“As a child psychologist with a background in trauma and the experience of being a mom, I kept wondering all day long if there was any way that I could get to Connecticut to offer help to the parents of those affected. Here's what I had to say on today's unbelievable tragedy:
“I had many of these same conversations in my head today as I witnessed the horror. I kept getting up and sitting down. Getting up and sitting down as my rational self argued with my emotional self about picking my son up from school early. I'm a mom and a psychologist. I talk about processing this unbelievable tragedy here:
“As someone with a specialization in working with kids who have experienced trauma, I am happy to see these recent statistics. Although it wasn't specifically pointed out other than to say that children with disabilities comprised 11% of kids being abused, I think it is important to know that this number is disproportional to children who don't have special needs. What this means is that children with special needs are abused at a much greater rate than those children without. Another reason why I spend so much time working with parents of kids with special needs about teaching children how to be safe.
“First, the majority of these results are correlation. And any graduate student knows from the very first statistics class that correlation does not equal causation. Drawing these global relationships without taking in the other factors contributing to the relationship (most importantly SES) is so misleading. Neglecting to take into account SES is extremely erroneous as the majority of parenting studies show that financial status is one of the strongest predictors of reported happiness within the family system.
“I don't think the author is claiming causation. I think they are claiming correlation.
"If you can do responsive care-giving, it seems that you can do it across different relationships"
I think that is saying not that good relationships are the cause of good parenting but that if you are good at relationships, then you are most likely also good at parenting. Something else is the cause.”
“Any arguments that leaves out the cultural context from the discussion is incomplete. It is impossible to discuss this trend without addressing the cultural context in which it occurs. There is no mention of SES in this discussion at all and I don't think you can examine motherhood without taking this into account.
“As a child psychologist, this is simply a ridiculous study and equally silly to pass along the information as fact. First of all, it's yet another correlational study. It could just as easily be that children with the propensity for autism, engaged in more painful activity, which subsequently led to more painful cries. Or it could be that we just continually grasp for straws in regard to autism because ultimately we don't understand much of it from a scientific perspective.
“Um...there's no way you would ever be able to statistically measure this. There is no way you'd be able to adequately measure how much air pollution both groups were exposed to. This is about as ridiculous as saying that vaccines cause autism. Grasping at straws. Let's just admit that we don't know.
“Sure it didn't. Perhaps if she keeps telling herself that enough, it will eventually become the truth. Perhaps the fact that he was the stay at home dad while she enjoyed a celebrity career while taking all of the credit for parenting didn't sit so well with him.
“I just don't understand why Christians are so supportive of Romney. Mormonism and Christianity do not even share the same beliefs. They are diametrically opposed to each other. It makes no sense! I talk more about it here:
“Amanda Todd’s death is such a tragedy in a long list of such tragedies. There used to be a time when you could get away from bullying. But it's not that way anymore. For kids that are being bullied, it now follows them home and everywhere because so much of the bullying happens online. Lots of kids turn to drastic measures to either protect themselves or hurt themselves. It is so tragic. I've spent time addressing how to help teenagers deal with depression caused from bullying. As a child psychologist, I point out that trying to help teenagers deal with depression by focusing on it as a temporary state does not actually help. In their world, the present day is the only day that exists so we have to address their problems from that angle. I talk more about this here: http://www.themommypsychologist.com/2012/05/03/how-do-you-help-a-depressed-teenager/”
“I can't even comprehend how anyone could continue to bully someone even after they had taken their own life. It is absolutely atrocious. I am SO glad Anonymous found this guy. I'm fairly certain he has many other victims and hopefully, this will prevent him from doing this to somebody else. Hopefully.
“As a child psychologist and mom, I'm surprised you are putting a spotlight on his innocent mother.
As a child psychologist, surely you know how helpless family members are when it comes to mental health issues. Once a "child" is over 18, they are legally helpless to help him.”
yisrshek on Jul 28, 2012 at 15:32:21
“When his mother was contacted, she said 'you have the right person. I'll call the police.' The fact that she didn't sound surprised, gives me a chilling feeling. Why didn't she call the police BEFORE it happened? This doesn't sound like a woman I'd want for my mother. It was a very cold reaction. I'm sure his upbringing had alot to do with this. I know that mental illness can & is passed on from generation to generation.”
Harry Edward Schnepp on Jul 28, 2012 at 14:46:56
“if he were my son i would be sad that he did what he did, but i'd have to say ilove you son, but you've done what is evil to so many, and as much as i love you, i'll be there for you, but you'll have to pay the price, sad as it may be, the proof is to over welming. if your lucky i can visit you in prison, if its in the cards as i believe that as much as i love you, i believe in the death peanalty. and you knew that as we've talked of it before. your still my son, i love you but hate what you've done, you've brought pain to and entire country and your family, your life is now in the hands of the people.”
Whudmel 1 on Jul 28, 2012 at 14:40:55
“If I were James Holmes Mom--I would plead for my mentally ill son to go to the State Mental Hospital --where he would be treated among the criminally insane and kept for life if incurable, where he could never hurt another nor himself.. Mental Illness in our country has been swept under the rug long enough.. There are drugs out there to get this man well.. He should not be tortured in a Jail if he is declared Criminally Insane. Most of our crime today begins with a mentally deranged person---let's get them well.”
“I've spent time this week addressing how to help teenagers deal with depression. As a psychologist, I point out that trying to help teenagers deal with depression by focusing on it as a temporary state does not actually help. This may seem counterintuitive, but teenagers have not developed the thinking skills to be able to see or think about the future in a meaningful way. It is one of the reasons we see so much risk taking behavior as well. In their world, the present day is the only day that exists so we have to address their problems from that angle. I talk more about this here: http://www.themommypsychologist.com/2012/05/03/how-do-you-help-a-depressed-teenager/”
“Wasn't his mother a dr in the field of psychology or did I read that wrong somewhere?
If she was, she had to know somewhere along the line that he had issues and if so,
she should have intervened at some point.”
“As a child psychologist and a mom, I can't help but think about James Holmes' mother. Did she help create a monster or did she love her son just as much as I do? I've been asking readers what they would do if they were James Holmes' mother. I'd love to hear your answer:
“I don't have to go to the site: Of course she loves her kids, or kid as much as you do. I do my own. Because , her son went on a shoot spree, now it's the mothers fault and the fathers. You all are the sick ones. You all that think like you , just better start counting your blessing that that will NEVER EVER BE YOUR CHILD!!!!”
gina0318 on Jul 23, 2012 at 23:24:05
“Is this for your thesis research? Planning to write a book about this?
Trying to capitalize on this tragedy?”