“I'd make some smart-alec remark about making sure you purchase conflict-free diamonds, but even the Kimberly Process isn't fool-proof and there are "clean" stones coming out of areas that are now free of major conflict but where the local miners are paid a pittance for something they turn around and charge us an arm and a leg for. No. Diamonds and the diamond industry can go hang. My ring is Moissanite, and I love it. Three carats, and it cost less than $2,000.
I agree that the bride-to-be should be able to pick out her own ring, though. I realize some people think this translates to "high-maintenance bimbo wants bigger ring," but keep in mind my fiancé told me I had a budget of $8K to work with and I only spent $2K. So, before you judge, remember that style matters. I don't want to "trade up" someday to another ring. I want my original engagement ring to be the one they pry off my cold, wrinkled hands. As someone who wears very little jewelry, and who wildly despises the traditional solitaire, being able to choose such a major purchase for myself, something I'll be wearing the rest of my life, was crucial.”
“"Either they've been scared into believing this stuff they same way they're trying to scare others into believing it, or the idea of a jealous and spiteful diety sits just fine with them."
So, one who is not the former must be the latter. You may not have been scared into it yourself, but you have little compunction about using fear as your first line of persuasion. And that says a lot about a person.”
“Here's the thing, everyone says their religion is the truth. People are fallable. I have no doubt they're sincere, but they're still capable of being wrong. In that case, the only thing you can rely on is the feeling in your heart. In my heart, a faith that relies on fear and encourages the use of threats to keep people in it and stear new believers toward it feels bad and wrong on the most elemental level of my soul. Like people who say things like, "Non (insert specific Christian denomination here)s are all going to hell. That's not how *I* want it to be, that's just how it is." I don't buy that. Either they've been scared into believing this stuff they same way they're trying to scare others into believing it, or the idea of a jealous and spiteful diety sits just fine with them.
That's why I don't buy the fire-and-brimstone interpretation of the bible. There are open, loving Christians out there who don't buy it, either. My reasons for not believing in Christ are a wholly seperate issue. You can pray for me all you like, but I believe g-d gives all a chance at heaven, even the exclusionist, judgmental ones.”
luagarn on Jan 31, 2012 at 13:46:51
“You and everyone else have the freedom to choose whether to believe that
Christianity is right. Again what I said was that Christianity was the only faith
that speaks of only one way to heaven--through Jesus Christ. The other faiths
speak of more than one way to heaven.
I believe that one day we will all stand before God to give an account of our lives. Please think this over. But in the end it's your choice.
I was never "scared" into Christianity. I came to Jesus on my own because of what I have experienced in life. I'm not perfect, just forgiven.”
“I'm a little dismayed this article seems so polarizing, but not surprised, I suppose. I thought it a loving, quirky, and charming rhetorical letter. I liked it, maybe precisely because I'm not a Christian. I know plenty of Christians in my life, but I'm only friends with those who embrace the loving side of their faith the way this woman and her husband have. It can be a hair annoying when someone nudges me to attend church with them or suggests I "find Christ" (is he on the lam?) when I'm having a rough day, but I understand when it's coming from a place of love and caring. There are a lot of these people, thankfully. There are those, however, who will approach me with a pamphlet and a host of reasons why I ought to come to their church and be "saved" and when I politely decline they take on an air of haughty satisfaction and inform me that I'm doomed to eternal damnation. Those are the ones to watch out for; the ones who seem almost as happy to have their overture turned down as they are to have it accepted, and who paint the picture of a diety who encourages this behavior. As if g-d were some entitled, jealous parent who says "be friends with my son or you're not invited."
And that's why articles like this make me happy. Seeing people of faith who embrace the loving side of their belief system.”
tmatt69 on Jan 31, 2012 at 04:52:30
I'm assuming that Roxann doesn't need your prayers, and would prefer if you would save them for someone who really does,
To tell someone they are going to hell for what they believe in because their beliefs are differnt that yours...not very Christain of you.. Thy shall not judge (remember that scripture)”
luagarn on Jan 31, 2012 at 00:43:07
“What is it about the Bible you don't believe? There are many religions out there that preach many
ways to heaven. There is only one that says there in only one way. Pretty narrow minded there,
right? Even the Bible says the path to destruction is broad and the path to eternal life is narrow.
Even though you may not want to believe it, without Jesus you are headed for eternal hell. I will pray for you.”
Hans Bickel on Jan 30, 2012 at 23:28:55
“Faved and hope atheists learn something from your post as well. Dr. Hans”
“If your primary worry about having children is making mistakes, I think you're actually on the right path. It's a huge responsibility and recognizing the potential for massive screw-ups is the first step toward being mindful and preventing said screw-ups. Of course, you can't avoid them all :D but at least you've got a healthy, realistic mindset. The people who debate having children because they're worried about how having a child will affect them are the ones who should probably hold off.”
lelabet on Jan 24, 2012 at 20:12:02
“Hm. I think you may be on to something there :-)”
“That is the most awesome sentiment and most accurate description I've ever heard. "so desperate to get their hands on deals that they can't even finish one day of being thankful for what they already have." Bravo, sir!”