“I absolutely don't condone what he said at all - it's totally and completely repugnant. But did he break any laws? I mean, it was a private conversation with someone in which he didn't break any laws or commit any legal or (arguably) ethical violations. In fact, the legality of having the tape released is what's in question. And for that he has his entire livelihood stripped? Seems a little extreme.
Doesn't everyone have a right to their views, no matter how repulsive those views are? And again, I do not agree with or excuse what he said in any way, shape or form. But to take his livelihood and ban him for life seems a little bit like Big Brother and the thought police are winning. Slap a heavy fine on him and send him to sensitivity training. It more and more seems like someone just wanted their hands on the team.”
jadl124 on May 3, 2014 at 17:50:25
“DS will recover in a few nanoseconds and move on. Money tolerates obnoxious everytime”
Apr 25, 2014 at 11:56:11
“I lived in a Buddhist monastery for 2 years, lol. So yeah, I have put a little thought into it - and a little no-thought, too.
No one said anything about forcing anyone, not sure where you're making that up from. As a society we need to learn to identify and treat dysfunctional personality and behavior patterns more effectively, for the benefit of everyone. And of course they're disorders - they make the people who have them and their victims miserable. That's unnatural. A healthy, non-disordered person isn't miserable or maladaptive.
They're not disorders "because I don't like them," but because in most cases they lead to a lot of human suffering, pain, and misery. Anyone who has dealt with personality disordered individuals - whether it's narcissism, sociopathy, borderline, etc. - knows that is the case. I appreciate you want to take some New Agey, quasi-"libertarian" approach to dealing with mental distress, but it's not a very realistic view of the world or a very deep understanding of what these disorders entail and the havoc they typically wreak in people's lives.”
Apr 25, 2014 at 10:31:27
“There's nothing "Buddhist" about encouraging unskillful mindsets that cause harm. That's actually the opposite of Buddhism. And it's kind of hard for small children who are dependent on their parents to "leave the vicinity." Then they grow up damaged by narcissism, too.
The entire culture is becoming more narcissistic, in fact, as most psychologists and other social experts will tell you. That doesn't lead to a healthy, stable society, it just leads to more problems to solve later (or to more problems to ignore, as seems to be your preference).”
Benjamin J Kane on Apr 25, 2014 at 10:56:52
“I said 'likened to' not that it was an actual tenant of the religion. But since I can tell you haven't put very much study into it, I won't bother rebutting your short sighted response in that regard. As for your second statement, as adolescents our first right of passage is escaping our own version of petty tyranny (read: your parents) there is nothing new about this. As far as the psychologists go, you would be hard pressed to find enough hard evidence to convince me that personality traits are 'disorders' just because you don't like them. Which would define something like 135 of the new entries into physicians references, another good example would be 'oppositional defiance syndrome'. Just because a person doesn't mesh well with authority, or has a grumpy disposition does not make it a 'disorder'. And most of all, people are not free to force people to live a certain way, as long as they are not infringing on your freedom to live how you chose.”
Apr 25, 2014 at 09:28:55
“"They simply are?" What is that, some New Age claptrap?
The fact that life might cause some emotional damage doesn't mean we should allow and encourage people to cause even more. We should educate about the destructive nature of narcissism and other personality disorders so the people who suffer with them can get appropriate treatment and thereby stop doing so much damage to others.”
Benjamin J Kane on Apr 25, 2014 at 09:52:06
“I would liken it more Buddhist belief system as opposed to a 'new age claptrap'. I guess I am more of a live and let live. I will fight furiously for people rights, and their lives, but I am not a big fan of forcing people to do things that are not directly hurting people. If you don't like how someone expresses themselves, you are free to leave their vicinity. Unless the actions committed are criminal in nature, then the police take action. Unless you are a forensic psychologist, in which case, by all means, take to your cases with abandon.”
Apr 25, 2014 at 08:11:36
“Narcissists cause a lot of emotional damage. If someone continually walked up to others and just started beating on them, would you excuse it and say "it takes all kinds to make the world go around?" No, you'd probably recognize that the person doing that was maladapted and was hurting other people because of it. It's an issue of right and wrong, not "it takes all kinds."”
Benjamin J Kane on Apr 25, 2014 at 09:08:42
“Life causes emotional damage. You are right, if I saw someone beating up on someone I would do something about, because I am that KIND of person, but that does not take away the FACT that there are those people out there. No amount of wishing, hoping, or labeling is going to change that there are sinners and saints. They simply are.”
“I think this view underestimates the irrationality of the big oil br4inw4shed republican christian right, who all read their bibles to deny evolution but ignore that little part about god giving the world herb bearing seed to use, hmmm.”
“So women are having more sex, and they claim that men are "losing the power struggle?" Sounds like the men are winning, too. It's about time women lost their dysfunctional emotional hangups about sex and realize that sometimes it's just about satisfying physical needs.”
TVs Scotty J on Mar 14, 2014 at 11:14:49
“I'm pretty sure that's the message these women are trying to send...”
“I see. So the idea that a d34d Jewish guy who rose from the dead will come back and raise other people from the dead makes more sense to you than living people raising people from the dead.
L0L, what a sensible religion.”
KSU Dem on Mar 13, 2014 at 06:47:39
“It's harder to tell you what I believe than what In don't believe.
The writers of the New Testament believed that Jesus had raised others and himself from the dead, and that he would come again to raise us from the dead. That hasn't happened yet. What is more commonly believed now is that we die and our souls "go to heaven" right away. There is no proof of that either, but for those of us who miss someone who's already died, or are afraid of our own deaths, it's a comforting hope that we will see those we love again. Some people need hope, some don't. If you don't more power to you.
What I don't believe: While it be natural for some to pray over someone whom they love that they aren't really dead, it's stupid and egotistical to sit praying over random dead bodies "practicing" the skill of raising people from the dead. With someone you love it's just an emotional response to your loss, with a stranger it's just hubris.”
Mar 12, 2014 at 06:23:37
“So tea tree oil and hot air work fine to kill lice? What did we need the chemicals for, then?”
erswnn on Mar 12, 2014 at 10:00:31
“Chemicals are quicker. People are generally lazy and want the "easy" way and the chemical companies are more than happy to sell you their product. And it's a sure bet their not going to tell you of any altenative methods. And eventually we come to believe that only the chemicals will save us.
I wonder if simple rubbing alsohol would also work are with the oils? For that matter plain old vegtable oil may work too. I'm guessing the oil coats the bugs and they can't breath.....this is an old remedy for ear mites in cats and dogs. Suffocate them to death then swab them out.
Alcohol works very well on bedbugs. Just spray alcohol on and around affected areas 2 or 3 times a day. You still have to wash everything and it takes work but that is true whether you spend thousands on an exterminator or hundreds on alcohol.”
dsws on Mar 12, 2014 at 09:59:21
“It takes quite a bit of hot air, and it's possible to cause burns or heat stroke. (Not particularly likely, but possible. And out of millions of people, that pretty much guarantees that someone will.)
Tea tree oil is a bunch of chemicals, just as chrysanthemum extract is. (The relevant species of Chrysanthemum were formerly classified in the now-defunct genus Pyrethrum, hence the name pyrethrin.) If tea tree oil gets used too much, lice will become resistant to it too.”
“Don't all christians believe in the possibility of rising from the dead? They worship a guy who they believe rose from the dead, don't they?”
Rob in the peoples repub on Mar 12, 2014 at 11:28:10
“Let's look at religious hist./fiction. I can name 3 Zoraster, Lazarus, Jesus. Can anyone add to this?”
doctorJulia on Mar 12, 2014 at 10:42:04
“This is another inponderable. I started school at a religious school and they taught me this stuff. Actually it is helpful in talking on HP. I could never understand why Jesus rose from the dead and still can't. Was he alive or dead? What is the difference? Can you go back and forth? Why would he want to go to Earth in the first place? Couldn't he have sent everybody in the world an e-mail? "Come on up! Plenty of booze and shinanigins in heaven".”
NitramNos on Mar 12, 2014 at 09:38:13
“Yes, Jeff, that's right, but they are supposed to believe that only God or His Son can raise the dead. I think they are a little off message/”
Nicole on Mar 12, 2014 at 07:47:21
“Christians also believe in a book that says you aren't supposed to "play God" which is exactly what these people are doing.”
KSU Dem on Mar 12, 2014 at 06:43:22
“I don't think most Christians think that we will raise one another from the dead here and now. The belief is that Jesus will raise us from the dead at the end of the world.”