“First congratulations on exceeding a goal and feeling great about it. I do have a question and its well intentioned and in no way meant to be snarky. Are there real health benefits to nursing after 12 months? The health benefits in the first year are well documented but after that year are the nutrients having any effect on the developing brain? In an industrialized society where presumably a child has access to healthy food and vitamins? I completely understand the emotional benefits for some children but I'm curious about the nutritional ones. You mention the immunity but any mom can list off ten exclusively breast fed babies that got sick in their first year so I really think that is situational.
I bring this up because I don't think it's fair to promote extended breast feeding as a superior health decision if its not. Not that I believe you did in this article but I'm speaking in general terms.
Mothers have so much guilt about so many issues and I would argue we don't need one more.
I really just want to throw the question out there about health? If there aren't any actual health benefits that's fine. Advocates can talk about bonding and nurturing and those of us that aren't nursing won't go crazy trying to replicate vitamins feeling like we aren't providing the right stuff.”
mimimom1 on Aug 28, 2013 at 22:22:48
“What health "benefits" are you expecting, exactly? Human milk is obviously a nutritious substance for baby humans, it doesn't cease being nutritious, or inferior to milk meant for baby cows, on day 366 of life. My daughter wouldn't drink cow's milk at a year, breast milk was an important component of her diet until age 2. Nursing also kept her out of the hospital with dehydration when she got severe food poisoning at 20 months old and wouldn't take any liquids other than breast milk. This story was just one person's positive experience with nursing past a year, no one needs to take it personally and feel "guilty" for making different choices.”
“I love the message but this is exactly the type of celebrity statement that comes approximately one month before the big weight loss reveal. Obviously she has a right to work towards whatever weight/clothing size she wants but the "I feel good about my body at any size" message doesn't have the same impact when they all go back to a 0 or 2.”
Tova O on Oct 1, 2013 at 22:19:54
“What's wrong when moms "go back to" their usual weight in a slow, healthy way? She lost 28 pregnancy pounds in 3 months. Sounds good to me.”
“I've seen a bias against active and loud play that is common with young kids most typically boys. I find it troublesome that a girl can dress head to toe in pick and play princess but a boy can't don a character he likes and use his imagination. Early childhood education should have room for all types of play. If kids act in appropriately you correct the behavior you don't remove their outlet for creativity.”
“I'm reading this while folding laundry but came home from work to a house cleaned by a cleaning service. We are far from wealthy but determined we would pay for bi monthly cleaning as a trade off for other things. We both work and would rather spend time with our children on the weekends and relax in the evenings. Others may prioritize the vacations or furniture or other expenses we go without but this works for our family. Find what works for you and stop judge g other people's choices. There was a time we couldn't do this but now we can.”
“Yes I would yank my kids out of the restaurant but neither one of them suffers from what this commenter described or what the child in the article endures. These blogs are useful to understand experiences completely foreign to our own. Its not helpful to only apply our perspective with children and child rearing to the scenario. My kids are 6 and 3 and can have wicked temper tantrums but they can also handle being punished and can calm down on their own. Some can't and its not a case of parents not parenting.”
“She doesn't "do" anything. She stands there and sympathizes or provides some level of comfort to another mom. If this was in the parking lot of a frat house, or a bar, or really any other place that wasn't for parents of small children I'd get it but it's a day care center for Pete's sake. Other parents of young kids should be able to relate to panic. It may not be what you would panic about but why wouldn't you want to provide even a minute of comfort to another mom?”
“Here's a list of topics I never want to read on parents blogs again (Huff Post I'm looking at you ).
Why I breast feed
Why I extend breast feed
Why my kids will never eat a non- organic food as long as I'm alive.
Why I don't own a tv.
Why I don't work .
Why your kids are screwed if you don't work.
Why I think baby wearing, cloth diapering, homeschoolers are destined for therapy.
Why I'm a proud attachment/free ranger/helicopter/tiger mom/slow parent.
For the love of God no more my feelings were hurt by others when I nursed OR when I chose not to nurse.
These topics have officially been done to death. There is absolutely nothing more to say it's all been said.
Here are topics if love to read.
How to set up a parent resource exchange between working and non/ working parents.
How to talk to your kid about the child with Asbergers in their class .
How to teach respect for authority in an increasingly informal culture. Does it matter?
You get my point. New topics that can actually be helpful and haven't been published over and over again.”
Aug 21, 2013 at 11:52:23
“My phone won't let me reply to my original comment. I guess I meant unreasonable not irrational. For example in the US there is a reasonable person question in trials. Would a reasonable person do x, y, or z? so would a reasonable person suggest death for a child making noise? No.”
Aug 20, 2013 at 19:46:38
“I want this woman investigated by Child Protective Services. I fear for her kids. She suggested killing a child because of how his brain works. Kill.a.child. This is so beyond freedom of speech this is a mentally unstable woman run amuck. If this is what she considers rational then her own kids are in danger.”
ROSSELLA1 on Aug 23, 2013 at 04:58:42
“I agree. She has threatened a child and their family which is illegal and child abuse. Her own children could be in danger and should be taken and placed in a safer environment.”
“Emily, Lenore began her advocacy after she let her 9 year old son ride the NYC subway on his own. She was dubbed "worst mom in America" and appeared on several morning shows to talk about her parenting style. She strongly believes that as a society we react, without thinking, to irrational fears regarding children's safety. For example she continuously reminds people that abduction rates are far lower then they were in what was thought of as a safer time. I followed her blog for awhile not because I agree with her 100% of the time (I don't) but because it made me think about what I view as safe and typical.”
“You know what? I've never understood extended nursing. I respect everyone's decision but for myself (who formula fed two infants) I've always felt that extended nursing is more about the mother's emotional needs and not the child's. I've also been skeptical about applying health recommendations for children living in developing nations (without the nutrition, medical care, and hygiene of 1st world nations) to young children on the US.
But this article makes sense to me. I don't know if it was because the toddler's schedule interfering with the family's plan is so relatable. Or if the hospitalized toddler receiving breast milk made me look at those nutrition claims in a new way. For some reason I really empathized with this writer. Thanks for sharing.”
gygarcia2009 on May 27, 2013 at 23:12:46
“Those are obviously your own feelings. Towards the end of nursing my 4 year old, I wanted it to stop, but I did it for him, not for my own "emotional need." I had a hard time weaning him. I wish everyone could make sense of it as you did from the article. And I know a lot of moms, including me, who had bad experiences just starting to breastfeed...it truly is a labor of love that requires patience and a lot of perseverance.”
Katecake on May 27, 2013 at 20:14:12
“This comment made me cry. Thank you so much. It was much needed on a hard day! Thank you!”
“So much around birth stories focus on pushing and feelings of being a powerful woman. I love that this happens but I wouldn't know how it feels because I brought two children into to the world via c-section. The two best days of my life but I can't relate to the common birth stories and so I often think of those days with a little regret and even shame. It's annoying because those of us that had c-sections gave these children life from our bodies none the less. We have scars that tell the story and often those stories are fraught with medical emergencies and courage. We should wear our recovery stories with a badge of honor and recount the physical and emotional stories for those women yet to experience it.
When we tell about the emotional torture of waiting an hour to hold our babies or the searing pain when the nurse has you get up for the first time we should let women know that it will get better. When the milk doesn't come easy because of the meds or when you have to "choose" not to have a vbac because of medical risk we need to let women know that they are natural mothers too.
I mentally compared my situation to the birth stories I had heard over and over again and none of them included what I was going through. It's time to claim our birth experiences as legitimate and not unfortunate alternatives.”
Crispaccio on Apr 13, 2013 at 19:55:54
“You're absolutely correct. I just don't get this issue that women have with each other over their births ... as if being a new mother or trying to figure out how to balance having a toddler and a NB, now we have to feel guilty because of perceived inadequacies or laziness? And, once you say to the natural birth mothers, "well, i had xyz risks", there seems to be a "wow, ok, i see why you had to have a c/s" ... why can't we all just be happy that our children come out healthy and, if they don't happen to be healthy, that everyone survived and start providing a supportive, trusting network.”