“The library near my job locks their bathroom too. What a tragedy it would be for the city to have to buy toilet paper for those who can't afford it. That would just be awful wouldn't it?”
Aissatou Sunjata on May 11, 2014 at 17:34:01
“Like your sentiments, I guess for me it is the difference between what it takes for a library's budget to keep buying toilet tissue, perhaps as opposed to something else., deemed equally important. Yet, the sacrifice it takes for that same library to know that perhaps their inadvertent contribution is allowing someone, others the dignity of having toilet tissue for personal use. What might be considered something necessary becoming for others something crucial. The library where I reside does the same (lock doors, monitor). Yet, the commodity to those who don't have a bathroom of their own, may have to sacrifice, even in a shelter for what we routinely take for granted, a bathroom, where you can close the door, one where you can do what you need to do with privacy. Dignity in such intimate of circumstances, we take for granted.”
“I tried that when we lived outside Vegas and all we got was investigated (they found our children not "neglected or abused" thank God) - never was able to get FS unless I had a place, a P O Box or a friend that let me get mail at their house. It isn't worth the risk.”
Ashlie Milano on May 9, 2014 at 18:49:57
“I don't have children so i didn't have that experience. Sorry to hear that you did.”
“If you haven't noticed every time they have sex (at least when the scene is shared with us) it starts that way. First she tells him "stop it" and he continues anyway. But she is clearly the one in control all the time.”
“It goes like this - you act like you are orgasming then he gets more into it, you relax more,and next thing you know it's becoming awesome. That for me explains all three of the first ones. I'm not familiar with the last one.”
“I guess you have a lot more information than me. I only read the article. I have no reason to believe that I know the exact details of their interaction. Maybe you're right, but from my personal experience with similar situations, it isn't usually like that.”
Hufffan on Feb 14, 2014 at 10:39:38
“I "only read the article" too.
You simply twisted and distorted the "exact details"
of a quote from it to further your idea that this woman was somehow fortunate to have a husband who wants her so much.
I certainly don't know you or your personal life or story as much as I know the details of the misery of this writer's perspective that she documents and leaves us to comment on.
I'm more than surprised how many people have distorted, joked, or slammed this woman's obvious story of abuse and victimization to justify her abuser's behavior of wanting her vagina and any other body parts countless times every day.
But I find it especially curious as to why any females seem to want to dismiss someone's painful abuse as being "selfish and cruel" by denying or cutting back over years, the feelings of being used or feeling like a sex receptacle.
Guilting, manipulating, or demanding someone to perform if they don't want to is abusive. Period.
And when you are a victim of YEARS of manipulative guilt, demands, and masturbatory sex, then it becomes even less appealing to have sex with the partner who demands it.”
“I'm not against premarital sex, but it doesn't prevent sex problems in marriage. Like this couple, many people are different in the beginning and change over time.”
hdvh56 on Feb 13, 2014 at 16:32:42
“No,it doesn't and I never said it did.I personally don't believe that people were meant to spend their whole life with 1 person but that's a whole other topic and I'll probably get attacked for saying it.”
“He probably did find a woman who is sexually attracted to him. Let's hope so”
Hufffan on Feb 13, 2014 at 16:12:19
“All abusive hyper-sexual men with intimacy disconnects move on to the next body parts they can rule over.
How dreamy that must be.
There's someone for everyone. Until they've had enough and run as far as possible and write about the misery they lived through and got away from and finally feel free and complete again.”
“That's not what a lot of people mean by "throwing it on" someone. I have always heard that term to mean giving it to them really passionately - like the opposite of what you said.”
Hufffan on Feb 13, 2014 at 16:16:55
“She did not say "throwing it on" and did not mean anything put being mounted and slammed with no participation from her.
It's completely masturbatory behavior into a warm hole without caring about what he's thrown himself on.”
“So for some people it goes away and for others they can't turn it off? You don't think anyone keeps it going on purpose? Why?”
Christopher LaHaise on Feb 13, 2014 at 12:00:44
“Biology. It isn't something controlled. Sort of like saying 'well, I'm going to be running on adrenaline 24/7'. It's all nice to say you'd like to do that, but your body isn't going to listen to your demands.”
“And those who don't want to let that NRE go away? They are not normal I guess, but isn't that a thing people strive for in relationships?”
Christopher LaHaise on Feb 13, 2014 at 01:05:51
“It isn't something you can stop 'going away'. The human brain's wired to produce the chemicals for a limited time. It goes away on its own. You go from 'wow, I can't get my hands off you and want to have sex and such all the time' to 'wow, I feel wonderful when I'm around you, and want to hold you'. For most people, it's a natural progression. For some people, it seems, it is an addiction. The body, apparently, can't turn it off.”