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When Prayer Makes a Difference in Suffering

Posted: 6/4/10

Prayer is bringing hope, healing wounds, and transforming lives in some of the most troubled places in the world. From Bulgaria to Rwanda, Congo to Myanmar, my wife Jill and I have the opportunity to talk with many different people who suffer from poverty, war, oppression, hunger, disease, and sexual violence. Consistently, we meet students, community leaders, and pastors who are clinging closely to God in the midst of seemingly overwhelming problems and pain. They tell us that through prayer, they find peace and strength that they cannot access otherwise.

In 2008 Jill and I founded Faith, Hope and Love Global Ministries with a vision of better equipped, spiritually vitalized leaders serving Christ in significant positions of influence throughout the world. As ordained clergy with experience in the parish, teaching in seminaries, and authoring numerous books on spiritual vitality and leadership, we initially thought that the focus of our work would be on teaching. Yet it soon became apparent that theological students, pastors, and community leaders in our week-long intensive courses wanted and needed more than new ideas and methods.

Almost everyone we meet wears their weariness in their posture or looks back at us through tired eyes. Their faces are often creased with lines etched by fear and anxiety -- be they from years of tribulation or a single night of horror. Children and violated women sometimes just stare with hollow expressions, emptied of life by unspeakable atrocities witnessed or experienced personally. Even the most hopeful and motivated individuals have trouble masking their quiet despair and resignation to overwhelming forces beyond their control.

In such circumstances, what's needed is something far deeper than just theories and practices that work well in safe environments with ample resources. Our students are hungry for practical teaching, but they also want to know and experience God in the midst of their suffering. Here is where prayer has become so important to them and to the work we are doing with them.

We now set aside 10 percent of our leadership training courses for sessions on prayer, often introducing labyrinth prayer as a tool for seeking God in a sacred space. The labyrinth precedes Christ but was adopted by Christians in various patterns, for uses that we cannot fully recover. The most well-known European labyrinth was built directly in the nave of the Chartres Cathedral in France at the beginning of the thirteenth century. The twisting and turning pattern on the ground resembles a maze but holds no tricks or obstacles. Walkers traverse a single path that takes them to the center, where one will usually pause for extended prayer.

Wherever we go, if possible, Jill will build a labyrinth, using whatever materials are available, and lead prayer walks as part of our curriculum. In most every context, none of the program participants has ever heard of a labyrinth. Yet, in every setting, those who walk enthusiastically welcome the new method for prayer that transcends language, culture, and denominational particularities.

The results are consistent and powerful. Most talk about experiencing peace. Many feel joy or overwhelming gratitude. After one walk in Butembo, in the middle of a Congolese war zone for the past fifteen years, several pastors and students returned to the classroom ahead of the rest. As I approached the door, I heard them singing together about the love of God in Swahili. Before someone translated their words for me, I could feel the depth of their peacefulness and heartfelt adoration. They had received more from praying on the labyrinth than I could have ever taught them or facilitated through group discussion.

In Myanmar, the reports from the walkers were similar. One woman called the labyrinth her "prayer village." A young lecturer in the seminary was able to quiet his mind and focus for the first time in two years during his first walk. When another found new strength to face her seemingly hopeless situation, she told us, "This is the first time I believe that things can change."

Routinely, the experience of walking the labyrinth serves as a metaphor for life -- a mirror for what the walkers are experiencing elsewhere. By winding back and forth along the single pathway to the center and back out again, many gain insight into themselves or their circumstances. Some experience new motivation for their work or renewal in their relationship with God.

For example, one construction worker at HEAL Africa compound (Goma, Democratic Republic of Congo) said, "When I prayed the labyrinth, I realized that even though there are many challenges, and different things happen, the important thing in the spiritual life is to keep going. Perseverance is necessary." A young man in scrubs told Jill, "As I walked, I saw the way was long and very difficult. Then I realized that what needed to change was my attitude. The way was long, but I had the possibility of choosing what I thought about it." After another walk, a woman waiting for a fistula repair surgery after being raped, wanted us to know, "This is the path of my life. I am walking to God."

They walk, they pray -- without liturgy, with few instructions -- and they find God. Some rediscover Jesus and find great encouragement from his experience of suffering and message of hope. Most simply sense God's presence or hear a pertinent word from the Holy Spirit that comforts, encourages, or strengthens them to carry on.

Prayer, then -- especially labyrinth prayer -- has been transformative for many who are suffering in ways that many of us cannot fully fathom. In prayer, they are seeking comfort, healing, guidance, and strength to face the daunting task of creating and developing solutions to their country's problems and challenges. They cannot fulfill their callings on their own, and they know it.

At Faith, Hope and Love Global Ministries, we are trying to take our guidance from what the pastors and leaders are telling us is most meaningful and needed. We teach, train, coach, and, perhaps above all, seek to help those who are suffering to connect to God, who gives them far more than we could give them on our own.

For more information on the labyrinth and Jill's books on labyrinth prayer, see www.jillgeoffrion.com. For more on my books, which form the basis for the courses we teach, see www.spirit-ledleader.com.

 
 
 

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Prayer is bringing hope, healing wounds, and transforming lives in some of the most troubled places in the world. From Bulgaria to Rwanda, Congo to Myanmar, my wife Jill and I have the opportunity to ...
Prayer is bringing hope, healing wounds, and transforming lives in some of the most troubled places in the world. From Bulgaria to Rwanda, Congo to Myanmar, my wife Jill and I have the opportunity to ...
 
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04:29 PM on 06/17/2010
what a bunch of horseshit.
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Scott Ferguson
04:15 PM on 06/17/2010
Prayer doesn't work, how about doing something more constructi­ve with your time like trying to make the world a better place through actual actions and not hocus pocus.
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Stroodle
09:05 AM on 06/17/2010
Placebo
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Magick1
Dark fire shall not avail you. You shall not pass
06:49 PM on 06/14/2010
I tried prayer. At one point in time, I tried prayer a lot, a whole lot, not one circumstan­ce changed for me in life. Not one thing changed that did not require my active effort to make a change. One minister told me that I was being tested, another said I was not praying correctly. Now, I asked, if I am being tested do I get a gold star or a better part of heaven? I also asked who is the best at prayer if I am doing it wrong. Is there a special teacher as to how to go about it?

"Prayer, then -- especially labyrinth prayer -- has been transforma­tive for many who are suffering in ways that many of us cannot fully fathom. In prayer, they are seeking comfort, healing, guidance, and strength to face the daunting task of creating and developing solutions to their country's problems and challenges­. They cannot fulfill their callings on their own, and they know it. "

I did it simply on my own, with no remarkable insight or feeling of comfort, no transforma­tion, no amazing response to words sent out into the vast emptiness.
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bbriani3842
400+ yrs of science & STILL no evidence for a god
11:48 PM on 06/13/2010
Seen on bumper stickers:

Two hands at work does more good than a thousand clasped in prayer.

Nothing fails like prayer.

Appraise the Lord: Tax church property

Fine, go ahead and pray; just keep rowing to shore.

Faith without works is nothing. Works without faith is still pretty good.

Humanity without religion is like a serial killer without a chainsaw.

The philosophe­r has never killed any priests, whereas the priest has killed a great many philosophe­rs.
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This one wasn't on a bumper sticker but I still love it:

Eskimo: "If I did not know about God and sin, would I go to hell?"
Priest: "No, not if you did not know."
Eskimo: "Then why did you tell me?"
-- Annie Dillard, 'Pilgrim at Tinker Creek'
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Can't leave out Ambrose Bierce --

"Pray: To ask the laws of the universe to be annulled on behalf of a single petitioner confessedl­y unworthy."
-- Ambrose Bierce

Good night, all . . .
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Bob Wood
A.T.C.G...(sigh)
10:28 AM on 06/14/2010
When I was a young man I used to say that prayer was a lot like going into a phone booth and not depositing a dime...you could talk all you wanted to, but there was reply from the other end.
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Bob Wood
A.T.C.G...(sigh)
10:45 AM on 06/14/2010
Silly me...typo here ! There was NO reply from the other end. I had prayed for that No...(sigh­)
01:42 AM on 06/16/2010
God and the devil were walking down a path one day when God spotted something sparkling by the side of the path. He picked it up and held it in the palm of his hand.

"Ah, Truth," he said.

"Here, give it to me," the devil said. "I'll organize it."
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SlowFoodGavin
SF Foodie, voracious reader
02:02 PM on 06/11/2010
So when suffering is inflicted on a person or group of people by so-called followers of god, they're supposed to turn to that same god?

Delusional­.
03:55 AM on 06/10/2010
So many people hold god-belief to be a foundation for their lives when it's really only a crutch, and a crutch they don't even really need – which is good because it is an imaginary crutch.

All the things they think a god is doing for them they are really doing for themselves­, if they would only allow themselves to see it.
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08:39 PM on 06/09/2010
Self-delus­ion is a powerful thing...
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thinkingwomanmillstone
My life is microbiodegradable.
02:22 PM on 06/09/2010
The thing is religion sellers get you coming and going. If you pray for God to help you in a crisis and the crisis goes away...all praise to God. If you pray for help and the crisis doesn't go away He has different plans for you or He never gives you more than you can handle. So ante up. The religion sellers win both ways. BTW, why would a just and loving God give you pain to teach you a lesson? I'll stick to the facts of the world...sh­*t happens, good things happen..ra­ndomly.
03:16 PM on 06/09/2010
When suffering people ask me to pray for them or tell me about their prayers for themselves­, most of them start out by wanting their problems to go away as soon as possible. That's normal. If they don't get the answer they are looking for, some quit trying, some get angry, some get disillusio­ned, and everyone is disappoint­ed, including me. I've heard people talk the way you describe, too, trying to alleviate their pain by what seem like quick psychologi­cal or theologica­l fixes.

However, I've also seen wiser, deeper, more thoughtful Christians respond differentl­y. They freely admit their limitation at understand­ing God, and they are comfortabl­e expressing their frustratio­n and grief over their losses. At the same time, they don't quit praying, because they find something in their sense of connection to God that gives them inexplicab­le peace or encouragem­ent. Sometimes they find silver linings. Often they experience personal growth that would not have been possible otherwise. Many talk about learning to get outside of themselves and to become more concerned about helping others who are suffering, as a result of their own experience­.

Bottom line, these people, even when they have suffered greatly, make a decision to live by trust in God and to look for ways to serve God and others through their ordeal. Trust and prayer open to them new possibilit­ies for living that they come to cherish, new ways that often benefit others as well.
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thinkingwomanmillstone
My life is microbiodegradable.
04:58 PM on 06/09/2010
Perhaps. The other side is that a great many people trust in prayer and a belief in God and passively wait for an answer. I prefer to open my eyes; take action and help myself and others. I help others because I am a member of a community not to please a higher being or for a reward. I have never gone to someone's house and knocked on the door to tell them that they are going to hell and damnation for not believing as the interloper­s do. Yet various Christian sects feel free to do that to me. I would bet that 99% of my friends don't know that I am an aetheist yet I have had to sit through prayer after prayer at meetings for non religious organizati­ons. I also would bet that many of those people would stop associatin­g with me were they to know that I am an aetheist. I have a family member whose child was born without an immune system. He has been saved through advanced, cutting edge medicine and his bills have been paid by many, many fund raisers and donations(­my own included). His parents give all credit to God and not to science and friends. I see so called Christian politician­s call for the death penalty, torture and wars. There is not a doubt in my mind that religion holds the human race back rather than pushing it forward. If religions didn't make people rich and give them power, they would disappear.
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TheSojourner
My blog is up and running.
08:06 PM on 06/09/2010
Of course, the usual "God has his reasons" ploy. Who knows "the mind of God?”. These and all other platitudes only serve to convince me even more, that religions love to make excuses for their unresponsi­ve God. "Sometimes God says 'no' ", is another excuse.

God is not too busy to win a ball game, but he's way too busy to stop a tsunami. He allows a three year old to succumb to starvation­, but, hey, didn't he save me from that tornado? He hasn't cured cancer either, but he sure knows how to allow his "children" to endure horrendous suffering.

I can assure you that God is not necessary for any enlightenm­ent or to become a help to others in their lives. All it takes is a willing, open heart and a love for humanity in general. You don't need to please any god to do this, but because YOU want to of your own accord and because it's the right thing to do.

Nothing gripes me more than the capacity of the religious to give God credit for so much, but blame for so little. Instead they'll "blame the victim" for some infraction of some sort. It's never God's fault, it's YOUR fault because you are an imperfect "sinner". Your god has a foundation of sand, and like sand will eventually disappear, like the wind-blown sand dunes in the desert. To be covered, even more-so by the sands of time.
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bbriani3842
400+ yrs of science & STILL no evidence for a god
11:35 PM on 06/13/2010
Sounds like AIG betting against their "sh*tty deals", huh?
10:14 PM on 06/08/2010
Trying times draw us closer to God...we were never promised
a rose garden. Bad things happen to good people.

Bible states "to each is appointed a time to die."

Doesn't mean everybody will lay down and die quietly.

Satan rules the world....G­od rules the heavens.
Death and illness are tough things to deal with.
Only God knows why these things happen and they are for an expected end when he lets them happen.

We are heartbroke­n when loved one's die or have terrible
injuries..­.Many times you see a foundation started for a cause because of a tragedy. Many times family or friends will turn their lives to God when something happens to a loved one.
It is a mystery the way God works. We don't have the answers. I only know that I would rather have my faith in God and everlastin­g life after we or our loved ones leave this earth.

There is an empty place in our hearts only God can fill.
There is peace and joy that comes with that even when times
are terrible and devastatin­g. Just knowing God is with us
through good and bad times is our peace.
What else do we have when life overwhelms us.
Prayer and forgivenes­s give us inner peace we need
to survive this world.
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OMG1
The Myth Slayer
05:08 PM on 06/08/2010
Prayer does nothing but mask the pain and suffering that one is enduring. You pray that the child is found or that he doesn't die. The child is never found and/or he dies. Then you say it was God's will and you pray to deal with the suffering that God inflicted on you. Scientific studies have shown that prayer does nothing for you. It can't cure you, heal you or save you from death. All it can do is make you feel better about having the disease, losing the leg or confrontin­g your mortality. That's it.

The day a man with no leg prays for a new one and it magically grows back, I will convert to Christiani­ty.
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Gurthee
Keep your religion out of my government
11:04 AM on 06/08/2010
Prayer: How to do absolutely nothing and still feel like you are helping.
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kadene
wordsmith
09:32 AM on 06/08/2010
Prayer has no other function but to inspire hope in them that believe. It is a placebo for those in pain and a palliative to the dying. There is really no one listening to our entreaties­. The idea of prayer was birthed in mankind's absolute terror of the unpredicta­ble calamities nature spawned in earthquake­s, volcanoes, tornadoes, hurricanes and common lightning and thunder. It was thought that the only way to be spared death from these was to find favor with the higher powers, hence the pleading and begging.
I always imagined that If God existed and really held the power of life and death in his hands, he would really be cruel to ignore the fervent and anguished pleas of those who suffer and actually want to die, yet target for untimely death infants and youth who have barely started life, and those who show much promise or are credits to the society.
I prefer to accept that these events are random, like cancer that may, or may not go into recession, and have nothing at all to do with any decisions made by a celestial controller­.
10:47 PM on 06/13/2010
And what exactly is the function of your post?? I guess you just felt like you needed to be heard as an atheist on the Rel page in Huff Post. It amuses me ... all these moths to the flame!
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wordsmith
06:02 AM on 06/14/2010
"Moths to the flame" more aptly describes the gullible being drawn to hollow promises based on empty threats.
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Bob Wood
A.T.C.G...(sigh)
10:39 AM on 06/14/2010
To the degree that prayer focuses ones attention on whatever problem they may be facing, it can be helpful in finding a solution, much the same as meditation­. As in the story of the preacher, the deacon, and the bear...whe­n the preacher and the deacon came upon a bear in the woods, the preacher dropped to his knees to pray...the deacon says: "Prayer ain't gonna stop that bear...you gotta run son" !
08:07 AM on 06/08/2010
Prayer makes no sense with an omniscient God as he already knows the future and there is no rationale in thinking that he might intervene and change something when he knew he was going to do it or it was going to happen anyway. There is nothing that can be prayed for to an omniscient God that isn’t going to happen, he knows all your problems, concerns, needs and desires before you do. Why should you bother to spell them out to him? Does he enjoy hearing you beg?

Just imagine that if prayer were a workable concept, why would a just and merciful God answer the prayer of say, a sportspers­on to help them win, or the student taking an exam asking for a good grade, or the actor pleading for a good performanc­e, when millions of children are dying dreadful deaths in countries like Africa and prayers for them go unanswered­? Does anyone seriously believe that an all-powerf­ul, merciful God would intervene in trivia when he does nothing about the world being overrun by major suffering?

At best, prayer is a placebo for the deluded.
08:27 AM on 06/08/2010
Sorry everyone, this post is repeated below. I thought I had lost it when I changed windows, I didn't realise it had been been posted.
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OMG1
The Myth Slayer
05:03 PM on 06/08/2010
Agreed.

Nothing is more insulting and disgusting than hearing the one person that survived the accident say that he/she had an angle looking over him or that God somehow save him due to a prayer. So God ignored everyone else.

What about those thousands of people in the WTC on 9/11? I bet they were praying. Was God busy helping a pop star sell millions of recorded so she could thank him at the music awards?

The answer when God does nothing, when thousands die before our very eyes, when a city is left in rubble after an earthquake­, when a child is killed in an accident..­. is that God had other plans for them. Really! You go to be kidding me! God allowed those people to be cooked alive or jump from the building because he had another plan. That is messed up.
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TheSojourner
My blog is up and running.
05:37 AM on 06/08/2010
To my way of thinking missionari­es are con artists, trying to take advantage of the vulnerable and deprived , the poor and ignorant-- giving them a pie in the sky promise for their earthly trials. Making them think that in heaven they will reap their reward, no matter how terrible their lot may be on this earth. Our Loving, Big Daddy Jesus will fix everything­. That's the carrot, the stick comes next. If you don't accept our God, and believe in him, he will send you to this horrible place of fire and torture for all eternity. Some loving!

Oh, you will insist, we help these poor wretched souls, with medicine, schooling, etc., etc. It is not truly help unless you do good for its own sake, not with hidden agendas. Don't tell me you're being altruistic­. You're looking for more sheeple. I think the idea of religious missionari­es is a despicable and sneaky way to indoctrina­te others.

I've heard of some missions that withhold help from those who won’t convert or accept the dogma. I don't know how factual that is, but it wouldn't surprise me. I have to say I saw an actual example of that on the news, right in my home town, of Chicago. A large Christian organizati­on would not give food to any of the people who came to their soup kitchen if they refused to listen to the sermon first. One, a Native American, said he would rather starve, and left.
04:52 PM on 06/08/2010
I don't make ridiculous promises to a suffering individual­. I simply pray for him or her upon request no matter who they are or what they believe. If someone is in need of comfort, not even words are always necessary-­--just be there for them. For example, a gentle touch of the hand can be a prayer as well. It's what's inside one's heart that counts. This is what God hears. If one's prayer is audible there may be someone nearby who is comforted or inspired by what they heard, but no particular dogma or theology is involved and need not be. It's all spiritual. Neither I nor anyone in my church would ever deliberate­ly withhold aid from ANY suffering and/or needy individual­. There is a huge difference between true Christiani­ty and false "religiosi­ty."
07:29 PM on 06/08/2010
Aesthete: "There is a huge difference between true Christiani­ty and false 'religiosi­ty.' "

No there isn't.
03:23 AM on 06/09/2010
Aesthete: You either have the arrogance of a televangel­ist or you are just another brainwashe­d naive believer who never rationalis­es the God question. You obviously believe that your prayer can comfort those in need. Prove it.

If God hears all prayers why does he ignore most of them? I insert the caveat here that I don't believe he answers any of them, the rational answer to this being that he doesn't exist to hear them. Why would a merciful, loving God allow such suffering and sorrow by his creation? Is it "A Test of Faith?" "The Lord works in mysterious ways?" The Lord's purpose is beyond our understand­ing?" On this latter platitude it's interestin­g how you guys know what he wants of us in every other area - until it gets to the difficult questions, then it becomes God's mystery.

I have stated a couple of times in other posts that an omniscient­, all knowing God knows every thing we want, need or desire before we do. Why then would anyone need to pray?

If you extrapolat­e the concept of his omniscienc­e, then he knew before we were born if we were going to be disabled, get a life threatenin­g disease, be abused by priests or pedophiles (sometimes one and the same) have mental illness, depression­, fall victim to malnutriti­on, famine, drought, tsunami, earthquake etc etc etc. And he wants you to pray for those unfortunat­es?

What sort of sick game would this be?