believe, or just don't see things the way that we do. We often have the attitude that even if a person didn't grow up in the same neighborhood, with the same parents, and share the same religious and political background as me, they should see things exactly the way that I do because I'm right basically 95 percent of the time! It may sound ridiculous, but is our mentality really very far from that?

The problem with having such a closed mind is that nothing can ever get in! So in your own mind, where some of us never consider the possibility that we are wrong, you will actually remain correct most if not all of the time. But when we're not open to learning something new or hearing a different perspective, we can think one thing and actually be dangerously far off.

I believe that anyone who has ever drawn breath has at one point or another felt like they were misunderstood; or that people don't really fully and truly get who you are. I certainly know that I have been misunderstood. No one likes that feeling. And if at this time you can recall that feeling, you can probably remember it being a very lonely and empty place. Just maybe at that time, you wished that someone would stop for just a second, to try to see how you feel; that someone would just consider your point of view.

How often have we been on the other side of this? How often are we the ones too selfish and too focused on ourselves to empathize with someone who isn't us? I would bet that many of us have been in that spot in life more times than we would realize. It's in that state of thinking that we have trouble understanding the full scope of the issues that we face.

If we're being honest with ourselves, that alone can make you wonder, 'what else could we be wrong about'?

I appreciate you guys taking the time to read my thoughts, as I enjoy sharing them with you. An idea is a powerful thing. If we can continue to share in them, then the world will change. Lets make it for the better!

 
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One of my favorite things to do is going to the bookstore. When I'm walking through a bookstore or a library, I feel like a kid at a candy factory! Being around so many different books and so many di...
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04:02 PM on 11/13/2012
My friend you are a young and intriguing man, and you remind me of myself in my twenties. I would ask you to consider that having an completely open mind is as dangerous as having a closed one. If you search for truth and knowledge than at some point those questions will need answers, and SOME absolute truths will be made. At some point committing to a particular philosophy is neccessary to move onto to bigger and bolder ideas, otherwise your search will wind up leading you in a endless circle of questions. At some point, everyone must choose the chicken or the egg. Just my experience
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12:54 PM on 11/10/2012
Whenever I read RM's blog posts, it validates what I do for a living. He is a product of the high school where I teach, and although I did not have him in class, my colleagues who share my vision obviously did an excellent job.
01:43 PM on 10/21/2012
I think having a open mind is a great thing you can do many good thing and also motivated your self.
08:03 PM on 10/08/2012
Understand that we need each other, is understand that the life is a vocation, a call for realize himself as a man or a women there where you are, there where you will be. We have to be able to assume that. But we must also know that we are not alone. Each person has a history. Knowing his history make each person stronger.

That way, I think firmly that the problematic of the Rashard blog is wonderful. In this world we have to be open. We are not alone. Many other people are in the same world than us. So think about who they are and what they think is beautiful. Being interested by their history and by their culture is just a way to understand that we have not the monopole of the truth. The future of this world will be probably in our capacity to understand each other. As a man I’m rich because everyone I meet have something to gives me and I have something to give him. It’s the concept of “give and receive”.
08:01 PM on 10/08/2012
Hi Rachard,

First of all, I must to think Father Paul who bring me in your game and permit me to meet you. That was my first American football game and that was great. Great and wonderful in the hand because it was your come back and the other because this come back was a page of your history. I would be happy to understand very well English for tell you what I feel when I read your blog. But I can wait to be understandable for write you. You are so right in your blog about what you said! And as a football player, like a star, I think it’s your responsibility to help many people as you can to open their mind. As a star, your voice is not just your voice but also a voice where many people who don’t have a voice can recognize their thinking and found a way in their own life. For that I tell you think you.
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niko73
Dem belly full but we hungry
01:47 PM on 10/05/2012
I'd rather be friends with an open-minded person with different views than a closed-minded person with similar views. Many of my fellow liberals need a bit of work in this department too.
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12:32 PM on 10/05/2012
It's an illness called "be like me". People who lie assume everyone does it. People who cheat think everyone cheats, and down the line it goes. They can't or won't see the other side of coin. It doesn't help that people tend to surround themselves with like minded people so this illness stays strong. I find it odd that people have such a strong need to prove that how they think is the only way to think. It's almost like people like the lemmings concept and it must be important for many people to have others that support a mind set. What happened to independent thought? Why not applaud different views? Even a great sunset needs to change or it becomes routine.
12:25 PM on 10/04/2012
Really enjoyed this article. I belive in a lot if not everything he had stated in this. So many close minded people in the world that aren't willing to learn anything at all.
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08:44 AM on 10/04/2012
Thanks, Rashard for your insightful post on human behavior. As a lifelong Steelers fan, I enjoy learning about the interests of players like you, Troy, LaMarr, Brett and others. I think sometimes, fans view you guys only as professional football players and forget that while participating in the sport, each of you is an individual with a variety of interests, passions and love beyond football. I love the fact that blogs like the Huffington Post and social media like Facebook and Twitter have allowed those of us who follow the professional football to get to "know" and understand you and others as you share with us your thoughts and ideas on a myriad of subjects. You, Troy, Hines and others have illustrated through your posts that not all professional athletes are "dumb jocks" or overpaid bad boys. As with every profession, there are individuals, not stereotypes!
I agree with your assessment of our basic self-centered, closed minded, egotistical attitudes. It is a "ME"culture, not just a ME generation. I have found that regardless of race, religion, age or national identity,etc., we all have more in common than most of us imagine.
There is parable dating back to ancient China called " The Elephant and the Blind Men." (Google it) I often think of the story in the parable and how it is an analogy of each person's reality with regards to what they know. Learning is a lifetime pursuit...and curiosity is the catalyst..
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
09:41 PM on 10/03/2012
Rashard...

All fine and good, but...

Could you just stop dancing behind the line and hit the hole?
07:46 PM on 10/03/2012
I love your writing. You are thoughtful, sincere and well stated. This is a much better venue for you than the 140 character confines of Twitter. If you keep a blog, I would love to follow it. In the meantime, I am also very excited about your being back out on the field Sunday!
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Joshua Veverka
Ideological rigidity is not a virtue.
03:42 PM on 10/03/2012
Get off the computer and get me some fantastic points this weekend.
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12:18 AM on 10/04/2012
That's funny
03:41 PM on 10/03/2012
Super cool and thoughtful. Thanks.
01:20 PM on 10/03/2012
Great article and so true. I think we are all guilty of this a lot of the time. Sometimes I think when someone disagrees w us or plays the devils advocate it can make a person feel they are being attacked by that person instead of opening themselves up to a different opinion, even if at the end of the day after listening to that person's perspective we still don't agree at least we heard what they said, we heard another voice, a different voice than the one that we walk around with all day -- our own.
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