“I found it very interesting reading this on many levels. My first thought was that I could have very well been this avocado lady but while you assumed she was this "perfectly" organized mom, here is what was going through my mind. I had a lovely child who was 10 weeks premature and had birth defects which led us to be quarantined 24/7 for over 2 years. Since I was stuck with her home for so long, going ANYWHERE, even the mall, was a special treat and I would dress her up all cute as I had never really had the opportunity to do so before. I ALWAYS cloroxed the table and used a chair cover because I was so afraid of germs that would get her so sick and landed us in hte ICU for 2 weeks on her 1st bday). She had feeding issues and was very limited in her diet so we couldn't eat from the food court, so I would pack things like avocadoes and pack her own spoon in fear of germs from a public area. So, there are many ways to look at the same exact situation...
I do agree, there is no one size fits all way of parent, most of us do our best and that is all we can really do. We are the only one walking our path in our shoes...”
bibliophile33 on Jul 16, 2013 at 14:52:47
“I get it. My son has severe food allergies. I get glares from other moms who think I'm trying to be perfect because I pack vegetables and homemade goodies everywhere we go. What I wouldn't give to not worry about it and just grab something along the way!”
amy5045 on Jul 16, 2013 at 00:34:07
“So true. My daughter has multiple food allergies and cannot eat a single thing from a food court. Oh how easy life would be if she could! This article is a good reminder to focus on using the lot we've been given to the best of our ability rather than judging or feeling judged by others. We all have our own challenges and struggles.”
amy5045 on Jul 16, 2013 at 00:30:21
“vouvoune - so true. My daughter has severe food allergies and can't eat a single thing from the food court. Oh how easy and simple life would be if she could. This article is a good reminder to focus on doing our personal best with the lot we are given. We all have our own challenges and even if our lives look perfect to outsiders that is never, ever the whole story.”
ALFetherlin on Jul 9, 2013 at 09:44:47
“Thank you for sharing -the other side- of this story.
I'm a mother with a million noisy, messy, loving, and fun children. When I see the 'perfect parent' with her one child sitting quietly at a restaurant, I feel sad and want to ask them to join us.
Because, my view is, what if that mom had always wanted more than one but couldn't. Or that child always wanted someone with whom she could be noisy, but she was sick when she was little which scared her parents into not having any more. Or on the other hand, which stops me from inviting, maybe that mom or that child has social issues and that's why they are alone and can't eat the food court food or touch the table someone might have touched.
I've also been the mom who was thinking people were judging me, and some were, let's be honest, but I found the love and noise coming from my kids is MINE and I'm proud of each of my loud hooligans. So, people can judge that my son often has dirty hands, but they don't understand that he's so very adventurous and so very interested in everything and will pick up or dig into anything to see what it is or from where it came. I love that about him. I often forget the wipies, so my loud, lick-everything family gathers in the bathroom whilst I argue with the boy about washing his discoveries from his hands.”