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HuffPost 'Moment I Knew' Meetup, Contest

Posted: 03/28/11 02:03 AM ET

Since the launch of Huffington Post Divorce in November of last year, "The Moment I Knew" has been a critical part of our DNA. The idea turns the traditional concept on its head, asking readers to share, via Twitter, the moment they knew their marriages were over.

When we put out the initial call for responses (hashtag: #themomentiknew), the feedback was overwhelming. In 140 characters or less, readers vented about some of their most profoundly intimate moments, ranging from the blackly comic ("He crumbled baguettes all over the food and serving utensils knowing I have a severe wheat allergy") to the gut-wrenching ("I was having surgery and had to beg my husband to come visit me in the hospital") to the just plain peculiar ("When he said, 'Life isn't just about bacon and Warhammer 40K, you know'"). We compiled their responses into a slideshow, which continues to be one of the most popular--and most frequently referenced--features on our site.

So I'm excited to announce that, on the evening of Tuesday, April 5th, we'll be taking "The Moment I Knew" offline for the first time, with the help of meetup.com.

This Meetup is slightly different than most; like always, Huffington Post readers across the country--already used to engaging with each other on the site --are invited to get together to do so in person to kibitz about their divorces and relationships, and trade tips over coffee or drinks. Readers are also invited to share their short (3 to 4 minute) stories about that all-important realization: oh boy, it's over. We're counting on you to make this an experience that's just as funny, poignant, honest, and ultimately revealing as online feature. Wondering how to set one up? Read these simple step-by-step instructions here.

But for NY and LA Huffington Post readers, there's no need to plan anything, because we'll be your hosts: for the Moment I Knew Meetup in these cities, we're planning a fantastic lineup of special guests to share their "Moment I Knew" stories over cocktails at two terrific venues. See below for details on that, as well as our incredible lineup of authors, comedians, and HuffPost bloggers which includes a pair of exes performing on both coasts (Brooke Van Poppelen and Tony Sam)!

What's more, we're keeping one slot open at the New York and Los Angeles Meetups for one lucky reader to share his or her personal "Moment I Knew" story. If you'll be in either city on April 5th and would like to take part, please email your essay to divorce@huffingtonpost.com by Friday April 1st and we'll contact you to let you know if you've been chosen. Remember, your essay should be short (though not necessarily sweet)--please keep it to 3 or 4 minutes in length (about 600 words).

As always, we'd love you to document your Meetups as they happen in any way you see fit--blogging, video, Twitter--and afterwards, be sure to send photos and recaps for our follow-up story to submissions@huffingtonpost.com.

Can't wait to see you all there!

-Sara Wilson
Editor, Huffington Post Divorce

HuffPost 'Moment I Knew' Nationwide Meetup Details:
When: Tuesday April 5, 2011

Where: Various venues across the U.S. Check our Meetup Website for details on where and how to participate.

NEW YORK CITY 'Moment I Knew' Meetup Hosted by Melissa Francis, CNBC anchor and "Divorce Wars" correspondent

Where: Macao Trading Co., 311 Church St. (between Walker St. & Lispenard St.), New York, 10013 (please note that we are in the private space downstairs. There is a separate entrance to this space, or you may enter from the main bar. The address is the same.)

When: April 5th, 7 to 10 p.m. (performers take the stage at 8 p.m.)

Cost: Free! Important: Please RSVP to divorce@huffingtonpost.com with the subject line "Moment I Knew Meetup RSVP NYC" (RSVP required for entry)

FREE food & drink for the first hour of the event! Cash bar afterward.

Mobile Libris will be on-site, selling books by all author-performers.

***PLEASE NOTE THAT BECAUSE WE ARE CURRENTLY AT CAPACITY, WE ARE NO LONGER ACCEPTING CONFIRMED RSVPS FOR THE NEW YORK EVENT; PLEASE EMAIL divorce@huffingtonpost.com AND YOU WILL BE WAIT-LISTED***

NYC SPECIAL GUESTS, WHO'LL BE SHARING THEIR 'MOMENT I KNEW' ESSAYS:

Jill Brooke, writer for FirstWivesWorld.com, divorce coach, and author of the upcoming book, Recipes to Heal When Your Ex Makes You Sick

Joel Dovev, comedian (joeldovev.com)

Ruth Andrew Ellenson, bestselling author of the National Jewish Book Award winning The Modern Jewish Girl's Guide to Guilt

Isabel Gillies, bestselling author of Happens Every Day: An All-Too-True Story and A Year and Six Seconds: A Love Story, and actress (Law and Order: Special Victims Unit, Metropolitan)

Joe Gressis, three-time Emmy nominated editor, writer and film producer

Stacy Morrison, author of Falling Apart In One Piece: One Optimist's Journey Through The Hell Of Divorce and former editor-in-chief of Redbook magazine

Rahna Reiko Rizzuto, author of National Book Critics Circle Award Finalist Hiroshima in the Morning

Brooke Van Poppelen, comedian seen on TLC's American Chopper and vh1, writer for Dumb as a Blog on truTV, Emerging Comic and two-time Best Female Stand-Up nominee for NYC's Excellence in Comedy Awards

Kamy Wicoff, founder of SheWrites.com and bestselling author of I Do But I Don't: Why The Way We Marry Matters

***JUST ADDED!!*** SheWrites.com 'Moment I Knew Meetup' contest winner Kelly Simmon, former journalist and advertising creative director who recently published her second novel, The Bird House (Simon & Schuster)

LOS ANGELES 'Moment I Knew' Meetup Hosted by comedian Carlos Kotkin

Where: Private Dining Room, main floor, Palihouse Holloway, 8465 Holloway Dr., West Hollywood, 90069

'When: April 5th, 7 to 10 p.m. (performers take the stage at 8 p.m.)

Cost: Free! Important: Please RSVP to divorce@huffingtonpost.com with the subject line "Moment I Knew Meetup RSVP LA" (RSVP required for entry)

Cash bar

LA SPECIAL GUESTS, WHO'LL BE SHARING THEIR 'MOMENT I KNEW' ESSAYS:

Dennis Danziger, author of the novel, A Short History of a Tall Jew

Jan Eliasberg, acclaimed director and screenwriter (Miami Vice, Blue Bloods, Parenthood, NCIS:L.A.)

Amy Friedman, author of two memoirs and innumerable stories for The New York Times and Salon, and author of the nationally syndicated column "Tell Me a Story"

Gordon Haber, Fulbright recipient whose fiction, criticism, and journalism has appeared in The Forward, Bookslut, and Killing the Buddha

Kieran Kennedy, author of the upcoming memoir Father Can You Hear Me?

Sandra Kobrin, contributor to The New York Times, Los Angeles Times Magazine, Playboy, and Women's Day. Her book Full Circle will be out April 2012

Sascha Rothchild, This American Life contributor and bestselling author of How To Get Divorced By 30

Antonio Sacre, award-winning solo performer, storyteller, and author who has performed internationally and is a frequent commentator on NPR's Latino USA

Tony Sam, winner of the Chicago Comedy Awards for Most Innovative Comedian, Editor-in-chief of humor news site HAHAJK.com, and guest star on G4's Attack of the Show

Amy Wallen, bestselling author of MoonPies & Movie Movie Stars and creator of NPR's DimeStories

***JUST ADDED!!***'Moment I Knew Meetup' contest winner Adam Paul, actor, writer, and producer (Hollywood Residential, The Informant, How I Met Your Mother)

 
 
 
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09:19 AM on 04/06/2011
Sara, NYC was a wonderful event. Even a jaded Manhattan divorce lawyer like me, really learned some things. The crowd was great. Thanks again and great job.
04:53 PM on 04/05/2011
Please publish another article on HuffPost Living mobile App or even on the front page to help attendance in the Pacific NW! I can only find 2 attendees (not including myself) in different Seattle areas - and none in Seattle proper :( Thanks!
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annasophie1228
how you like them apples?
03:12 PM on 03/31/2011
this doesn't seem like a very healthy event...it's sad.
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Joel Dovev
02:30 PM on 04/01/2011
maybe you should come and find out, i think it's gonna be pretty fun/funny.
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LoyalBob
God is more vast than the Bible.
10:52 AM on 04/05/2011
The "moment I knew" moment is the sad part. Opening up and talking about it is the healthy part. Marriages fail. People fail each other. Then they heal and move on. Ignoring it and shoving these miserable moments under the carpet helps no one.
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Susan Orlins
Writer and author of blog Confessions of a Worrywa
11:28 AM on 03/31/2011
How about a meetup in Washington D.C.? I love this idea. One of the many pleasures of divorce is being able to share divorce stories! I write about divorce on Huff Po. And I blog about, among other things, the dark humor side of divorce on www.confessionsofaworrywart.com.
09:08 PM on 03/28/2011
I am very much looking forward to this. I will let my clients know as well.
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10:49 AM on 03/28/2011
What causes a 53 year old man to behave like an teenage boy with raging hormones? I mean becoming obsessed with a 30 year who looks like she is a "B" Porn Star? Obsessively working out everyday, drinking power protein shakes, like he is trying to become the middle-aged "Situation". Growing that "little" hair under his bottom lip? What gives? Is it mid-life crisis? Is it male menopause? Is it fear of death? Or is it the fear of life to come in which popping Viagra becomes more important than remembering to take cholesterol lowering meds? Please share your thoughts on my blog: thenarcissistanddivorce.blogspot.com
Share your stories, offer advice, make me laugh....
06:00 PM on 03/24/2011
Divorce should be outlawed
02:02 PM on 03/25/2011
Actually its marriage that is useless and archaic and causes more trouble than its worth. get rid of it and all the legal BS that goes with it
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Jakesmom
Everybody counts or nobody counts.
01:45 PM on 03/28/2011
So I'm supposed to be stuck with someone who decides that doing drugs is the way to go? Puts me in physical harm? Kills me financially? Subject my kid to that? No, I don't think so. People change over time, and sometimes, unfortunately, a relationship needs to end. Saying something should be outlawed does not solve any of the problems, it just creates more.
07:34 PM on 03/23/2011
Many of us HAVE moved on from that split! Happily, I'm using many - okay, some of the lessons I learned from the former uion to keep my present marriage more consistently loving and mostly fulfilling. Who said perfect?
11:18 PM on 03/17/2011
I'd definitely attend one of these as well! Nothing says fun like a little co-misery (and wine).
12:24 PM on 03/17/2011
You know why divorce is so high cause its all about meme me me me me me me me I'm not happy I'm not happy me me me me me me me me me me.
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Spartan112
SPARTANS!? What is your profession?
09:31 PM on 03/17/2011
So people don't have a right to be happy in their marriage? Here's the thing, if one party is unhappy it won't be long before they both are.
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10:09 AM on 03/18/2011
So true.
01:57 AM on 03/18/2011
that is sooooo true! A genuinely honest person would admit they are going into marriage with many expectations toward their partner-things they want to get out of the relationship for themselves. Why do not more people see it's a losing proposition? No other person will ever be able to be what you need and envision as the perfect partner. We either end up compromising, settling, or rationalizing in order to live with our decision. It's never fair to the partner-who also has their own needs and dreams. It takes a lot of guts to be alone and learn to make yourself happy. This is what most are too afraid to do...but ultimately it is what could eventually lead you to true contentment. Not seeking it from another person to "complete" you. I do not even believe marriage and love are the same thing.
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11:06 AM on 03/17/2011
I would love to see one of these in the Chicago vicinity! Don't forget us in the Midwest, we have "AHA-moments" too :)