Jul 31, 2013 at 16:33:16
“I get it.. but maybe you have to go deeper into finding out 'why' you love food more than other people. everybody loves food... it gives us temporary, hedonic pleasure. maybe try searching for eudaimonic gratification that doesn't leave a void that requires periodic refilling. it also help to understand the effects of certain foods - particularly simple carbs, trans fats - on the brain and organs. Do you eat because you're eating the "wrong" stuff to being with which tells your body that you need more of that same stuff or do you simply eat everything in mass quantities? For example, I found that when I cut back on drinking I stopped craving fatty foods; no grease = less alcohol. less alcohol = didn't feel like frequenting bars as much. less going out = not surrounded by chips and dips as much. not surrounded by junk food = eating healthier at home. eating at home more = more energy and time = more time to rest and go to the gym = feeling better and looking better... 60lbs lost and kept off for 2 years and going is a lifestyle. i couldnt go back now if you paid me to do it...”
Swimdude on Aug 2, 2013 at 09:43:36
“You also saved money by skipping the Bars and all the junk food. I say Great Job!”
Jul 30, 2013 at 18:01:55
“good start... other tips: don't drink so much; understand that you can't out-train your diet; take a day off a week; don't skip meals; work out intensely in two shorter intervals (morning and evening) rather than one slow session; develop a good relationship with food - eat to live not live to eat; etc.”
contradiction on Jul 30, 2013 at 18:15:08
“My problem: I LOVE food.
I can not diet - I have a sweet tooth and if I deny myself when I want it, I usually over indulge.
I can only stay fit by working out. Every day. For at least an hour. But I love doing it. I'm pregnant now and can't overexert myself, but I used to love coming home from work and going straight to the gym. So much so, I would get anxiety just waiting for 5:00 to roll around.
I think different techniques work for different people. And it also depends on what your goal is. If you just want to be fit and have a healthy heart vs. if you want to run a marathon or participate in a triathlon.”
“i spent a year as a professional tennis coach on the women's tour. i got to see a lot of things. one of the things i noticed is that the line between winning and losing is as narrow as that extra piece of toast. do i tell them the truth? that carrying that extra 10-15lbs of unnecessary weight slows them down...that they don't make sweet contact with the ball because of it..that they can't play that extra 3rd set? do I lie? do I sugar coat it? at what point do you go from mr. nice to mr. in-your-face? and this (tennis) is a sport that doesn't come around every 4 years... there's a lot of pressure.. juniors and adults, the rule is simple: if I have to say it twice, i won't say it nice. in sports, you only have one shot. to make it to world-class status - which was DM's goals as well as her parents - you need to spend 100s of hours and 100s of 1000s of $. there's no screwing around. ”
Deborah LewisSmith on Jul 21, 2013 at 12:42:55
“I am very well-informed about the sacrifices involved for families. I have 2 friends (a female swimmer and a male figure skater) who were all-American competitors into their teens. Each became aware of what was required to continue and advance in their pursuit Both approached their parents and expressed their desires for a normal lifestyles. They are blessed that both sets of parents knew how much courage it took for their children to broach the subject. (Mary's family had the means to construct a private pool.) Both sets of parents valued their children above and beyond their considerable potential as athletes. In fact, Bernard's Mother was relieved that she no longer had to get up at all hours of the morning and evening to escort him to practice sessions. I am also well-acquainted with one tennis in particular. Stewart does not tolerate "screwing around" but prefers positive reinforcement and leading by example. He will not hesitate to sit down with kids and / or their parents to determine goals. i.e. whose goals are they? how realistic are they? what must be sacrificed? He does not hesitate to refer an athlete to a coaches whose philosophies may be better suited to the individual. I have not read DM's book. If you have not already done so, I suggest that you read Agassi's http://www.worldcat.org/title/open-an-autobiography/oclc/318431866”
“but the parents consent on their behalf, right?! the coach doesn't beat down the door in the middle of the night and says "i want to train you 8 hours a day so that you can become an Olympian"... it's the parents who seek out the coach.”
Happy in Canada on Sep 8, 2013 at 19:01:24
“twigtrigtrack: Actually, it does work that way sometimes. Kids get involved in gymnastics early just like kids get involved in dance and other athletics. Most only do it for fun for a few years, but when a kid shows real potential and a coach thinks the kid is a potential star, s/he starts pushing for the kid to train more hours and take it more seriously. Some parents and kids opt out as the pressure increases, some don't. Some kids seem to love it and thrive on winning regional medals and beg the parents to please let them keep doing it even though it costs so much that the (usually middle or upper middle class) family begins sacrificing vacations and new vehicles etc for the kid to realize her dream. And some then seek out a better known coach. But it doesn't always all begin with the parents wanting a little Olympian and forcing the kid into it. The problem is that the kid may start to see all her value in winning those medals and it becomes kind of addictive and if the parents aren't paying really close attention to just what the coach is doing, and if they get a little too into the idea of their little star, it can have really negative emotional consequences.”
“Yes I hear the same thing. The question is, if the wife wanted and daddy so much, did she offer to support the move from a financial point of view? Law jobs don't grow on trees and there are licensing considerations... I hope they didn't expect him to quit his job and put on the rain slicker so that he could toss salmon in Pike Place market while studying for the bar”
“Parental influence is a b---h. Kids are only as strong as parents program them to be. And where one set of inlaws my want the marriage to succeed, the other set my want it to succeed only their way”
nltomboy2 on Jul 15, 2013 at 00:22:04
“I think that's what I said. Regardless, I agree with the last part of your statement. I don't believe that parents have the end-all influence on whether a kid is strong or not. I know a lot of people who would be wimps were it up to their parents, including me. Thanks for your post.”
“There could be a million inconsequential signs that one just brushes off as nonsense and they end up adding up creating issues.”
OneMercilessMing on Jul 15, 2013 at 07:10:04
“Again, the signs are there. But when an individual is "hot to trot" as my grandmother would have said, they only thing they are looking at is getting laid, NOT what the consequences of that may be long-term.”
“true, but you also expect spouses to mature. it's one thing to exhibit certain traits when you're 22-23-24 and another to continue to be under parental controls when they're 30-31-32... obviously she was not ready for marriage but maybe she acted the part... and women are great actors”
Zzyzzxs on Jul 10, 2013 at 13:50:08
“No, I would expect a single person to mature. If someone is too immature to protect his/her spouse from nasty relatives, then that person should not be married. A 22-year-old is an adult and should know right from wrong. It isn't right to allow your spouse to be disrespected. And it isn't a good idea to marry someone who allows her relatives to be disrespectful.
As for the rest, not sure what you're saying... That she "acted" supportive until he married her? Good grief, sounds like someone needs to get over a break-up.”
“happy wife heppy life... err, absolutely wrong! not only is happiness internal but it's not uncommon for the wife to become happy with status quo and want more and More and MOre and MORe and MORE...”
JustKeepSwimming75 on Jul 3, 2013 at 01:01:02
“Perhaps the problem is many people confuse happiness with feeling good all the time. Thats not happiness, thats hedonism. Am about to hit 40 and realise this with more clarity the older i get. Its something i tell my kids all the time.”