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Libra Tampon Commercial Reflects Honesty About the Life of a Drag Queen

Posted: 01/06/12 12:41 PM ET

I am now at liberty to comment on the recent controversy surrounding my Libra advertisement.

My name is Sandee Crack. I am the drag queen you have all seen in the Libra commercial that has been shot down by some of the transgender community.

I would firstly like to state that I am in fact a gay man who dresses in drag as a performer. I have been doing so for many years and will continue to do so. I have never considered myself to be transgender and never will do.

When I was presented with the Libra commercial, I saw it as a great opportunity to participate in a positive step toward acceptance for drag queens and gay men among the wider community. Throughout the production process, Libra were sensitive, professional, and accepting of my needs as a drag queen and as a gay man. I never felt for one moment that I would be depicted as a trans woman, nor do I believe that I have been. We consciously kept my arm hair and chose strapless dresses to accentuate my broad shoulders, and if you look carefully, you will notice that my stubble is slightly visible. They also ensured that I looked much taller than the girl next to me. I was shown the ad prior to release, and I was thrilled with it. I have received enormous support from transgender, gay, and straight individuals from all over the world since the ad was released in New Zealand. I believe strongly that by putting a drag queen into the mainstream media, we are one step closer to acceptance, and this is something I am very proud to be part of.

Unfortunately, a small portion of the trans community has chosen to view the ad as a personal attack on their fight to be viewed as equal women within society. This is a fight I also feel strongly about and hope to help educate the wider community on. However, I feel hurt that representing myself as a drag queen on television and playing out a commonplace scenario in my life has lead to a clear "dragphobia" among some transgender individuals who wish to pull the plug on something that reflects true honesty about the life of a drag queen. A drag queen is a man in women's clothing, and if that offends a trans woman, I am afraid I cannot apologise, as by doing so, I would be apologising for being me.

I hope that the campaign goes on to air in Australia; it would be an enormous step forward for Australia and for the world.

This piece originally appeared on SandeeCrack.com.

 
I am now at liberty to comment on the recent controversy surrounding my Libra advertisement. My name is Sandee Crack. I am the drag queen you have all seen in the Libra commercial that has been ...
I am now at liberty to comment on the recent controversy surrounding my Libra advertisement. My name is Sandee Crack. I am the drag queen you have all seen in the Libra commercial that has been ...
 
 
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10:14 PM on 01/09/2012
You may be homosexual and a drag queen but you still have cis-privilege. I mean honestly this commercial wasn't all that bad, but that is just it, it is one of the many subtle things that tells trans people they do not belong. I just think it's pretty pathetic to try and say that something wasn't cissexist when it clearly was. Does the average viewer know that you are not a trans woman? No. Because the average viewer doesn't know the difference between a transsexual and a drag queen.

Even if people knew it was a drag queen, the message was clear, real women menstruate and women who are too old, have a disorder, trans, or simply don't menstruate are not part of the gender. It's plain stupid, and I doubt you got praise from the LGBT community, if so, maybe just the LGB community.
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
11:05 AM on 01/09/2012
Do you consider yourself to be a "good example" and if so what is your definition of "good" and to whom do you consider yourself to be a good example to? Do you think there is anyone else who would be a better "good example" to the people you might think you are a "good example" to?
03:58 AM on 01/09/2012
I really do sure hope sandee is reading these responses. You cant ignore this.
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Azim S Khan
06:38 PM on 01/07/2012
As a transwoman I wouldn't have found this offensive if not for your (Sandee Crack's) reaction to the tampon. It gave a sense of "being put in one's place" rather than making light-hearted humour about our differences!

That's the big thing for me, really. I've made jokes about not having a period but if someone seriously tells me I'm not a woman because I don't have one that's rather hurtful. :/
bklynsparrow
creating reality from unreal things
12:14 PM on 01/08/2012
I'm a straight woman who couldn't have kids, had to have a full hysterectomy. I was once told I'm not a real woman any more because I couldn't have kids. Having a period or having kids are no real measure of who you are as a woman. It's only part of a whole biological and personal package. Being a woman is in your heart and soul, not your ovaries or lack thereof. Considering the excruciatingly painful periods I used to have, you're not missing anything. In fact I can't think of any woman who gets a period who enjoys it. Love what you are- a real woman. No one can take that from you unless you let them.
12:32 PM on 01/08/2012
I realize this is not strictly on topic, but bklynsparrow, that was really nice of you. I hope you have a great day!
04:44 PM on 02/02/2012
my thoughts exactly!
02:11 PM on 01/07/2012
"We consciously kept my arm hair and chose strapless dresses to accentuate my broad shoulders, and if you look carefully, you will notice that my stubble is slightly visible. They also ensured that I looked much taller than the girl next to me."

These are to ensure that the audience knew it was drag? Really? But that would imply that drag makes fun of women with less-feminine traits such as those. And that would make drag seem almost...misogynistic, a sort of gender blackface.

I'd also like to point out that those same traits are typically used (along with an Adam's apple and low voice, which weren't applicable here) to intentionally portray someone as transgender or transsexual in trans-as-punchline portrayals.

But, in light of the revelation that this commercial was drag, how is it any different from ABC's "Work It"? (answer: it's not). Every argument that is applicable to that hopefully ill-fated series is also applicable to drag portrayals such as this one used to promote tampons instead of whatever products ABC was hoping to sell.
02:01 PM on 01/07/2012
As a trans woman I have no problem at all with a man in woman's clothing. The problem is, a hairy, broad shouldered, stubbley woman is how trans women are constantly depicted in the media. We're either mannish caricatures to laugh at or sneaky deceivers out to trick poor straight men into sleeping with us.

There is nothing in your ad to differentiate yourself as a drag queen vs. a caricature of a trans woman, and to pretend that it's obvious and that you're being picked on out of "dragphobia" is pretty silly. If the ad had shown an obvious drag show, or had some other indication it would be different, but the ad takes place in a woman's restroom! Do you as a gay man use the women's restroom when you're in drag? Most gay men, drag queens or not, don't in my limited experience.

But moreover, the point of the commercial is you have to have to menstruate to be a woman. As a drag queen I can see why that doesn't bother you at all, but surely you can see how trans women would be upset.
10:55 AM on 01/07/2012
Nice teeth.. go see an orthodontist!
10:48 AM on 01/07/2012
I'm married to my trans partner who is very early in her transition. One thing we are doing is having children before any hormone therapies or surgeries may mess up that chance. The sad fact of the matter remains that my partner started to realize was trans when she was jealous of girls who (get this) had their periods and all the normal functions. She realizes that she will never have a uterus, she will never be the one to carry children, she will never be the one to breast feed, and it causes her the same amount of pain as someone who has discovered they are infertile or had to get a hysterectomy for cancer treatment. It hurts her all the same, cause of how she was born she will never be "normal".

Now in casting a gay man who has no problem dressing in drag I believe the people at Libra were trying to be accepting of the LGBT community, however we must realize that T is on the end of the acronym and that does kinda reflect how the trans community has become a bit of an afterthought. It's become evident in the laws around the western world that while sexual orientation is a protected status gender identity is not. A gay man would not say he has the same issues as a lesbian woman, so how can a gay man speak for a trans woman?
01:51 PM on 01/07/2012
Absolutely!

I and many others have said this before:- "Most gays just do not get trans women".

Thank you for the support you give your partner, it takes a very special person to offer this, for all too often transwomen are deserted by their partners just at the time they really need them.

Personally I feel that just placing the 'T' in an inclusive manner with LGB only serves to reinforce the idea with our cis brothers and sisters that somehow they are the same.
In my research I am beginning to see a change in the acronym by the use of LGB&T more often, only a small change but a change nevertheless.
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Mindy Czech
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11:04 PM on 01/07/2012
I'm a lesbian, and have known a couple of trans people in my lifetime. I've always been accepting yet curious, and decided to (politely) ask some questions about life as a transwoman. I cannot sympathize with and commend trans folk enough. The things about my body that I hate (periods, which I stop with depo provera for example) are things that the trans woman I asked said she envies the most, along with the fact that I can just stop getting the shot at any time, get a sperm donor, and get pregnant. I will never fully understand what it means to be trans because I am a cis woman, but I will continue to grow, learn, and fight for the rights of trans folk everywhere. Though I know that some gay people don't see it that way, I do consider trans people to be part of my community.. I want to be able to legally marry my wife and have the same rights as hetero married couples, and I want any trans person to be seen as the man or woman they really are, regardless of what they were born with between their legs, and have the same rights and recognitions as everyone else. We're all in this together.
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12:40 AM on 01/08/2012
I support trans women and their fight for the acceptance. However, just as "a gay man would not say he as the same issues as a lesbian woman...", I think that we should recognize that a trans woman does not have the same issues as a womyn, that is, someone who is born as a biological female. Some trans women reject that idea, which rejection can be offensive to some womyn.
12:37 PM on 01/08/2012
I have a neighbor that says pretty much the same things about the people from Mexico. It's a form of bigotry, and it tends to destroy the larger community in favor of tightening the cohesion of a small group by enhancing the egos of the individuals therein.
10:20 AM on 01/07/2012
Someone who claims, "I have never considered myself to be transgender and never will do" can't really speak for all trans* people by saying both only "a small portion of the trans community" was affected and that no trans people should be offended...
Though it may have seemed to the producers and actors of the ad that it was clearly a joke about male-identified drag queens not being real girls, essentially everyone who has seen it has interpreted as just another of millions of jokes at the expense of transwomen.
No one was saying drag queens are offensive or should stop being awesome, but implying one feminine-expressing person is more of a girl than another because they can and need to use tampons is, as is implying that this difference is humorous. The intent of this ad, while seemingly wonderful, doesn't matter here, the effect it has on many real, live humans does.
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see-ellen2001
10:04 AM on 01/07/2012
I did chuckle about the ad when I first viewed it. But it does remind me of years back when if a married woman of a certain age did not have kids, they were somehow less than. I was in a smallish prairie town, visiting. No one knew me. It was a kids birthday party and quite a few women did not ask if I had kids, they asked me how many kids I had. Apparently, I had NOT arrived.
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Robbert Bricker
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06:30 AM on 01/07/2012
"politically correct" is starting to be positively ridiculous.
01:58 PM on 01/07/2012
Sorry Robert this issue has nothing to do with being PC.

It has to do with respecting the right of everone regardless of how they might appear different or how they might present themselves to the world.
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Robbert Bricker
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07:04 PM on 01/07/2012
though i may be gay, sometimes, i think our glbtq community gets a little ridiculous... sorry, but they do.
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04:07 PM on 01/08/2012
You're asking me to accept you as a woman when you're not and I have every right to not accept you, so please respect my right not to. And it is positively ridiculous.
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Kenneth Alton
10:58 PM on 01/06/2012
People are overly... sensitive... when it comes to certain issues. To put it bluntly, everybody has their "hot buttons", things that provoke a deep visceral response in them that provoke little or no reaction in others.

I'm glad you did this commercial. I'm glad some folks found it funny. And yes, I'm glad it provoked a response. It's even fine for some to say they object to it and why. Nothing like a good "teaching moment". But if a a small portion of the trans community has chosen to view the ad as a personal attack by you or Libra then they need to get a grip. It's not fine to assume ill intentions where there's no evidence of such, or to make it personal.

Be yourself. The world needs more people to be out and proud of who they are.
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Draekia
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02:42 AM on 01/07/2012
While I'm sure others will find the phrasing you used to be less than perfect (I know I do that pretty regularly -- use crappy phrasing/take things seriously that were simply errors in the translation of one person to another) I think this was a very nice, clear post. Thank you.
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Valerie Keefe
09:11 PM on 01/06/2012
I know women, cis and trans, with hair on their arms, broad builds, the occasional terminal facial hair that refuses to die.

This ad doesn't make things nearly as clear as you wish they were.
01:02 PM on 01/17/2012
If things aren't as clear then nor is it clear there is a slight. I naturally assumed he was in drag. Isn't it a form of sexism to say he wasn't trans enough?
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neighborhoodmole
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07:18 PM on 01/06/2012
In a free society, anyone should be allowed to wear any type of clothes they want, including accessories like makeup and jewelry. Everyone should also be free not wear gender stereotyped clothing and accessories. I found the ad mildly offensive at first because it seemed to imply that women should wear dresses and makeup, but that was my own projection. I'm very glad to have read this article because it shows the real issue is freedom to do whatever you want and that does not imply gender or orientation. By the way, no woman needs to have a period, it is actually a lower cancer risk to stay on low dose birth control hormones continuously. Only women trying to get pregnant have to have a period (until they are successful.) It is a personal choice, of course, but what most women don't realize is that historically, women did not have repeated periods for 30 or more years, they were either pregnant or lactating most of the time until menopause. Most gynecologists don't volunteer this information, but they have known it for many years. Maybe there is a conspiracy of tampon and sanitary napkin manufacturers to suppress this information? Generic hormones are cheaper and more convenient than their products.
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isfturtle
08:59 PM on 01/06/2012
Thank you. First I would like to say that as a straight female, I enjoy looking at men in drag and wish it were more socially acceptable for straight men to dress that way.
I have also recently started oral contraceptives, and the main reason I started them was because I get really bad menstrual symptoms. I am really excited that I'll only get my period every three months now!
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libwingoflibwing
Leftist Christian, Non-Violent Revolutionary
07:09 PM on 01/06/2012
How interesting that this article is NOT in the Transgender section, but only in Gay Voices.

I have a question for Sandra and other draq queens who, as Sandra said, would say, "I am in fact a gay man who dresses in drag as a performer," and would affirm, "I have never considered myself to be transgender and never will do."

Do you use women's restrooms when you are in drag or do you use men's? I know that at the local LGBT club, which I frequent, the draq queens who don't consider themselves to be transgender women but gay men use the men's room.

So I understand your feeling this was a positive thing for drag queens. But the reality that your character was using the women's room is what makes the commercial seem to be saying something about transgender women and not gay men who do drag for performances. I hope that you can thus see how this ad when understood to be about transgender women and not gay men becomes something that demeans us and degenderizes us. I hope you as a gay man can thus become more sensitive to our needs and be a true ally.

Thank you.