Nov 23, 2011 at 13:19:07
“This is the lot of most immigrants. My European immigrant parents and grandparents did the same thing. So, please do not make it sound like only non-whites do this sort of thing. However, all immigrants want better for their kids and try to work hard in order to educate them. Once they get the education they get better jobs instead of staying in the same unskilled jobs the parents had. Why is this admirable for Asians and other non-Caucasian immigrants but not admirable for white immigrants. Remember, many of the Americans you are talking about have already been through the immigrant stage and now have a better education and can do less back breaking work. That is what everyone is striving for. As for drinking and partying. I never did this but many young people go through this stage. As for domestic violence - give me a break, many Asians and Eastern Europeans are very violent but no one speaks up. I have a Jordanian friend who has told me many horrifying tales of abuse.”
Nov 23, 2011 at 13:10:04
“Are you serious with this comment? The Europeans did not brave a perilous journey to purposely bring smallpox to this hemisphere. However, today's Immigrants are purposely bringing drug criminals here.”
Nov 23, 2011 at 13:03:18
“You have a point. However, the so-called Native Americans immigrated here too. Remember, they crossed the Bering Strait from the north. While the history is not always happy it is history. And, it's true, not all Native Americans got along with each other. Unfortunately, people are always fighting and arguing no matter their skin color or cultural backgraound. We have to consider what is going on now. We really cannot afford to have so many people here; all the jobs are gone. What can we do with more people for whom there are no jobs? Also, the country the Europeans ended-up creating (aka the USA) turned out pretty great and is the reason so many people want to come here. If the USA was so lousy, no one would come. My grandparents came here to give us a better life but they did so by legal means - that' all anyone is asking. People who want to come here should respect our laws. Americans who travel to other countries should respect the laws of those countries as well.”
Nov 23, 2011 at 12:53:55
“With so many people here, it is no longer practical to just have everyone come over without knowing who is here and why. Furthermore, we want ALL immigrants to be documented. The reason the focus is on Mexicans is because their own lobbyists put the focus there. The so-called Native Americans were immigrants - they crossed the Bering Strait. I live in an area with alot of Mexicans. None of them does the crop work the lobbyists are fond of underscoring. Many of these folks have three families living in a single-family dwelling. By three families, I mean three sets of husbands and wives with their children. The owner of a single-family dwelling pays taxes at a rate for a single-family dwelling. Three families living in such a dwelling, have three families-worth of kids using the schools but pay the amount of taxes for only one family. To keep up with the demands on the schools we all get our taxes raised. We have 2 small hospitals in our community that have served the community for over 60 years. We always have been a community of immigrants and, by and large, we have never taken welfare or skipped out on paying bills. Now, with so many illegals going to the emergency room for anything from the sniffles to gun shot wounds and not paying, these two institutions are in trouble. Now I am waiting for you to tell me about the benefits of unchecked immigration.”
Mike Cat on Nov 23, 2011 at 13:48:21
“You not really smart are you. Immigration implies people moving into a nation. When Indigenous people came into the New World; it was not ruled by anyone.
When white people came into the new world; IT WAS. They are illegal.
Look up manifest destiny. A racist and genocidal ideology that states white people are superior and must own all the land from coast to coast; even if that means committing genocide in the process.
THE only reason immigration is a issue; the sole fact we focus on Mexicans. If they are white no one would care.
If you want to start kicking out illegals start with the original illegal "Americans".”
“I do not necessarily disagree with everything he says. However, if the sanctity of marriage and the family are so important (and I believe they are) then someone should start talking about ending "easy" divorces - years ago you had to have a concrete reason referred to as grounds for a divorce now it's just irreconcilable differences. I do not want unhappy people to be forced to stay together but the idea of a relatively easy divorce makes people who are considering marriage say things like "Well, if it doesn't work out I'll get a divorce." This mindset has people rushing into ill-advised marriages and while they are in those marriages they don't work on their relationships very much. I hate to say it but the no-fault divorce has changed the way people view marriage and not for the better.”
jimjits on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:48:13
“Well said VTmama”
rltballer on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:44:25
“if you truly mean you want to protect sanctity of marraige and keep gays from marrying, then i say no divorce. ONce married, it is final. regardless if he tries to kill you, or rapes young boys or girls. otherwise you are simply a bigot and a hypocrite and wanting to keep gays from marrying.
marraige equality is the only way to go. equality for all.”
Goddess Athena on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:43:16
“And all those laws requiring "concrete reasons" did was encourage people to lie to get a divorce.”
Viper on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:35:36
“Yes personal freedom from government is bad unless its medling in personal choices...lol....”
Tom Iarossi on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:30:08
“No-fault divorce merely recognized the reality of modern life. My parents' generation didn't divorce as frequently, but then I didn't see much happiness in many of the marriages either. Some, like my folks, were perfect together, but many others seemed to exist only because they always had, and their religion (RC) didn't allow divorce.
I will agree that we give up more easily than in the past, but I don't think there was any special sanctity to the marriages I observed.”
“There is nothing wrong with Christianity. Unfortunately, these people were not following Christian teachings but somehow they used a church as a ruse to lure unsuspecting parents and children. It is just like any other con. I explain it this way when people criticize Christianity, or any other religion for that matter: I ask them, "When you see a person with filthy hair and skin and whose dental hygene is less that adequate, do you assume that soap, shampoo and toothpaste are no longer effective?" The person then must stop and answer, "No, I do not make that assumption." I then, gently remind him or her that, of course, those things are still effective, the dirty person just did not put them to good use. The same is true of religious teaching - it still works if we put it to GOOD use.”
AZdesertdog on Nov 18, 2011 at 13:37:16
“your soap and toothpaste analogy is ridiculous.
christianity and any other religion all depend on a book of fairy tales that center on only one thing:
the sooner that people learn to depend on themselves to get things done instead of thinking they can "pray problems away", the world will be a much better place.
it's all about the money, whether is collected in a plate, or in that 800 number at the bottom of your TV screen.
they don't call them "sheep" for nothing.”
captemp on Nov 18, 2011 at 12:10:30
“Actually there is quite a bit wrong with Christianity, far more than I can submit here and even more than you would be open to.”
pomonaaj on Nov 18, 2011 at 11:42:43
“You are right but a person can be good or evil regardless of religion. I know many good christians and atheist as well as alot of bad christians and atheist. It is all abot the individual and following or not follwoing a religion will not change that.”
mjlrwilson on Nov 18, 2011 at 11:19:15
“I'd like to become a hater, unfortunately it says I can only become a fan.”
“My son is white and working class. He is routinely bullied by the black upper class kids at his school. And yes, they do mention his race. The teachers and administrators do nothing about it. The black kids get away with anything even if they are not upper class.”
Floyd Stephens on Nov 15, 2011 at 11:13:23
“Exactly. Bullying is going to happen. It has been a problem for hundreds of years, but in the last 20 or so years it has gotten so out of hand that some children die because of it. The reason I wrote about what happened in our family was not to get accolades for us, but to point out that if a parent or grandparent, or more particularly the family of the student does not act as an omsbudsman or champion for the child then there is virtually no where for that child to turn. School officials give lip service to "0" tolerance to bullying but in actual fact do little when it is reported. And repercusions that may happen to a child who reports bullying can be more terrifying than the bullying itself. At PTA meetings I have heard coaches (they are the worse, it seems to me) and some teachers refer to these children as "constant whiners", "she is just a scardy cat and needs to learn to cope with problems", The mentality seems to be that bullying has gone on ever since there have been large school populations so it's normal and nothing to really get upset about.”
“Well said natal plum. If Mom wants the little one to like her, she needs to be more likeable. Mom obviously does not really enjoy reading, arranging pillows and playing; so, she should be glad when Dad takes over. The child is only four years old, but Mom needs to grow up. Mom also needs to stop being jealous of HER HUSBAND (the writer's italicized words, not mine) spending so much time with THEIR OWN child.”
Arturo Bandini on Nov 30, 2011 at 15:27:12
“We don't know that mom isn't likable, or that she doesn't enjoy playing or reading with her child. In fact, I can't think how it is possible that a mother doesn't absolutely LOVE those activities. Example: My wife, daughter, and I get home at the same time every day. The first things I think about when I walk in the door are 1) get music flowing through the house 2) deliver a half-dozen or so raspberries to babies belly 3) start dance party. Mom's first thoughts are 1) address dishes in sink 2) pick up hazards from floor 3) attend to any of the ka-jillion tasks on her ever growing to-do list. Not hard to guess which set of priorities appeals more to a child. And yes, I do plenty of work around the house (cooking being one of the few I chores I don't need to be reminded of or prodded about), and my wife plays and reads all the time to our little bundle of joy. We both just have different strengths and natural inclinations. Nobody needs to grow up, we just take turns being appreciated for who we are as it pertains to little one's immediate needs.”
“You are right kand, I mean I do not think some of the people on this site realize just how much 200 pounds really is. I know full grown, healthy MEN who do not weigh 200 pounds!!!
Can you imagine carrying that amount of wieght around on the frame of an eight-year-old child???”
“You are right, there is a lot of abuse in foster homes. The fact is, there is just as much abuse in some children's own families. If families weren't so messed up, there would be no need for foster homes.”
NCCPR2 on Nov 29, 2011 at 14:04:26
“Actually the rate of abuse in foster care is far higher than in the general population, and the record of group homes and institutions - i.e. orphanages - is worse. And one of the links I posted in my comment is a direct comparison of outcomes in *typical* cases for children placed in all forms of foster care vs. comparably maltreated children left in their own homes.
National Coalition for Child Protection Reform www.nccpr.org”
“I know of cases where the mom or dad just would not cooperate with what was trying to be done in the home. The state is more worried about the child. Maybe that is why the child had to be brought somewhere else. If this mother was so worried about the child, she would have been responsible. This whole thing about getting lawyers and going to the news media sounds more like a scheme to get attention and money for the mother. Believe me, lots of parents use their children in this way.”
“Who is supposed to pay for the trainer and dietician? Oh yeah, wait, let me guess - the tax payers, once again! Well, I actually work and I take care of my own kids so I cannot afford a personal trainer or dietician. Why should I be forced to pay for these things for a parent who refuses to be responsible?”
jmdpma on Nov 29, 2011 at 12:10:21
“The Taxpayers are paying for the child to be in Foster Care. Some Foster parents only do it for the monthly check so what difference would it make at this point to provide actual services like a gym membership and personal trainer to the child and possibly the whole family for that matter, rather than remove him from the home? In Fact our health insurance is so expensive it should cover the cost of fitness programs but most don't. The Goverment is becoming too involved in our lives especially when it comes to raising children and Social Services working with the Family? that's a joke. Try getting ahold of a case worker when you are involved with Childrens services and by the way they don't return your calls. This Child should have been left with his parents and worked with in a rational long term way. I don't think that most of the people leaving comments understand what a child goes through when they don't have parents take it from someone who is raising a child who's parents walked out on him it's very damaging to them.”
kmhjbh on Nov 29, 2011 at 11:30:19
“Who do you think pays for foster care??? When a child is placed in foster care the stae becomes responsible for their total support plus payments to the foster parents.I promise you that the costs of foster care in dollars and cents plus the cost of the emotional welfare of this child is far more than a dietician and trainer would cost.”
Goddess Athena on Nov 29, 2011 at 11:21:14
“But they taxpayer pays when a child is placed in foster care. The state has an interest in protecting the health and well-being of the child. If this child were being physically abused, would you prefer the child stay in an abusive home or be placed in foster care? Medical neglect is a serious charge. Generally, the medical neglect cases we hear about involve kids who are malnourished, never go to the doctor, or have some serious condition that goes untreated. Again, should children in those situations remain in homes where they are in danger? Knowing the costs in my state for foster care, a dietician and a personal trainer might be more cost effective.”
“The parents, not the school districts, should be providing their kids with lunch. There, problem solved. Parents do not really want to parent but then when the government steps in they get upset. Well, you cannot have it both ways.”
“Here you are saying the government has no right to interfere by taking the child away. And you may be right. But then you say the government should subsidize "good" food and tax "bad" food in order to get people to eat a better diet. So, let me see if I understand- you want the government to interfere with how people raise their families in some ways but not in other ways. Will you be making a list of just which ways are acceptable and which ways are not? People should be responsible for themselves and their own children. The government should not interfere and should not subsidize. If people weren't so used to the government stepping in at crucial moments, they might think about what they are doing and become more responsible.”