“I was verbally abused for 36 years and understand what it does to a person. yes, I wish everyone could receive an apology (abusers rarely apologize) who has been abused..the statistics...1 in 3 women on the planet living in silence fear and shame behind closed doors; that is over 52 million in the U.S., and their children.....some of them going to school and verbally abusing others. We need to educate our children; tat is where it all begins; if not, this terrible "shredding of souls" will never stop”
roseyaire on Jun 22, 2012 at 16:45:53
“I am sorry for the abuse you suffered, Sam. That was not right, what happened to you and I hope you are now living a life filled with people who respect you and are fun and uplifting to be around. It is certainly true that abusers rarely apologize and I can only hope that these boys were sincere in their regret, even though I think they are too young to really understand how deeply they wounded this woman, especially in regards to her son that took his own life.”
“I am a Freshman at age 65, and will need to be at least that old for my B achelors...then on to my Master's----will be 100...Congratulations to that man. I am also a veteran....Womens' Army Corps...1964-67, Sargeant at 19!”
Rose Morris on Jun 15, 2012 at 16:48:07
“Thank you for your service, too! I felt much the same way as you when I was about halfway through my undergraduate degree. I was far from a traditional-age student and was wondering if my work would be all that time and trouble. What would I do with it when I graduated? My major professor/advisor asked me a question: how old will you be in two years? I answered him truthfully. He then told me, "You have a choice. You can just turn___ or you can turn ___ with a degree, with the satisfaction of your accomplishment, and with a lot more opportunities." And he was right. So good luck with your studies, and I hope your work brings you great joy and many opportunities.”
“This is sad. I cannot believe people are making fun of her.”
tonytonmsn on May 25, 2012 at 17:00:40
“Most people make fun of others to distract themselves and others from their own shortcomings. It's easier to say look at that, instead of them looking in their own mirrors. (myself included)
As I grow older (and bigger) I won't make fun. I am starting to struggle to stay down myself.....
She is also, not the first one that has had to be extracted from a house. It is sad to see and must be extremely uncomfortable There are medical conditions that cause some of these cases. I don't understand , so I can't say anymore. I wish her the best.”
rreggaeredkc on May 25, 2012 at 16:21:03
“I would love to be your 6th fan for your comment. Remember the old saying ,"You can't judge a book by it's cover?" I still believe it and those people making fun of her have problems too that they would deny in a heartbeat. Sometimes the worst problems can't be "seen". My hope is this young woman will get the help she needs, emotionally and physically and may her goal be to return to her the rest of her life in a new and motivating manner. Thanks for your comment Captainsam.”
thorrsman on May 25, 2012 at 15:57:07
“You can't? I can. People tend to be cruel and thoughtless.
From what I have observed, the majority of those who spend their days posting to places like HP--and likely stuffing pizza, donuts or whatever is the local equivilent into their holes--tend to fall on the cruel and thoughtless side far more than usual.
Perhaps it is their own lack of contact with other humans in reality rather than virtual situations.”
“i have made (and will never stop) it my life's work to get the message out there regarding verbal abuse. BUllying is verbal abuse, and we need to change the term. It will never stop, until or unless we teach our children.
The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life after 36 years of abuse. I believe it should be required reading for everyone on the planet.
The statistics are staggering: 1 in 3 women are living behind closed doors in silence, fear and shame because of abuse; that is over 52 million in the U.S. alone, and of course, the children are being abused.
Without knowledge, we are helpless. Alice”
Analog4ever on May 10, 2012 at 17:18:45
“And another third are abusing their family.
Abuse is not gender specific, so just quit pretending that men are the problem. From my experience women are much more likely to be verbally abusive - and I used to let that slide but not any more. Silence while it's happening, and thereafter they are persona non grata.”
“What I do not understand!!! Why didn't one of those 50 people standing around watching her, go over to her, cover her up and stop her from running around.!! When good men do nothing evl prevails (Elie Wiesel)”
Mar 28, 2012 at 17:41:29
“How silly! I am a 65-year old Freshman, because I wrote about my life and won a scholarship. Downhill? I am just getting started. Grandma Moses would be surprised to hear that, LOL (I mean, you thinking that life is downhill after 34).”
fscuttle on Mar 28, 2012 at 18:18:40
“Maybe your 34 just s/u/c/k/e/d?”
Cindi Perry on Mar 28, 2012 at 17:50:07
“I too agree that it is silly. I am 64 and every year gets better. I am still working full time in sales, planning promotions, writing a cook book, serve on many committees and boards and thinking about running for a political office..and very happily married.
Life is what you make of it and it keeps on getting better!”
jm26dream on Mar 28, 2012 at 17:44:14
“I demand that you stay home and complain about younger generations, to fit my expectations of old people!”
“Hi, RedDonnaAnn: In answer to your question: Never....until or unless we educate our young children to respect one another.
I have made a video for YouTube....entitled The Silent Scream......1 in 3 women on the planet are living behind closed doors in silence, fear and shame because of verbal (not well discussed or understood) and physical violence.
I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group and a Freshman at age 65, because I wrote about my life and won a scholarship.
I have been writing for over 10 years to Oprah, media types to get the message out there. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans is a book which I believe should be read for everyone on the planet.
Over 52 million women are living with abuse. THe U.S. spends 123 BILLION as a result of the abuse of women, and of course, children living in this environment go to school bull---verbally abuse others, and sometimes tragedy (in the form of suicide) is a result.
This cycle will continue until we educate our young children ...over 90% of men in prison were abused as children....cause and effect. I was abused, but broke that cycle.”
RedDonnaAnn on Feb 29, 2012 at 13:25:39
“I could not agree more and I am so proud to hear of someone like you overcoming obstacles and becoming such an enormous success. I hope your life is beyond your wildest dreams.
Thank you for being of service to those who need you so very much. My hat is off to you.”
“On my 21st birthday , I got out of the army...Women's Army Corps.....Today at 65, I am a Freshman in college, because I wrote about my life of overcoming and won a scholarship. Age is irrelevant unless you ae a tree or a cheese!!
“AND....you have lousy communication skills. It isn't "I GOT a Grammy."
I HAVE a Grammy. Just sayin'
I am the moderator of an abused survivors group (and have been for over 10 years)....
The statistics are staggering: 1 in 3 women on the planet are living in silence, fear and shame behind closed doors. That is over 52, million in the U.S. alone!
Children growing up in abusive homes go to school and bully (verbal abuse....I wish we would stop calling it bulllying........and the result sometimes is tragic ; the abused child commits suicide.
The U.S. spends $124 BILLION as a result of child neglect/abuse. I am working like a "Trojan" to try and get on National TV to talk about this terrible "shredding of Souls"
I would like to make a documentary entitled: The Silent Scream (going to do a blurb and put it on :YouTube...without education with are helpless and the cycle will continue.”
“I am a born-again Christian (before anyone even knew what that term meant, LOL). I was a member of a Baptist Church: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com (almost 20,000 hits).
I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse, an fought spiritual abuse...on my birthday, my name was put up on a screen (3 times), followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God." Called to a meeting of deacons (16 "men"), not allowed to have a woman with me and asked: "Are you still having sex with your ex?" Very long story of fighting for 18 months (so that no other women would be "counseled" by the pastor
of disaster, because 2 of his counselees....wanted to commit suicide (because of his "counseling" skills. I lost a whole church, but kept my faith. Spiritual abuse is a wound that has never heale, even after 7 years.
I am a 65-year old Freshman in college, because I wrote about my life and won a scholarship.
www.soulpoetry.org (my book, Sanctuary of the Soul) ...I took a lifetime of suffering and did something with the "ashes."”
iridium53 on Feb 16, 2012 at 10:48:44
So, say again why you, and other women, remain a part of a spiritual, or religious organization run by men, for men, that purposely subjugate and humiliate women?
Is that really how women see God's plan? To humiliate them and subjugate them?
Why do women stay in organizations that actively fight against womens' rights such as the Equal Rights Amendment?”
“I experienced spiritual abuse in a protestant church (very long 18 month debacle)....www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com....something positive coming from the ashes of a nightmare life. I got a divorce after 36 years of verbal and physical abuse. I was naive enough to think the pastor knew something of the dynamics of abuse (he and his minions/deacons were clueless.) I got a divorce, and then fought the system for 18 months to try and prevent the pastor (of disaster) from counseling any more women, because 2 of his counselees....wanted commit suicide (because of his "counseling" skills.)
I allowed the x to live in my house shortly after the divorce (long story why) and was called to a meeting of deacons (16 "men'), not allowed to have a woman with me, and asked: "Are you still having sex with your ex?!" No boundaries.......
In the end on my birthday, my name was put up on a big screen, followed by the words, "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God." Three different times...the x was never called to a meeting.
I am a 65-year old freshman in psychology beause I wrote about my life of adversity and overcoming and won a scholarship.
years to get the message out there regarding abuse....1 in 3 women on our planet are living in silence, fear and shame behind closed dooors....along with their children who are suffering.”
“Jacqueline Kennedy was the "epitome" of a first lady. I don't believe there will be another (First Lady) to even come close to her elegance, breeding and class.”
DannyeSue on Jan 25, 2012 at 17:46:55
“I personally prefer the elegance of Mrs Obama to the ostentatious looks of Mrs Kennedy, but that's just a personal opinion.”
mlrinc10 on Jan 25, 2012 at 16:20:12
“Well Eleanor Roosevelt was THE epitome of a first lady, but I was talking about THIS century......I hear Dolly Madison wasn't bad either! btw: Jackie's dad was a gambling bootlegger.....some breeding! Jackie was best at orchestrating her own image.
Also, her main accomplishment was redoing the White House....join the crowd.”
Jan 13, 2012 at 15:45:46
“I stationed at the Presidio of San Francisco: 1965-67 in the Women's Army Corps...the barracks are long gone. This gives me a weird feeling! So many memories of living at the Presidio!”
Uncle Fishbits on Jan 17, 2012 at 20:09:48
“Cheers CaptainSam! I was wondering if you know anyone who stayed in Pershing Hall, this new Inn? We would love to be able to invite people who had actually stayed there while it was under Army control. Let me know! info@innatthepresidio”