“I am a trauma survivor and support people who suffer from mental illness as well as their healers.
The ultimate 'authority' in a person's experience is the person who experiences. This is why professionals take care to *not* define the person's experience for them. The 'superior' in a healthy therapy relationship is always the client.
However, it is standard to ask whether or not other people believe there's a problem, especially with addicts. Addicts minimize their dependency even when it is clear to others. If a client says, 'I'm not alcoholic, but my husband says I drink too much,' it's a red flag.
But dysfunction also distorts reality. I was abused and others were too, but get us into a therapist's office and the others will say that I am disturbed. Anyone would assume that this group of polished, professional people is 'mentally superior' to the openly traumatized client -- and yet it is often the suffering victim whose worldview is most trustworthy.
If your mother-in-law chews her straw, meh ? I pop straws to make my children laugh. She's not hurting herself or anyone else. And that's what matters most: the hurt, and healing the hurt.”
jf12 on Dec 10, 2011 at 21:09:30
“Actually my mother-in-law is messed up, approximately total care. Her straw-chewing just started - along with the never opening her eyes, and fluttering her hands - it's not something she actually wants to do, but can't help it apparently.”
“My point is just that: professional psychologists -- or psychiatrists, or MSWs, or any other person with compassion, insight and experience in working with people who suffer from mental illness -- are not as flippant, ignorant and/or blindly dependent upon a reference manual as this article would have its readers believe.
I've been on this thread for two days *defending* mental illness as reality for many; *defending* people who seek treatment for mental illness as suffering real, debilitating conditions; and *defending* mental-health practitioners as professionals.
This blog, on the other hand, has portrayed mental illness as some kind of shallow construct; as people who treat mental illness as DSM-dependent quacks; and people who seek their help as hapless victims.
And THAT is what I am trying to communicate! Why so much hostility from mental health professionals is aimed at my comments instead of the blog I have no idea.”
“This article is misleading. It's not like you stretch out on a couch while some guy with a white beard and Germanic accent ticks off boxes on a clipboard and then flips through the DSM to figure out what is 'wrong'.
People who seek treatment for emotional/mood/cognitive stress do so because they are suffering so that their life has become unmanageable: a marriage breaks up because one spouse has gambled the entire family savings on the lottery. Or one has lost one's job due to months of hangovers. Or a child has vomited after every meal for months. Or an elderly parent has committed suicide. Or a sister has come forward to accuse her brother of rape.
Perhaps the person doesn't even know *why* they suffer as they do. Perhaps they have constant migraines. Or pass out in public. Or wash their hands until they bleed. Or get confused about what year it is. Or wake up in cold sweats every night. Or live in constant, excruciating pain.
They've been told it's 'all in their head'. They're 'malingering' for attention. They're 'making a big deal' out of life's tragedies. They're looking for 'legit' drugs.
Or they fall under the 'spell' of some quack who ... implants 'false memories' of abuse into their head; or 'isolates them' from their abusive family; or 'drugs them up' for payback; or ...
... cherry-picks 'unscientific' diagnoses from the 'questionable' psychiatric 'bible', the DSM.
Give it a rest already.”
LMDAustin on Dec 9, 2011 at 13:09:13
“professional psychologists with a valid license already know all that. They are trained and are well aware of what you're talking about. They didn't just get off the boat yesterday, they have Ph.D. and decades of supervised training.”
“My argument is that the author's dismissive attitude toward a clinical reference work gives impression that she believes mental illness not attributable to physiological conditions is not 'real', or that people who work in the healing profession delineate their clients' suffering out of their own ignorance about how the brain works. This attitude continues throughout the comments, which contain a series of snide remarks about "SYBIL", for instance, or imply that psychological treatment is quackery. My post is intended to show compassion for people who suffer from mood/ emotional/ psychological disorders, which they experience as very real, as well as the professionals who dedicate their lives to help alleviate their suffering. I am aware that many effective, knowledgeable and compassionate counselors do not have a PsyD or MD -- nor do they need one. My own therapy work (which includes mild pharmacological support) with wonderful MSWs has literally saved my life. Perhaps you are projecting your own insecurities onto your interlocutor.”
jericarla on Dec 9, 2011 at 13:51:10
“the dsm is used by corporate america to limit access to care on one hand and promote a medicated society on the other and this is only one of its short comings. if you read these posts some by people in the attendant feilds you not that some can not read and understand what is being said. how can they take a techinically writen manual and use it when they can not understand what they read in plain simple english?”
“This column and its comments illustrate in the most painful way why mental illness, its sufferers and its healers, remain stigmatized by ignorance.
Those of us who have sat with a traumatized soldier in the midst of a flashback; who have witnessed an abused child dissociate into a fugue state; who have held an agoraphobic's hand as she writhed in the doorway; who have hid the razors so that our daughter won't cut herself; who have been honored to hear the story of a survivor so wounded, so debilitated, that the only way s/he can cope with reality is to fragment his/her consciousness, understand that mood, personality and emotional disorders are real, painful and damaging.
The DMV is simply a collection of theories and definitions based on a wide range of psychological and psychiatric practices and experiences. It is an easy target for those who know less than they believe about suffering and its alleviation.”
gmikejake on Dec 8, 2011 at 15:06:34
“Thank you for the reminder that mental illness is real. Very, very real, tragically real for those it touches. And, unfortunately, the ignorance, the stigma, keep many people from seeking help IF it is even available. And many of the limitations on the help available also are based on ignorance and stigma.”
“Ms Santa Maria has a master's in neurobiology. She is not a psychologist or psychiatrist, nor in any way familiar with the techniques, skills and practices of counseling patients who suffer from mood, emotional or psychological disorders. She has never sat with a traumatized soldier in the midst of a flashback. She has never witnessed an abused child dissociate into a fugue state. She has never walked through a door with a person writhing from agoraphobia. She has never had to hide the razors from her daughter who cuts herself. And she has never been honored to listen to the story of a survivor so broken, so wounded, that the only way s/he could cope with reality was to fragment her consciousness. If anyone who has ever desired to help another aching soul, if any aching soul has ever wished desperately for help, has wondered why mental illness remains such a painful stigma, they need look no further than the Huffington Post this morning.”
mick8535 on Dec 8, 2011 at 15:03:52
“What I am saying is that your logic is flawed and your point is off base. Get a clue. Make a solid argument or shuddap.”
mick8535 on Dec 8, 2011 at 13:05:31
I am a Licensed Social Worker currently employed as a mental health therapist for an agency that does family therapy. My job primarily is to work to make sure children grow up to be healthy and whole and to have the opportunity to have a future that is NOT hampered or suppressed by the circumstances of their less-than-great family context.
~ Oh, and I am NOT a parent. I am a forty-eight year old married man who just happens to care about families and children.
Does the fact that I don't have kids (nor do I intend to have kids) discount me from being able to work with them?
I am trying to understand your logic.
~ Yeah, and I am also not a drug addict, nor have I ever been, does that mean I can't help addicts, since I have never "been there"?
~ Oh, and if I am white, and NOT African American, I certainly can't help black people, since I surely have no idea what it is like, right?”
- Redrawing voting districts as per statute every 10 years in favor of the Republicans, and then suing to force the recall vote to adhere to the new district boundaries;
- Rewriting the rules for acceptable voter id; barring previously-acceptable forms of voter id.; increasing the burden to produce id. that is valid to obtain the new, "super-valid" id.; charging for said id., even though it is available for free, but instructing staff to not mention that the id. is free.
- Attempting to close down several DMV offices where acceptable voter id. may be obtained.
- Attempting to increase the burden on petition-gatherers to verify signatures, including but not limited to "notarizing" each signature;
- Insisting on naming the Republican workers at each polling center, rather than relying on district authorities to staff the polls as in past, successful, clean elections;
... Onward with the Recall!”
sammi 56 on Dec 6, 2011 at 10:58:42
“Right-- Forward March Democrats!! The repubs will do anything to stop you- even run you down,as was reported this A.M.”
Education Reformers love them some talking points: "Invest in education"; "for our children's future"; "recruit great teachers"; "merit pay". Shuffle and play.
It's not all hot air. There have been legislative changes made, such as those in my ol' Wisconsin home:
1. Silencing teacher voices in their workplace.
2. Slashing public education by 1 billion dollars.
3. Depressing teacher take-home pay by 10-12%.
4. Issuing new policies, such as ... a dress code.
5. Blaming teachers for a statewide recession and shaming them as "lazy thugs"
6. Attacking tenure as "jobs for life"
7. Supporting vouchers for private schools, and then allowing additional tuition fees.
8. Taking licensed nurses out of elementary schools
9. Demanding that student test scores be used to "discipline" teachers
10. Insist that teachers who protest have their personnel files publicized.
Okay, so where is it? Where's the "investment"? Where's the plan for "the future"? How are we "recruiting" great teachers? Where's that "merit pay"? I can make numbers, where are yours?”
elcastle on Nov 22, 2011 at 21:45:53
“Good questions...they just want to attack and destroy and then - rebuild according to how much they can pull out of federal coffers for private profit...just wait, if right win the election, we have privatization of public education and - we will have THE WORST education in the world in no time.”
“Got all this stuff twirlin' around in my head ... like a large lump of pizza dough, just twirlin' and twirlin', gettin' flatter and flatter ... like my numbers ... hey, how 'bout a song? You want an interview, doncha?”
“Ms Wolf is not begrudging the TSA official who personally performed the 'pat-down'.
She is pointing out that official government regulations are sexually harassing travelers, and in turn forcing TSA workers to be sexually harassed as well (by enjoining them to participate).
The TSA 'pat-down' is simply one of the more blatant forms of sexual harassment / sex discrimination in our society, because it is physical, visible and public.
And, like in so many cases of sexual harassment in this country, even though lawyers and legislators may argue technicalities, safety procedures and precedent, there are those who always know when it is happening ...
... women, who have become sensitized to this kind of exploitation through experience inside and outside of airports (indeed, in nearly all areas of their public and, sadly, private lives)
... and those who enjoy a privileged place in our society simply by virtue of their wealthy (even if only relative), white, maleness, and exploit it by treating its victims as peep-show entertainment.”
“They are actually proposing hiring non-licensed nurses in potential WI charter schools (Wisconsin 2011-2012 Biennial Budget Bill, see state's Department of Administration's "Budget in Brief" available at their website, page 41-42)”
Ginger23 on May 28, 2011 at 21:57:06
“Oh honey. I've had to dispense meds at school and in no way, shape or form am I a nurse.”
Ohsnap on May 28, 2011 at 21:51:23
“The nurses will need to be licensed by the state, but not DPI. DPI has stricter standards. However, people shouldn't expect the ride of a Cadillac if they are paying for a Focus.”
“This is alarming. All of these mothers coming forward to talk about a daily use, almost, frankly and in humor, a dependence, on a mind and mood altering substance because they feel overwhelmed and stressed in their parenting ... and congratulating each other for it. "It's no worse than a few glasses of wine a day," I've read. A few? A day? As the daughter of addicts and a recovering addict myself, I can say without shame that yes, parenting is stressful and yes, life is painful and yes, sometimes it feels like I cannot take one more breath even for the sake of the beautiful, delicious, noisy little people drooling in my hair, pulling on my hem, knocking on the bathroom door. Yet I must, and I do, because that was my commitment to the universe when I brought them into this world. Not so that I could "check out" occasionally. Not so I could "sneak a puff" in the garage. Not so I could "catch a light buzz" at the park. I remember my parents' substance use, and their highs and lows, and the way you just knew "not to bother Mom" or "don't drink Dad's drink", and it breaks my heart. Hire a babysitter, take an art class, remodel your basement into a yoga studio ... but don't kid yourself. Drugs is drugs, no matter how legal or how much it helps people with glaucoma.”
average dude on Mar 26, 2014 at 11:29:34
“I am sorry you are a recovering addict, but not everyone who smokes a joint is an addict. Try not to judge others on the problems in your own life. If these people want to smoke cannabis, that is none of your concern. Judge them, on their actions in regards to their kids. Do they get high and beat their kids? If so, let them have it. If not, back off.”
BrightBetty on Mar 21, 2014 at 12:48:56
“Addicts look at everything from their view point of addiction. Not everyone is an addict, and you need to accept that there are people out there who can drink, smoke and intoxicate themselves on occasion without becoming addicted. Parents should never be intoxicated while caring for children, but what affects you one way will not affect another the same way. Addiction runs in my family and somehow I managed to avoid it, but I've seen what it does. It does not mean that because my family is full of addicts though, I wont take my pain medication when I need it. I'm not them, and I am a responsible parent who can have a glass of wine at the end of the day and not wind up an alcoholic, and I take my medication as prescribed. Come to terms with your own addiction, do not lay it on the feet of others.”
editorjuno on Mar 20, 2014 at 18:41:21
“Drugs *are* drugs, because English is English. :-)
There is no such thing as a pot addict, so your difficult childhood and recovery experiences have no direct relevance.
Almost anything you swallow or inhale -- sugar, chocolate, diet soda, leftover turkey, second-hand tobacco smoke, even ammonia fumes from cleaning the storm windows -- is a de facto "a mind and mood altering substance," and pot is among the most benign imaginable. It is entirely natural for humans to seek out altered perceptual states -- it's starts with that giddy high you got when someone pushed you way up there on a playground swing or the adrenaline rush of sitting on a department store Santa's lap while genuinely believing he'll bring you what you're about to ask for come Christmas Eve.
In short, life itself is "a mind and mood altering" journey -- why exclude what nature has provided from that experience as long as you can indulge responsibly? I'm sorry that you (apparently) have the sort of addictive personality that made rehab necessary for you -- but most of us are not so afflicted, and it would be a courtesy on your part if you'd kind stop assuming otherwise. Thanks in advance!”
ConnieInCleveland on Mar 20, 2014 at 18:24:53
“No matter how legal, or how much it helps people with glaucoma? What kind of talk is that? Do you really think you are the person to judge others. You write off cannabis, which helps people medicinally, with little side effects, and no deaths attributed to it?
Judgment of others is unbecoming. Especially when it includes judging those who are sick. We lead by example. Lack of compassion for those who have epilepsy and glaucoma, is not an example I want to be for my children, or grandchildren.
Have you ever read the 'Serenity' prayer? No one is talking about being irresponsible. I am sorry for your childhood, but it does seem like alcohol was added to the mix. Alcoholism is different than someone who chooses to consume cannabis after a hard days work.
Have you ever heard, 'when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on'? Cannabis hemp makes the best rope, mentally and physically.”
cadaei on Mar 20, 2014 at 16:21:05
“Do you include caffeine in your list of drugs? How about sugar? How about self-righteousness? It's addictive and mind-altering as well.”
Nicon on Mar 20, 2014 at 16:01:37
“Human beings enjoy intoxication. It's long past time you came to grips with that.”
Hannah Knise on Mar 20, 2014 at 15:39:20
“Prescriptions are drugs...anything like anti psychotics to pain relieving drugs can mind alter or give a high but they help. So in your views considering you don't think its legit for a person with glaucoma or seizures to use marijuana then you wouldn't agree with someone using codeine after surgery... How sensitive of you.”
1. Know your product. You cannot be all things to all potential customers. Define what you do, and then do it well.
2. Know your legal. Are you an LLC, Corp., Inc., Co-op. or other? Your legal will affect everything from your state registry to your taxes. Know what you are filing and why you are filing as such.
3. Know your financials. Your books are like your kids: No one, not even the most competent, caring professional, will take better care of them than you. Don't outsource your book-keeping, tax filing, insurance management, billing, credits, debits, or capital.
These aren't the "fun parts" of dreaming, selling and managing your new business. But they are the nuts, bolts and bones of all business.”
“So the new definition of "gender equality" is men and women can work impossible hours for insufficient wages at the expense of everything from the health of their marriages to the well-being of their children. Are we suggesting to young women that what they "ought" to do is marry with the expectation that one day they will be abandoned by their spouses and unable to provide for their children? Why not instead consider "gender equality" to mean that both partners have equal interests in their professional, personal and familial lives and negotiate a lifestyle (with or without children) that they both find rewarding?”
“I agree with Ms Sandberg in that our graduates have the power to create more equality in our society. For me, however, "equality" means that every human being has equal value ... that we have equal access to clean air, potable water, healthful food and up-to-date, competent medical care ... that parents are equally engaged in the nurturing of their children ... that raising a small family is as equally-valued as running an international company ... that "droning" a faraway village is just as unacceptable as wreaking destruction on an American street ... that the janitor who works the night-shift to empty the cubicle trash is just as valued as the CEO in the corner office ... and that a role model is foremost a person of compassion and ethics rather than title or ambition.”
Luke Johnathan on Jun 2, 2013 at 22:02:33
“Every human being having equal innate value has nothing to do with every human being having equal financial value or access to the same quality medical care and so on. I agree that all humans have an equal, innate worth before God. But if one individual has 1 million dollars and another has 100 dollars they are unequal in terms of financial worth and the services they can purchase. Which is as it should be.”