It's no news that most women like a tidy house, but I was taken aback by this week's survey results from the Working Mother Research Institute which showed that one of the primary concerns for mothers today -- both working and stay-at-home -- is how clean their house is.
Is this really the 21st century? Or are we still living in the 1950s?
In the survey, entitled "What Moms Choose: the Working Mother Report," co-sponsored by Ernst & Young, 55% of working moms and 44% of stay-at-home moms reported worrying about domestic dishevelment, while 42% of the working moms and 35% of the stay-at-home moms surveyed thought others judged them on their state of their homes.
Of all the top working mom concerns -- not taking care of yourself, not having enough time with your kids or your partner -- stressing out about not having a clean house was on the top of the list?
Let me add two more facts to the equation:
What does that add up to? A lot of overwhelmed working mothers doing a disproportionate amount of the housework. (We'll discuss the uneven balance of childcare between mothers and fathers in a future post).
Sure, sure, you say -- the gap between the amount of time men and women spend on housework has narrowed over the past 40 years. But according to a recent study from Oxford University, men are unlikely to be doing an equal share of the vacuuming, dusting and washing up much before 2050.
Four more decades of domestic inequality is unacceptable. Now is the time to put the kibosh on this dreadful trend. And I'm not suggesting outsourcing the housework to a housekeeper. My suggestion is much more novel and conducive to TRUE liberation for womankind.
It's a two-fold approach:
So women, in a communal effort to end domestic inequality, once and for all, give your husbands (and sons!) an apron, a spatula and a sponge, and let them rip! You might just be amazed at what they can do.
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