“There's a great book by Barbara Strauch, The Secret Life of the Grown-up Brain, that describes a ton of reasons to be thrilled about getting older, in the sense that our brains are more powerful and complex. She says our emotions, for example, although stronger than ever, are more manageable. She also provides the reasons, complete with studies to back it up. Strauch compiles research results and interviews with scientists in a very entertaining yet highly credible way. I summarized a lot of the good news here: http://anyshinything.com/2012/12/21/grandma-will-save-civilization/”
dotherumba on Oct 8, 2013 at 18:45:37
“Very Cool Site and book to look at thanks for posting it!”
“Ed, you said, "Men think Miley Cyrus is normal" is a stereotype.
"Too many feminist (sic) are falling in the trap of recycling old rhetoric from another era" is another stereotype.
You are ahead of me by one stereotype.”
EqualityEd on Sep 4, 2013 at 18:05:42
“You got me there but we're no living in a culture where we rely on women act as the "soul of decorum". Women now fight, curse, and treat people like crap if they so please without shocking our sensibilities because it's so common.”
“LOVE this! And for your info, calling women "angry" is a holdover from an earlier day when women were supposed to be the soul of decorum. It has always been a means to try to control women's behavior. It doesn't really work that well if we have reason to be angry. We're angry. Every parent with girls should be. www.AnyShinyThing.com”
EqualityEd on Sep 4, 2013 at 13:11:06
“"LOVE this! And for your info, calling women "angry" is a holdover from an earlier day when women were supposed to be the soul of decorum. "
Men think Miley Cyrus is normal so it might be time to drop your outdated gender stereotypes of men. Too many feminist are falling in the trap of recycling old rhetoric from another era. It's time for ORIGINAL thought on gender.”
“I once read that every sale requires 12 rejections. True or not, it motivated me to get out there and get rejected! Because that meant I was closer to a sale. And you learn things, too. Everything feeds into everything else. Thanks for this. www.AnyShinyThing.com”
“What an idiotic concept. Does anyone really think it would be fab to be fertile in our fifties? Sixties? There's a time to have babies and a time to nurture grandbabies. Sure, it would be nice to skip menopause symptoms, but there's more to us women than our ability to procreate. Might we please mature past our obsession with this metric for female valuation? www.AnyShinyThing.com”
“Article is good; equates aging gracefully to being engaged with life. Title is bad; equates aging gracefully to looking great. Looks can't matter when you get old. It's a losing battle. The other stuff - the ENGAGEMENT stuff - has to be the top priority. Otherwise we're doomed to spend our later years chasing things that will improve our looks. And then we die. www.AnyShinyThing.com”
“Sheryl Sandberg is a to be thanked for talking about this. Of course she's going to be castigated for many reasons: she makes us feel uncomfortable. She represents privilege. She doesn't address the needs of all demographics (e.g. unemployed women over 50 trying to get work). But there's so much value in what she says! Here are my truths to add to hers: never trust another person to support you all your life, and learn everything you can / take advantage of every opportunity to grow your own value to the work world, so you may land on your feet when the inevitable downsizing occurs. www.AnyShinyThing.com”
“I meant that many people are defiant about not accepting the changes that come with age. It's good to have a fighting spirit, but when you're 80, it's probably better to live near other people, for example, than out in the wilderness by yourself. So a logical person would arrange for that before the need arises. Capitulation in the sense of accepting reality and planning for the inevitable changes.”
“Wow, what a story! I have to say, I really believe it's okay to change your situation as you age. I used to think it was capitulation, but now I'm not that proud. Glad you're better. I like your fighting spirit, Jane. www.anyshinything.com”
fifiwereking on Jan 30, 2013 at 19:03:27
“i'm not sure what you thought was capitulation.... to me, giving up my dreams and desires to find a husband and become a soccer mom, is capitulation...”
“A request: please continue to exemplify what is derisively referred to (but should be revered), as a crone. In Jean Shinoda Bolen's book, Goddesses in Older Women, the goddess Hecate models the wisdom of older age, just as you are, Hillary. If anybody could show us older women the full power, joy, peace and promise of the second half, you can. Best wishes on a joyful retirement. http://anyshinything.com/2012/11/02/aging-gracefully/”
hp blogger Dr. Cara Barker on Nov 15, 2012 at 22:09:30
“LynneSpreen, I just wanted to stop by and let you know how much I appreciate, and am touched by your comment. Jean is a colleague of mine, and I am sure she would be smiling at your words and insight, as well. Good for you. What a pleasure to have f&f you! Your Wisdom is showing and it is beautiful, kind, compassionate and clear. Keep speaking up. Your Voice is needed on the playing field, my dear. Blessings, Cara”