“If you haven't had kids at 31, I would wonder why a tubal ligation would be necessary...”
Mattiejane on Aug 17, 2013 at 19:58:11
“I was worried that I would do something stupid and get pregnant. Slip up with my birth control and or fall for someone who talked me into having kids and then hating him for it. ( The scenario could have been and loving him for it but what you never had can't hurt you ). I always was very big on healthy reproduction. I never found a man I wanted to have babies with. They were all duds or not good character/quality or health. Also, I knew that I could adopt if I yeared for a child.”
FreeSpeech4All on Aug 17, 2013 at 13:34:10
“Um, so you don't have to take other forms of birth control for the next 20 years?”
“But here's the thing, there ARE actually some inmates who say prison was good for them - it got them off the street and into an environment where there was nothing to do but learn (I was listening on the radio to a guy opening I think his second bakery, and he didn't learn to bake until he was in prison and worked in the kitchen).
Likewise, there are some parents whose children have ruined their lives. We don't hear about them often, because parents don't like to say that and insult their child, but some parents DO feel that having a child was, in hindsight, not the best thing they should have done at the time.”
dreadoves on Aug 17, 2013 at 13:44:38
“I don't doubt prison has done good things for some people but that's a whole other conversation. The article said parenting a toddler can be like prison and to me comparing the two is crazy.
I also thinks it's unfair to blame children for ruining lives. I think that definitely the wrong word to use. Kids don't just pop out of the womb with a hidden agenda.”
“"I did not report it to the management nor to the authorities"
Put yourself in the group of people who did nothing. You could have reported it right away and the guy would have been caught. Every minute you delay lowers the chances your son's attacker will be brought to justice. You could have simply screamed "call security!" and someone would have. Many of the people watching were probably simply shocked.”
“"Because we're the only ones in the first world who do this en masse"
This is probably because Americans are so strictly divided, along so many lines. On the one hand we have an amazing melting pot culture. On the other hand we have people that continue with their "old world" prejudices. My family's be subjected to prejudice, and my family has behaved in a prejudicial manner to others. In other countries you don't have this AS much. Simply due to size restrictions, not as many people can flock to England, or Sweden, or wherever as they can America. America allows more lenient immigration than, say, Japan.
And since we're a melting pot, I don't know that we have much to rally behind. We're not number 1 in anything. We've very much a fractured nation, living in an "us vs them" state, with access to ways to "correct" this. It's sad.”
Aesops on Jul 26, 2012 at 01:22:49
“It's because you have been separated and divided from one another from one another from early on. I have travelled around the world, and there is not a more individually distant country than America. For all the flag waving, and hands over hearts, you have no community, no real sense that you can depend on the other. In your corporate society the neighbour has been cast as the competition, someone that threatens your own prosperity. I'm sure it must serve some interests, but it does not serve the common man and woman. Without trust there is no community, without real community, there is no peace.”
Joseph Raymond Herrera on Jul 26, 2012 at 00:45:54
“Because of this gun lax control. U.S. lost his position in the first world. U.S. is becoming the joke of the first world.”
“I think it makes a lot of sense. Ursula's curves in animation give her a lot of character. She's very curvaceous and animated....but in a plastic doll I think those curves would just make her look like a balloon or a blob.”
It's a fashion doll, not a sculpture. I'm betting she also got legs in the deal - are we pissed with that?
I hate that the idea that "there's more to beauty than size!" - a positive idea that allows people to focus on the positive aspects of their lives instead of being hung up on the negative - has been perverted into an "every size is beautiful!" - which essentially shames you if you don't find an unhealthy body attractive. Obesity should not be ridiculed, but nor should it be idealized, the same way those with anorexia should not be ridiculed nor idealized (both of which occur).”
missyinSoCal on Jul 1, 2012 at 13:33:21
“If I would've written that, I would've gotten 50 negative replies.. I think you just speak more eloquently than me ;) Great post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
KimDC on Jul 1, 2012 at 10:13:41
“Wow. I have been struggling to find a way to articulate this even to myself, thank you for such a great and succinct summing up of what has been happening with these attitudes lately! Faved & fanned! :)”
“I agree - plus the unattractive men tend to fall into "Nice Guy" mode - wherein they THINK they're acting nice and as such that should completely make up for any lack of looks/maintenance and you should feel obligated to go out with them. In the end they wind up being manipulative, controlling, and downright awful people.
If I wanted to be treated like garbage (which, actually, I don't) I would at least want to have a pretty face to look at while it was going on. :-)”
“They did a study recently that gave a bit of insight as to how females and males chose dates. Males were more likely to choose based on the woman's attractiveness, and women were more likely to choose based on...the woman's attractiveness. Basically, a guy thinks he's entitled to a woman of a certain attractiveness to begin with and shoots for that (and everything above). A woman, however, takes into account her own view of her attractiveness and shoots for males that fall within this range.
for example, a male rated a "5" wouldn't think anything of calling up a woman who's a 6 - 10. However a woman who's a "5" would stick to men who are maybe 4-7.
It's baffling because people think this is natural. This is NOT natural. We are the only species with males that act like this.”
“Oh man, do we really want to argue DNA? All humans are wired to procreate, not just men. Humans are more like monogamous species than polygamous (based on male:female size ratio) and as such males should be wired for raising children just as much as females. Furthermore since females are supposed to be stuck with one mate for her life (unlike with polygamous species) she should choose the most attractive one she can get, as more attractive males will more likely result in fitter children.
Men think they are supposed to mate with anything that moves and women think they're supposed to not be picky (or at least choose based on wealth, not looks) and be the nurturers, but let's be clear - these are CULTURAL cues, NOT biological.”
sdtrueman on Jun 15, 2011 at 09:43:34
“No...sorry, that's simply not correct - they are not JUST cultural issues; they are both biological and cultural.”