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Raising Cain on Sexual Harassment

Posted: 11/02/11 12:30 PM ET

I heard a report yesterday that Herman Cain said he was having a hard time remembering the details of the accusations (and settling) of sexual harassment charges. A male correspondent I heard on another news source said something like, "That happened 20 years ago. Why is it even an issue now?"

I felt my blood boil. I was a victim of sexual harassment by a faculty member in 1976. To this day, I remember every minute of it, including having a professor hand me a room key, saying "No way," and finding a note on the door when I next came to my TA job, saying "your services are no longer needed." I also remember the woman faculty member who I went to saying, "It happens to women; we'll find you another TA job."

I remember exactly how I felt watching Anita Hill testify against Clarence Thomas, and how every detail of my own experience came flooding back. I remember how I felt when there was finally a definition of sexual harassment and a federal law making it illegal, so that future generations of women wouldn't experience what I had gone through.

This week, I did the first required training for the staff of a specific national religious denomination on sexual harassment. Up until now, such training had been optional in the headquarters of this denomination. It's either not offered or optional in many workplaces.
I was reminded by one of my colleagues that Herman Cain is an Associate Pastor at a National Baptist Church in Atlanta. I wondered if his preparation for the pastorate included what my denomination and many others require: a required course on clergy sexual misconduct prevention and how to create a congregation free from sexual abuse, sexual harassment and sexual misconduct. The fact is that in a national study last year, Baylor University found that as many as 3 percent of all women currently attending a congregation have been victims of clergy sexual misconduct. Both as a business leader and as a religious leader, Mr. Cain should know well the facts about sexual harassment law and prevention. He surely should know how serious it is and its lasting impact on those who have experienced it at a workplace or in a congregation.

Sexual harassment, because of the law, may no longer be as blatant as it was when a faculty member fired me for not having sex with him. But it still exists. Workplaces, including faith-based organizations, still need training on sexual harassment prevention. Women and men need to know that they can come forward with their complaints and be taken seriously.

I'm hoping that Mr. Cain has learned that lesson this week.

 

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Michael Sandy
04:12 AM on 11/03/2011
Are we to REALLY believe that ten days after being informed the story was in the works, Cain did not make an effort to refresh his memory as to the facts of the matter?

Which is more damning, the possibility that he genuinely didn't bother to refresh his memory as to the facts, or that he lied outright to the American people and his supporters when he said he didn't remember something that he in fact remembered?
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Dan Danson
Politics is where reason goes to die.
03:35 AM on 11/03/2011
He shouldn't be president based on how terrible of a candidate he is. Just because you, the writer, get emotional about sexual harassment, doesn't mean you should hold a grudge against Herman Cain.

Furthermore, you don't know what kind of sexual harassment it was. It might have been an off-the-cuff comment that was taken the wrong way, he could be mind-numblingly ignorant to a woman's signals, and he might have even been falsely accused (and the company paid to make it just go away). Point being: some sexual harassment should be taken more seriously and some needs to be taken less seriously. Not all sexual harassment is as cut and dry as your case and you have no idea what did or didn't happen with Herman Cain.
12:35 AM on 11/03/2011
Herman Cain makes your blood boil because he's a conservative, and demonizing him any way you can is what you on the left will do.
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SonnyBono
Cogito ergo sum ​​liberalis
11:09 AM on 11/03/2011
If you would do a little research - a little, not a lot, no heavy lifting required - you would learn that the people sticking the blade in Mr. Cain are out of Rick Perry's camp - good old governor Rick who learned his craft from Karl Rove - ya, old Rick and Karl - left leaning liberals to the core.
01:06 PM on 11/03/2011
I'm talking about YOU personally. Cain and ALL conservatives make your blood boil on general principle alone. That's MY only point.
12:16 AM on 11/03/2011
Yes, sexual harassment it real, but so are false accusations and lies. Why would you settle if someone really harassed you? If it was a matter of principle is should have been dealt with then. To bring up these matters now is 100% politics. I hope these ladies are ready to have their lives examined as closely as Herman Cain is having his.
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bowser
05:01 AM on 11/03/2011
Why would the victim settle? How about the fact that it is easier to move on and get a new boss who is not a pig. How about the fact that proof would be hard to come by. The question is why did Cain pay off these ladies. He must have had some idea that there was more than just their own words against him.

Also do not forget that these issues were "dealt with then"; you are right that these issues come up now because of politics. Mr. Cain is running for president. What kind of person he should help determine if people want to vote for him. I find it interesting that Republicans do not seem to care what kind of person they elect, just so long as that person tells them he cares about family values.
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CubnKira
11:18 PM on 11/02/2011
Very easy to slinge that charge in our society and then scam something off of it. Has ANYONE ever claimed that Cain touched them inappropriately? Well, we know for a fact that the defiler of the White House, Willy Clinton did it on a number of occasions. But that was OK with the Dems.
10:49 PM on 11/02/2011
Then of course there is the little issue that we do not "know" what went on. A settlement is all we "know" and he was accused. Nothing about guilt.It's Halloween. Maybe we should call him a "witch" too.

What's that old expression about "assume?"

I'll wait until the conviction comes down. Until then, I go by the "innocent until proven guilty" premise that is what's the word...legal.
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Cindy Tregan
Proud D.F.H. Lib'rul
09:31 AM on 11/03/2011
Of course, that only applies if you are Republican. If you're a marine, they throw you into prison naked without benefit of a trial, and the Republicans clamor for your head on a silver platter.
08:16 PM on 11/03/2011
To whom do you refer?
10:07 PM on 11/02/2011
In the Politico story, there was no reporting that Cain was accused of sexual harassment.
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edgarcaycedoc
08:59 PM on 11/02/2011
As a pastor of over 30 years in a mainline Protestant denomination, I was appalled to find that the church not only had sexual harrassment and discrimination, but that they PROFITED by it. Most women pastors could count on earning only between 2/3 and 3/4 of what a man would earn. And this was in a denomination that prided itself on its support of affirmative action. And--this is also very important--several of those women were much better preachers than I was. I applaud this article, and would advocate its inclusion in materials being sent to other denominations. BTW I had a sister who "couldn't preach" in another denomination specifically because she WAS a woman. But she did a good job of preaching at the UU Church in Davenport, Iowa. Thanks for the article.
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charleyvldm9
He thinks outside the box.
07:09 PM on 11/02/2011
Anything can be termed "sexual harrassment" once the objector says so,words,looks.touches,smirks,I mean anything.
09:36 PM on 11/02/2011
Even the lack of attention can cause big trouble.
11:42 PM on 11/02/2011
yeah, and it is~ please most men are not trying to be a girlfriend~ ahhhhhh grow up
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Sheldon archer
Facebook name is Yuyun Archer
07:09 PM on 11/02/2011
Unfortunately, people are nor too concerned about real sexual harassment because of all the ridiculous claims made. Ask a girl out and she claims sexual harassment. A waitress claimed it because one of her clients was reading Playboy while she was serving him, even though he made no comment to her etc etc. Like ALL laws in the US, they are taken to in order to get money.
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Brash and Harsh
06:24 PM on 11/02/2011
I am a male. Years ago I was an intern at a govenment office. A female supervisor playfully, but meaningfully slapped my ass.

If I were famale, and things were as they are now, I could have quit the internship, and returned on the settlement of the lawsuit.

The very idea of flirtateous behavir by a male to a female is so horrid, it deserves, immediate Chinese justice. A bullet to the back of the head.
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Miriam Breslauer
07:19 PM on 11/02/2011
A one time incident like what you experienced should be complained about and the person in power should be reprimanded. Sexual harassment occurs when an incident like that occurs more than once after you told the person to never do that again.
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StopThePlanet
Outlaw stupidity and only outlaws will be stupid
07:39 PM on 11/02/2011
Exactly. Harassment of any kind is repeated, persistent behavior not just a single incident. However, anyone is a position of power should know that touching is inappropriate even once unless the person being touched invited it.
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Brash and Harsh
08:35 PM on 11/02/2011
Miriam Breslauer:

The only way to eliminate the erotic attraction that people of the opposite sex may have, is to make sure that females wear a burqa, and have a separate existence from males.

Maybe the Saudis have found the solution.
11:45 PM on 11/02/2011
she was wrong and what did you do? just like a lot of woman, they need their job, did you? It's violating, sorry that happend too you~
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Brash and Harsh
09:54 AM on 11/03/2011
aguadecoco:

Of course I din't feel "violated". Just annoyed. There is a difference between the two.

As both an employer and and employee I have felt annoyed even more than once.
05:51 PM on 11/02/2011
LMAO ... Rev. Debra Haffner is all about sour grapes. 45 years later and she is still brooding over it. Maybe it was really about the poor quality of your work, heh ?
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StopThePlanet
Outlaw stupidity and only outlaws will be stupid
07:40 PM on 11/02/2011
Says the man with a single fan.
11:46 PM on 11/02/2011
2 shay
02:41 PM on 11/06/2011
LMAO ,,, you don't know what you're talking about - or trying to. Been there, handled them, end of story. As for your micro bio - when are you going to load some info ???
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Dodger300
Critical analysis please, not just talking points
08:56 PM on 11/02/2011
Spoken like a true serial sexual harasser.
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Red Leaves
Well, well, what matters it? Believe that too.
04:55 PM on 11/02/2011
Can we find out what actually happened first, before we rush to condemn the man as much of the Huffington Post's constituency has? Or is this simply a case of "he's guilty until proven innocent, since his political viewpoints contradict ours"?
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StopThePlanet
Outlaw stupidity and only outlaws will be stupid
07:41 PM on 11/02/2011
If it was one complaint I would agree with you.  But two settle out of court and one unreported allegation don't signal that there is no merit to what is being said.
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isfturtle
04:50 PM on 11/02/2011
One problem with sexual harassment is that it is easy to accuse someone (falsely or not) and hard to prove. This make is easy for people to falsely accuse others, and for those who have been rightly accused to deny it. Knowing no more details than "there were accusations and some unspecified amount of money was paid," I cannot possibly come to a conclusion about whether or not Cain did, in fact, sexually harass these women.
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Miriam Breslauer
07:02 PM on 11/02/2011
If the accusations were weak, then there would have been no settlement. It is really difficult to prove discrimination or harassment of any kind and if someone has enough evidence to convince a company to not allow it to go to court, then a settlement is the easiest way to make the problem go away.

I have been the victim of discrimination and harassment several times. Proving it was impossible. I just didn't think to tape every moment of my day at work for the years worked there. The discrimination was things like asking for a handicap accessible building and rooms to places I was required to enter every day. I even had a disability advocate request it on my behalf. The changes were never made, so I was forced to wait for others to open the doors in the building for me. When I attempted to open the doors myself after 20+ minutes of waiting I would usually hurt myself.
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drbob601
Soylent Green is People
04:38 PM on 11/02/2011
He's no longer a "business leader"...he's a motivational speaker. Which is to say, he's a salesman.

Besides, just having been a CEO at one time doesn't qualify him to be called a "leader." There are plenty of examples of incompetent CEOs who've had quite a negative impact on their businesses...and most often it's the work of other individuals within the organization (in fact, MANY individuals) that dictate the success or failure of an enterprise.

IMO, we'd be better off if we stopped worshiping CEOs. Just because they make more money than most everyone else doesn't mean we should hold all of them up as role models.
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Semprini
Stamp out and abolish redundancy
06:09 PM on 11/02/2011
Vey well said.
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StopThePlanet
Outlaw stupidity and only outlaws will be stupid
07:43 PM on 11/02/2011
Most of the CEOs that I have met are arrogant and are clueless about the world outside of their boy's club.