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Dear Young Me: 7 Things Brokenhearted People Would Tell Their Younger Selves

Dear Young Me: 7 Things Brokenhearted People Would Tell Their Younger Selves

Commented Jun 10, 2012 at 07:42:13 in Divorce

“Dear Younger Me,

Your experiences are your own, and anonymous lists on the internet should not be used as guidance, only as entertainment.
Love,
Older Me

Ps- Huffpo will be running a list of "Dear Younger Me". Its all depressing, pseudo relationship advice. You wont be missing anything too important if you don't read it.”

SomeAllYeah on Jun 10, 2012 at 10:13:00

“That was a great post. Fanned!”

Jason Wags on Jun 10, 2012 at 07:55:49

“You Rock! The depressed and bitter me thanks you for that bit of sanity. Now I need to get off HP and get a grip on reality.”
Porn & Relationships: Men's Pornography Use Tied To Lower Self-Esteem In Female Partners

Porn & Relationships: Men's Pornography Use Tied To Lower Self-Esteem In Female Partners

Commented Jun 3, 2012 at 12:27:27 in Science

“*They're

If you'd read the article, you would have a more meaningful response.”

tomeb on Jun 3, 2012 at 12:40:10

“Maybe the head line should read different.. But then again it's media marketing.”
Vic Gundotra, Google's Social Chief, Explains What Google+ Is (But Not Why To Use It)

Vic Gundotra, Google's Social Chief, Explains What Google+ Is (But Not Why To Use It)

Commented Mar 11, 2012 at 19:40:48 in Technology

“This explanation just makes me even more irritated with Google+ and essentially all other Google products. They need to stop mining my search history and start delivering the emails I never received on my horrible Gmail account.”

ihavequestions on Mar 12, 2012 at 02:08:27

“You can turn off personalized search.”
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American Apparel Racial Photoshop 'Fail' Explained (UPDATE, PHOTOS)

Commented Mar 2, 2012 at 10:57:11 in Style

“Geniuses creating "news" where there is no news.”
Elevator Safety: After Deaths, Should We Be Worried About Riding In Elevators?

Elevator Safety: After Deaths, Should We Be Worried About Riding In Elevators?

Commented Dec 16, 2011 at 10:54:21 in Healthy Living

“I wouldn't say that "nothing" would happen from jumping on an elevator. My boyfriend and I live in a highrise, and have broken the elevator on two different occasions as a result of drunken bouncing. I've spent nearly 3 hours of my life in that elevator awaiting rescue (somehow managing not to be forced to establish a "pee corner"). Don't jump in elevators.”
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Black Friday Worker Rescued From Canal After Losing Control Of Car Due To Exhaustion

Commented Nov 27, 2011 at 10:39:57 in Business

“I have worked for Target, and Black Friday is the one day out of the entire year when every single employee is required to be present. It is not considered optional.”

destin023 on Nov 27, 2011 at 10:47:35

“Yeah, I somewhat figured that Cheryl, ty for that information. It sounds like this particular lady isn't cut out for the all night shift..”
Reporter Fail: Russian Anchor Gives Middle Finger On Live TV (VIDEO)

Reporter Fail: Russian Anchor Gives Middle Finger On Live TV (VIDEO)

Commented Nov 21, 2011 at 17:37:14 in Comedy

“Yes, there is clearly no way we could possibly know what this woman was saying... You couldn't find anyone to translate before publishing this???”

Exfl on Nov 21, 2011 at 17:48:23

“Anyone speaking Russian will immediately be accused of being a "commie" by the right wing bloggers.”
The New Rules Of Sun Safety

The New Rules Of Sun Safety

Commented May 31, 2011 at 16:03:40 in Healthy Living

“I don't know why I continue to read the "Health News" here. Its consistently horrible.”

John Rathe on May 31, 2011 at 16:11:38

“Seriously. Anything from Health.com should just be discarded as pure trash.”
'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

Commented May 31, 2011 at 09:56:56 in Healthy Living

“neolithic cave”
Blame The Workplace For American Obesity

Blame The Workplace For American Obesity

Commented May 31, 2011 at 09:43:41 in Healthy Living

“Even having a physically active job, you can easily take in excessive calories, which is the main culprit in obesity. Physical activity is important for overall well being, but physical activity can only burn so many calories extra. The maximum level of calories that one can burn is only about 700-800 calories in an hour, and that is a high intensity work out. An extra "personal" sized bag of chips (like those in vending machines) easily compensates for that deficit in calories created by that exhausting work out.

Americans are suffering from disordered eating habits. We are constantly consuming high calorie beverages, processed, empty calories, and over indulging on our portion sizes. While exercise may be motivation to adjust your diet, the exercise alone, will do little to "cure" obesity. So pleases, don't blame your job for obesity.”
'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

Commented May 30, 2011 at 11:38:28 in Healthy Living

“I'm not interested in getting into a pissing contest with the guy that thinks he already knows everything. This is sure to be unfruitful, and a complete waste of my time, and likely yours. I'd like to, as respectfully as possible, agree to disagree.”

jimboy71 on May 30, 2011 at 12:43:40

“Look,

You're the one that pulled out your credentials in support of a weak and general argument, so to resort to an ad hom based on this is kinda immature. If you're truly interested in learning (and I make this assumption because you're an undergrad in psych), I suggest you READ what I wrote.

If you submit this kind of argument in your papers, you're in for a big surprise. I wish you well in your journeys, hope that your education is a success, and would humbly suggest a little humility when starting out on a voyage that others may just be further along in.

It will get you further here, it will get you further in life, and certainly, further in school. There are many academics on this site, including potentially, some of your own teachers. Think always about the quality of what you write and the coherence of your thinking.”
'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

Commented May 30, 2011 at 00:33:42 in Healthy Living

“As a psych major, and one with a vested interest in the subject, I have to say that you,sir, are the uninformed. Do some reading, friend.”

jimboy71 on May 30, 2011 at 10:09:41

“The truth is that we don't know how much of our makeup is cultural, and how much of it is biological. Hard determinists in the evolutionary psych camp reduce all culture to genetics, but the research is new, and mostly unproven.

Cultural relativists on the other hand, think that culture is entirely separate from biology, and that there is no such thing as biological determinism when it comes to cultural traits.

The way we form kin relationships and treat children falls under both biology and culture in my humble opinion, but the manner in which this expresses itself in a particular behaviour cannot be decisively labeled, because we simply haven't done enough research into the matter yet.

I would point you to animal studies (which have their own set of problems, not in the least observational bias) but it would seem that what you say is true of some species, but not of others. Because it isn't universal for parents to distinguish based on gender, I don't think you can make the bold claim that you have.

So I stand by my initial comment. I would suggest that YOU do some reading.

I hold three degrees. One in classics and anthropology, the other in philosophy, and the final one in communications and culture. I am quite widely read on the subject, thanks.”

jimboy71 on May 30, 2011 at 10:09:33

“Excuse me. When you've written your dissertation, get back to me.

The first sentence "in nature, a parent would raise a baby girl slightly different than a baby boy" is pap.

To begin with, you cannot lay claim to knowledge of what "in nature" looks like, and it's vague descriptor to begin with. Do you mean pre-technology? If so, we're dealing with a creature that isn't human, but on the human line. If you merely mean pre-historic, then we're not discussing "nature" at all, but rather something social. It's just a bad argument.

"Society" is another undergrad catch all with little meaning. You go from this empty general to something very specific to a segment of Western culture, namely colour preference when it comes to clothing. That's poor writing and poor argumentation.

Your final assertion that states we are "biologically inclined to treat boys and girls differently" is entirely a subjective claim, and the literature is full of contraditions, depending on how much of a rationalist, or empiricist the writer is.”
'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

Commented May 29, 2011 at 13:26:10 in Healthy Living

“I think you are missing my point. One doesn't decide their gender, the physical anatomy of the brain decides it. This was well demonstrated in the tragic case of David Reimer, a boy whose parents, under the ill advisement of a doctor at Johns Hopkins, attempted to raise their young boy as a girl (because of an accident during circumcision which left him lacking much external genitalia). He had a male brain, and was never fully convinced that he was a female, despite being taught that he was a female for his entire life.

No matter how this family raises the child, the child's brain has already determined his/her gender.”
'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

Commented May 29, 2011 at 10:21:21 in Healthy Living

“I agree with the first part, however post mortem studies of the brain has found that transgender individuals actually have brains that are developed to be inconsistent with the brain of their born gender. In a sense, they were born with a female brain, in a man's body (or vice versa).”

Eric Mann on May 29, 2011 at 11:14:21

“Not saying that doesn't happen, but that is post-mortem of an adult who made choices for him or her self on what gender they wanted to live as. This is a baby. I seriously doubt that the parents know what kind of brain it has.”
'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

'Secret Gender' Baby Sparks Debate

Commented May 29, 2011 at 10:16:26 in Healthy Living

“In nature, a parent would raise a baby girl slightly different than a baby boy. Society has obviously affected trivial things, such as the color pink, but its important not to forget biology and evolution. We are biologically inclined to treat boys and girls differently, based on their future survival needs.”

ThinkCreeps on May 31, 2011 at 09:40:24

“Which nature is that? The nature of the neolithic cave, or the nature of the 21st century?

You don't make any sense.”

jimboy71 on May 29, 2011 at 22:52:49

“Narrow, unproven, and incredibly uninformed commentary based upon confirmation bias and assumptions.”
Condoms In Porn: California Officials Consider New Rules

Condoms In Porn: California Officials Consider New Rules

Commented May 28, 2011 at 09:39:15 in Los Angeles

“All this will do is drive the porn industry out of California. I understand that it is important to advocate for safe sex, and to keep performers safe, but the industry is already very regulated, requiring regular testing of performers.

I understand that if I go home with a stranger from the bar (hypothetically), its a no-go unless there's a rubber. I wont lie, watching porn when there's that shiny condom glistening in the light is a turn off. Just knowing how crappy condom sex is, takes the fun out of watching others have to endure it too.”
Gonorrhea Is Growing Resistant To Drugs And May Soon Become Untreatable, WHO Warns

Gonorrhea Is Growing Resistant To Drugs And May Soon Become Untreatable, WHO Warns

Commented Jun 6, 2012 at 14:06:37 in Healthy Living

“Bacteria are exponentially more deadly than cancer in the short term. Sepsis resulting from Gonorrhea infection can occur weeks after becoming infected, and the sepsis will kill you in a matter of hours.”
Gonorrhea Is Growing Resistant To Drugs And May Soon Become Untreatable, WHO Warns

Gonorrhea Is Growing Resistant To Drugs And May Soon Become Untreatable, WHO Warns

Commented Jun 6, 2012 at 14:02:25 in Healthy Living

“Oh darn! I knew I was wasting my money on college!”
Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Commented Feb 12, 2012 at 13:23:03 in Divorce

“Precisely. Since when is age indicative of life experience and emotional maturity?”
Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Commented Feb 12, 2012 at 12:59:45 in Divorce

“It seems that you have interpreted my comments as some sort of personal attack against you. This is not the case. Take a chill pill.”

oceanwave on Feb 12, 2012 at 13:47:18

“Wrong again, I didn't take it personally. Take a chill pill, how old are you? I'm fine. Like I said in my original comment until you have walked in someone's shoes with the situation you really don't know about the situation. I have walked in those shoes and I know about it, that's all I was saying and you haven't. I don't get upset or take things personally on these comment boards, I have a lot more integrity than that. I find your comment amusing actually. Quit reading into something that is not there please. The best thing to do is agree to disagree. End of story.”
Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Commented Feb 12, 2012 at 12:56:40 in Divorce

“I am divorced, as a matter of fact.”
Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Commented Feb 12, 2012 at 12:19:50 in Divorce

“Hmm....This reminds me of my upcoming book called 'Why I'm Way Better Off Without That Dang College Degree'. Basically, the premiss is that when things get really hard, you should definitely give up, and later frame the experience as one showcasing your own personal bravery. Because it takes guts to give up on important things!

Apologies for the cynicism, but your argument has not swayed me. And I'm sorry it offends you that I would hold parents to a standard so high as to at least finish raising them.”

mommyoffour on Feb 12, 2012 at 20:20:02

“Well said...Two thumbs up!!!”

oceanwave on Feb 12, 2012 at 12:45:20

“I was not trying to sway you I was telling you something which I can tell you did not understand. I can also tell your compassion level is low or non-existent and you have tunnel vision. I said it offends every parent who has had to do this not just me. The first paragraph of your comment makes no sense at all and there is no reason to continue this because you don't understand anything that you don't want to. I have never given up on anything and as I said your compassion level etc. BTW I did finish raising my son and he is a very fine person. I suggest you get some understanding and compassion, it can go a long way. According to your ways, no matter what a parent even if it is detrimental to the child should not do anything even if it helped by letting the other parent have the child living with them. That is not a parent in high standing, that is an ignorant and selfish parent. You do what is best for the child not the parent. Have a nice day.”

mdipary2004 on Feb 12, 2012 at 12:31:39

“Excellent post Cheryl
Fan and Fav.”
Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Why I'm Glad I Gave My Ex Custody Of Our Son

Commented Feb 12, 2012 at 11:36:53 in Divorce

“I fail to see the justification for surrendering custody of your child in this situation. Teenagers misbehave, develop attitude problems and frequently prefer one parent over the other. If it helps you sleep at night to frame the situation as you have, then fine. But as a child of divorce, having done my share of misbehaving, I would have been in a whole heap of trouble if either of my parents had thrown in the towel as you did. Lazy "parenting".”

lilierosa on Feb 12, 2012 at 12:31:51

“How old are you? How man children do you have? Have you ever lived through a divorce?
Are you still harboring resentment against one or both pf your parents?
Do you know the difference between a "misbehaving" teen and a "troubled" teen?
You look like a child (twenties?) in that picture, so, I am guessing you do not have nearly enough life experience to comment on this issue.”

oceanwave on Feb 12, 2012 at 11:54:20

“Until you have ever been in a situation like this and walked in this woman's shoes you have absolutely no idea of what she went through. My case mirrored this woman's case and even though I didn't give up custody my son lived with his Dad for 1 1/2 years and it was the best thing I did and the very hardest thing I ever had to do. My son realized that the grass is not always greener on the other side and he also realized that his Dad was lying to him about me which I never said anything to him about. Yes teenagers misbehave but the misbehaving in this situation is different and it was different in my case. This woman just like me didn't throw in the towel or do lazy parenting, this decision was made out of love and understanding what had to be done. Your comment is an insult to many parents who have been in this situation and yes this includes me. It's wonderful that you got through your parents' divorce the way you did but not every case is the same, every case is very different. I will emphasize again that it is not throwing in the towel or lazy parenting. Think before you write things that offend people when you don't know what their situation is or was like.”

brownie56 on Feb 12, 2012 at 11:50:34

“sorry cheryl even though you are from divorced parents i am also divorced with 2 kids and unless you walked in our shoes you dont really know and it wasnt lazy parenting as you put it for her.”

Mother Teresa Ann on Feb 12, 2012 at 11:43:53

“100% agree. Fanned and faved.”
Why Can't Divorced Men Commit? I'll Tell You

Why Can't Divorced Men Commit? I'll Tell You

Commented Dec 14, 2011 at 17:28:04 in Divorce

“Since when is marriage synonymous with commitment? My boyfriend and I are both divorcees. I feel comfortable in his commitment toward me (sans ring on the finger). I feel like women pushing for marriage either have low self esteem, or ulterior motives (financial?).”

Wistfulslinking on Jan 1, 2012 at 13:45:05

“Since ...over 2000 years when people wanted to be married before starting a family.”
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