“What does this all mean anyway? My "guy friend " is twice divorced. The last one ripped his heart out, stomped on it, and threw it in the dumpster. No wonder he's weary. Me, I'm widowed last year and started seeing my " guy friend" in June. I was married 35 years before my husband passed away. I haven't dated since I was 18. Yeah, there are new rules.”
“My guy friend and I are FWB. I can't say I blame him as he is twice divorced BUT I wouldn't hurt him. He has self-esteem issues. Doesn't he want someone to love him for who he is? He has many good qualities. His exes ruined it for someone like me who would want to have a real relationship with him. BTW we are in our mid 50's. Input on this please.”
mathius1 on Aug 30, 2013 at 00:41:32
“and, if you like the guy, be happy as a FWB. You get to spend time with the guy. He spends time with you. Yet you both are free to take care of your own life business without the hassles of having to constantly answer to one another. You guys are in a relationship. Enjoy it.”
mathius1 on Aug 30, 2013 at 00:38:27
“My experience says that women really dont appreciate men for who they are. They want something other than who the man really is. Most women refuse to let their men be who they really are, pursue their real interests. They try and squash the man inside and make them into whatever their little princess dream man is supposed to be.”
OtayPanky on Aug 29, 2013 at 20:10:56
“Clearly you DO have a "real relationship" with him. It's just not a conventional, hetero-normative relationship.
And that is a big part of the shift that's going on. First, women decided they had the right to redefine their own lives in a non-hetero-normative way. You know, "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle". Now, many men are doing the exact same thing - whether from divorce, or simply a recognition that co-habitation and marriage aren't necessarily the best options, much less the only ones.
One of HuffPo's biggest bloggers here in the divorce section, Vicki Larson, has a post-conventional relationship like this. She lives in one home, her S.O. lives in another, and that's the way she likes it.”