I've lived in New York for the past several years. No one would ever expect a transplant like me to get stirred by the festivities of the season but nothing stirs me more than the six week period between Thanksgiving right until the very last day of December. You see, not only am I Jewish but I am also Canadian. Which, simply stated means, I have absolutely no reason to celebrate these holidays. But still I do. And every year, I do it alone. From window shopping and party hopping to dining out, I am always one to rejoice.
This year will be different. I got married to an American which makes me otherwise committed for the holidays. Don't get me wrong, I am blessed to have found my life partner. It's just that there are certain just-for-one holiday traditions that I have come to cherish which I will relinquish with some remorse, even though I am aware that being home alone for the holidays can be isolating and depressing. I know the feeling because I spent more than a decade doing it solo. But take it from someone who is now on the other side, with the right frame of mind the time spent alone can be just as delicious. So now I pass along a few of my favorite things to do that I hope will brighten your spirit this season.
1. Adopt-a-Stray: Several years ago, I invited my 10 year old nephew to stay with me over the Christmas break to give my newly divorced brother a breather. Not only was I in the company of family, I got to see the city from the wondrous eyes of child. So, whether it is hosting the children of relatives even for a day, or pet-sitting for a weekend, offer up your services. It is a win-win situation for everyone involved!
2. Enlist Your Services: While there are a myriad of good will ways to lend a hand, it was the nights when I volunteered my services for profitable organizations, once as a coat check girl and another as a waitress for a private dinner party, that I had the most fun. It's like getting paid to go to a party and a great way to meet new people!
3. Invade a Space: Looking for a getaway but don't have a dime to dish out? Check in with friends and family in neighboring towns whose homes may be vacant for the holidays. For the past two years in a row, my best friend Heidi who lives in Boston and I have traded spaces for Thanksgiving. It's practically free and a great way to escape for a couple of days.
4. Do An All-Out Detox: Been meaning to try the "Master Cleanser Diet" or a three Day Bikram Yoga Intensive? Holidays are the perfect time to get pure, pretty or powered up. Not only are fitness centers practically hollow, most spas run promotions so that stay-at-home types can indulge.
5. Be One With Nature: Instead of fighting the next big blizzard of the century, embrace it! Several years ago while all my colleagues ducked out of work early to avoid the storm, I made my way to Paragon Sports where I purchased a pair of modern day snowshoes. Two days of trekking around Central Park was exhilarating!
6. Find a Fix Prix: If a gourmet feast is what you fancy there is no need to fret. There are plenty of restaurants that offer fix prix menus for the holiday crowds. Given our Northern roots, my friends and I convene each year at Brasserie Les Halles which serves up a terrific Thanksgiving dinner with French influences. So whether you dare to do it solo or in a group, you will most likely wind up in good company while making the most of your cities top chefs.
7. Attend an Event: Check out what's happening in and around your city. Oftentimes parks hold midnight runs that are chock full of fitness minded individuals. Today, some of the nation's most prestigious culinary schools have begun hosting festive cooking classes and dinner parties that run through the holidays. You may want to also visit www.festivalsandevents.com for a complete listing of festive happenings in your area.
8. Plan a Do-It-Yourself Dinner Party: Don't let tight quarters, small budgets or your less than fine china dishware hold you back if you want to host an intimate get-together. Instead, consider hosting a tasting party. This quick, casual-chic and affordable alternative to the elaborate sit-down dinner is becoming increasingly popular among single adults, especially during holiday time.
9. Make Memories Last: The holiday season is often a reflective one where we spend time thinking about our pasts! So put this time to good use by organizing photos, songs & and other personal memorabilia. Personalized recipe books, albums and music collections are great gifts to pass around during the holidays.
10. The Love In: A weekend long lovemaking session, not a random encounter but a one-time only connection with someone special that need not be long-term orbserious, will surely ignite the soul. If you're lucky you will carry this special even if just for the moment escapade in your heart for a lifetime.
Lots of things to do during the holidays that can brighten your spirits!. Pick one or more, or come up with something on your own, but remember that good cheer awaits you. So don't miss out!