“The difficulty for single parents is often how to respond to the ex-laws and his or her family. Grandparents do not want to be cut off from their grandchildren -- that is often their greatest fear when the couple announces they are splitting. I know many grandparents who have been able to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with the ex-son or daughter-in-law. The key on both sides is understanding and observing the boundaries. In my book, Your Child's Divorce: What to Expect ... What You Can Do I advise seniors about the role they should play at each stage of their child's divorce since their role changes; how to be available to grandchildren even if they are long-distant grandparents busy with their own lives as so many are today.
Single parents will find their job much easier if they can maintain a civil relationship with "former" family members. Granted there are many instances when ex-laws make it impossible to stay connected. But the more stability we can offer children during this difficult time, the better.
I admire Judith Wallerstein's work on the subject of divorce and found it extremely helpful when I was researching my own book.”
orgconinc on Dec 4, 2010 at 10:25:57
“Temlock's book is really great when you need advice in the midst of a child's divorce situation.”
“I am the author of Your Child's Divorce: What to Expect ... What You Can Do
Grandparents and parents of adult children who are untying the knot can do many things to help the family heal. They need to understand the stages of divorce when they can be most helpful, determining what their child and grandchildren need from them. What is important is that they observe the appropriate boundaries.”