“"Just when did it somehow become an additional fee"
Probably about the time minimum wage for servers was made lower than standard minimum wage. It's assumed that gratuities will be part of their overall salary, so it's legal to pay them less than standard minimum wage. I don't what the server minimum wage is, but I know it's quite low (anyone here know?).
I'm not sure I agree with this, but it absolutely encourages me to tip.”
MaeS on Feb 27, 2012 at 17:09:19
“Varies state to state. The lowest I've seen is 1.15 an hour. A couple of states require that the restaurants pay minimum wage.”
Feb 2, 2012 at 10:43:27
“It's not "loaded". That looks to be about 2 teaspoons of brown sugar, which is fine. Popcorn that's "not drenched in butter and smothered in salt", as the caption notes, is perfectly healthy. And potatoes are a perfectly healthy vegetable when not deep fried or smothered in butter.
If people are confused it's because they don't realize how much condiments and cooking methods affect the overall health properties of the food. The baked potato isn't bad for you, it's the melted cheese, bacon and sour cream topping the potato that are bad for you. A little bit of sugar on wholegrain oatmeal isn't bad for you, but the incredibly high amounts of sugar and other ingredients in those flavored oatmeal packets probably are probably bad for you.”
NevaforLeadership on Feb 2, 2012 at 14:58:30
“Added sugar is just bad -- makes no difference whether it is brown or white. Sugar is sugar.
Plain popcorn may be better than popcorn drenched in butter and salt, if one has to eat popcorn. Popcorn is a highly processed, high density carbohydrate -- very bad.
One study created graphs of increased potato consumption and obesity; they were almost exactly correlated. Potatoes do have Vitamin C; however, they are not good for overweight people (those at high risk for heart attacks and blocked arteries), as they, too, are high density carbohydrates. High density carbohydrates quickly turn into sugar in the body.
Oatmeal is also highly processed. Not sure whether there is such a thing as wholegrain oatmeal. Better with no sugar, but then very few would eat it. Cereals are among the unhealthiest foods and deadly for children. We would be much healthier substituting cereal with plain unsweetened yogurt (touch of cinnamon and almond or vanilla extract to tone down the sharpness), fresh fruits, seeds, nuts and raisins (easy on the latter). Complete proteins (eggs, omlettes, dairy products are a must at breakfast).
More and more studies are indicating that it is the sugar that is leading to chronic disease and killing us, not the fats.
The most healthy diets consist of lean protein (meat, fish, seafood, dairy products) and fruits and vegetables.”
“Articles like this disgust me. I've seen several come up recently and not one - not a single one - has shown that sex-selection or "family balancing" is, in fact, a trend in Canada. I haven't seen a single statistic or study that shows this is happening.
The fact is, you can typically only determine the sex of a fetus around the 18-20 week ultrasound. Why is this significant? Because there are only a handful of doctors in Canada are even willing to perform an abortion after 20 weeks. And even then, they will only do it in medically necessary situations - as in, to save the life of the mother - NOT for sex-selection.
I'm sick of these articles. They're nothing but a disgusting attempt to stir up debate about something that ISN'T HAPPENING.”
agness nutter on Feb 29, 2012 at 12:19:20
“CVS can tell you the sex of your child at 10 weeks, or earlier. It's happening, whether you are sick of these articles, or not. If I wanted an abortion based on gender, I wouldn't be telling my doctor that was the reason, and I doubt many other women would, either. I know from my experience in a genetics counselling setting 25 years ago that it was an issue, even then.”
darksideofthespoon on Feb 29, 2012 at 10:47:18
“I personally know three women who aborted after the gender wasn't what they wanted. One of these women actually had two abortions.
Sadly, it is happening. It is a problem. Most women just won't talk about it because they know that it would bring them shame and judgement.”
“I just found this funny. I'm not familiar with the twitter feed, so I can only comment on the video, but I didn't find it offensive or harmful to women (I am one, but am not the official ambassador). I've probably said everything in the video at some point, in a similar tone, and still manage to have a successful career.
You could make a similar video about sh*t guys say and it would be funny too. "Dude." "Yo." "'Sup." "Beers?" "Brutal." "Niiiiiice..."
I think this is one of those times when we can enjoy the laugh and move on.”
markcant on Jan 8, 2012 at 01:18:27
“That was a very even-handed reply. Have you ever thought about becoming the official ambassador to women? Because I don't think that position is filled at the moment.”
“Well said :) I think it's something we absolutely need to address, but given the atmosphere, I think the message always needs to be attached to that reminder - "Rape is never the victim's fault". I think that should be pretty straightforward to teach to young women. It's never your fault, but here are some precautions you can take to keep yourself out of harm's way.
We lock our doors at night. Not because it would be our fault if someone came in a stole from us (or worse), but because we don't want to find ourselves in that position to begin with.”
LivelyLexie on Dec 13, 2011 at 14:16:44
“That last part is the perfect analogy! Well said.”
“I disagree on the root of the refusal. I believe the root is a long history of victim blaming. And we should be open about what victim blaming was. It wasn't just saying nasty things to the victim, it meant rapists going free. It meant victims being the ones shamed, not the rapists.
And it's important to remember that it's only recently that victim-blaming tactics were banned from rape trials.
To some extent this is still happening today. There's the judge in Manitoba (2009?) who let a convicted rapist off with nothing but probation because "sex was in the air". In his sentencing remarks he made clear that because the victim was wearing a short skirt, was drunk and had flirted, 'no' could not have meant 'no' and this guy was not at fault.
So I think this is the real root of the refusal. I don't think it's about protecting a right to get drunk. It's about protecting a woman's right not to be raped.
I said in a previous comment that I believe if a woman (or man) gets blind drunk, they are responsible for anything they do as a result. They are NOT responsible for anything that is done TO them. If a person is raped, it doesn't matter if they were drunk, high or anything - they are not responsible for a rapist's actions.
I agree with the article - it's something we need to address. But I also understand the other side.”
“"...logically some of the responsibility falls on her."
This mindset is THE reason this is such a controversial topic. Should we educate women about the dangers of binge drinking? Absolutely. If they do it anyway and are sexually assaulted, are they responsible? Absolutely NOT.
If people could just get out of that mindset, we might be able to do some good.
A woman (or man) who voluntarily drinks too much is responsible for anything she may do as a result. She is NOT responsible for what is done TO her. That responsibility lies entirely with the other person.”
jhnnxn on Dec 13, 2011 at 13:24:36
“A person is reaponsible for their own well being/safety. Voluntarily putting one's self in a dangerous situation puts at least some of the responsibility on the victim. In no way does it lessen the responsibility of the perp.”
“I'm not at all surprised the article makes it seem women are the main victims. It's an article about gender-based violence, not violence in general.
Women ARE the main victims of gender-based violence.
Is violence against men (predominantly also committed by men) also a major issue? Absolutely. I would even say it, too, is pandemic.
But this is not an article about general violence.
To use your comparison, it's like you're attacking an article about breast cancer because there are lots of other types of cancer and more people die from all of them than from breast cancer, so stop whining about breast cancer.
It's a breast cancer article. Of course it specifically addresses breast cancer.
This is a gender-based violence article. Of course it talks about violence against women.
Is violence against men an important issue to you? Great! Shouldn't an article like this inspire you to go do something similar to raise awareness about what's important to you? For the record, I think it is an important issue. Dare I say an equal issue? Gasp!
But it doesn't make sense to put it in this article because men are not the primary victims of gender-based violence.
Women around the world are attacked, raped, murdered and mutilated for the sole reason of having been born female.