“I've been part of a Pet Partners team with my chocolate lab, Moose, for 4 years. I am always amazed at how happy our patients are to see him every week. It cheers the staff to see him in the hallway and makes my day much brighter, too.
Highly recommend it!”
“We began our blog as a way to think and write about this period in our lives which will last from the time we dropped our eldest off at their freshman dorms until the last ones (now seniors in high school) graduate from college. It is a decade of our families' lives....”
“Lisa, "helping them feels like love" is such a simple truth. It is also how many of us have gotten into the predicaments we are in with over-helping! I love your habit of counting to 20 instead of immediately texting back to your sons when they ask for help.....kinda miss my superpowers, though. It felt good to find Rabbit and Lamby.”
“Lisa, I could not agree with you more. When you let the pilot light go out under your professional life, it is much harder to come back. As I said on these pages (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/grown-and-flown/why-i-regret-being-a-stay-at-home-mom_b_3402691.html) last month I left a job to be a stay-at-home mom because my job had no flexibility and almost no time with my kids during the work week. Some of the costs to leaving the workplace were easily anticipated but many of them were surprises to me and to many women looking to go back to work. One thing I wish I had done was plan my exit and reentry as carefully as I had planned my career from the start.”
“Father's Day is bittersweet for those of us who have lost our dads. Being able to write about mine and have him included with some of his wonderful sayings helps me remember a few of the many ways he imparted his values to me and my sister. Thanks, HufPost50!”
“Seeing the 1961 letter from the Harvard prof and reading Phylis Richman's 2013 response provided for some interesting time traveling. I can hardly wait to show this to my teenage daughter as further proof of how difficult the workforce and academia used to be for women.”
“Congratulations, Lisa, on your award. I share some of your work experiences of full time, part time and free lance. I also share with you the motherhood experience of a son in the college class of '13. We now have young adults to write about with a personal framework. That may call for a whole new camera, and not just a new lens.”
“Recently the most "perfect" mom I know told me of her overwhelming anxiety and my friend with the most "perfect" marriage, told me just how perfect it was not. What happened? I grew up a little, realized that the need for perfect was a childish notion and became so so so much closer to my two friends. This is a wonderful idea! http://grownandflown.com/i-should-know-better/”
“Thanks for the list but, as I think of my daughter's upcoming prom and listen to how she and her friends discuss it, I think hers will be much, much better than mine. The girls have developed a well-defined code of behavior aka "Prom Commandments." One of the rules is that they each take care of the other girls to make sure everyone has a date. Being dateless for your prom never has to happen again as long as you have loyal friends.”
“My longstanding policy on Mother's Day is to NOT go to the grocery store and NOT do laundry. As long as someone else takes care of these tasks (more likely I double up on Sat and Mon) and I get to see my kids and husband on the day, I have few other requests. Hold me to it, OK?”
“I love Willie and have seen him perform in TX and NY and have lots of his CD's. He is one of my all-time favorite singers and songwriters. One thing you left off your list is his altruism. Right now, he is helping those families suffering great loss in West, Texas, which you can read about on his website here: http://willienelson.com/story/how-can-you-help-west-texas/”
“I too am one of the 43% and am faced with Paulette's exact quandary. I left the workforce because my job was 7 to 7 and someone else was raising my kids. I left knowing that I would have regrets as they kids got older, and I do. I look on at my peers who stayed in the full time workforce and cannot help but feel a touch of envy. I missed something, but I know that they did too. http://grownandflown.com/the-mommy-war-within/”
“I interviewed Bob and Suzanne Wright, the founders of Autism Speaks, They said they could take up the cause because they are not parents, but rather grandparents, and as such have far more time and resources. Maybe our best parenting advocate days are ahead, once our kids are grown.”
“Tina Fey is a gifted actress and one funny lady, especially when she was writing and acting in Thirty Rock and SNL. The topics she deals with in Admission are interesting to us, since we have kids in 11th grade who are starting their own admission process. I am looking for entertainment, with this movie, and not parenting advice!”
“It seems clear to us that social media will play a role in whatever activity people engage in for the next stage of their lives. It argues for people to try to learn NOW about all the platforms out there and stay current. Understanding how to use technology and social media can open doors at a time in life when they are most welcome.”
“WHen I speak to young adults it is clear that they feel very differently about coming back home than their parent's generation did. For boomers it was a sign of life's plans gone wrong. Yet current young adults find no disappointment at returning to their parent's doorstep. For better or worse their relationship with their parents and what is acceptable among their peers makes returning home a very easy transition.”
sugarcreekchile on Jan 29, 2013 at 04:11:37
“As a boomer, leaving our parents' home wasn't because we had a great desire to be on our own or that it was a sign of success. The social dynamic changed in the 60's. Our parents and grandparents didn't have sex before marriage, went to church every Sunday, etc. There was a huge value gap. If you spent the night with your boyfriend, you'ld hear what a 'ho you were for the next 10 years. It wasn't our parents we were escaping but their archaic value system. My own parents lived with my grandmother for 4 years when they married and then had me. There wasn't a problem because their values were the same. There isn't a giant value gap between us and our children now which is why they're comfortable living at home without feeling stigmatized.
My own son moved back home to attend the state university and save money, after spending 5 years in the Navy to get GI bill benefits. He has his own income, buys his own food, does his laundry, pays his share of the utilities and his own bills. Not all adult children living at home are sponging off their parents and have mommy make their bed. I only see my son in passing because he's busy with college, friends or his girlfriend. My son, like many parents' adult children living at home, doesn't cost me a dime or interfere with any empty nest plans I've made.”
sugarcreekchile on Jan 29, 2013 at 03:22:32
“Instead of taking out loans, my son joined the Navy for GI bill benefits. He completed serveral college courses while in the service and made the decision to attend the state university in our city and to live at home to save money.
I got to have an empty nest for 5 years and there's little difference now. He has his own income from the GI bill and a service-connected disability. is either at school, studying, out with friends or his girlfriend. He pays his share of the utilities, buys this own food, does his own laundry, pays his own blls and insists on splitting the cost of home improvements or repairs while saving extra money for his own home.
Having an adult child return home or not leave home doesn't necessarily mean that they're home to sponge off their parents, have their parents care for them like children or that their parents have to postpone things they want to do. The stigma's no longer there. As a boomer, we wanted to get away because there was a big value shift in the 60's. Our parents didn't have sex outside of marriage, went to church every Sunday, etc, It wasn't our parents we were running from but their archaic ideas. With our children, there isn't much of a value gap, When they live at home, they can have their own lives without facing value conflicts with their parents..”
“What was it with permed hair that seemed to attract so many of us during the 80s? This was a great collection of fashion missteps and I love the self-effacing ability that each writer has to laugh at herself. Well done, Gen Fab!”
detalumis on Jan 9, 2013 at 12:25:02
“The current crop of women with obsessively pin straight hair regardless of head shape and facial features will cringe as well in 20 years when they look back at their pictures. I think the 50s hairstyles were even worse than the 80s, even seriously beautiful actresses looked dorky with Mamie Eisenhower bangs and pony tails or really tight curls.”