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Being Gay Is a Gift from God

Posted: 10/11/11 07:06 PM ET

As a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show in January 2009, I said, "Being gay is a gift from God." Those seven words -- spoken to a call-in viewer from Atlanta -- set off a ripple of response that lit up Oprah's switchboard, almost crashed our parish email server and continues to bring people toward us here at All Saints Church in Pasadena. And that moment continues to be for me an iconic example of how important it is for people of faith to confront discrimination against our LGBT brothers and sisters by standing up and by speaking out.

It is why on this National Coming Out Day 2011, I believe it is no longer enough for LGBT people to come out and let the world know who they were created to be, although that continues to be a courageous and transformational act. It is time for Christians to come out and let the world see the Church as it was created to be: a vehicle of love and justice, not a bastion of bigotry and homophobia.

It is time for people of faith to speak out against the religion-based bigotry that has for too long fueled the fires of homophobia that perpetuate violence against LGBT people and plant the seeds of self-loathing in LGBT youth.

And it is time to take to heart the words of Rabbi Abraham Heschel, who famously said, "Few are guilty, but all are responsible." I may not be guilty of the religion-based bigotry that has wounded countless members of God's beloved LGBT children, but I am responsible for offering a counter-narrative to the lies that have been told about the God I serve -- the God of love, justice and compassion.

My faith tradition teaches that the truth will set you free -- and the truth is: God loves.

The truth is: love trumps.

And the truth is: Being gay is a gift from God.

 
As a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show in January 2009, I said, "Being gay is a gift from God." Those seven words -- spoken to a call-in viewer from Atlanta -- set off a ripple of response that lit up O...
As a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show in January 2009, I said, "Being gay is a gift from God." Those seven words -- spoken to a call-in viewer from Atlanta -- set off a ripple of response that lit up O...
 
 
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dirtydog1776
rub my soft, furry, objectivist tummy
12:04 PM on 11/16/2011
"All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others."

No wonder Obama gives then all his love and special favors.
11:43 AM on 10/29/2011
God is Love he has said the homosexuality is a sin. It is not logical for him to say something is sin and then make someone with that propensity. That lifestyle is a choice just as the one who is promiscuios or the wife cheater or any other thing we humans do, they are all the result of the choices we make need more info check out: http://gods-luv.com/
03:32 PM on 11/01/2011
A sin by who's standards? By the Bible? First off, half of the verses people use to condemn homosexuality in the bible are in the old testament and that was a part of the Mosaic/Isrealite law that was done away with when Jesus died for ALL of mankind. You should also do some contextual study of the scriptures, because most of those verses are not talking about committed same-sex people at all.
Second, in any of the scriptures you quote or use, did Jesus say any of them? NO! There is not one verse where Jesus specifically mentions or even eludes to homosexuality, instead he was there helping the people that others were condemning...hmmm.
Then personally I would have to ask, do you believe that a "non-practicing" homosexual would have better favor with God than one who is in a 30 year relationship with a person of the same sex? Even if the person not having sexual relations with a person of the same sex, they still have the same thoughts and the same genetic makeup. I bet if you were the 1800's, you would have been the same person to condemn people for loving a person of another race or culture. Oh wait, that was just in the a few decades ago! It wasn't until 1967 that in the US a white person could legally marry an American Indian or an African American. Get with the times and quit misquoting scripture that's over centuries old.
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02:18 AM on 10/20/2011
The Reverend Penny Nixon was riding in a Classic Car as a Grand Marshal for the San Francisco LGBT Pride parade and as we reached the end Fred Phelps and his Church Members were there. She Turned to her parishners behind her and silenced them with one hand. Then Turned to Phelps and his protesters and BLESSED THEM with Compassion! For God So Loved The World That he gave His Son for Our Sins. So that whoever Believes in HIM shall not Parish but Have Eternal Life!
12:36 AM on 10/24/2011
That's nice...but it does little to resolve this dilemma for Christians who want to live or condone a gay lifestyle. Not sure what point you're trying to make.
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05:39 PM on 10/24/2011
I was pointing out that there are gay Christians that sometimes act more Christ-like than some “Christians” like the Phelps. The Fact that I myself was Married to my Husband in My Church and that has No Bearing on anyone but Me, My Husband, Our Pastor and GOD!
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06:53 PM on 10/13/2011
Mr Bacon, your type of Christianity is not a religion, but a philosophy, not far removed from some Eastern thought. It seems more important to you to have a 'feel good' religious philosophy than allegiance to fundamental principles of an institutionalized religion initially called Christianity.
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09:52 AM on 10/13/2011
You can't expect the Free Masons, for example, to suddenly become a group of boy scouts and open their doors to anyone and everyone and organize some “Happy Pop Tart” party to please some faction of society. Why? Because they have rules, regulations and a form of liturgy.
In the same way, an Institutionalized Religion has a dogma, tenets, a liturgy and more, that do not (or should not) allow it to strip any part of itself just to appear more liberal or moderate. It would only bastardize itself.
Besides, there is no such thing a Liberal, or a Moderate Christian. A religion either has The Truth, through its Scriptures, or it has nothing; this is what is called the Orthodoxy (or fundamentalism) principle. If the Christian (and Jewish) scriptures say that Homosexuality is a Sin, a breach of God's laws, then there is no getting around that, and trying to coat the pill. Either Religion is true, or it is not, period!
I am sorry to say that if one is looking for a Religion that accepts gays, one will have to create one, but don't look to the existing ones for solace, you will be luring yourself and asking the religion to bastardize itself, which it cannot do.
Just for clarity here, I have nothing but compassion for Gays, but this is a stark reality. Religion is NOT about Love and Justice, it's about obeying to the Scriptures.
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StevenM
Chess Coach
01:06 PM on 10/13/2011
Re: "A religion either has The Truth, through its Scriptures­, or it has nothing"

Actually, Christianity was founded upon a rejection of many passages in the Hebrew Bible and has continued to evolve since then.

Re: "If the Christian (and Jewish) scriptures say that Homosexual­ity is a Sin, a breach of God's laws, then there is no getting around that ..."

Sure there is. First of all, you have no right to tell me what I believe. Second, Christians study scripture, like one might look at a photo album of one's grandparents. The Bible is the foundation documents of our religious tradition. We have a rich tradition, one which has evolved over two thousand years. Is the Bible perfect? No. Are our traditions for the last two thousand years without problems? No. Each generation struggles with finding meaning in our traditions for their present life. It is a rich and diverse heritage.

Re: "Religion is NOT about Love and Justice, it's about obeying to the Scriptures­."

You couldn't be more wrong. Christianity is about accepting God's grace in our lives through faith. It was never about obeying Scriptures, but obeying a living God. That is the reason the early Christians could reject the kosher commandments, circumcision, and observing the Sabbath. And we have this same freedom today.
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06:36 PM on 10/13/2011
How can you obey a 'living god' if you have no reference to what He wants? So you are going to tell me that the Bible gives you that information. But, if that information is subject to interpretations galore, because each faction sees in it simply a photo album with missing or unclear pictures, then where is your authenticity, validity and authority on what god wants? It is like saying, the Constitution is a vague foundation document that we, as free people, can interpret and modify t'il we are in a socialistic regime.

You can try to detach Jesus from the OT all you want, but he was first and foremost Jewish and obeyed the laws of Moses.

Either the Church has the Truth, or other churches have. There no compromising about the truth. And if this truth varies each time you ask a Christian about the so-called Word of god, then it loses its validity and authority on this god.
02:01 AM on 11/15/2011
Christianity was founded on the teachings of Jesus and the Apostles. Jesus said "I have not come to destroy the law but to fulfill it. There has been nothing new added, it does not continue to evolve unless you speak of the false religions (Vineyard Movement) or cults, Jehova's Witnesses. You are not being told what to believe. Whether or not you believe in Jesus and his teachings; whether or not you believe that the Bible is the infallale word of God is your choice. We all have a choice. But any True Christian, one who studies, who prays, who wants to walk out his daily life in a manner that is pleasing to God knows that they do not have a choice; they don't want a choice, why would they. Jesus did not come to bring peace he came to bring division. Some will follow (few will follow, many are called but few are chose) The gate is narrow, but the path to destruction is wide. God's grace is given freely. A "True" Christian will walk out his faith. The Bible teaches us that Homosexuality is a sin. I dont' hate homosexuals, but I will not vote for anything that changes Marriage, or accept a religion that openly says they are God's gift; niether are scriptural and as such are false teachings.
nightingale23ks
Life isn't a dress rehearsal
07:52 PM on 10/12/2011
The problem with this article and so many others like it I see is that people are under the misconception that churches were created as the writer says as "vehicles of love" The truth is-churches were created so that greedy, power hungry individuals could control their populations by bullying them into thinking that they had the answers to life's most complicated questions, and that only by adhering to their prescribed morality could anyone be assured their immortality. People are frightened of death and and church leaders used this fear to manipulate and control. They kept people ignorant by claiming to be the only channel for the almighty. A tactic that is still used to this day. Churches can pretend that they embrace homosexuality and equal rights but it's really just a tool so that they can remain useful. People are becoming more educated and independent and this scares the bejeezus out of the churches so they pretend to slap a christian label on something that is truly against any biblical teaching. Church is big business and they need to keep the seats filled
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StevenM
Chess Coach
08:46 AM on 10/13/2011
I've attended Church my whole long life and nothing of what you have said rings true. I've been members of conservative Churches as well as liberal. I've worshiped in dozens of different denominations (from Pentecostal to Roman Catholic). Nothing of what you've written is true. A Church is a community of believers.

As for mainline Protestant Churches, I can't speak for them all, but I do know how my Church reached it decision to ordain those in same-sex relationships. It was a process which took decades of prayer and study. Papers were written by leading theologians and scholars, and these were summarized into reports. These reports were read and studied by our various congregations in Sunday School, and then the whole process repeated itself. When it came to vote on this issue, lay representatives and clergy voted as a national body.

Re: "People are frightened of death and and church leaders used this fear to manipulate and control. They kept people ignorant by claiming to be the only channel for the almighty."

Actually, none of what you are saying is actually true in my Church. And I doubt it is true for most mainline Protestant Churches. We don't use fear to manipulate, nor do we try to keep our people ignorant, and we most certainly don't teach that the clergy is one's only channel to the almighty.

Your analysis couldn't be more wrong. Indeed, each detail of your analysis is wrong.
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Jimcracky
06:23 PM on 10/12/2011
"How can you love God, whom you cannot see, if you cannot love your brother, whom you can see?" Seems to me this verse never gets trotted out when the homophobes start yammering.
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GlennWatson
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07:18 PM on 10/16/2011
Yes it does. Love the sinner not the sin. You hear that all the time.
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Todd G Chavey
12:22 PM on 10/12/2011
Life itself is a gift from God the Father. How we are in this World is no ones business but your own. I accept all, myself and my father, we judge no one.
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rsttho557949
What is Job's Crucible?
12:10 PM on 10/12/2011
There are two words that are commonly used that evoke negative emotional responses: gay and homophobic. The word "gay" implies a "condition" that is "different" and sociologically should be approached with hesitancy and caution. One gets the feeling that the term"gay" is almost synonymous with a caution sign giving a warning,"don't go there". To me I'd prefer a person saying "I like men" or "I like women". For me, that cuts to the chase and removes the connotation that one has this "condition" when s/he labels themselves as "gay." I don't believe in "homophobia" because it implies an irrational state of mind when dealing with someone's sexual orientation. The term" homophobia is used to project guilt and shame on people who are usually reacting to something that they feel is not natural. Phobias are when folks irrationally respond to things or situations like shortness of breath, sweating, heart palpitations and the need for fresh air. That is not the not the response of a person when they encounter a "gay" person; that might occur when a person encounters a snake or a spider...but not when encountering a person that likes the same sex.
11:14 AM on 10/12/2011
this is too funny!
03:19 AM on 10/12/2011
Hay, dont tell me....go tell your god that you worship, because he seems to have started the whole mess by saying the exact opposite
01:29 AM on 10/12/2011
life is a gift - whether it's given by god or otherwise. homosexuality is a natural part of life in both the animal kingdom and in human history. to be homophobic is to be is to be against life. and if life is indeed a gift from god, then to be homophobic is to be against god.
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
12:20 AM on 10/12/2011
It should be obvious that this person does not care if he offends Jesus, by accepting a title above what Jesus would accept. The term reverend only occurs once in the Bible at Psalms 111:9 and it is used to tell how important Our Creator's name is. Why should any wonder if his opinion about homosexuality is offensive to Our Creator also?
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StevenM
Chess Coach
03:48 AM on 10/12/2011
Most mainline Churches today proclaim that homosexuality is not a sin and are now willing to ordain those in same-sex relationships. Of course, the Bible condemned both homosexuality and the eating of non-kosher food as sin, but homosexuality is no more a real sin than eating a hotdog. It is obvious from your statements, you are not part of a mainline Church, which is no doubt the reason you are perplexed by his title of "Reverend" and about our stance on homosexuality. We know that homosexuals are not offensive to God, after all God created them just as they are. Furthermore, as the body of Christ, God has revealed to us through God's Spirit that homosexuality is not a sin, just as God revealed to the early Christians that eating non-kosher was not a sin, or that not being circumcised was not a sin, or that not observing the Sabbath (from Friday sundown to Saturday sundown) was not a sin.
07:05 AM on 10/12/2011
Mainline churches are imploding
nightingale23ks
Life isn't a dress rehearsal
07:04 PM on 10/12/2011
All churches are doing is adapting like they have been doing for quite some time. They are evolving like all things do if they want to survive. They are not being true to themselves which is what makes me respect them less and less. They are not in favor of homosexuality, nor do they embrace diversity. They are just learning to accept what they cannot fight and trying to make it look like it was their intention all along.
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JDuck
Until we know the equal we'll never feel the free.
09:28 AM on 10/12/2011
"Why should any wonder if his opinion about homosexual­ity is offensive to Our Creator also? "

Is this why you embrace your homophobia for you think god is alos homophobic...?
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
11:09 AM on 10/12/2011
When someone states an opinion that cannot be proven, especially if it is in an area where there is significant information to the contrary, like in Scripture about what is moral and what is not, one runs the risk of being a blatant liar. Some say, "The first liar always wins" others say, "The most prolific liar usually win", while some say, "You can believe anything you want to believe" or "You can fool some of the people all the time". I say, "When you create your own Universe out of nothing and design and create all that is in it, then you can make up the rules you want to about what is right and what is wrong, but for now if you want any of the approval and possible reward from doing what Our Creator wants, learn what He wants and do near your best to comply with all He wants. If all you want is any of the cheap thrills you can get now, I feel sorry for you, that you cannot see any reasons for trying to be the best person you can be".
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phal4875
The world is run by cats; we just feed them.
11:45 AM on 10/12/2011
Dear JDuck:

The Bible - both the Old Testament and Paul's words in the New Testament - provides cover for the homophobes. The passages that condemn homosexuality are some of the most harmful in the entire Bible. They are appalling to much of modern society, but the Old Testament also defends slavery and gave cover to the Confederate States in our Civil War.
11:33 PM on 10/11/2011
God believes in truth. Our sexuality whatever it may be, can be a gift, if, it's not abused. Shielding many generations from the sins of gay marriage put many couples in a cold and unnatural relationship. So I congratulate the new generations for being truthful and unashamed. Pride in who we truthfully are is God's way, I do believe.
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10:00 AM on 10/13/2011
"Pride ... is God's way...". Certainly not the God of Abraham! Study your OT and NT and don't lure yourself.
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Kimberly Knight
Silence is consent
07:25 PM on 10/11/2011
This, our pilot episode, is released in honor of National Coming Out Day - http://queermergent.podbean.com/

In this episode we hear from Rich McCullen of Mission Gathering Church in San Diego, Kathy Baldock of Canyon Walker Connection, Jules Kennedy, and Jay Bakker of Revolution NYC.
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ez duz it
οὐκ ἔστιν θεός
09:35 AM on 10/14/2011
Great link, Kimberly. It was worth listening to despite the buffering issues. Thanks!

--ez