The practice: See progress.
Why?
There are always things that are getting worse. For example, over the past year, you probably know someone who has become unemployed, ill or both, and there's more carbon in the atmosphere inexorably heating up the planet.
But if you don't recognize what's improving in your own life, then you feel stagnant, or declining. This breeds what researchers call "learned helplessness" -- a dangerously slippery slope: in the original experiments on dogs, whose motivational neural systems are like our own in important ways, it was very easy to train them in helplessness but very, very hard to teach them later that they could actually walk a few steps to escape from painful electric shock.
If you don't recognize what's getting better in the people around you, then you'll continue to feel disappointed -- and they'll continue to feel criticized, not seen, and "why bother."
If you don't see the positive trends in our world over the past several decades -- such as the end of the Cold War, improved medical care and access to information, and a growing middle class in many third world countries -- then you'll get swallowed up by all the bad news, and give up trying to make this world better.
It's not that you're supposed to look through rose-colored glasses. The point is to see life as it is -- including the ways it's improving.
How?
Be aware of little ways you move forward each day. Like getting to the bottom of a sink of dishes or to the end of a stack of e-mails. Knowing a little more when you go to bed than you did when you woke up. Earning a day's wages, or a thank you, or a nod of respect.
Then consider a longer timeframe: How have you moved forward over the past 12 months? What have you grown, built, learned? What problematic things have you dropped?
See some of the many ways that your material circumstances are better than they were a year ago (no matter if they have worsened in other ways). Notice any shrubs that have grown, fences mended, new clothes acquired, more earning power, improved net worth.
See how things have improved in your relationships. With whom do you feel friendlier or closer or more trusting today than a year ago? And what's gotten better in a different sense: stepping back from people who don't treat you that well?
Recognize the sincere intentions, good efforts, and growing abilities in children you raise or teach, and in the people with whom you live and work.
Consider our sweet, soft planet. Given your values, what's gotten better over the past 20 years? 50? 100? 1,000? 10,000 years? Sure, we face unprecedented challenges. But all the major problems our ancestors had to solve were by definition unprecedented when they first appeared!
Would you rather deal with our global issues today, or -- looking farther and farther back in time -- with the threat of thermonuclear war between America and the Soviet Union; with Dickensian levels of poverty and misery throughout the 19th century; with millennia of feudal lords, widespread slavery, and the abuse of women and children reaching back to the development of agriculture 10,000 years ago; or with pervasive hunger and pain and violence in hunter-gatherer bands in which, as Thomas Hobbes put it, life was usually "nasty, brutish, and short"?
Personally, I'm tired of the widespread cliché "in these dark times," however it gets expressed. It's ignorant, defeatist, and often used to further an agenda. Every time in human history has been dark in some regards -- and bright in many others. In hundreds of ways, daily life is better for the average person worldwide than it's ever been.
We've got our work cut out for us. But to keep going we need to feel we're making headway. Take heart: zigging and zagging, three steps forward and two steps back, slowly but surely we can and will make our world a better place.
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Thanks again Rick,
Toni
Want a better world? Ignore the ego's judgements and analyzations. Simply let all that crosses your path BE, with no further interference whatsoever, and always stand firmly on the rock of LOVE.
It is done one person at a time. Don't cop out with the powerless excuse. Gahndi, Mandella and many others whose names we'll never know have proved that 1 person can start a momentum of positivity that can literally change the world.
I have been told many times I wear rose colored glasses or that i may bury my head in the sand from time to time. Which I think we all need to do for self protect at times.
Yes the world is in bad shape right now. Is it like it was years ago? No cause things as in tec is different , medical is different.
I do know this once in awhile it is good to walk away from the bad news. Just so you can come back and do something to make the world a better place. Even if its only in your own back yard or town or village.