“One of the boys involved is said to be the son of an officer. They maintain for months there is no evidence of rape and not enough evidence to charge the boys with assault. The parents take to the Internet to cry out for justice for their daughter, Anonymous gets involved and suddenly there is "new" evidence? Perhaps that evidence was that covering up a crime is indeed a crime.”
“There are always going to be a ton of things parents miss out on when divorce splits the family. Sounds to me like Jennifer is simply sharing her perspective of how she FEELS about it. I am also sure that the father has his perspective as well...both are allowed to feel how they feel about it. Many many many many mothers are left to pick up the pieces and knit families back together as the father moves on to his "new" family, new life and new world. Are there exceptions to the rule? OF COURSE...just because her perspective isn't the same as the father's doesn't mean her's is wrong, or false...it's different. What is happening that the kids don't want to see their dad??? That's got to be a warning bell to anyone! It goes against everything a parent instinctively knows to FORCE a child to go...why should she be any different. Divorce is hard enough without people jumping all over you...give her the space to air her perspective and hope to hell your's never changes...divorce SUCKS for everyone involved...compassion goes a long way to at least gaining some perspective.”
hp blogger Jennifer Ball on Oct 27, 2013 at 07:11:46
“Thanks so much for your comment, maniacalmom. I appreciate the clarity and maturity of your voice.
And an extra thank you for bringing up something I deliberately avoided touching: What happens that causes kids to not want time with a parent? I've wrestled with that one. Obviously they want to be where they feel loved and wanted and cared for. Is it my job to force my kids to see dad? Or to force dad to man up and insist that they see him? It's a tough situation all around.