Guys, please don't take this the wrong way, but chances are, your online dating profile isn't helping you put your best virtual foot forward. (I know this because I recently dipped a toe into the intimidating, tempest-tossed waters of cyber romance).
I also know that men don't like to ask for directions. However, I'm hoping that viewing your online profile through a woman's eyes will prove useful. (And I assure you, my purpose here is to support and inspire, not attack).
So, as a public service, I've put together some online dating profile do's and don'ts, based on what I've seen first-hand. The good news is that once identified, even the most problematic online profile issues can be easily fixed--if you're willing to expend just a bit more thought and effort. I promise: you can create the kind of irresistible profile that will lead to your ultimate goal: canceling your subscription because you've met the woman of your dreams.
In a nutshell, it all comes down to three simple words: SHOW SOME EFFORT.
- If you read no further, I beg you, please take this first piece of advice: Do NOT post a selfie that you took while looking in the bathroom mirror. (This is far more common than one would expect). I can see the toilet and/or shower behind you! And the flash in the mirror. And since it's nearly impossible to smile naturally in a selfie, you end up looking confused and upset. When a woman sees this photo, her reaction is, "Is this the best you can do?" I know you can do better. Ask a friend (or even one of your kids) to snap a few shots of you in various settings.
- Put some thought into your profile nom de plume. What message do you want to send? Unless all you're looking for is sex, BigStud4U isn't a good idea. And since few women find arrogance attractive, neither is SupermanHarry. Not everyone agrees with me on this point, but I think it's preferable to stick with the long number the website randomly assigns to you than to use a profile name that's a potential turnoff. (Especially if you have a really terrific profile picture).