“Normal doesn't mean its not rape. Rape is being forced into sex. Do you actually think a 15 year old has the power to refuse her parents telling her to marry? If she can't refuse a marriage she doesn't want, then its still rape.”
dhlincali on Dec 10, 2013 at 12:16:12
“And in some cultures it's the young girls who choose the men, not the other way around. Does that mean the sex is rape in those cases? Hardly.”
peacemomma on Dec 10, 2013 at 12:13:50
“Thank you! Funny I was having this argument with a family member after telling him a story about an aquaintence who basically bought a sixteen year old girl from Morocco from her parents and brought her back to the US. She refused to consummate the sham marriage, learned karate immediately and threatened to beat him up if he didn't divorce her. True story.You are so right. And, culturally accepted rape is even worse as there is no way out. This issue is one of power. No power, no consent.”
“How did they know she was gay?
They saw short hair cut in boy's style and just decided that meant gay?
That's not cool. There are plenty of reasons for a woman to have short hair, they like the cut (its easy to deal with), they've had cancer and are regrowing hair, they cut their hair off for charity/friend with cancer.
Did she tell them she was gay? Because if my waitress/er started talking to me about her sexual orientation (either way) I might find that inappropriate. But unless she told them it sounds like they made a judgement about an individual based entirely on style. Which in itself is as bad as the homophobia.”
Happy-Go-Lucky on Nov 14, 2013 at 17:51:04
“Good points about cancer treatments. I had my head shaved shortly after starting chemotherapy.
Customers have the right to critique the food & service--period.”
“If I had a job interview near a parent and tricky to get to with public transport. I'd try and get them to take me (they drive and would make the journey easier).
But do you really need a formal take your parents to work day? If your parents want to see where you work have them come in at the end of the day, show them around let them hang for 10 mins or so and then all go out for dinner. That's what I do when parents want to see what I'm up to.”
“No clinical trial data showing its an alternative to masectomy. How do you know she isn't taking it with her cancer drugs. Maybe supplements do/do not help. They aren't an alternative to medicine, they should be used with normal medicine.”
“No, the UK doesn't have a no questions asked policy about giving up a baby. You can put one up for adoption, you can't give them away without deliberately going through social services.
They would reunite mother and baby, that doesn't mean giving custody to the mother. It means identifying the mother, checking that she's medically OK and finding out why she did what she did. Then sorting out anything which potentially could be sorted.
We don't know anything, we don't know if the mother left the baby there, or someone else did. For all we know the mother is desperately looking for that child.
The mother will be reunited, (allowed to see the baby). It does not mean unsupervised access. That may or may not happen depending on what else is going on, and cooperation with social services.”
“I want to give and be part of something which gives, because its the right thing to do. Oh look there's a group which is giving back to the needy, it has all the infrastructure already in place and just needs more hands to help it. I can go be those hands and give because its the right thing to do. This will help that groups efficacy and thus help more people than I could do on my own.
I get that that group says its in the name of god, but the actions they are performing are good actions, so I'll help them and keep quiet about the god bit.
Sound perfectly normal to me. I've done charity work with religious groups myself. If religion is mentioned I ignore it.”
“That's one little boy who already has a lot of issues going on at home, and who's parents probably can't be trusted with him.
What 9 year old knows enough about how to get around and blend in on their own in order to take public transport to an airport, stay there for a while, and then fly on a plane?
What issues is a nine year old facing to get on a plane and run away?
What sort of guardians don't know where their kid is on a school day for that amount of time, twice?
That's one little boy who shouldn't be returned to his parents until CPS have investigated and intervened. Something is going wrong in that house, and he is not safe there without help.”
OneMercilessMing on Oct 7, 2013 at 19:12:48
“That's one little boy who was a STOWAWAY--which is illegal. There are MUCH better ways of dealing with "issues" at home than taking off on a jet plane.
EVERY child in the USA is taught, from preschool on, how to contact the police or CPS if there are "issues" at home.
Therefore, your snarky comments are ill-advised and poorly placed. Run along now.”
“Plenty of people choose not to follow their parents faith. We have no idea if he raised her in a homophobic religious community at all.
Plenty of atheists in these forums talk about their religious upbringing. We don't know if she went the other way.”
Freygunnr on Oct 3, 2013 at 08:35:11
“"We have no idea if he raised her in a homophobic religious community at all."
Dude. "He" is the one who is calling her out on her homophobia. I'd say that is pretty compelling evidence "he" did not raise her that way.
I'd say it's a failed logic leap to blame her parents or upbringing. Her failure as a mother is solely her own doing.”
“I'm not saying that 13 year olds shouldn't get abortions without parental consent. What I'm saying is that if a 13 year old shows up pregnant, either parents, cops or social services should be called. That's law, it has nothing to do with the age of the potential father (though that may help determine who's called).
As for Plan B, it is far safer than a pregnancy, especially in a 13 year old.”
lioncarern on Sep 18, 2013 at 11:01:18
“Guess your reading comprehension isn't so hot. My objections are that the very clinics being investigated for fraud, and protecting pedophiles and rapists, are receiving federal and state tax money, all while being prosecuted and fined for crimes. And no plan B long term consequences are not safer than a pregnancy, Until the 19th century young women had babies all the time. It is not until the industrial revolution that women delayed childbearing until their late 20's or longer. Not ag all advocating for teen pregnancy though, just stating what occured in previous centuries in this very country. Not agreeing with any abuse of children like what family planning clinics are complicit in in the 21st century. Try doing a little research in actual health journals, Start with CDC data, for example.. I am a health care provider with an over 27 year career in pediatric, infant and now maternal and child health care.”
“Disturbing and sensationalist. Most abortions are early - the woman is not showing. No medical proffesional providing good abortion care should be pressuring someone who changes their mind.
Also mentioning in the lyrics that she's 13. A 13 year old who is pregnant has far more issues than the choice between abortion or not. A 13 year old has been raped (by legal definition), even those who feel they've consented have something else going on. Medical staff aren't giving 13 year olds abortions without either parental consent or legal advise.
Finally a 13 year old can get pregnant, but that doesn't mean that her body is physically ready to have a baby, those pregnancies are higher risk than the pregnancies of a girl in her late teens.
That video is sensationalist and oversimplifies things (its also not a good song - I've heard pro life songs which I actually liked musically).”
lioncarern on Sep 17, 2013 at 22:41:32
“Well then you should be outraged that clinics especially PP actually violate laws concerning statutory rape by encouraging young girls not to tell the age of the babies father. Do some research. Every day kids that young are getting abortions without any parental consent. The pro aborts squeal that it is an undue burden on abortion to have parental notification. And teen girls as young as thirteen can get access now to Plan B which can cause serious health consequences if used incorrectly or too often. You can google this data, or check CDC data on abortion, except that it is no longer mandatory to report state abortion statistics to the CDC. California and Connecticut, for example no longer report their statistics.”
PCCNYC on Sep 17, 2013 at 22:38:08
“I don't care whether you are pro-choice or pro-life, that video was over the top ridiculous. More ridiculous than anything I've ever seen tuning past the conservative Catholic channel on cable, EWTN.”
“Normally you would be right, except in the historical context of my statement.
The origin of the word "sphere" is Greek. The biblical references to a circular earth in Job and Isaiah predate the Greeks. There was likely no word to describe a 3-dimensional circular object at the time of the writing of those books (5th century B.C. and 6th century B.C., respectively).
It is usually accepted that "sphere" as a geometric term was not commonly used until the time of Archimedes.”
“No one who can be provoked into shooting a gun should be carrying one around. If you have to carry it around, it should only be drawn if in fear for your life or another's. If there's a risk you'll take it out simply because someone provokes you and makes you mad, you should NOT be carrying it.”
wonderYrednow on Aug 15, 2013 at 22:13:48
“I would go much further, but I'm aware of what guns do to Americans.”
“The Catholic church opposed two people having a sexual relationship outside of marriage. Thus it does oppose 2 people living together in a sexual relationship regardless of orientation. He was violating the church's moral clauses for a decade without any trouble, it was only when he changed which clause to violate he got in trouble.”
Jul 21, 2013 at 04:28:56
“Surely the college can't control what language their students were speaking to each other? It sounds like a social (?bullying on someone's part) issue. Though the college could have moved her to a different study group, they wouldn't have been able to force the members of the study group to speak English in an informal setting.
If the college had been teaching or holding classes in Spanish, then she'd have a case. As it stands the actions of individual students (as opposed to teachers) are probably going to make this hard to sue.”
Disdain on Jul 21, 2013 at 11:01:07
“Here's the rub, we are not talking about a social setting. These mandatory discussions are being done in Spanish, effectively leaving her out of them. The concurrent translation taking place in the classroom during lecture are also a barrier to her learning. The administration had a duty to react to her complaints and not have her escorted out of the school like a vulgar criminal.”
socasusie on Jul 21, 2013 at 09:42:30
“It's a state sponsored school, and it was an official study group-which means they could have penalized the students for failing to speak English in the group.”
“I don't understand why universities are dealing with individual rape cases. If you get raped you go to the police, they deal with it and prosecute it through the criminal justice system. Then you get proper consequences, and they get a criminal record.”
“The palace isn't going to be allowed to stock blood, as you can't do a blood transfusion without a lab and haematologist involvement (even you got a haematologist in the palace just in case, you can't get a lab there).In London it would be an ambulance, not a helicopter (medical helicopters are centralized, having a private medical helicopter on standby would be extortionate). The ambulance would get mobbed by press.No one wants to be rushing her in an ambulance when it could have been done in a secure part of a private wing of a hospital with NHS ITU nearby just in case.There's no reason to take the additional risk.”