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A True Refuge

Posted: 01/21/12 08:21 AM ET

From the beginning of my meditation practice in 1971, I was very moved by a sense of the Buddha as an integrated being. Most of us can easily experience our lives as somehow fragmented, split apart. We might feel perfectly filled with complete lovingkindness, strongly in touch with the radiant essence of our being when we're alone, but as soon as we're with people, it's very difficult. Or we might feel fine when we're with other people, but feel terrified when we are alone. We might feel one way at work, a different way in the context of our families. Our lives can easily be experienced as split up into these little bundles, whereas for a being like the Buddha, it is seamless. There are no parts, there's no division, there's no fragmentation. His life is of one piece with threads of wisdom and compassion guiding his actions whether he's alone or with others, whether he's wandering through India or being still; whether he is teaching or meditating, it is at the root of his being. It is all of one piece. I found that tremendously inspiring. I felt so fragmented. I knew that integration was exactly what I wanted.

The Buddha said, "From time to time, the enlightened one is born into the world an arahat, fully awakened, abounding in wisdom and goodness, happy, with knowledge of the worlds unsurpassed as a guide to those willing to be taught, a blessed one, a Buddha. By themselves they thoroughly understand. They make this knowledge known to others. They proclaim the truth, both in the letter and in the spirit, "lovely in the beginning, lovely in the middle, lovely in the end," abounding in wisdom and goodness, happy. What a wonderful sense of a possibility!

This Buddha, our Buddha you might say, arose in India in this world around 563 BC. He sat under a tree in Northern India and became enlightened. He came to birth as a human being, just as each of us has. This was perhaps accentuated for me by being in northern India, the land of the Buddha. I could take a short walk and be at the spot where, as bodhisattva, a being aspiring to enlightenment, the Buddha had the milk rice that fortified his body after so much extreme self-denial. And of course, day or night, I could go to the tree. The presence of the Buddha was intimate and everywhere, as though visiting the land of one's ancestors.

As a human being, the Buddha's questions, his very compelling questions, were about the nature of life. It's as though he were asking, "What does it mean to be born into this human body, to be so vulnerable and dependent as an infant, to grow up, to grow older whether we like it or not, to die, unbelievably enough, even as we see all others die around us?" and "What does it mean to have this human mind which seems to veer constantly from one extreme to the other, always changing, so that we might wake up in the morning delighted to be alive, full of faith, really happy, and by the afternoon we're freaked out, we're frightened, we're angry, we feel guilty, we question our very right to be happy. It seems incomprehensible to us. And then at night it's something different again."

What does it mean as a human being to look for happiness, peace, joy, that is not confined within the body, within that changing mind? Is there a quality of happiness, is there a kind of peace that is not a compounded thing subject to change, to destruction, as conditions change? He had questions in effect that are very similar to our own. As he phrased the call to awakening for himself, he said, "Why should I who am subject to birth, old age, sickness, death, sorrow, and suffering, seeing the danger in these things, why should I take refuge in that which is also subject to change, to death, to sorrow, to suffering? Let me find that which is changeless, which is deathless, which is without sorrow, which is unborn and undying, that is a true refuge." And in fact this is what he found. He found a true refuge.

We say a human being sat under a tree 2600 years ago, motivated by compassion, brought there, moved there on a wave of moral force. There was no other place he could be. Throughout the night as he sat there, which was a full moon night, the full moon in May, he saw the conditioned nature of suffering, sorrow, grief, loss, and death. He traced it back. He traced it back until he came to ignorance. He saw his own and others' countless past lives stretching back over many ages and eons of the world. He saw in effect the spectacle of the whole universe, beings being born and dying in accordance with the laws of nature. He saw the cyclic path of all beings, the unfortunate and the illustrious and the rich and the poor, all beings tossed about on these waves of birth and old age, sickness and death. As the night went on, he saw the means of liberation. He saw suffering, the cause of suffering, the end of suffering, and the path to the end of suffering. At the first light of dawn, just as the star Venus broke in the morning sky, he saw through the very last trace of ignorance in himself and was completely enlightened.

And, it is taught, we too can be enlightened, every one of us. We can be completely freed from the bonds of limitation and conditioned confusion through our own endeavor, inspiration, effort and development. There is a path, and we can traverse it.

 
 
 

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From the beginning of my meditation practice in 1971, I was very moved by a sense of the Buddha as an integrated being. Most of us can easily experience our lives as somehow fragmented, split apart. W...
From the beginning of my meditation practice in 1971, I was very moved by a sense of the Buddha as an integrated being. Most of us can easily experience our lives as somehow fragmented, split apart. W...
 
 
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04:31 PM on 02/19/2012
I need a deep dark well to sit in for a while. I want to contemplate stillness aloneness, braced within warm earth, refreshing water, breathing, content within myself, alive and equal to now, to before, to what comes. To know a place of peace exists allows me to welcome the peace within me.
I am an atheist in search of the Buddas path. To put one foot on it for one second or to walk it for a lifetime makes no difference. To experience the eternal in life is all, whether for 1 second or years matters not, time does not exist in eternity, just as eternity does not exist in time.
The middle is the path, finding it is the goal.
01:35 PM on 02/19/2012
Don't believe the hype that Buddhists are all peace loving and wants the best for every living thing. I used to believe the hype also but found out it's just a myth like the easter bunny or Santa.
01:00 PM on 02/22/2012
It isn't about what other people do, what other people think. The instructions are for you alone. People are people, if you are surprised by their actions you need to take a closer look at your expectations.
07:11 PM on 02/22/2012
Hey I was married to a Buddhist and heard some of the s**t that came out of her mouth wanting to have people killed in her home land and also other people from her country. So if that's what being all peace loving wanting the best for every living think I want NO part of it.
sjaent2001
Change gets Challenged, changer gets Cross/poison
10:29 PM on 01/25/2012
""""They make this knowledge known to others. They proclaim the truth, both in the letter and in the spirit, "lovely in the beginning, lovely in the middle, lovely in the end," abounding in wisdom and goodness, happy. What a wonderful sense of a possibility!"""""--------- one thing is coincidental --- as much as the meditation helps to sooth one self and inner peace and the rest of the things in the article ------ but now the knowledge by others specially in the 'west that made such a revolution and in the last 150 years of advancements is now SO OUTSOURCED TO THE LANDS of PEACE for some 2600 years that besides inner enrichment of self and mind and meditation now with the influx of the benefits of outsourced knowledge has handsomely earned the out word peace and richnesses and surpluses ------ This is UNIQUE marriage of the INNER enrichment and the outsourced but again inner enrichment ----- humans helping humans with lots of inequilibriums that seemingly brewing tensions --- we all have to meditate of the coming war of these outsourced knowledge benefits in real terms and large surpluses and the inner enrichment due to simple and expense less meditation and peace ------ Humanity needs a new balancing ACt in real terms in the year 2012 and not what happened 2600 years ago or 26000 years ago if there were 26000 then. So God help all of US in 2012 from all inequilibriums for the benefit of all.
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Jared Keith Jones
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05:38 PM on 01/24/2012
In response to several combative Theravadin comments over the last several months: Historically speaking, we can't even get a clear picture of what George Washington said or did not say, much less a clear picture of what someone said - precisely - 2600 years ago. This is especially true with regards to a tradition in which nothing was written down for at least 400 years.

Now, given that the fundamentals are about 90% identical with a 10% variation in terms of methodology and ontology (which leads to minor variations in many other statements made by the Buddha), we can confidently say that these traditions are from the same historical being. The practice of Mahayana leads one directly through the path of liberation, as set down by the Buddha in the first turn of the wheel. Mahayana does not bypass liberation for the sake of others, we must engage in the 8-fold path just like anyone else.

I'm tired of hearing the same straw man arguments about the Mahayana over and over again. Go study under a realized master of the subject. The same intensity of awareness and training exists in both traditions. Who cares about the advanced theoretical aspects of practice when you can't even stop your mind from wandering? Who cares about the use of various meditation objects when you can't stop yourself from lying, cheating, stealing, killing, etc? We should be working together - as human beings - to support each-others fundamental practices.
08:58 AM on 01/25/2012
The is no one 'right' form of Buddhism. It's what's right for the individual.

The Dharma Jewel is sometimes visualised as a Metaphysical Crystal with 84,000 different facets, representing all the teachings of the Buddha. Depending on our viewpoint, one or a few of these facets will reflect brightly in our direction.

When we first meet the Dharma, we are attracted to the most brilliantly reflecting facets - those aspects of the teachings that are particularly relevant to us and our problems. Most of the other facets will appear dull or oblique, or not appear to us at all, being completely hidden round the other side of the Crystal.

But other people may be attracted to those facets of the Jewel that appear bright to them but dull or hidden to us. We must be very careful before making any comparisons, because the appearance of the Jewel to our mind is entirely a result of our karma. http://seanrobsville.blogspot.com/2009/11/doctor-buddha.html
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Lanny Clifford
It isn't what it really is.
09:01 AM on 03/04/2012
Perfectly stated Jared
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Elinor Dandrea
Truth above All
10:24 AM on 01/23/2012
I can only suppose the soul difference is in what each offers..TRUTH was always what I sought..even at the expense of PEACE
08:42 AM on 01/24/2012
The "soul difference." Pun intended?
12:12 AM on 01/23/2012
Same refuge different person. At the root(spiritual) all the great teachers said the same thing "look within" and that is the true key to everything. Do not depend on the outer because the outer is only an expression of your inner convictions.Jjuge not by appearences. This includes what we consider Good on the outer as well.
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Tricia W
Living Life with Passion, Purpose & Laughter!
03:11 AM on 02/13/2012
Namaste'
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12:05 AM on 01/23/2012
He came to birth as a human being, just as each of us has. Just as Jesus did.
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VictoryBlue
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04:25 PM on 01/23/2012
THis is a Buddhist article. If you want to read then fine but I don't go to christian articles preaching about Buddha. Please be mindful of others.
06:33 AM on 01/27/2012
Ditto.
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11:06 AM on 02/17/2012
the truth is the truth . there is no ownership I personnally think dialogue with other faiths is a good thing. We can learn from each other with out it being a treat to our own faith. I've seen many buddhist truth in the words of jesus
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khanti
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08:20 PM on 01/22/2012
Thank you for this inspiring post Ms Sharon. Here's a gift of the Dhamma to you. The gift of the Dhamma excels all gifts.
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Craig2
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06:24 PM on 01/22/2012
Good afternoon, Atheist here. Meditation provides enlightenment. An appreciation of the great cycles of life. Enlightenment illuminates my path as I experience new and wonderous things and build a more complete understanding of the great cycles.
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Blodo
Time to build a better world
10:52 PM on 01/22/2012
And no god required. I sometimes wonder why Buddhism - as it was originally conceived and practiced - is considered a religion. Human nature being what it is, it didn't take to long to start piling on the deities.
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VictoryBlue
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04:26 PM on 01/23/2012
It is considered a religion b/c people have small minds and limited ways of expressing concepts.
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Jared Keith Jones
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12:49 PM on 01/24/2012
Because it is filled to the brim with references to deities, different dimensions of conscious beings who's physical realities occur on top of our own, but whom we cannot see with our ordinary senses... protectors, pretas, gods, goddesses, nagas, etc. There are huge cosmological systems, huge systems describing the afterlife.. You don't see these things as religious?
04:03 PM on 01/22/2012
Love this. Thank you. Imagine many people who truly realize the integrated nature of life and themselves in it. In fact, losing themselves and gaining everyone.
wonderful.
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05:30 PM on 01/22/2012
conundrums (like by losing oneself, one gains "everyone") can always be used to say everything and say nothing at the same time.
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taijiredlion
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02:35 AM on 01/23/2012
It's means losing the closed, fragmented ego of the fearful psyche, and gaining the open, integrated self of the loving psyche. What's so hard to understand? That Jeff's words read as a conundrum only points to the limitations of words to express reality, not to any confusion or obfuscation on Jeff's part. That you can't read between the lines -- hardly a difficult task, and one required for any appreciation of art, poetry, literature or philosophical discussion -- merely points to your own unwillingness, or inability.
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11:56 AM on 01/22/2012
Some people think Buddha taught some version of atheism. If Buddha taught atheism then what does his enlightenment mean?
It is sometimes stated that Buddha remained silent on the question of the Ultimate Reality. I will post some quotes from Buddhist scripture to show otherwise.

Buddha himself said,"There is an unborn, an unoriginated, an unmade, an uncompounded; were there not, O mendicants, there would be no escape from the world of the born, the unoriginated, the made and the compounded" (Udana 8.3).
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Kevaddha Sutta: About Kevaddha (Digha Nikaya 11.85/i.223)

Buddha: '...He prostrated himself before me, then sat down to one side, and said:"Lord, where do the four great elements - the earth element, the water element, the fire element and the air element - cease without reminder?"

Buddha replied:"....Monk, you should not ask this question this way .... 'Where do earth, water, fire and air not find footing? Where are long and short, small and great, fair and foul - where are "name and form" wholly destroyed?'

And the answer is:

'Where consciousness is signless, boundless, all-luminous, that's where earth, water, fire and air find no footing, here both long and short, small and great, fair and foul - here "name-and-form" are wholly destroyed.""

Mahjima Nikaya Brahmanimantanika Sutta 49.25/i.330 says,

"Consciousness non-manifesting, boundless, luminous all-round"

The translator (Bodhi) acknowledges that these lines have been a perennial challenge to Buddhist scholarship.
04:39 PM on 01/22/2012
I feel that those who claim that Buddha taught atheism do so to have some kind of an authority figure to justify their own atheism. It's just another kind of appeal to authority. But what you said is right. From what I understand and know Buddha refused to get into any kind of arguments about Isvara but he certainly couldn't have remained silent about Brahman. Also, those who use Buddhism as an argument against Hinduism[sic] they forget that his spiritual quest and training were under Hindu teachers.

But then rewriting history is much more fun, otherwise it would become boring for some. :)
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Arithrianos
reality has already (w)on(e), surrender!
02:45 PM on 01/23/2012
uh the failed part the buddha REJECTED and which REJECTED him was part of hinduism, because it taught the extreme of self-denial, which is just as much an impediment to the path as self indulgance. the hindu holy men he had been studying with recected him and then after buddha returned to original nature they came to him to be part of his sangha, not the other way anound. and buddha most certainly did not teach atheism, that would require a refutation of egolessness and impermance, what he taught as NON theism, in that taking refuce in ingorant conditioned beings like god(s) was pointless, since they are born and die they cannot save you or bring you to reality, in fact each sentient being has and will be a god, it is just one of the 6 types of beings, no more or less important than any other transient form.
09:11 AM on 01/24/2012
It seems to me that there is a certain amount of confusion about the relationship between atheism and Buddhism, or just in the notion of atheism generally. The Buddha brackets the question of the existence of a creator God. There is a tendency to take that claim--which really has to be understood as directed only against a certain Hindu conception--as equivalent to a denial of the existence or importance of the divine altogether. Those thinking this way are then surprised to find in many Buddhist traditions--most obviously Tibetan Buddhism, but by no means not this alone--an intense focus on and recognition of the sacred dimension of reality.

But there is no contradiction. "God" is an incredibly vague notion, and Buddhism is concerned to dismiss the importance of only a samsaric conception of the divine. It does not by any stretch of the imagination dismiss the notion of the transcendent altogether. Instead, Buddhism is extremely aware of the difficulties in giving expression to this notion, and the way our deep tendency toward reification makes almost any verbal statement about these matters potentially misleading.

To me, the idea that Buddhism is essentially "naturalistic" (see, e.g., Owen Flanagan's new book) could not be more off-base. The more general conflation of naturalism and atheism seems like a still more pervasive confusion, but that's a long story.
11:31 AM on 01/22/2012
Arguments against Buddhism: http://kwelos.tripod.com/argumentsagainstbuddhism.htm
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freedom1947
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03:43 PM on 01/22/2012
Arguments against christianity. Lets start with the inquisition?
03:17 AM on 01/23/2012
Buddhism doesn't need an inquisition or apostasy laws, because there's no irrational dogma to defend: http://seanrobsville.blogspot.com/2012/01/creationism-crisis-for-christianity.html
12:36 AM on 01/24/2012
Thanks for sharing.
11:11 AM on 01/22/2012
The title is overly optimistic, A True Refuge. Life is difficult for semi-evolved apes. People run away to other places literally or just in their heads. We seek places of refuge or perhaps more accurately, solace.
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05:31 PM on 01/22/2012
placebo effect, i would call it.
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sandalwood
songs of the shamans...
08:43 PM on 01/22/2012
What Medical Doctors call the placebo effect, Naturopathic Doctors call the self-healing power within nature.
01:22 AM on 01/23/2012
Laxsmi de Potrero

Your application of the term "placebo effect," adds another level of understanding to the phenomenon of obtaining solace from a dogmatic idea.
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Jared Keith Jones
your friendly neighborhood buddhist
11:31 AM on 01/25/2012
(chuckles)... Buddhism is not a a place one goes in their head to seek solace. It is a systematic set of methods for training the mind. The result of which is the attainment of legitimate mental control and mental peace, which does not rely on any particular external circumstance in order to be completely stable, lucid, starkly aware (which is the meaning of bliss in Buddhism "starkly aware"), and capable of responding to one's highest capability without hesitation.

In that same way that understanding relativity and quantum mechanics is not necessary for developing the physical techniques involved in being a gymnast, the cosmological beliefs - karma, rebirth, cosmic deities, etc - are completely unnecessary for the systematic attainment of an abiding state of real happiness. On the other hand, the human truths about how to properly relate with a teacher, how to be a good student, the preciousness of being a human being, the brevity of life, the need to take hold of this short life and do something meaningful, the deep recognition that no external circumstance can create internal stability (renunciation), the fact that nothing which is caused can be permanent, the fact that no phenomenon has an internal characteristic which predetermines what it is before being perceived, etc.. Probably are necessary to the process of gaining an unconditional state of internal peace (a cessation of mental activity that is - for lack of a better term - obstructing the natural state of the mind).
08:58 PM on 01/25/2012
Jared Keith Jones

You must endure the unfortunate contradiction of being starkly aware, blissfully, while enduring a cessation of mental activity to gain unconditional internal peace through cessation of mental activity.

I can only empathize and wish you well with your contradictions from hell.
PATOISJAM
reason: strategize: succeed
07:15 AM on 01/22/2012
One can only take refuge in the Almighty and in the living and true God - Hebrews 10:31.

Taking refuge and finding comfort in sayings of dead people and idols are worthless and empty endeavors.

King David had it right when he said at psalm 18:2:

The true God (Psalm 83:18) is my crag and my stronghold and the Provider of escape for me. My God is my rock. I shall take refuge in him, My Shield and my horn of salvation, my secure height."
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kooldalai
There is no spoon
02:29 PM on 01/22/2012
I take it you call yourself a Christian. Obviously you have no idea what it truly means to take refuge...if you did you would know that your post is totally meaningless.
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05:33 PM on 01/22/2012
ouch. i think santa claus is about as real as your "almighty."

the strength of the psychotic delusion (both mentally and physically) is well documented.
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Cindbird
Using my head for something other than a hat rack.
04:12 AM on 01/22/2012
For me, Buddhism was coming home. I had practiced as a teenager, but it eventually fell away. When I came back to it as an adult, I realized that it was what I had been searching for all along. Growing up, I was told compassion and empathy were weaknesses. But here was a set of beliefs and practices which taught the opposite. And here was a group of practitioners who also believed these were strengths, not weaknesses. And as I studied more and more, I found myself letting go of the pain, anger and hurt I had carried for so long. I think Buddhism calls to something in me because Buddha was a real human being just like me. A real person who had the same problems and same questions. He was no different than me when he sat down under that Bodhi Tree. And while I may not reach Enlightenment in this lifetime, it's enough to know I am walking the same Path. Enough to know I am moving forward, if only one little step at a time.
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taijiredlion
sic itur ad astra
02:41 AM on 01/23/2012
Nice post.

I ran across this poem not long ago, called "Before You Know What Kindness Really Is." I think you'd appreciate it:

http://www.ijourney.org/?tid=735
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Tricia W
Living Life with Passion, Purpose & Laughter!
03:48 AM on 02/13/2012
Thank you for sharing!

In Metta,
Tricia.
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Lanny Clifford
It isn't what it really is.
09:34 AM on 03/04/2012
Beautifully written and my experience reflects yours almost perfectly.
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