Jul 6, 2009 at 18:36:35
“I think fathers are often compelled to remain in abusive relationships, regardless of their financial resources, because leaving often means not only losing one's children, but leaving them unprotected with a violent and abusive woman. I believe Justin Paulsen cited this as a reason for not leaving Rena Corban sooner- that in spite of her history, local family law attorneys had convinced him that he had no realistic chance of custody. After he eventually did leave, Rena Corban left their young sons broiling in her minivan as she was passed out in her living room, a few feet away. Justin came to pick up his sons and found poor little Liam dead and his brother near death. The refusal of the DV industry to confront abusive women directly leads to such tragedy.”
“See what I mean, egal? nhplanner, did you happen to look at the CDC data or Fiebert's bibliography that HumanRightsActivist provided links to below. Shall we believe your anecdotal impressions over hundreds of peer-reviewed studies?”
gwallan on Oct 3, 2008 at 05:47:37
“Anecdotal impressions gained in a service that doesn't help male victims? If you refuse to help them why would you expect them to turn up.
Reminds me of some of the advocacy "research" in my country which starts from a premise that there are no male victims and proves it by not looking.”
“I'll tell you why, egal. California law defined domestic violence as being committed only against women. Your statement that the DV shelters and servies do not bar men is diametrically opposite to my personal experience. If anyone reading this wants to resolve this issue for themselves- call up your local DV shelter and ask them what services they provide for women, and what services they provide for men.
It is not the men who don't admit they are victims, it is the women running the women-only DV shelters (by anything more than lip service). They refuse to acknowledge the truth, and continue to spew abusurdities, as we see in the above in O'Donnell's quote. Nice job of blaming the victim, egal.
A recent GAO report concluded that the VAWA is based on unreliable data because of the analytic methods and underlying sources that it relied upon
In other words, Uncle Joey stacked the deck and prohibited any Congressional testimony contrary to his and VAWA's "women good, men bad" paradigm. VAWA specifically prohibited any funds authorized under it from being spent on assisting men who were victims of DV. It was written by women, for women (although Uncle Joey claims credit for it).”
“And oh, BTW- Gov. Palin recommended that women only pay for their rape kits if they failed to file charges. This would reduce the propensity for the next Gemma Gregory (not the actress, the one that falsely accused 8 men of rape) from stockpiling “rape” kits on men she’d slept with, and then pulling them out later, as needed.”
“martinogk , where do you live? Of the several hundreds of DV centers in California, I am only aware of ONE that accepts men fleeing domestic violence. My my local, publicly funded DV shelter does not accept men, and will tell a man fleeing from an abusive wife to go to a homeless shelter. This does work for fathers with small children, and places children at risk from violent mothers.
Our local shelter burns through $75,000.00 per month. Last year they provided services for 195 women and children (NO men). That’s $4,615 per client. It’s a local joke that the DV shelter is a good place for otherwise homeless drug addicts and hookers to go clean up, although I’m sure they do occasionally receive a true victim of DV. Our $900,000.00/year shelter could be replaced with a few motel vouchers.
VAWA is a $1.5 billion boondoggle. It has NOT been effective in reducing violence against women, and is definitely not gender neutral. VAWA facilitates DV because the best predictor of whether someone commits DV is whether she or he witnessed DV while growing up. By ignoring the half of DV committed by women, VAWA is spawning a generation of children witnessing their mothers committing DV with impunity.”
nhplanner on Oct 1, 2008 at 17:56:39
“Your claim that half of domestic violence perpetrators are women is ludicrous. Many years ago I worked at a center that provided counseling for both victims and perpetrators. I can't remember there being one male victim. Anecdotally, most male victims are gay. I'm sure there certainly have been heterosexual male victims of domestic violence, but they are very rare.”
Jan 29, 2008 at 13:23:16
“How is a nice girl supposed to survive in this Doppler world? 1) Be yourself, 2) Follow the Golden Rule at all times, 3) Be patient, 4) Make time to do the things you truly enjoy and enjoy them, 5) Try new things (like going to a new Karaoke bar) and have fun, 6) Play some loud music. Perhaps "Hold on Loosely" by 38 Special, or some George Jones. That’s where I’d start.
I think a lot of the differences in how men and women approach dating/marriage are developmental (as in 4.5 million years of human development), not social. John Townsend (a professor of anthropology) makes a good case for this in “What Women Want, What Men Want, Why the Sexes Still See Love & Commitment So Differently” (Oxford University Press, 1998). The “Still” part of the title relates to the preceding decades of women’s liberation and how things haven’t turned out as many predicted. Basically, men and women have developed different optimal, and often conflicting, reproductive strategies. Men want low-investment sex with a large number of young, fertile, healthy women. Women want a man with high socio-economic status to exclusively commit all of his resources and attention to her (and her offspring). While men and women generally want the same things in their primary relationship, they evaluate prospective mates in a different order. Guess what is near the top of the list for a guy? As a species, men and women meet in the middle. Typically on the 3rd or 4th date. Anyway, I won’t spoil the rest of the book. He also goes into why women often go after another woman’s husband/partner, and shows that this occurs in other species that exhibit pair bonding.
Leslie- I was going to email you with more stuff, but I saw your website was parked. Looking forward to reading your book. Hope all is well. -S”
“We see more support for Ron Paul all over town- lawn signs, bumper stickers, window posters- than for any other candidate. Even my young children have noticed how his name isn't mentioned on TV as if it's forbidden. As a recovering Libertarian, I'm leaning his way. And Ron Paul is even a Texan!
Guiliani has prestige? Please. Of course Guiliani is more a household name than Ron Paul. Isn't that basically the point of this thread?”
“Real reporting seems to have been outsourced along with engineering, manufacturing, computer programming, accounting and customer support. Reporters who focus on the issues and provide analysis can be found overseas. In ancient times, access to foreign news was provided by short-wave radio. It was often quite interesting to see how a foreign news agency reported an event also covered by U.S. network news (e.g., Radio Moscow's coverage of the Soviet shoot-down of the Korean jetliner) and which events they chose to report on.
Now, the Interweb provides EZ access to BBC, Radio Netherlands, Stern, Telegraph, and a host of other news conduits- with many news articles conveniently translated into English. Of course, some of these news sources might have their own bias or agenda. If you want to get an idea of how the U.S. is perceived abroad, "Watching America" is one place to start. I don't know anyone who takes the U.S. MSM seriously anymore.”
“I don't know. I'd never watched FOX news, but read on HuffPo that they liked to sport cheesecake, so I checked it out. It took me a while to even determine if my cable network carried FOX news, but I found it and watched it for about 20 minutes. Not even an inch of cleavage! The newscaster looked nothing like the lovely women at the top of this thread.
I tuned to another channel, but kept checking back on FOX during the commercial breaks. Nada. This was early evening. Is there a better time to watch FOX for this sort of stuff? I found FOX News so incredibly boring, I can't imagine watching it for any other reason, but then, I don't generally watch any corporate news casts.”
Nov 26, 2007 at 12:25:40
“I hope your friend saves her human face and leaves her job. Leaving a corporate job can be scary, but less so once you realize the security the job appears to provide is just an illusion. I think it's better she leave on her own terms and timing, rather than waiting to get fired because she didn't get Botox or whatever. I've always found it easier to spend less money rather than earning more.
I hope you have a safe trip back.”
“I don’t know whether MSM realizes how far they’ve marginalized themselves. We used to look up to and trust the newscasters. I think people today realize they’re being fed a load of crap. Every news item I know anything about is presented in a biased, filtered way, and typically has a huge backstory that the MSM just ignores. I hardly ever watch "The News." Leslie, with your history as part of MSM news, it must be especially difficult for you to witness this decline and rot.
A concern of mine is that the corporate powers controlling MSM will take over and control content and distribution on the Internet, as is currently being done in other countries. The boiling frog analogy is a good one- our rights and freedoms are being stripped away too slowly for most to notice. A lot of those who do notice the water is heating up have become discouraged and resigned. When it comes to fighting against the endless erosion of rights, propaganda and greed, it seems Whack-A-Mole is another appropriate analogy.”