“I don't know... I have several single friends in their 50s - smart, attractive - who have been single for more than 15 years and can't admit that it's because they PREFER to be single. Until they can admit that to themselves, they're going to make themselves unhappy, wondering why they can't find a mate.”
“All so true... I really loved my single-days holidays. Don't get me wrong, I love holidays with my loved one, but when I could do whatever I wanted, while watching everyone else suffer through required "joyousness," I was in bliss...”
“All I know is that sex with people outside your main relationship can be a lot of fun, as long as you don't make the usual stupid mistake of confusing good sex for love.
I'd add that this was more true for me in my 20s through 40s than it is now in my 50s. These days, sex is much less interesting to me than other activities and interactions. But I'm glad that I shared that physical fun with the people I did.”
The current average life expectancy in the US is 78, so "middle age" would be 39. Even dividing our life up in thirds, "middle" would be 27-52. So, by the time you hit 52, you might as well face it that you're in the home stretch, not "middle-aged."
You see, the problem is that the Triumph of Marketing in the 20th century has made "youth" the Ideal For Which We All Strive, and "old" something to turn away from, to shun, to fear, to avoid. So many people look at a clown face like Goldie Hawn's and say, "how wonderful that she stays young!," when she's actually doing nothing of the kind.
Embrace what you REALLY are, folks; try not to make excuses to be just another sheep following the herd that's following advertising.”
SarcasticFringehead on Nov 5, 2013 at 17:19:15
“Its better to divide the stages of life into four -- like the four seasons -- I think this works out much better than dividing life into thirds.
1 to 20 = Spring
20 to 40 = Summer
40 to 60 = Fall
60 to ? = Winter
This seem more intuitively right in my mind.
And yes, you are correct; accept your age, don't try to pretend you're still 30 if you're 50.
I wish I knew who said this, but I've always liked this statement:
"People who have plastic surgery don't look any younger; they just look like they've had plastic surgery."
“You're out of your mind for a few reasons:
1) You think that what happened in one culture will automatically happen in a different one with one act (like thinking democracy will magically come to Iraq if Saddam Hussein is deposed);
2) You think that because I don't support legalization of recreational use of marijuana, that somehow that means I'm in favor of the criminals who sell it now.
Neither beliefs is one to which a sane person would subscribe.”
LegendsXXX on Nov 1, 2013 at 15:21:15
“Actually, your wrong here too.
See, you want marijuana to stay illegal even though we are losing the war on drugs.
Even though we spend Millions each year fighting drugs, more drugs are coming into the country & more people are using.
Now, in other places where it has been legalized we have seen improvements in their society, such as lower crime rates & higher revenues from taxation.
Einstein once said that doing the same thing over & over again expecting different results was the definition of insanity.
I'm open to trying something else since what we have been doing for 30 years hasn't worked.
you want to keep the status quo & try nothing new, continuing to throw money into a losing war on drugs, that we have been losing for 30 years.
From Einsteins thinking, he would look at you as the insane one since you want to keep trying the same thing over & over again expecting different results.
But you won't get different results until you try something else, such as legalization.”
“Nonsense; if marijuana and alcohol are "intrinsically linked," then you have to include tobacco, meth, coke, heroin, ocycontin and every other escape from reality.
Good for you on those links, by the way; you've cleared lung cancer. What about the other harmful effects cited in the studies I linked? Or is lung cancer the only thing you care about?”
Yossarian22 on Nov 1, 2013 at 13:18:23
“"if marijuana and alcohol are "intrinsically linked," then you have to include tobacco, meth, coke, heroin, ocycontin and every other escape from reality."
This is silly. Tobacco is separate; tobacco smokers are addicted to nicotine. So marijuana or alcohol do not compete against tobacco, nor does tobacco compete against either alcohol or marijuana. As for hard drugs, well, they're not healthier or safer than alcohol and certainly not safer than marijuana. Meth and cocaine have serious cardiotoxic effects and are highly addictive and brain-damaging. Opiates are highly addictive, zombifying and very easy to overdose on. I don't know why we would encourage people to use a more dangerous or unhealthy substitute for alcohol. Your "argument" is a total non-sequitur.
The science is clear: while marijuana is not 100 harmless(nothing in life is), its health drawbacks are mild at worst and quite possibly outweighed by the health benefits, not to mention the enjoyment and relaxation that cannabis provides. By no reasonable definition is marijuana a serious threat to public health or safety nor is it any more dangerous than many common and legal activities and certainly not more than alcohol.”
“Good Lord, you are so ridiculously wrong, I'm surprised I waste the time in replying. There was no "straw man;" you conveniently ignore the fact that you mocked the U of Washington study by writing "Edible cannabis carries "its own challenges"? How wonderfully convenient." Now you say that "their study only looked at a comparison in smoking alone," when, if you had taken the brief time to read it, you would see that they actually describe those challenges. You're habit of making up your own version of what others write makes you unworthy of further attention. You've proven that you have nothing intelligent to offer to this topic. Goodbye.”
Kenneth Knapp III on Nov 1, 2013 at 12:44:00
“Have fun with your crusades against all things unhealthy... oh wait, it's only cannabis you have a vendetta against.”
“I see no appeal to tradition; and if you want to mock the work of actual scientists, implying that you know better than they (like climate change deniers), it appears that you have delusions of intellectual grandeur for which, based upon your flights of illogic, I see no reason.
The best you can manage is a lame argument that there's no reason to legislate against any self-destructive products unless you legislate against them all? I can't see any purpose to continuing this "dialogue."”
Kenneth Knapp III on Nov 1, 2013 at 11:34:13
“"It should be illegal because it already is." That's faulty logic. Of course, you also come in with a straw man here, so let's add that one to the list as well. I did not "mock the work of actual scientists." I pointed out that the study you quoted did not account for everything. The researchers who did the study would have agreed that their study only looked at a comparison in smoking alone. The best you can manage is one logical fallacy after another, all to stop everyone else from making decisions for themselves because you have some sort of personal vendetta against a plant. Go ahead, though, leave while you still have some dignity.”
“You're clearly out of your mind (and ridiculously rude), so discussion is pointless, isn't it?”
LegendsXXX on Nov 1, 2013 at 13:57:43
“How am I out of my mind?
I love America & want it to be less violent & less crime filled.
Amsterdam has is legal & has one of the lowest crime rates in the World. America has people shot daily all over the place, today it was LAX airport.
But... you want the same status quo that is getting us nowhere.
So the only logical explanation for you to want to keep marijuana illegal is because your profiting off of it somehow.
Why else would you support keeping it in the black market?”
“Neither I nor you "know" what they knew, except what they personally left to us in their writings, "sonny." Everything else is speculation.
Even if they were aware of medicinal uses of the plant, it's not proof that they smoked it, ate it, or rubbed it all over their bodies. "THC" was not a term in use at the time; anything they may have "known" about a plant's medicinal properties would have been in keeping with what would seem to us today as exceptionally primitive chemistry.
But what they DID with that "knowledge" is total speculation on your or anyone else's part.
Your "one track mind" comment can reflect on you as well.”
“Hardly "evidence." It's mere speculation featured on a website blocked by educational institutions, reported as "minimizing adverse effects and including too much dodgy – and potentially harmful – data."”
“"You accept alcohol & cigarettes" - what have I written that makes you jump to such a conclusion? Why do you, like so many others, attempt to cloud a simple discussion about the merits of legalizing a drug with irrelevant side topics? Because other drugs are legal, should we legalize every self-destructive habit? That's not good logic.
"The desire to be intoxicated is natural." You could say that about other "desires" - suicide, adultery, violence, cutting, theft - but it doesn't make any of them goals towards which we should strive. The world is not improved by limiting our consciousness.”
LegendsXXX on Oct 31, 2013 at 19:37:08
“Ok, well I'm assuming you want drugs to stay illegal then to support the drug dealers & other crime that is supported by it.
I can understand why someone would be against legalizing it if they were making bank from it. So tell me, how many drugs do you sell in a week & what are your profit margins like on the black market?
If it was legal, you couldn't make any money from it on the black market because it would be sold legally and/or grown. There would be no market for it because there would be no reason to purchase it off the shady guy down the street when you could just walk into the local 711 and pick up a G of the funk for the same price or even less.
By eliminating a big chunk of the illegal drug market, violent gun crime would drop too, so do you also deal guns, or support gang activities?
What do you have against less drug dealers & lower crime rates?
Its legal in Amsterdam & they are one of the safest cities in the world. Its illegal in Detroit & its one of the most dangerous cities in the world.