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Traveling Alone: 10 Relaxing Solo Vacations For New Divorcees

Traveling Alone: 10 Relaxing Solo Vacations For New Divorcees

Commented Mar 24, 2013 at 15:40:56 in Divorce

“Just have to get over the idea of using my vacation time to do something other than be with my children. That will be more difficult than picking a destination.”

CoveredUp on Jun 2, 2013 at 07:53:37

“I don't know what your budget is but I love Barbados in the winter. South west coast is more affordable than the west northwest. You'll have to drive on the "wrong" side of the road if you rent a car (which I would) but it safe and the people are cool. I go to surf but there plenty of others things to see and do.”
Traveling Alone: 10 Relaxing Solo Vacations For New Divorcees

Traveling Alone: 10 Relaxing Solo Vacations For New Divorcees

Commented Mar 24, 2013 at 15:36:19 in Divorce

“First vacation i took post divorce was Disney World of course. Now i am contemplating taking my first daddycation. Not sure what to do yet but i think i will seek out some peace and calmness.”

ogomos on Mar 24, 2013 at 19:15:04

“Try St. Maarten/St Martin. Plenty of quiet beaches, calm atmosphere, and great dining. Also lots of casinos, clubs and night life if you desire a little action. Little bit of everything and the island is very safe so you don't have to worry about leaving your resort. Great for the daddycation.”

chebaudoin on Mar 24, 2013 at 15:40:56

“Just have to get over the idea of using my vacation time to do something other than be with my children. That will be more difficult than picking a destination.”
Todd Akin On Abortion: 'Legitimate Rape' Victims Have 'Ways To Try To Shut That Whole Thing Down' (VIDEO)

Todd Akin On Abortion: 'Legitimate Rape' Victims Have 'Ways To Try To Shut That Whole Thing Down' (VIDEO)

Commented Aug 19, 2012 at 18:02:17 in Politics

“Under the republican rock. I am more than positive that his view is shared by a great many withing that rock type.”
Ultra-Orthodox Jews Blur Women With Modesty Glasses

Ultra-Orthodox Jews Blur Women With Modesty Glasses

Commented Aug 9, 2012 at 09:17:03 in Religion

“"Ultra-Orthodox Jews", are Ultra-Hot. They are sick in the head.”
Marvin Wilson Execution: Texas Puts Man With 61 IQ To Death

Marvin Wilson Execution: Texas Puts Man With 61 IQ To Death

Commented Aug 8, 2012 at 09:26:47 in Crime

“farmerlady, what you are seeing is what people are really like. Reading over the comment's section is like being a fly on the wall and getting to hear what people think. We give to much credit to people in general. Our society has not evolved for several thousand years and its not going anywhere fast. It is truly a disturbing thought what our future holds.”

farmerlady on Aug 8, 2012 at 12:18:14

“I agree.”
Divorce Rate: Satoshi Kanazawa Says Allowing Polygamy Would Bring Down Divorce Rate (VIDEO)

Divorce Rate: Satoshi Kanazawa Says Allowing Polygamy Would Bring Down Divorce Rate (VIDEO)

Commented Apr 25, 2012 at 01:20:12 in Divorce

“this will never work to bring down divorce rates. nothing will. people in our society are too selfish. all hope is lost for marriage.”
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Co-Parenting When Religious Considerations Are Significant

Commented Jul 15, 2013 at 01:14:07 in Divorce

“Going forward is going to be interesting. My former spouse and I never attended any religious service during our 17 years of marriage. Both of us were raised catholic but for me personally i never had any "faith" and would characterize myself now as being agnostic. Now we are divorced and she has been taking them to a christian evangelical church. Of course she has the right to take our children to any church she wishes. It was just a bit of a shock that she chose that one. And, of course I am still going to express to my children my personal belief's about religion and its place in our society. I will wait until they are a little older before i get to deep. But for the time being I will continue to preach the word of science with a dash of the dalia lama...”
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When the Tea Party Rules America

Commented Aug 7, 2012 at 08:41:15 in Politics

“@schalaine you are absolutely correct.”
How To Divorce: How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want A Divorce?

How To Divorce: How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want A Divorce?

Commented May 1, 2012 at 12:19:58 in Divorce

“or after your husband comes home from spending 30 days in the mountains of southern bolivia, trying to make a decent living to provide for his family and insuring a financially secure future you invite yourself to the meeting with conselor (the morning after your plane lands) and deliver the 1-2-3 punch....1.i filed for divorce last week 2.you should be served soon 3.you need to find a place to live. july23rd, 2010 9:15am. it was good that she did it in the presence of the marriage counselor so that i could atleast spend a couple nights at home with my kids before having to find a place to stay. seems like a lifetime ago...”
Handles & Hashtags: Taking Names and Giving Them Back

Handles & Hashtags: Taking Names and Giving Them Back

Commented Jan 25, 2012 at 14:00:31 in Divorce

“i remember looking in the iceland phone book and seeing 15,000 magnus magnusson's...they have been moving away from the traditional naming that you mention. so they will now be having this issue like the rest of us. suckers.”
Handles & Hashtags: Taking Names and Giving Them Back

Handles & Hashtags: Taking Names and Giving Them Back

Commented Jan 25, 2012 at 08:45:13 in Divorce

“The tradition of women taking on the last name of the man she marries needs to stop. Its stupid and absurd that one human being should change their name for the reason of getting married (its not like we have any respect for the instittution of marraige anymore in our society, we should assume that it will end in divorce). I did not request that my former spousal unit take on the "baudoin" name. Now when i see anything that has my name attached to her i find it very upsetting and another twist of the dagger. She is not a "baudoin". She does not carry the blood of my ancestry that brought our name from Tarbes France in 1792 to present day Lafayette Louisiana. She should carry her own, she should have always carried her own. I will make sure that i instill in my daughter to never give up her name if and when she should decide to get married (she is 5 so i have time). I don't know why but that whole idea of the woman taking the man's name feels like it is steeped in tradition, immaturity, childish giggles and the submission of the female. We should use the Iclenadic tradition of naming and end the stupidity surrounding changing names for the purpose of engaging in a "marraige". but i could be wrong.”
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After Divorce: Those Bittersweet Moments As Parents

Commented Dec 4, 2011 at 01:25:33 in Parents

“The divorce was finalized in october after almost 19 years. She was no longer happy with the life we had together. I spend alot of time away from home for work and i call the kids every couple days like i have always done but now hearing their voices is bittersweet, seeing pics i have on my phone or computer is bittersweet. When i go home they are with me until i leave for work again and sometimes i have that bittersweet feeling when i am with them. They are so beautiful and being with them is the only thing in my life that really brings me real happiness and a real sense of purpose. It will be a long road i can tell and the little sayings that we say about how this is going to be better and that is going to be better is just fluff. The pain and hurt will always be there each and everyday only lessened a little each day as time goes by. Tomorrow i fly home and i will get to spend a few days with my children. I will bring them to school, pick them up, do home work, cook, clean, give them baths, get them dressed for bed, tuck them in, give them hugs and kisses and tell them i love them. In the morning we do it again and i know those simple daily chores will be tinged with bittersweetness. Many things will be bittersweet from now on.”
America's Relationship with Divorce: 'It's Complicated'

America's Relationship with Divorce: 'It's Complicated'

Commented Aug 11, 2011 at 07:41:36 in Divorce

“hah....good one.”
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The Psycho Ex-Wife Blog is NOT on the High Road!

Commented Aug 11, 2011 at 07:20:29 in Divorce

“"to write things like this about the mother of his children"...I love this little phrase, sort of like diplomatic immunity i guess. I call bull****.”
5 Smart Posts About Divorce

5 Smart Posts About Divorce

Commented Jun 26, 2011 at 22:06:49 in Divorce

“The only purpose I serve is to bank role the whole thing.”
Pew Report On Fatherhood Finds Many Are Absent

Pew Report On Fatherhood Finds Many Are Absent

Commented Jun 19, 2011 at 20:57:32 in Divorce

“I was thinking that the reason the court is very eager to award child support is primarily due to the fact that most women would not be able provide for themselves and the children in their care. The idea is that the father would be the provider of the welfare check and not the govt.”
Pew Report On Fatherhood Finds Many Are Absent

Pew Report On Fatherhood Finds Many Are Absent

Commented Jun 19, 2011 at 02:25:57 in Divorce

“The phrase, "quality of men has fallen in the past few decades" is so blatantly offensive that i had to read it twice. totally awesome, kudos.”
Truths Of Being A Divorced Dad

Truths Of Being A Divorced Dad

Commented May 12, 2011 at 20:38:30 in Divorce

“You are absolutely correct. You would think that it would common sense that each individual family would have its on individual path to take moving ahead into the future. And for that family not to be lumped into some sort of average. Not everybody works a 9 to 5 job and is home every night. Some of us work in the field, on oil rigs out in the gulf for 20-30 days at a time and when we get home actually want to spend every waking minute with their kids. Wish i could just sit in the corner of the classroom while they are at school and hang out with them in the cafeteria...”
Thank You, Alex

Thank You, Alex

Commented Apr 20, 2011 at 23:56:33 in Divorce

“Very nice. I will have to save this one for the future. Maybe some day in the future i will be able to thank her for all that we had together. To cherish that and then prepare to move on. For now its mostly ugliness.”
Obama To Local Reporter: 'Let Me Finish My Answers' Next Time (VIDEO)

Obama To Local Reporter: 'Let Me Finish My Answers' Next Time (VIDEO)

Commented Apr 20, 2011 at 06:17:01 in Politics

“americans in general are not well known for their grasp of political history or any type of history for that matter.”
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The "Y" Factor: Gender Bias, Child Custody And The Great Parenting Myth

Commented Mar 29, 2011 at 12:52:36 in Divorce

“"Why can't we focus on the beginning for a chance instead of constantly focusing on mopping up the mess afterwards­? " Why are 85% of divorces filed by females?”

Barbara Folk on Mar 29, 2011 at 18:47:50

“Right, because we women get married and have kids just ACHING to be divorced. We LOVE the idea of you guys sleeping around with other women, or not working and asking us to support you. And Please, don't worry about drinking to excess. That's our problem too.”
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The "Y" Factor: Gender Bias, Child Custody And The Great Parenting Myth

Commented Mar 29, 2011 at 12:44:19 in Divorce

“I am just as much a parent to my children as she. period. She has no more rights than I. No one can or will convince me otherwise. Thats why the court needs to look at each family as an individual case. I do so realize the courts are very busy with the real hard work that they do...i'm just asking for them to use their brains for 10mins.

Do you not think a male homosapien has the ability to distinguish his offspring using his olfactory senses?”

Lucille on Mar 29, 2011 at 15:43:23

“If that's the case why do you believe you are getting a raw deal if the mother gets custody? If you are as much a parent as she is no more no less then why do you believe that the courts will rule against you? If you are the parent you claim you should receive joint custody or at least ample visitation. Why do you need (I assume) full custody, is it a matter of you being in control? Why should your wife give you more custody than she has, as most women work and still have most of the household and child rearing responsibilities to cope with, is your household different than the national average?

Why is the child/mother bond so threatening to you? What I referred to initially was regarding the infancy stage were the mother/child bond is essential for the child's survival. Below is a link, among many that articulates biologically while during the infancy stage the bond between mother and child is, sorry, more important than the fathers, however, as the child develops the father does have influence greatly the development of his child.

http://www.all-about-motherhood.com/bond-of-motherhood.html

patsteward on Mar 29, 2011 at 13:50:25

“My son sometimes smells, and I know it! Does this count?”
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The "Y" Factor: Gender Bias, Child Custody And The Great Parenting Myth

Commented Mar 29, 2011 at 11:14:45 in Divorce

“I will be in court on march 31st. As of now we have a 3 and 1 schedule (determined at the hearing officer conference in october) when i am home from work. I work away from home 45% of the month. So i do not see them for 1-3 weeks, i come home and have them with me for 3 nights and then they spend 1 night with their mother. If i am home for more than 2 weeks then i get them every other weekend. This is completely unacceptable. For their entire lives, when daddy is home, daddy takes care of them. And by takes care of them i mean, every aspect of their lives. That is what i want now. Having to bring my kids to their mother for 1 night and having them cry that they want to stay with me...that is the best interest of the children? Every time they ask me why they have to go for 1 night. Every time. No one, no lawyer, no court knows what is best for my children. I do. I will not allow these swine to limit my time with my children. I have just as much right to be a parent as she. period.”

acter1 on Mar 29, 2011 at 22:53:51

“I admire your fighting spirit. Here's a shout-out. But the Family Services-Divorce Judge cabal will beat you to a pulp. Good luck.”

Rik Little on Mar 29, 2011 at 17:16:31

“You will HAVE to file in FEDERAL court citing a long line of Supreme Court 'life, liberty and property' issues (and they DO exist from the 14th Amendment onward) because the Family Courts in EVERY County in Every State are NOT going to do anything which cuts in on their Multi-Billion Dollar criminal (unconstitutional) racketeering (child support, alimony, attorney fees, domestic violence) BUSINESS.”
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When is it OK to Just Give Up on Sex and Love?

Commented Mar 21, 2011 at 01:59:03 in Divorce

“09:30, July 23rd 2010, in the marriage counselor's office, my heart was broken. the love of my life for 18 years crushed me...blah blah blah. Cannot even imagine the idea of being involved with another woman, I guess that will come in time. Right now i am to consumed with absolute hatred and blinding rage at having to defend my life against her, her lawyer, the court and the stupidity of society in general. I don't see how i will have time for such a pursuit. I'm 41, work away from from home 60% of the month in isolated locations. When i am home the only people i want to be with are my kids and my family. No time for anyone else. I am still going to meet with our marriage counselor, she doesn't want to be called divorce counselor. I guess she will be my life coach at this point. Hopefully she can at least speed up the healing process so that i can breath again. So that i can see a future that has me in love again. I just hope I can be patient with myself, because what is happening to me right now can never...never happen again. Divorce court march 31st, meeting with counselor the following day, will need it. That and a stiff drink.”

CBasilJr on Apr 2, 2011 at 05:23:00

“Good luck, chebaudoin.

I had a marriage of 20 years fall apart and empathize with the pain. The biggest thing that helped me was when I talked my situation over with friends and discovered that I wasn't a fool by sticking to the marriage to the end.

When I knew that my divorce had been finalized, I went outside, raised my arms, and said, "Free oh Lord, I'm free at last. Thank God Almighty, I'm free at last."

I was kidding myself. My post-marriage depression lasted for several years, and it was the care and concern of my few friends that made me aware that I still had something of value. Treasure your friends, such as your life counselor, as they can help you shorten the time it takes to recuperate.”

LynneE on Mar 31, 2011 at 13:16:00

“Good luck, dear. It WILL get better. My marriage broke up after 24 years, and I made it through better than ever. I do still hate his guts though, lol...not sure that part ever goes away, maybe just diminishes with time.

Try to take some time for yourself to heal. The lifecoach is a great idea, just to have someone to talk to. You can get through this.”

dag1174 on Mar 21, 2011 at 14:02:38

“Hi, I went through this same thing this time last year (15 year relationship, wife crushed me.) I feel you my friend, it truly stinks.
Hang in there, a year later life my life is 10x better, not perfect, but I'm much happier and emotionally better off.”
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