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You Don't Get to Tell Us When to Be Offended, RuPaul

Posted: 01/19/2012 3:24 pm

RuPaul was recently interviewed by Michelangelo Signorile on his Sirius OutQ radio show and clearly demonstrated how completely out-of-touch he is with the reality that most full-time trans people (i.e., transsexuals) actually live in.

Before I continue, I want to make clear that my opinions expressed here are directed toward RuPaul exclusively, not toward drag performers in general, nor toward drag as a concept or an art form.

The truth is that RuPaul's drag persona is not a real person but a fictional character he portrays as a performer to make money, no more a reflection of true reality than Captain Kirk or Stephen Colbert, who, like RuPaul, also uses his real name when portraying a caricatured, fictional character created and performed solely for entertainment purposes. As RuPaul himself has said of his drag performances, "I do it once in a while for fun, but I really only do it when I'm getting paid, ch-ching!"

For someone like RuPaul who does not actually live a transgender life but only engages in transgender expression as a way to make money, his response to Signorile's asking what he thought of Lance Bass apologizing for using the word "tranny" was a testament to his ignorance of and utter detachment from the lives most trans people live:

It's ridiculous! It's ridiculous! Words -- it goes back to grade school: "sticks and stones," you know the rest. The thing is you have to look at the ego, you have to follow the money, and the payoff. And the payoff is that the ego wants attention no matter what. It will try to get it wherever the hell it can, whether it's positive or negative. So you have to ignore it, basically; you have to starve it out. And unfortunately in our culture, one person can write a letter to the network and they shut something down. It's unfortunate. But I love the word "tranny."

And no one has ever said the word "tranny" in a derogatory sense. In fact, you have to go to the intent of the person saying it. Of course, Lance Bass, his intent would never be to be derogatory. Never. So, you know, that's really ridiculous. And I hate the fact that he's apologized. I wish he would have said, "F-you, you tranny jerk!"

While like many real-life trans folks, I'm tempted to ask "Is he for real?", I already know the answer. Yes, he is for real, because RuPaul is neither a true trans woman nor someone who lives a life reflecting reality for most of us. What RuPaul actually is is a gay male actor, a super-rich celebrity performer who has probably made more money portraying a comedic caricature of a woman than most real trans women will see in their lifetimes.

As a celebrity performer, RuPaul is someone who doesn't have to go to interview after interview looking for work, always hoping that this will finally be the time that the interviewer will actually consider his résumé, not his gender identity, as the key factor in deciding whether or not he'll be hired.

RuPaul doesn't have to worry if one day his landlord will decide he doesn't want a "tranny" around and legally throw him out on the street without notice. He doesn't have to be concerned that his bosses might fire him and replace him with a non-trans person just because a higher-up decides he doesn't want a "tranny" working for his company.

Not only doesn't RuPaul have to worry about facing discrimination because of his transgender expression, but he has financially profited quite handsomely from it. If we use the quote above as our guide, RuPaul doesn't see his doing drag as a form of self-expression, but rather simply as a business, a route to wealth and financial success. Ch-ching indeed.

While I thought that for the most part Signorile conducted an excellent interview, I have to wonder why he chose to ask RuPaul the question in the first place. From my perspective, it's much like asking William Shatner what he thinks of NASA. Shatner might have some interesting thoughts on the subject, but it's understood at the outset that he portrayed a role, a fictional character, that he's never actually gone into space himself, and he's not really an expert on space travel.

For someone like RuPaul, who engages in a form of transgender expression part-time exclusively as a moneymaking enterprise, to try to tell people who live and work 24/7 in a gender role they were not assigned at birth, people who are legally denied the right to work, rent a home, or even just to have a drink in a local bar free of discrimination in 34 states, what they should or shouldn't find offensive is the very height of arrogance. It's also clear evidence of a complete detachment from and lack of interest in the reality most trans Americans actually live in.

No, RuPaul, you don't get to tell me or any other real-life, 24/7 trans person what we should or shouldn't be offended by. You don't get to tell us to lighten up, not when our lives, our ability to live, work, and take care of the families that depend on us are on the line, not when we can still legally be fired, thrown out of our homes, or even denied access to public spaces just because we're transgender in most of this country. You don't get to compare yourself to us or cast yourself as a voice of our community, because you neither represent us nor understand us. You don't get to speak for us, RuPaul, or get to tell us what to think or how to feel, because the truth is that you're not one of us.

You're nothing like us, RuPaul, nothing like us at all.

 

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Christina-Xena
That little Voice in your Head...is mine.
05:56 AM on 01/28/2012
Rebecca, you hit the t-nails on the head. Well said!
07:13 PM on 01/23/2012
Of course, RuPaul gets to tell us when to be Rebecca - just like you just did (and from an elevated pulpit no less). The Christians get to tell us 60-24-7-365 on every bit of media there is. Of course, the lot of you are usually wrong to a greater (usually) or lesser (rarely) extent. As the many replies here have indicate, there is a wide plurality of opinion on this issue.
03:17 PM on 01/22/2012
All these comments and I can agree with bits and pieces of many if not all of them. Everyone is different and are going to have different feelings about what they hear. The long and the short of it for me is while I agree that life can be extremely difficult for someone that is "living the life" , what RuPaul brings to the table is not necessarily detrimental to us. We may not agree with all of it or feel that it represents us as a class but it gets us out in the open and gets people talking, and talking is what brings change.
12:36 PM on 01/21/2012
Way too much anger for my liking. RuPaul has broken many paths and opened many doors that were closed before. His actions have benefitted all members of the LBGT community. The author seems to suggest that RuPaul has not struggled or been faced with roadblocks. This is far from the truth. He has succeeded in the face of discrimination and bias and held tight to his positive beliefs. ie "How you gonna love somebody else, if you can't love yourself?" You might want to watch the reunion show of Drag Race, season 3, where one of the contestants comes out as transexual. RuPaul was kind, loving and supportive.
02:37 PM on 01/21/2012
Very true!
05:24 PM on 01/20/2012
Well said! Did anyone catch that RuPaul stated no one ever used the T word in a derogatory manner and then in the same paragraph used the T word in a derogatory manner?
09:00 PM on 01/23/2012
Good job for catching that!

But did you catch under the surface of what RuPaul was stating?
His whole point was to try to lessen the effect of the word, as all derogatory terms should. Don't focus on such menial problems, like being offended by words, in the LGBT community, focus on bigger issues.
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forkuu
terrible typist-no patience- no political party
04:19 PM on 01/20/2012
great article
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dutchgirl55
writer/publisher
04:16 PM on 01/20/2012
The thing is, while famous and wealthy now, he has lived that life and does know rejection and suffering. Don't try to drag(no pun intended) him down now that he's wealthy and famous and can live how he wants. I applaud him for trying to help other drag queens with his show. I think he's a class act and I love his show. (Raven, you're still my favorite!)
06:17 PM on 01/20/2012
Good point. Rupaul has done and seen a lot and much of it hasn't always been pleasant. He succeeded in spite of the odds, and if one doesn't think that rising from small-town Georgia as a gay African-American to the top of a very competitive world such as drag is against the odds, they are very much mistaken. While I don't always agree with Rupaul, I do think he has much to offer.

If there are lessons from RuPaul that gender variants can take -- whether they are crossdressers, transgender or intersexed (as I am) it is this: you have to be tough because life is tough. You also have to love yourself because until you do you can't be loved. You have to be yourself because that's who you are. You have to take care of yourself to be your best. Those are four things Rupaul says over and over again. They are well worth heeding and living.
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Alexandra Spinner
Cutting edge with no band-aid
05:11 PM on 01/21/2012
Thank you for being you! When posted I hope you read my point of view,
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Daniella Lucia
01:54 PM on 01/20/2012
I love Ru!! hes is an amazing performer and drag superstar. But I perfer him in character.
12:55 PM on 01/20/2012
I knew there was something about RuPaul... I love the Drag Race and Drag U, finding many queens I adore (Such as Manila Luzon, Raven, Shannel, Jujubee, Ongina, and Alexis Mateo) because of it, but I don't like the fact he only does it for money. The girls who are on his shows in their drag are men who really genuinely love what they do. No, they're not transgendered, they're gay men who love drag and do it as an art form, not just for money, and that's what makes me not like Ru- because he only does it for money.
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outloud
Illegitimi non carborundum
05:41 PM on 01/20/2012
My, you do live in a dream world.
08:54 PM on 01/23/2012
How do you know that Ru doesn't like doing drag? Based on this biased article?
RuPaul has been doing drag since when he was living in Atlanta at a young age. RuPaul obviously LOVES what he is doing, and just because he was able to make his career based on it (which most people only dream of doing) doesn't mean he is "only doing it for the money". He has spread the world of drag to the world, a true hero for the drag community.
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Zriv123
12:13 PM on 01/20/2012
The LGBT community has benefited greatly from RuPaul's willingness to expose people to cross dressing. His use of shock value on television has greatly normalized LGBT lifestyles in the eyes of the population.

1st time Straight person sees Rupaul on TV " OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! " /brain explodes
2nd time Straight person sees Rupaul on TV " HIM AGAIN ITS SO WEIRD!! "
3rd time Straight person sees Rupaul on TV " HES REALLY PRETTY... FOR A GUY"
34th time Straight person sees Rupaul on TV " Ok, im over it now "

I dont entirely agree with what Rupaul said, but if you take it within the context of using shock value to normalize the topic, then its clear that he is trying to take the bite out of the T word, similarly to how black celebrities have watered down the N word. Offensive words will always be harsh if they are spoken with hate, however.
02:09 PM on 02/02/2012
Do black celebrities give white people free reign to use the N word?
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Zriv123
09:46 PM on 02/13/2012
Chris Rock, actually.
08:59 AM on 01/20/2012
Sooooooooooo???? Now not to offend anyone we have to call drag-queens --- Transgender Expressionists????????????
08:54 AM on 01/20/2012
I'm with RuPaul and many of the commenting parties here. Like the word "gay," words get transformed into different tools or weapons, depending on the perception of those hearing it. Some words were born in controversy and negativity, including words derived during the slave era of America. When we take ownership of someone else's words, we are, in effect, giving over our power to the word and the person. When we learn that words do not define us, we will stop "believing" that we are what "they" say we are.
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Alexandra Spinner
Cutting edge with no band-aid
05:13 PM on 01/21/2012
Precisely! One for the American team of freedom and freedom of choice!
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jaxstl
I may disagree with you but I will defend your rig
08:42 AM on 01/20/2012
If you can't love yourself how you gonna love anybody else! Do you think that what Lance Bass and RuPaul say is gonna change how transphobic people feel or act towards transpeople? First they don't listen to them, and even if RuPaul came out tomorrow and said he was sorry and the t-word is bad, do you think it would prevent one hate crime or change the mind of one transphobic person, get a clue! Haters gonna hate! All we can do is work on the laws to protect trans people. Finally I can only speak to my own experience but I have found humor gets you a lot further than whole lot of anger, and while it wasn't the best portrayal of gay people ever Will and Grace changed how a whole generation looked at Gays and Lesbians so take that for what it's worth!
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Qjersey
07:14 AM on 01/20/2012
....and the expected vitriolic response. Did you know that RuPaul worked in the gay bars for years with other "cross dressing" performers some of whom identified as drag and others as trans? Did you know that if you associate with trans persons WITHIN the gay community you will hear the word "tranni" bantered about without consequence? Did you know that YOU do not represent nor speak for all trans persons? Did you know that it is exactly the diatribes from people like you that makes folks want to drop the T from LGBT?
01:45 PM on 01/20/2012
One will often hear the "N word" used in the black communities bantered about seemingly without consequence too. Does that mean everyone else has the same license to use it without consequence? I think not. That would fly in the face of usage within different "forms of life."

I don't think Rebecca pretends to speak for all trans persons. That much should be clear from her intro. "People like Rebecca" are not the reason many wanted to drop the T from LGBT. That movement, which began long before people like us began to speak, had to do with inclusion debates within a queer theoretical context. A debate which is pretty much understood to be dead.
09:20 AM on 01/21/2012
Excellent post choxy a!
03:33 AM on 01/20/2012
Should whites/straights/non-trans never opine on issues because they're (insert minority)? The point RuPaul makes in that interview is: the LGBT community needs to stop focusing on words and move to actual discussion about how to change a culture that places such power on any word.

How does this article help trans rights?

RuPaul is black. Are we to assume that no one ever called him the 'n' word? Are we to ignore that he has clearly taken that power away from people who would use said word? The premise of his argument was that words will have power while we a) give them power by starting a petition online to chastise people who use them and b) while we allow cultural norms that sanction power behind certain words.

If Ms. Juro was concerned about trans people being evicted, she ought to start an activist group & take it to her legislators so that transpeople can gain rights. There are plenty of cities making progress, but that progress is not self-initiating.

Because of Mr. Charles, there is an appreciation of non-gender binary gender expressions. I have never heard a Queen make fun women or be "anti-trans." They put themselves in a position where they ask people to examine their thoughts about people whose gender is not "male" or "female", and anyone who has watched his show knows they drag artists respect women and people whose gender is not what the culture assumes gender to be.
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WhereIsTheTruth
We need more chlorine in the gene pool!
10:33 AM on 01/20/2012
"I have never heard a Queen make fun [of] women...'" You obviously didn't watch the last season of RuPaul's Drag Race. On more than one occasion I heard the girls refer to anything resembling a real woman as "fishy."
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Audacityscape
This is not the micro-bio you're looking for.
12:32 PM on 01/20/2012
It's actually a positive term, in that usage.
01:23 PM on 01/20/2012
"Fishy" refers to a style of make-up in which the appearance of the size of the eyes and lips is exaggerated and the cheeks are narrowed, resembling a fish.