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Does Being Hurt Ignite a Desire in Us to Hurt Others?

02/05/2014 02:43 pm ET | Updated Apr 03, 2014
  • Sister Jenna Award-winning Spiritual Leader, Author, Host of the Popular America Meditating Radio Show & Director of the Meditation Museum.

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After meeting a Syrian man who defected from Syria at the airport, I wrote these thoughts from 30,000 feet above on my way to Washington, D.C. from India.

We know of prominent leaders of countries who were exposed to some form of violence, or witnessed ruthlessness from a parent who was in power. In many cases, these leaders pass down the process of control without self-respect, unconscious of the fact that they are only repeating a cycle of pain onto their people.

Generally, the pain is revealed when threatened and with leaders of countries, we've seen that all too often. As I've read horrifying stories in the news of ruthless leaders, I contemplate where is their vacuum of the self? In their interior world of thoughts and feelings, what sort of pain or anguish breeds there? In a position of power where the pain is not identified, that power can be used to create profound pain on its people. It can disguise itself under some moral righteousness which adds not only to the pain, but to the delusion of false power. This is where I believe, in order for us to truly capture what's at the heart of people's rage, ability to torture, or even to kill its own kind, requires going beyond being good or bad. Moving beyond opinions of who is superior, who is right, we begin to notice a sense of honesty in ourselves.

There is a tremendous need to engage in an internal study of consciousness, thoughts, feelings, attitude and our own nature to begin to understand why people function the way they do. We require a heightened state of compassion if we plan to really change ourselves and understand the process that leaders have to engage in for their own change. Pain is everywhere you look in this world but virtuosity isn't. When a political party aims to thrive collectively as a country, it would be invested in the well-being of all of its people. Coming from a place of compassion can help to end the pain of a leader who is trapped in a cycle of pain. Though his heart may be closed, if anyone were to actually get into his interior world, one would find a scared and vulnerable little child. Compassion can open up that fear and attract those around him to help him break his pattern. When a leader heals himself, he heals his country. Creative expression arises, economical comforts can exist and a window to offer courage to other leaders opens. It does take courage to admit to yourself that inside, your conscience is knocking on the door of your mind to end the vicious cycle of pain and love your way to a healthy self and humanity.

Let's face it, no one has really tried to experiment with moving towards real self-contentment by finishing patterns of pain as a means to end this insatiable thirst for power and greed. As souls, we were born in a body to play out a part. If we begin to play the part where all can win, if we raise their compassion to understand their own thinking, feelings and doing, we would truly be serving as leaders. And, by realizing that from that practice or pattern of interior checking and adjusting, we can relieve each other, including our leaders to end our pain and increase our self-contentment and self-mastery. Leader of a country, or not, we all require courage to make this happen.

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