“Go Michelle! She's an intelligent, strong, and classy woman, demanding the respect she deserved. Not aggressive at all, just assertive. That is how you handle a heckler; quickly and sternly with authority.”
“Who's he to say whether Chris should date Rihanna or not? He hasn't been in his son's life for almost 20 years. Chris is a grown man. I'm sure he can decide if she's best for him. Obviously they love each other despite everything. They seem to be figuring it all out on their own after all these years. They're young anyway, they have time to grow up and get it together.”
“They're cute together. Young love is a sweet thing. He seems very into her, he's lucky she's giving him a second chance. But he's 19 and she'll be 21 soon...he's still got a lot of growing up to do so I hope she can handle his immaturity.”
“That's a really ignorant assumption. Most people just dye their hair a certain color because they like it. It really is that simple. I doubt Gwen Stefani bleaches her hair blonde to look more white. And so what if she has weaves? So does 95% of women in Hollywood. People can do whatever they want with their hair, it doesn't always have to be about race. No one ever throws a fit when a blonde woman dyes her hair brown or black. A woman with her natural hair color/texture doesn't necessarily have a higher self esteem than a woman who dyes or styles her hair.”
bertamae on Mar 26, 2013 at 20:18:59
“There was nothing ignorant about my post. Also, I find the fact that you use white woman as examples proves my point. So you are equating what a white woman does with her to what a black woman does with her hair. Why can you not have a conversation about black women's hair without bringing white women into the conversation. They are insignificant to my appearance and my decisions in what I should look like.
What many strong black parents were trying to do in th 60's 70's and 80's was to make sure their children had a sense of self that reflected a pride within themselves. They did not want their children running around buying into a white aesthetic.
I do not believe that relaxing ones hair is a self esteem issue. However, if you are terrified of the natural texture of your hair then you might have an issue and are at war with yourself.”
“Dying your hair has nothing to do with being proud of your race. It's just hair. It doesn't define her.”
bertamae on Mar 26, 2013 at 17:20:11
“I know that isthe pat answer- but hair color does have something to do with race. Whether you like it or not blond hair is a hair color that only white people have. (Please do not mention the obscure tribe in that isolated third world culture because they are truly and anomaly). Also hair is not just hair. Never was and never will be.
It is not the equivilent of dying ones hair pink or green or purple.
Black women who dye their hair blond have an issue and you cannot run from it.
The exception may be the black women in the 70's who died their TWA's (teeny weenie afros blond to make a political statement or be avant garde.
But blond hair (along with the weaves) just spell desperation and lack of self esteem. ”
“I'm so happy for her! Her career is going from strength to strength and her love life is back on track. 2013 is already an awesome year for Rihanna. Wishing her the best!! She looked stunning at the Grammys and super happy. I loved the simple performance of Stay, it let her and Mikky's vocals shine through.”
“Well she has her reasons, I don't know their relationship, but it seems they've never really stopped loving each other despite everything. I don't know what's going on behind closed doors but they seem determined to be together and make it work this time”
Ericellent on Feb 7, 2013 at 12:46:06
“I hate it when this kind of stuff gets fluffed up with statements about "making it work." They didn't have disagreements, they had a fight. No, not a fight, a beating. In order to love someone, you must be able to trust them implicitly. You must be able to feel safe in their arms. If not them, who? How can someone who loves another watch them be beaten, let alone be the one doing the beating? Romanticizing the surrounding factors does nothing to change the fact that you should not accept violence in a relationship. I believe in second chances, but his second and third chance were the second and third hits. I feel sorry for Rihanna, not happy.”
“She can't change Chris. I think she gets that or she wouldn't have taken so long to take him back. Sure he throws fits every now and then but nothing nearly as horrific as what he did to Rihanna.”
Dreamking on Feb 7, 2013 at 16:19:38
I guess I’m skeptical because I’ve known so many people with anger issues and I’ve found that anger is as addictive as any chemical. Additionally, celebrities are coddled in ways that deny them taking responsibility for their actions, as any regular person would.
Look at Lilo.
Of course the other side of the equation is that nothing happens in a vacuum.
There are people (both male and female) who find themselves in serial abusive relationships because it is the behaviors modeled for them in early years and they are actually comfortable being in them. It’s what they know.
But following your lead, I will wish the both of them happiness and success.
But this is for sure: One thing you can’t hide is when you’re crippled inside….
“She really loves him and cares about his well being. Rihanna has been so supportive when she could have been angry, spiteful and bitter still. Chris is lucky to have someone like her! I really hope things work out for them this time and that he appreciates her. It's been several years now, it must have taken a LOT of work to get to this point. Albeit he still struggles with his anger, if they work together and they've learned from the past, they can maintain a healthy relationship. They're consenting adults, they'll figure it out. I wish them the best”
sheppard1 on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:47:45
Ruby Davis on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:40:44
This is NOT LOVE!!! It's co-dependency and low self-esteem on the part of both of them. They need to be apart, get some much needed therapy and heal. They cannot heal together because both of them have UNRESOLVED ISSUES from their past and combining the two is a recipe for disaster. Chris Brown witnessed a lot of domestic violence against his mother and he is still very angry about that because he felt he was powerless to help his mom. Rihanna witnessed her mom being abused as well and her father is verbally abusive towards her. These two young individuals need to heal before they can ever have a meaningful relationship besides sex. Sex is just sex, it is not a meaningful relationship and the two should not be confused!!!”
Ericellent on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:29:51
“It's great that Rihanna has love in her heart, but Chris is trash and she could do far better. This guy acts like he is above the law and it shows.”
Dreamking on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:24:59
I don't think he struggles with his anger, he indulges it.
Plus, he's surrounded by people who make money off of him; people who will allow him any behaviors he chooses, as long as it doesn't jeopardize their cut.
If there was evidence of his trying to improve or deal with his situation; therapy, 12-step-programs, whatever, I might be more compassionate towards him.
But what I see is a spoiled young man who cannot handle being told "No".
As far as Rhianna is concerned, I known too many women who believed that they could change his behavior with their "love" and that he was essentially a "good" man.
And most continue to believe it all the way up to their 6th visit to the emergency room with blackened eyes and loosened teeth.
This ain't a fairytale.....”
Yank in France on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:23:46
“I would give my kingdom for a woman like Rihanna! Too bad I don't have a kingdom. -:)Seriously, she has a beautiful heart which I hope remains intact after all is said and done with Chris Brown.”
JFetch on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:20:07
“She's a battered woman. They always say they love their man up to the point where he kills them.”
VeggieLove on Feb 7, 2013 at 11:19:56
“She is a victim of domestic violence. Do not let her fame and fortune fool you into thinking she has not suffered strongly due to abuse.”