“Agreed. There are many parents who truly turn the set on and leave it on all day with little interaction. The study didn’t further quantify the ‘bad’ parents. I know some like this and their children do suffer for this, though they see nothing wrong with it. I think that the lack of real face to face interaction is the worst detriment. Being physically active is huge too and kids aren’t doing that if they are sitting all day.”
“If you left your money in place in 08, you’d be very happy right now. If you panicked and withdrew everything, then you are not. If you pull your money out, you’ve secured your loss. There are many (thousands?!) of highly rated mutual funds that are doing incredibly well. But you must not panic as the market ebbs and flows. I’ve been getting way above 20% for years now, despite 08.”
“That is very interesting. Thank you for the reply. I have been to Italy several times and loved it so much. That it one place could easily see myself living. It seems they have the ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ feeling still and in the US that has been abandoned leaving families worn out and suffering. ”
“It would be helpful in this article to show the factors and rates of all variables to help explain what puts the US so far behind, rather they just spelled out how terrible we were with no explanation. It might help future parents to know what sets us so far apart.”
juliet marilynne on May 7, 2013 at 11:19:51
“here's a big reason:
other countries don't allow every spare dime to be dropped into defense.
as they say on 'teh interwebs', "that is why we can't have nice things."”
CielArdent9 on May 7, 2013 at 10:05:04
“Well, as pointed out by commenters here, many of these countries have universal health care and give longer maternity leave for mothers. Also, the U.S. is one of the very few countries in the world - rich and poor! - that have paternity leaves. Yes, an impoverished African country has paternity leave and the U.S. doesn't.”
“That is interesting, while it didn’t apply in my case I did see an awful lot of babies in our NICU that had little to no prenatal care and in many cases the parents rarely or some never visited their babies. We saw babies die every day while our son was there. It was an eye opener to a whole different side of life and parenthood.”
“That doesn’t account for or detail rates of use. I am trying to find that information out of curiosity. I, like many are very curious why the US rates so very low and I find if interesting that so many countries with socialized medicine fare so well. (Not trying at all to start a debate about that!)”
shaunmarie on May 7, 2013 at 09:59:26
“PS - there is a vast difference in how children are viewed in the EU.
In Italy - my child was welcomed everywhere. Restaurants made a fuss. (I the US - he was greeted with a glare.). In museums that featured Da Vinci, he was allowed to much biscuits. In the US we were yelled at. In Europe I would breast feed as he needed, and no one thought twice In the US - even when he was a newborn, I faced hostility. In Europe, perfect strangers helped us with luggage, gave up their seats on trains and buses. In the US - we were on our own.
In Europe, his pre-school teachers heard I had lost my job. They waived his fees, and collected food and canned goods to see us through. Can you even imagine that in the US??
I was a newly divorced single mom , I couldn't speak the language.. r. Everyone helped as much as they could to help me with that child. My neighbors looked out for us. Everyone pitched in - made life as easy for me as their means could allow... for no reason but they saw that I was a mother with a young child.
This kindness is NOT something one would ever expect in the US. This is why I chose to leave the US, and stay in Europe.”
shaunmarie on May 7, 2013 at 09:45:00
“I live in one of the top ranked countries.
I can tell you.
When you don't feel well, you go to the Doctor. The doctor orders tests. Problems are caught early.
In the US, even WITH insurance, the co-pays are very high... so people avoid the doctor.
I have lived with both systems... (I had my child in the US as a US citizen, with great insurance.)
I cannot even begin to tell you how much better my care is here, in poor Italy as compared to the gold standard care I had in the US. It's better here by magnitudes. And please believe me when I tell you that I had the BEST insurance money could buy, in San Francisco (which is already a better health care market than much of the US).
This - combined with a genuine love and concern for families in europe - which is not the case in the US (Your kid. Your problem. Why do mothers get so many more "rights" than me) - there is also a huge attitudinal difference towards mothers and children in Europe - and that might be the biggest factor of all.”
“I agree, more details would be helpful. I tried to look up rates of IVF in Europe and it was not an easy search. I did see that there are 16 IVF clinics in London and I can imagine in a city that size here, it would be much, much higher.”
“I often wonder if our (USA) rate of maternal death and death of children before age 5 is related to our rate of use of artificial means of conception and our trend of delaying motherhood. In other words, it is ideal to have babies earlier and by natural means. I am one who had 2 babies in my 30’s and did almost die along with my son during delivery so I am speaking from a place of personal curiosity, not judgement.”
eva07 on May 7, 2013 at 16:50:04
“Not too likely, as delaying motherhood and all that comes with it is mostly middle class or higher, while maternal and infant death not so much.”
CielArdent9 on May 7, 2013 at 09:22:23
“It's a trend among industrialized countries, not just in the U.S.”
shaunmarie on May 7, 2013 at 09:19:12
“No. Not only is artificial conception popular in Europe, it is also covered by state health care.”
dcasarrubias on May 7, 2013 at 08:30:00
“Has nothing to do will delayed motherhood. In Europe the average amount of children per family is 1.2. In Europe the average new mother is 32.”
cheaper by the dozen on May 7, 2013 at 08:28:27
“A lot of factors have to be taken into consideration. These were not broken down in this article. I am sure these other industrialized countries have access to fertility treatments. The comparative rate of use would answer your question. I wish the authors would have included references to some of the other information.”
Marc NL on May 7, 2013 at 08:26:43
“I think it has something to do with the lack and focus on preventative healthcare.
It's hard to get time off to see a doctor unless it personal time and a lot of people just can't afford to see a doctor as often as in other countries.
just my two cents.”
lowlander1965 on May 7, 2013 at 08:20:20
“Without having any numbers at hand, I think that this is hardly likely, as delayed motherhood (and the associated artificial means of conception) are also occuring in Europe and these countries have significantly lower numbers of maternal death and death of children.”
“A missing governor doesn’t cause a large scale expensive search. OK... Sanford had his phone and chose to keep the ‘missing’ facade going. Nevermind his family, what was the true cost of search in the mountains to find him?”
One of probably thousands of links to studies regarding the topic. Homeowners Insurance companies must know if you own one of these breeds due to the rate of claims they produce. It is fact. Note, it doesn’t mean all of them are awful, but it is a fact, they are a breed with aggressive tendencies, it is more than just the ‘bad owner’ syndrome. The issue isn’t only the aggressiveness, but the damage capable of being inflicted due to their musculature.”
“This is very sad. It shows that MUCH more needs to be done. This demonstrates one of many of the rights marriage provides. They had the medical Power of Attorney that was ignored. There is no excuse for that, except bigotry. I will do all I can in my lifetime to ensure equality and fairness and also teach that to my children.”
“There are already families with 2 mothers or 2 fathers, so legalizing gay marriage won’t cause an onslaught of gay families which you seem to fear will harm you in some way.
Do you fear you will lose your rights as a straight person? I can never get a read on the driving force of those so strongly against this.”
ls4mu on Mar 25, 2013 at 15:16:30
“"There are already families with 2 mothers or 2 fathers, so legalizing gay marriage won’t cause an onslaught of gay families..."
Now, REALLY! Do you also believe in the tooth fairy? As for my being "harmed" - physically no. But as a member of this society and living within the cultural forays of our times, I do feel I'm being forced to witness changes within our cultural that attack my beliefs of what's right and what's wrong. And, yes, I'm helpless to respond effectively, given the tenacity of the gay community via changing laws, educational curriculums, (insidious at times), and social media to wreak havoc and mayhem until they get their way.
I'm not one for bashing gays, I'm related to one. But I would even challenge him if he insisted on trying to redirect my thinking about the meaning of marriage as between two men or two women. Call it something else, but in my opinion it will NEVER replace the meaning of marriage!
As per what already is, drinking is legal, but drunk driving isn't. We don't have to take things to its extreme.
But as they say, another man's garbage is someone else's gold. I'll leave you to determine which is which.”
“Also consider how many parents are in denial and/or refuse to diagnose their child, even if an evaluation is suggested by their pediatrician or school. I happen to see this more often than the other way around. There is no way around it, this is an epidemic.”
“Yes, age of parents has been studied. It’s not just older mothers, but older fathers as well. All of these have been sited as correlated, among many other things. It occurs with great frequency in younger families as well so it is not the only smoking gun.”
“Exactly. This is very real. This is neurological/genetic/mitochondrial disfunction and evident on brain imaging and blood work/urinalysis/genetic testing. They are continually finding more and more physiological markers for autism. I’m saddened and shocked to see some still claim these concrete signs are false. The lack of empathy is sad for those in the thick of it every day.”
“I agree mplsdiva. I bet most people who were seriously harmed or their child killed never thought their dog would do it too. All the naysayers are sure their dog wouldn’t hurt anyone as well. I hope you are 100% certain, which is impossible with an animal. Hindsight sadly doesn’t work in this case.”