“My life was RUINED by reporting my rape. Believe me, I used to think like you did...until I was there. Now I understand why so many women don't report it.
I know I wouldn't if I could do it all over again.”
An Independent Woman on Oct 25, 2012 at 11:09:28
“I am so sorry for you. I truly cannot image the terror and the fear involved. I don't know why your life was ruined, was it the authorities? Was it your partner? I don't know. I do know that being a victim is a mug's game.”
“Not that I think you actually care about this child (I'm sure you just want to spew vitriol), but I'm positive that since he is being raised by 2 loving parents who wanted him, he will be just fine. So no worries.”
“I can't answer for every couple who chooses international adoption, but I know that when my aunt and uncle decided to adopt, they chose to go to another country because everyone they knew who had tried domestic adoption had at least one fall through, most due to the birth mother changing her mind. After already spending so much time trying to conceive and failing, they didn't want that extra heartbreak, and they knew that if they were approved by the orphanage down in Colombia, they were certain to be matched with a child.”
“The judge made an exception because she was running away from a physically and sexually abusive father, and getting married got her out of the house. Typically, a judge will say no, and only a few states allow a judge to make that type of exception anyway. She actually had to travel across several states to find a state she could get married in.”
blackkatya on May 29, 2011 at 20:31:28
“They went to the authorities (police and CPS) first. They didn't believe her. She was young, scared, so when her boyfriend proposed, she jumped at it.
I'm sure there is more to it that I don't know, but no, it wasn't her first choice.”
James E Miller on May 29, 2011 at 20:07:30
“So her only option to get out of the house was marriage? That seems like a bit of a stretch. There are a myriad of other options she could have had to escape than marriage. Don't get me wrong, I could care less if she gets married. It just seems like she would have other options, I don't get why a judge had to rule that she could get married.”
“Because marriage is a legal contract, and we don't let minors enter into legal contracts. Though, you can get married under 18 (the exact age varies by state) with parental or judicial permission. I know someone who married at 14 with a judge's consent.”
James E Miller on May 29, 2011 at 19:39:59
“And who exactly is "we?" The point I am trying to make is that we set up all these provisions for arbitrary ages (18 to be an "adult," 21 to drink, 16 to drive) for different things. Marriage is no different.. Civil society can dictate what are viewed as legitimate marriages better than government law. Your 14 year old example kind of disproves your point.”
“I'm a 20-year-old college student. The vast majority of my friends and acquaintances (conservative and liberal alike) support marriage equality. So I'm confident, based on what I know of my generation, that will happen.”