Self-doubt is a block to moving forward and growing. With all the mind diseases that are around, and all the people who are trying to tell us what to do, how to think, how to be; if we can't think for ourselves and are not aware, we go further and further away from our true sense of being. If we lack an inner sense of confidence (not an egoistic confidence but a naturalistic one), and if we doubt our own truth, it will be easy to be manipulated. If we doubt ourselves, we neglect paying attention to our essence.
The farther away we get from our truth, the more confusing it gets. We are puzzled by why we feel the way we do. In some cases, we may even have achieved materialistic senses of life, but
still feel unsatisfied. There is something missing. But what is it? We may experience too much guilt, shame, insecurity, fear and worry. We may put too much effort or time in impressing others and making an image. We may lose ourselves in the image we made. Furthermore, we may feel like our emotional baggage is getting heavier and heavier making the walk through life a burden.
Many of us may have been chasing other people's beliefs, dreams, ideas, and rules of life rather than that of our own. What a feeling of loss if we suddenly become aware! But we have to realize that it is never too late. Self-doubt is created when we want to imitate others and want to have what others possess, thinking that it is what we need, and want to copy other people's ways of thinking. It is great to have trustworthy sources from which we get guidance and learn, but when it comes to the experience of life, we all have an innate ability to choose our own way, what role we want to play in life, and how we want to experience it and learn from it.
As soon as we start challenging those patterns and pay attention to our essence, we are on our way to building an balanced sense of inner trust and confidence. When we doubt ourselves, we forget about our individuality, uniqueness, how we are connected to others, and our place in the world. We don't have boundaries, we feel stepped over, taken advantage of and overwhelmed. All of these can create a sense of us vs. them, a self-creation that may bring resentment and anger.
Too many of us are spending too much time undoing the damages created by us or others, due to lack of clear boundaries. This is the energy and time we could have spent building something.
Self-doubt comes when we don't know who we are. When we trust others' opinions and thoughts more than we trust ourselves; when we don't think we are good enough to have self-value, to have needs, to have ideas based on facts and knowledge, and to want to grow. It is rooted in the lack of self knowledge.
Self-doubt causes us to escape from ourselves and continually focus on the outside, not because we truly want to but because we are forced to, satisfying others consciously or unconsciously at all costs, a service that may create resentment and anger rather than love and connection. It creates negativity because it is not based on love but is rooted in a sense of escape -- an escape from self. When we provide service to others from a state of self-knowledge and awareness, we do it from a place of purity. Therefore, it does not create any resentment or negative feeling. Instead, it creates a sense of inner joy, love, and connection. Nothing good can be created if the seed is anxiety, escape from the self, fear and a lack of awareness.
At the end, self-doubt opens the door to self-neglect.
Here is a list of things you can do to help yourself with the process of self-reflection.
At the end, I will add one of my poems which I hope you enjoy.
"Wake Up Call"
What we need to pay attention to, we isolate from
What we need to stay away from, we have become
When we need to connect, we detach
When we need to let go, we try to catch
What we need to use, we put aside
What we need to get rid of, becomes our pride
Distractions turn into attractions
Mind illnesses create group reactions
We want to feel right, we don't know how
We try to connect, we don't allow
We talk the talk, but there is no true walk
We take a few steps toward the mistaken block
We keep our mind on a misguiding source
We cannot learn the truth from an untrue course
We neglect the unseen force
We feel a sense of remorse
When does it stop, when does it end?
All of that is in your hand, my friend
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