Dec 7, 2013 at 16:06:18
“I can't eat airpopped, saltless popcorn. I'd rather use healthier salt and oil than go without. Otherwise, I feel like I'm eating packing material. What's the point?”
ohgoodgrief99 on Dec 8, 2013 at 13:24:41
“I'm with you! I've been using coconut oil for cooking for over a year now. It's a saturated fat that is GOOD for you. It is the best for popping corn--I don't even add butter anymore and I used to pour it on. I agree about the salt too. I use Himalayan crystal salt which has the trace minerals in it that our bodies need. Most people get the chemistry set overly processed sodium in fast foods and prepared foods.”
cognitogrrl on Dec 8, 2013 at 11:25:53
“Exactly right! and how many times per year am I actually IN a cinema to eat their popcorn (which I always get without their fake melted butter)? Six?”
“Yes--although now those are mostly used for large demonstrations where multiple people would be arrested for civil disobedience. A police officer would cuff an alcoholic or mentally ill person and throw them in the back of a police car--at least in areas like mine, a major urban center with a broken mental health system. Yes, if you attempt suicide, you're cuffed and thrown in the back of a squad car. Barbaric.”
“Both are from French words meaning simply "my lady." I think a lot of women think "Ma'am" sounds like the clerk is addressing you as an old lady--the insult is the implication that you're old. "Mam" is British for mother. "Mum" is more common I believe. Given the complex origins and usage of these words, why be bothered by them? The only words that bother me are words used deliberately to hurt. As Whoopi Goldberg says, calling someone "stupid" is uglier than using a 4-letter word jovially or out of bad habit. "Ma'am" or "Madam" doesn't bother me one jot and I'm what they used to call "no spring chicken."”
“I did see a funny meme that said the Washington Redskins were changing their name out of embarrassment over the term "Washington" (this was during the shutdown). I think "Redskins" is the worst of the Native-American-inspired names. "Indians" is bad enough for a sports team name, but "Redskins" takes it to another level.”
“Another poster mentioned Peanut Gallery was used for the cheap seats in vaudeville. Since many of those 50s children's entertainers came from Broadway, I'd guess that the Howdy Doody writers or Buffalo Bob himself picked it up from vaudeville.”
“"S--- or get off the pot," "she's so poor she doesn't have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of," "poor as church mice"--I'd add those to the list. I have no idea what those origins are--or the origins of the terms you added. That's how language works. Thanks for sharing some I hardly ever hear anymore unless I or someone older than me uses them!”
“My white child was called an N word ending in "ah" not "er" and we were puzzled--took a while to figure out it means "fellah" in that context (the kid was saying, "Yo, N-ah, give me the ball" when playing ball). It's kind of like "guido" isn't actually an insult if you're Italian and your name happens to be Guido, which literally means "guy"!”
“I think the point is to know the origins...and to accept that many of us inadvertently use phrases that once were or even still are considered racist. I think people who create a drama over phrases whose ugly origins aren't known by more than a handful of folks, however, ought to ask themselves what that's about for them.”
“Interesting--I'm midwestern and had all the same reactions. When you read "Irish goodbye," did you think of "Minnesota goodbye?" I'm not from Minnesota but I've heard of that--it's where you drag out saying goodbye because you really don't want to part. Maybe some of these perceptions about terms are geographically influenced. Maybe down South there are different reactions to them--and maybe if you live in the inner city vs. the suburbs, a rural area vs. a city, you have different perspectives. But the ORIGINS are still interesting.”
“To me, it's an interesting article on word origins--a good reminder that we're often unaware of origins and history, and that language changes.
Did you know that most of the "correct" words for sex and bodily functions in English derive from Latin, which was the language of the conquerers (the Romans) while the common or vulgar (vulgar is Latin for "common" or "everyday") while the Germanic and Old English terms are considered obscene? Think of the Latin word for a woman's internal genitalia--starts with a V (and means "sheath" in Latin) versus the C word that has four letters or the P word that also means "cat." The word the everyday people used was considered inferior to what the Roman conquerers used.”
“"The peanut gallery" was used on the Howdy Doody Show in the 50s to denote a section where kids sat, so while it has racist origins, like so many terms, the meaning has evolved--I doubt people realize that it was originally racist. Most baby boomers probably heard of it through Howdy.
"Ghetto" is a loaded word mostly because "low class" is a loaded concept. To me, it's like "trailer park." There's nothing wrong with a trailer as one's home, or a foundry (origin of the word "ghetto"). It's a reference to people living in these situations as inferior that is the problem. Ghetto has 17th century origins, probably Italian...as someone else pointed out, maybe it has anti-Semitic roots. Jews were forced into "ghettos" in Germany during WWII.
Words and symbols change over time--derogatory or vulgar (meaning common) terms become acceptable with no insult intended. English in particular is a complex language, drawing from many different languages. When in doubt about whether a word might offend, check the dictionary, which notes this sort of thing.”
mcm1983 on Oct 24, 2013 at 20:09:26
“I have always thought of Peanut Gallery as the kids on Howdy Doody and when my mom said "no comments from the Peanut Gallery" that is just what she meant, kids didn't get a say. I say it to my kids too.”
“So sad. I am not surprised in the least. The trajectory from being a victim of pedophilia to self-medicating with drugs is SO common. People need to remember that when judging drug abusers. I'm glad that he is speaking his truth and getting help. There is always hope for recovering from severe trauma.”
“Young feminists seem to have no sense of context. You can love your body and self-pleasuring without wearing it on a t-shirt without regard for who will see it. You really want to walk into a room using your vagina aggressively? How is that not patriarchal?”
Sep 17, 2013 at 08:45:15
“I guess the definition of small talk should have been clearer here.
There's nothing small about asking someone about her ideas, feelings, or experiences--nothing small about complimenting someone on what they're wearing or doing.”